Allyship is a Verb
Charlie Ocean, MSW (they/them)
People want to do better, but they don’t always know how. Allyship is a Verb is a 4x award-nominated (and now award-winning!) podcast featuring conversations with LGBTQ+ community members of various lived experiences and backgrounds who share their stories and an allyship tip. The host is a silly, warm human who offers self-reflection questions and voiceovers to help deepen the learning for listeners. The host is Charlie Ocean, MSW (they/them), who has a background in LGBTQ+ education, community organizing, and social work.
The Gender Swap feat. Molly Rix
The giveaway is over, but you can still head to the merch shop!This week, Molly Rix (she/her) steps out from behind the scenes as our audio engineer to become a guest who shares her story publicly for the first time. In this episode, you will learn: 1. How an innocent question over her 2020 birthday weekend changed her entire life 2. What it's been like looking for different pockets of community as she has been reinventing herself 3. Why re-entering the dating pool was intimidating🎙️ C
Jun 4, 2024 • 51:11
Ed Carratalà is the infiltrated bisexual
Podcast merch!!!Book a free discovery call for programming for Pride Month (and beyooooond!).This week, Ed Carratalà (he/him/él) updates us on transitioning from formerly teaching about LGBTQ+ communities privately to now openly offering it. In this episode, you will learn: 1. How creating a new queer community in Barcelona, Spain was sparked by former guest Charlie's Everywhere is Queer resource 2. What new therapy project is in the works 3. Why he continues to share that he's bi and
May 21, 2024 • 50:31
Trisha Wallis isn't recruiting anything except for people to stay alive
Book a free discovery call for programming for Pride Month (and beyoooond!).Bring Allyship is a Verb to your workplace at a special rate.This week, Dr. Trisha Wallis (she/her) shares how two years of work led up to the passing of California Senate Bill 372, a great example of the "Curb Cut" effect. You will learn: 1. Why the identities lesbian and queer don't fully fit, prompting her to use both, depending on the situation // 2. What "recruiting" looks like, including versions 2.0 and 3
May 7, 2024 • 54:05
The Magic of LGBTQ+ Summer Camps feat. Rebecca Kling (Replay)
Please note: This is another replay due to a super busy past few weeks. 💜 This episode is from Season 2, so you'll hear my previous name. All replay slots will be extended with original episodes, I promise! 😊This week, Rebecca Kling (she/her) discusses creating inclusive summer camps for LGBTQ+ youth where they can be themselves without making everything about being from the LGBTQ+ community. In this episode, you will learn 1. What conversations are coming up at summer camps 2. How B'
Apr 23, 2024 • 58:33
I'm just, like, a little dude feat. Ashabi Owagboriaye
Take the Ace Flag Revision SurveyThis week, Ashabi Owagboriaye (she/they) shares the meaning behind the white stripe in the ace flag and why she’s launched an ace flag survey as a result. You will learn: 1. What they think about the intersection of transness and asexuality 2. Why openness can influence somebody and carry a generation in either direction if you’re not careful 3. How it feels like to have people come to them as an elder queer🎙️ Connect with Ashabi:Ace In Grace | Instagra
Apr 9, 2024 • 51:08
So, you are queer feat. Sarah Gilbert
Sign up for the AIAV newsletter!This week, Sarah Gilbert (she/her) shares the story of how a random question Charlie asked a few years ago sparked a journey of self-discovery. You will learn: 1. What two pieces of advice she offers others wondering if they might be LGBTQ+ 2. How it feels to be a long-time LGBTQ+-affirming therapist learning later in life that she's queer and some of the fears and hesitations she's had around claiming the term 3. Why icons like Freddie Mercury have insp
Mar 26, 2024 • 54:28
Listen to minorities and thank them feat. Ra Ra Rollins (Replay)
Please note: This is another replay to help with my mental health break. A new episode is coming on Tuesday, March 26th. Thanks for your continued patience and understanding. 💜 This episode is from Season 2, so you'll hear my previous name. Content warning for mentions of George Floyd's murder and generally sensitive topics without details. This episode is sponsored by a private donor. Thank you!!! Listen to minorities and thank them. In this week’s episode, Ra Ra Rollins (he/him) shar
Mar 12, 2024 • 59:21
Do you check in on your relationships? feat. Trystan Reese (Replay)
Check out the wearable merch! You can also help me close the gap on my $757 goal. I'm 76% of the way there at the time of writing this! Please note: I'm bringing back a fan-favorite episode from season one, especially for those of you who are new to the podcast! Just a heads up, you will hear my previous name. Why am I doing this? I'm burnt out. I need more support to keep this podcast going strong into season four. Anything you can do helps - whether it's snagging some merch, becom
Feb 27, 2024 • 57:45
Candace Rucker on being angry and eloquent
Check out the wearable merch!This week, Candace Rucker (she/her) challenges the thought that we are only one type of ally, advocate, or activist— instead, we can be fluid by going in and out of feelings and actions. You will learn: 1. How it feels to be marginalized and misunderstood due to mixed race and queer identity 2. Why she historically got really, really angry when thinking about being Black in America 3. Why she's such a fan of intersectionality and who she'd love to meet🎙️ Co
Feb 13, 2024 • 53:45
Cielo Sunsarae on how harmful articles turned into nonprofit donations and partnerships
☎️ Call the new QTP Loveline to get various LGBTQ+ affirmations and encouragementThis week, Cielo Sunsarae (they/he) shares how harmful articles from a major conservative publisher turned into unexpected donations and partnerships for their Florida-based nonprofit. You will learn 1. What initially made them decide to cancel their top surgery and what they did later on to be comfortable with rescheduling and keeping it 2. How far some journalists have gone to write harmful ar
Jan 30, 2024 • 53:39
Exploring LGBTQ+ history feat. Andrew Lear
📺 Watch the recording for PFLAG Los Angeles Presents: Trans and Nonbinary Joy ✨☎️ Call the new QTP Loveline to get various LGBTQ+ affirmations and encouragementThis week, Andrew Lear (he/him) discusses what goes into curating gay art history tours and the homophobia he's seen in academia. In this episode, you will learn 1. What intimate and sexual differences he’s seen for teenage boys and men across different cultures 2. How he’s seen gay art evolve over time 3. Which
Jan 30, 2024 • 51:05
I'm glad you're here feat. Shane Whalley
🗳️ Voting for 'Allyship is a Verb' in the Sonic Bloom Awards People's Choice category has ended. Thanks to everyone who helped out!☎️ Call the new QTP Loveline to get various LGBTQ+ affirmations and encouragementThis week, Shane Whalley (ze/hir) sheds light on living in Austin, Texas as an older queer and genderqueer person. In this special update episode, you will learn 1. Why ze suggests not intervening during misgendering (without consent from the person harmed) 2. How ze wi
Jan 29, 2024 • 58:51
Queering weddings and gender expression feat. Tonya
📺 Watch the recording for PFLAG Los Angeles Presents: Trans and Nonbinary Joy ✨☎️ Call the new QTP Loveline to get various LGBTQ+ affirmations and encouragementThis week, Tonya (she/they) shares how questioning their gender 3-5 years ago has taken them on a journey, including navigating decisions about pronouns, make-up, hair length, and clothing. In this episode, you will learn 1. Why they hired a wedding planner who has experience with queer weddings, among other intentional de
Nov 21, 2023 • 57:27
From code switching to House Hunters feat. Patrick Ladonis
Watch the recording for PFLAG Los Angeles Presents: Trans and Nonbinary Joy ✨This week, Patrick Ladonis (he/him) shares how he shifted from fear to freedom when he came out to over 400 people at the premiere of his web series SCALES. In this episode, you will learn 1. How stressful it was to have people pry into his personal life before he felt comfortable talking about his now husband in the workplace 2. What CEOs and senior leadership can do to show up for employees, especially for sh
Nov 20, 2023 • 1:00:46
How to mess up a health checkup feat. Tiffany Rossdale
This week, Tiffany Rossdale (she/her) shares about being a transgender woman and transformational life coach who emigrated from Manila, Philippines, to Tokyo, Japan. In this episode, you will learn 1. Why she’s passionate about legal reform for Japan’s LGBTQ+ community and advocacy, taking inspiration from other transgender actors and activists like Laverne Cox and Angelica Ross 2. How she has been navigating the complexities of dating as a transgender woman, including safety considerat
Oct 24, 2023 • 54:39
WAIT, why am I talking? feat. Mark S. King
This week, Mark S. King (he/him) shares how the landscape of HIV/AIDS has changed over the years since the AIDS crisis of the 80s and what it's been like for him, having lived with HIV for four decades. In this episode, you will learn 1. Why is it essential to fight against HIV criminalization, especially considering the injustices and stigma it perpetuates, particularly when it's used vindictively in personal disputes and can lead to unjust labeling as sexual predators 2. How not havin
Oct 10, 2023 • 51:57
Turning 36: A special birthday episode feat. Charlie Ocean
This week, Charlie Ocean, MSW (they/them), is interviewed by various friends to celebrate turning 36 on September 17th, 2023! 🥳 In this episode, you will learn 1. Why they changed their name to Charlie Ocean from Chris Angel Murphy and some of what went into that decision 2. What some of their favorite books, shows, movies, and memes are 3. How to talk about someone who changed their name or pronouns with someone who doesn't know🎙️ Connect with Charlie:InstagramLinkedInSubstack💻 Sour
Sep 26, 2023 • 1:28:53
Being trans and nonbinary in the workplace feat. Zoa Glows
This week, Zoa Glows (they/she) returns from the first season to share how they navigate the workplace as a trans and nonbinary person, and what they wish workplaces would do to make it safer and easier. In this episode, you will learn 1. Why she decided to leave professional performing 2. What hate comments do to their spirit, and how their reactions to it have evolved over time (plus what those of us who follow Zoa on social can do to support them) 3. How some gendered terms may feel
Sep 12, 2023 • 58:49
Embracing softness in a capitalist hellscape feat. MJ Jupitus
This week, MJ Jupitus (they/them) shares about how they navigate language as a nonbinary person, including being their wife's wife, but not their parent's daughter. In this episode, you will learn 1. Why they call themselves a movement specialist instead of a physical trainer or physical therapist 2. What softness means to them physically and mentally 3. How we may have "queer posture" and what it is🎙️ Connect with MJ:InstagramWebsite📣 Announcements:There are just two days left to sup
Aug 29, 2023 • 54:18
Living authentically and forging family harmony feat. Jack Lam
This week, Jack Lam (they/them) discusses how being a Malaysian Chinese immigrant has impacted them, including struggling to release shame and fear so they could name and embrace their genderqueer identity after coming to the United States. In this episode, you will learn 1. How their gender expression becomes a powerful tool for visibility 2. When allyship begins to become performative and how to avoid it 3. Why we need to normalize talking about mental health and getting support🎙️ Co
Aug 15, 2023 • 50:49
What should LGBTQ+ flags look like? feat. Lena Dirscherl
To kick off season three, Lena Dirscherl (they/them) returns to discuss the value of having recognizable LGBTQ+ flags with intentional design. In this episode, you will learn 1. What goes into sensitivity reading, including promoting authentic representation, avoiding harmful tropes, and challenging unconscious bias. 2. Where they have been finding and connecting with the polyamory community. 3. How technology fatigue can negatively impact LGBTQ+ entrepreneurs and artists.🎙️ Connect wi
Aug 1, 2023 • 55:25
You go, Indiegogo!
You go, Indiegogo! Season three is around the corner, and we have a quick announcement... we've launched an Indiegogo campaign with some sweet perks! At the time of writing this, we're also an Indiegogo Team Favorite :) :) :)Host Chris Angel ("Well, hello there!") needs your help to make this the best season yet. By contributing, you're helping to fund season three production costs. We'd also like to publish allyship e-books, have traveling audio exhibits, and so much more. You'll find
Jul 25, 2023 • 2:13
The History of Black HIV in the South with hosts Anna DeShawn and Duane Cramer
Hopefully a future Allyship is a Verb guest, Anna DeShawn (she/her), created a mini-series called Black HIV in the South: How Did We Get Here? This is Episode 1 of 4. Please check out all of Anna's work with E3 Radio, LLC and The Qube (explained more in her bio further below). I had the extreme privilege of being introduced to Anna through The Ambies, as we were nominated in the same category! We met in Vegas at the award ceremony, and I cried tears of joy when she won Best DIY Podcast.
Jun 20, 2023 • 38:18
Disco Fever: How Music Fueled a Cultural Revolution by Closeted History
Former Allyship is a Verb guest, Destiny Clarke (she/they), has a podcast called Closeted History: LGBTQ+ Stories of the Past. This is Season 2, Episode 2 of their show. Please give it a watch/listen (it's best to watch the video! You can watch it on Allyship is a Verb's Spotify feed or Closeted History's YouTube channel). Be sure to follow Destiny's show wherever you listen to podcasts to learn more about the LGBTQ+ community's history! - Chris Angel (they/them) Disco Fever: How Music
Jun 13, 2023 • 17:12
Queer, Trans, And Gender Expansive Joy In The Workplace feat. Rex Wilde
This event aired live on June 2nd, 2023, via LinkedIn, and has been edited for brevity.To sign up for Rex's roundtable event, visit https://www.rexwilde.com/tgx-monthly-roundtableEnjoy this Pride Month bonus video episode! Join Rex Wilde (they/them) and Chris Angel Murphy (they/them) for a quick conversation about the importance and practice of queer joy and gender euphoria in the workplace. With so much discussion and movement around anti-LGBTQ legislation, it’s important to ground our
Jun 6, 2023 • 26:25
The Magic of LGBTQ+ Summer Camps feat. Rebecca Kling
Consider the relevance of someone's identity. This week, Rebecca Kling (she/her) discusses creating inclusive summer camps for LGBTQ+ youth where they can be themselves without making everything about being from the LGBTQ+ community. In this episode, you will learn 1. What conversations are coming up at summer camps 2. How B'Mitzvahs/B'nai Mitzvahs may differ from Bar and Bat Mitzvahs 3. When we might engage in understanding and empathic conversations and when it's time to disrupt and a
May 23, 2023 • 58:44
The costs of religious trauma feat. Christina Carlson
Sign up for Sam's workshop, Understanding the Basics of Neurodiversity and the Neurodiversity Movement. Happening virtually on Thursday, May 11th or 25th, 7-8 PM ET.Register for Speak Up! Tools for Active Trans Allyship with Chris Angel and Rebecca, Thursday, May 18th at 7 PM ET.This week, Christina Carlson (she/they) talks about how being ex-religious has impacted her life. In this episode, you will learn 1. How people are taught to distrust themselves, the harmful systems that upholds
May 9, 2023 • 54:28
What is T4T? feat. Maze Felix
Want to book Charlie for Pride month and beyond? Check out their offerings here.This week, Maze Felix (they/them) talks about the beauty of T4T (trans for trans) relationships! In this episode, you will learn 1. What affirming actions they experienced behind the scenes while shooting a Pride Target commercial 2. Why being in community with others in their gender journeys is euphoric and healing 3. How relationships can be tested when trans, nonbinary, and gender expansive folks transiti
Apr 25, 2023 • 50:38
Have you worked through your own trauma? feat. Shaan Dasani
This week, Shaan Dasani (he/they) talks about creating Agents of Change and what it means to have an all-queer and trans cast! In this episode, you will learn 1. How spy movies like D.E.B.S. and the James Bond series inspired him while writing Agents of Change. 2. Why having someone as a possibility model was helpful for their gender journey 3. What in the world a “nibling” is.🎙️ Connect with Shaan to learn more about + support their work:Shaan’s WebsiteShaan’s InstagramAgents of Chang
Apr 11, 2023 • 55:35
One woman's late in life lesbian story feat. Kathy Houston
RSVP to Celebrate Transgender Day of Visibility (TDOV)RSVP to Connecting With Community: How to Build an Online Audience for your LGBTQ-owned BusinessRSVP to Speak Up For TDOV: Talking Points for Active Trans AllyshipPut yourself in the other person's shoes. This week, Kathy Houston (she/her) talks about Club LILLES and what it means for her to be a late in life lesbian. In this episode, you will learn 1. How lesbian TikTok has been a wonderful, informative resource. 2. Why her first gi
Mar 28, 2023 • 58:49
How do you talk about someone with no pronouns? feat. Lianna Newman
This week, Lianna Newman (name only) expands on carving out space in STEM, finding community, and creating resources. In this episode, you will learn 1. Some changes we'd like to see in tech. 2. The complexities of gender-neutral vs gendered awards. 3. How to use no pronouns and what we mean when we ask someone for their pronouns in the first place.🎙️ Connect with Lianna to learn more about + support Lianna’s work:LinkedInInstagram💻 Sources and resources from this episode:Out In Tech
Mar 14, 2023 • 57:03
Exploring the kink spectrum and community feat. Wesley Toma
Exploring the kink spectrum and community! This week, Wesley Toma (he/him) expands on how kink is a spectrum, and for those who fall on it, it's very unlikely we're vanilla kinksters. In this episode, you will learn 1. How kinks and fetishes are different. 2. Some examples of how someone could start safely exploring the kink community. 3. Why he currently must travel out of state to access certain kink communities and spaces.🎙️ Connect with Wesley to learn more about + support his work
Feb 28, 2023 • 50:42
Get clear on what you're willing to lose feat. Rebecca Minor
Check out Rebecca's parent coaching.We were nominated for Best Personal Growth and Best DIY for The Ambies! Thank you to those who watched live on March 7, 2023. We didn't win this time, though it was an honor to be nominated for both categories.This week, Rebecca Minor, LICSW (she/her), expands on why the term femme feels the most at home and who helped her to tap into that energy. In this episode, you will learn 1. Why her blog post about fictosexuality got a lot of attention, and wha
Feb 14, 2023 • 1:00:31
The best apology is changed behavior feat. Kieran Mcmonagle
This week, Kieran Mcmonagle (he/him) expands on how he's learned so much from young people in the LGBTQ+ community. In this episode, you will learn 1. Why he shares that he was born in the right queer, trans body. 2. How no space can be truly safe for everyone. 3. How parents of trans kids should love and support their kids and do their own processing in private.🎙️ Connect with Kieran to learn more about + support his work:InstagramTikTokRed Cape Therapy💻 Sources and resources from th
Jan 31, 2023 • 51:42
Turning mistakes into teachable moments feat. Ed Carratalà
Grab podcast merch here: https://www.bonfire.com/store/allyship-is-a-verb/This week, Ed Carratalà (él/he/him) expands on how he spent 33 years of his life hiding parts of himself. In this episode, you will learn: 1. What it was like for him to attend his first pride event after coming out. 2. Why he had to teach his therapy students about the LGBTQ+ community in secret. 3. How therapists can cause great harm to clients and why it can be helpful for them to do the work of questioning th
Jan 17, 2023 • 57:23
Are You OK?: Empowering Trans Youth Through Storytelling feat. Jesse Freidin and Rebecca Minor
This event aired live on December 4th, 2022, and has been cut for clarity. "Are You OK?" documents the experiences and stories of 130+ trans and nonbinary youth living in the United States during this time of horrific anti-trans legislation.You can watch this video on Spotify or YouTube. Looking for more info about the merch? Grab the wearable merch here! Be sure to check the podcast website for any new stickers or other items.Author and photographer Jesse Freidin (he/him) and gender sp
Jan 3, 2023 • 1:14:52
Sex and gender are made-up concepts (like everything else) feat. Lena Dirscherl
This week, Lena Dirscherl (they/them) expands on some of the many factors that influence gender. In this episode, you will learn: 1. What our thoughts are on the term "transgender" and where we think it's heading in the future. 2. Some of the many different definitions of "queer" or "queerness." 3. How "sex" and "gender" are made-up concepts and why that matters.🎙️ Connect with Lena to learn more about + support their work:BoPoLena’s PatreonInstagramTikTokWebsiteHost Charlie Ocean, MS
Nov 22, 2022 • 53:18
Bonus Episode: Check in on your LGBTQ+ friends and family
In the wake of the most recent tragedy yesterday (November 19th, 2022) at Club Q, an LGBTQ+ nightclub in Colorado Springs, CO, I am publishing a formerly recorded episode that I never released. At the time of posting this, we believe that 5 people are dead and 18 are injured. There was a drag show.I didn't publish this episode because I thought it was too dark and heavy to be so early in the first season. I thought about revisiting it but then changed the format of the podcast episodes
Nov 20, 2022 • 8:17
Cassie Brighter on the hidden costs of being transgender, TSA PreCheck, and "the surgery"
Did you miss our November event? Watch it here on YouTube: Are You OK?: Empowering Trans Youth Through Storytelling feat. Jesse Freidin and Rebecca MinorContent warning for abuse.This week, Cassie Brighter (she/her) expands on the hidden costs of being transgender, why TSA PreCheck may make travel safer for trans women, and how she responds to questions about "the surgery." In this episode, you will learn: 1. Why she doesn't want LGBTQ+ events at churches, even if they're affirming. 2.
Nov 8, 2022 • 57:17
Cody Daigle-Orians on being ace, queer, and polyamorous
Did you miss our November event? Watch it here on YouTube: Are You OK?: Empowering Trans Youth Through Storytelling feat. Jesse Freidin and Rebecca MinorThis week, Cody Daigle-Orians (he/they), AKA "Ace Dad Advice," explores what it means for them to be asexual, queer, and polyamorous. In this episode, you will learn: 1. How do his ace and polyamorous identities intersect? 2. How do they manage multiple relationships? 3. What is his experience of being ace within the broader LGBTQ+ com
Oct 25, 2022 • 1:00:23
Give people and situations grace feat. Mister Larrie
This episode is sponsored by a private donor. Thank you!!!In this week's episode, Mister Larrie (he/him) and I get SILLY! It starts off with him encouraging you to do the work of finding your people in your communities (and to be patient with the process). We get into mistakes and how having a learner's mindset can help, including when others correct us. Learn what he's been told as a Black man about his career, mental health, and more. Mister Larrie reflects on being visible at multipl
Oct 11, 2022 • 1:00:55
The Patriarchy Episode feat. Petey Gibson
This episode is sponsored by a private donor. Thank you!!!Content warning for LGBTQ+ youth discrimination, suicide statistics.In this week's episode, Petey Gibson (he/him) shares about who he's inspired by to embody gentle masculinity. Suppose you've wondered about the differences between characters written as cisgender men versus trans men or transmasculine people. In that case, Petey explains what he's experienced in Hollywood. We also get into the film he starred in and produced: The
Sep 27, 2022 • 1:00:35
Why do some people use two sets of pronouns? feat. Josée Sovinsky
This episode is sponsored by a private donor. Thank you!!!Did you miss the launch party for the Corporate Guide to LGBTQ+ Events? You can watch the recording and purchase the guide here!In this week's episode, Josée Sovinsky (she/they) updates us on what's changed since we spoke early last season, including pronouns and identities. If you've ever wondered why some people use two or more sets of pronouns, Josée explains what it means for her and how she tested they/them out before sharin
Sep 13, 2022 • 1:01:11
Anger and fury can be turned into action that can create change feat. Jesse Freidin
This episode is sponsored by a private donor. Thank you!!!Interested in the Corporate Guide to LGBTQ+ Events? Watch the recorded launch party on LinkedIn! You can now buy the guide here.In this week’s episode, Jesse Freidin (he/him) shares about his former photography projects and how he's surprised himself by working on a new series that hits close to home. The "Are you OK?" series addresses the current wave of anti-trans legislation by interviewing trans and gender nonconforming youth
Aug 30, 2022 • 1:01:02
Listen to minorities and thank them feat. Ra Ra Rollins
This episode is sponsored by a private donor. Thank you!!!Content warning for mentions of George Floyd's murder and generally sensitive topics without details.In this week’s episode, Ra Ra Rollins (he/him) shares why he claims “queer” and “gay” and the difference in meaning for him between the two terms. He ponders if he’s Black first or gay, queer first, especially since not all spaces see him as a whole person with various, complex identities. Learn about how his work can be triggerin
Aug 16, 2022 • 1:01:00
Don't forget to live a queer, abundant life and laugh feat. Richard Follett
This episode is sponsored by Rebecca Minor, LICSW (she/her). For more information about her parent and caregiver coaching, please visit: https://www.genderspecialist.com/coachingIn this week’s episode, Richard Follett (he/him) shares how each of his intersections has shaped a portion of who he is and that while some of them may seem at odds with each other, that's not the case for him. Learn about how he knew he was gay at the age of four but found himself trying to "pray away the gay"
Aug 2, 2022 • 55:17
Special Video Episode: Trans Day of Visibility Nonbinary Panel! feat. Zoa Glows, Maze Felix, and Noel Fernando
This episode is sponsored by Rebecca Minor, LICSW. For more information about her course, How To Talk To Kids About Gender, please visit: https://www.genderspecialist.com/learn Listeners of this podcast get 10% off with code ALLYSHIP For more information about her resource, My Kid Just Came Out: Free Guide for Parents, please visit: https://www.genderspecialist.com/nowwhat And if you're looking to book an LGBTQ+ event for Pride month or after, consider hiring me: https://www.chrisangelm
May 24, 2022 • 1:12:15
Experiencing "Bless Your Heart" Homophobia in the South feat. Destiny Clarke
This episode is sponsored by Rebecca Minor, LICSW. For more information about her course, How To Talk To Kids About Gender, please visit: https://www.genderspecialist.com/learn Listeners of this podcast get 10% off with code ALLYSHIPIn this week’s episode, Destiny Clarke (who now uses she/they pronouns) talks about why they left teaching in the classroom to pursue a career in providing teachers with LGBTQ+ inclusive education. We discuss how living in North Carolina as a pansexual perso
May 10, 2022 • 1:01:34
Stealth Mode Activated: Living as a Trans Man in Private feat. Dominic
This episode is sponsored by Rebecca Minor, LICSW. For more information about her resource, My Kid Just Came Out: Free Guide for Parents, please visit: https://www.genderspecialist.com/nowwhatIn this week’s episode, Dominic (he/him) talks about the first time he got hit on by a girl and how that started his sexuality (and later gender) journey. Learn about what shifts occurred in his life as he started to be read as a man in society and some decisions he's made as a result, including go
Apr 26, 2022 • 1:26:51
Everywhere is Queer: Mapping Our Vibrant Businesses feat. Charlie Sprinkman
This episode is sponsored by Rebecca Minor, LICSW. For more information about her resource, My Kid Just Came Out: Free Guide for Parents, please visit: https://www.genderspecialist.com/nowwhatIn this week’s episode, Charlie Sprinkman (he/they) talks about growing up in "small-town vibes" Wisconsin and how it's important for people to find the best language for themselves. Learn about what happened when he came out during the Trump administration. We also discuss how important it is to m
Apr 12, 2022 • 47:02
Conversation Checkpoint: The Role of a Safety Pause feat. K Strohl
This episode is sponsored by Rebecca Minor, LICSW. For more information about her course, How To Talk To Kids About Gender, please visit: https://www.genderspecialist.com/learn Listeners of this podcast get 10% off with code ALLYSHIP The Trans Day of Visibility: Nonbinary Visibility panel is now available to watch here: https://youtu.be/mYPQBrBvwrcIn this week’s episode, K Strohl (K's pronouns present day are now they/them) talks about why they freely share their identities and how they
Mar 29, 2022 • 48:40
You're Not Like Those Other Black People: Confronting Othering feat. Nick Daily
This episode is sponsored by Rebecca Minor, LICSW (she/her). For more information about her resource, My Kid Just Came Out: Free Guide for Parents, please visit: https://www.genderspecialist.com/nowwhat/In this week’s episode, Nick Daily (he/they) shares about what sparked the daily reminders he posts to Instagram to inspire others. Learn about why they’re learning to say “no” and what it means with the nuance of being Black, among their other identities, and practices like not working
Mar 15, 2022 • 1:01:08
Unplugging from the Matrix: Finding Freedom as Trans feat. Trystan Reese
In this week’s episode, Trystan Reese (he/him) shares about his days of being a drag king and how he's been performing as a man since he was a kid. Learn about some of the practices he's adopted to check in with his colleagues so that they're in a continuous feedback loop, including addressing power dynamics and microaggressions. We also discuss a bit of what it's like to be trainers and consultants and the work that goes into it, including figuring out our boundaries and doing the work
Mar 1, 2022 • 59:25
Your Clothes Are Gay: Well, of Course. It's Because I'm Queer feat. Mon Malanovich-Gallagher
In this week’s episode, Mon Malanovich-Gallagher (they/them) shares about being an LGBTQI+ speaker and facilitator and what some of their experience as an introvert can look like, including introducing the term “anchor.” Learn why they left Poland and the importance of language including identities that reflect our experience. We also discuss employment diversity questions and how data matters while recognizing the privilege of being able to answer as honestly as possible. Have you ever
Feb 15, 2022 • 59:05
Happy Hour Culture: Confronting Alcohol in LGBTQ+ Spaces feat. Chris Tompkins
In this week’s episode, Chris Tompkins (he/him) shares about being an LGBTQ inner advocate and practicing allyship toward himself. Learn how he found his way to sobriety while acknowledging that AA isn't for everyone. We also discuss the term "Guncle" and how being one was part of the inspiration for his book, Raising LGBTQ Allies. Have you ever heard of "machismo?" Chris talks about how it influences Latin American culture and what it meant for the messages he received as a young gay c
Feb 1, 2022 • 49:31
U-Hauling Flannel Hearts: Examining Lesbian Stereotypes feat. Jaffe
In this week’s episode, Jaffe (she/her) shares the origins of her drag show, Them Fatale Drag Kings. Learn how she claims the terms "lesbian" and "queer." We also discuss the Los Angeles queer bar scene when we were in our early 20s and how it is present day. Have you ever wondered if you’re welcome to an LGBTQ+ space as someone not from the community? Jaffe talks about how it’s important to have a sense of humor when entering such spaces. We also get vulnerable about how when I was fir
Jan 18, 2022 • 48:52
You Can Never Trust Them: Confronting Bi Stereotypes feat. Dr. Leah Tidey
In this week’s episode, Dr. Leah Tidey (she/her) shares about how her definition of bisexuality has evolved since she first claimed it at the age of 12. Learn how intersections of bisexuality and consensual non-monogamy have created stigma she’s been pushing against. We also discuss Robyn Och’s definition of bisexuality and how Leah’s work as a sexual health educator can be tricky in terms of how much of herself she feel comfortable sharing with her students or overall in certain spaces
Jan 4, 2022 • 59:39
Fat Liberation vs. Glittery Body Positivity feat. Provvidenza Catalano
In this week’s episode, Provvidenza Catalano (they/them) shares about how the closer they get to who they are versus how Hollywood typecasts folks, they now get more interest and are called in for different roles. Learn how intersections of fatphobia, transphobia, butchphobia, ableism, and more have shaped their experiences and the work they're doing internally. We also discuss some of what casual representation could look like and how much more authentic and nuanced stories would be fo
Nov 30, 2021 • 58:02
Reparenting Myself: Exploring Gender as an Adult feat. Dr. Kyl Myers
In this week’s episode, Dr. Kyl Myers (they/them, she/her) shares how their gender creative parenting has evolved over the years and that it can look different for each family. Learn how gender creative parenting gave her an opportunity to check in with herself about her own gender and gender expression. We also discuss some of the questions that you asked on Instagram! Are you trying to support friends in your life who have LGBTQ+ kids? Kyl talks about some of what's helped them, which
Nov 16, 2021 • 1:00:34
Coming Out as Trans: When HR Takes That Decision Away feat. Leo Yockey
In this week’s episode, Leo Yockey (he/him) shares how his first tech job denied him the opportunity to control his narrative. Learn what surprised him about the experience and hear how it shaped the man he is today. We also discuss the "I'm not gay hug." Are you a fan of Tan France from Queer Eye? Leo talks about how reading Tan's memoir was the inverse of his experience, though it helped him find a man to model himself after.🎙️ Connect with Leo:Leo Yockey's websiteThe Leo Yockey Show
Nov 2, 2021 • 50:40
From Ohio to NYC: Connecting with Queer Community feat. Laura Graving
In this week’s episode, Laura Graving (she/her) shares about how there are tarot decks that are queer and trans-inclusive. Learn what support she offers folks and what values she founded her small business on. We also discuss why LGBTQ+ folks can feel seen and validated by astrology, tarot, and similar practices. Have you ever used white sage to cleanse a space? She talks about how we can ethically source our white sage and what tips can take those practices to the next level.🎙️ Connec
Oct 26, 2021 • 38:50
Is your therapist the right fit for you?
Is your therapist the right fit for you? Do you even want or have access to one? In the previous episode, Dr. Rick Grant-Coons (he/him) shared out the allyship tip "Just trust that people know who they are best. They know themselves best and just believe that they can tell you who they are and that is the truth, right? Like, let people tell you who they are. And just believe, accept, celebrate, find out what works for them, and not try to define for them or tell them who they should be,
Oct 19, 2021 • 9:55
She-Ra vs. Barbie: The Butch Compromise feat. Dr. Rick Grant-Coons
In this week’s episode, Dr. Rick Grant-Coons (he/him) shares about moving 13 times every 1-3 years in the south as a young person and how, in some ways, it was easier to come out because of all of the moving. Learn what support he received and which communities he found comfort in over the years. We also discuss some signs to look for in an LGBTQ+ affirmative therapist. Have you ever wondered what even is LGBTQ+ affirmative therapy? He talks about the programs he took and how access to
Oct 12, 2021 • 49:20
Is your allyship accidentally performative?
Is your allyship accidentally performative? In the previous episode, Tasha Colin (rolling they/them, she/her) shared out the allyship tip "Honestly, I would love if people wouldn't assume or- I would love for people to ask me what my identities mean for me in order to know how to support me better. Versus maybe hearing how I identify and then assuming certain things. Yet, just asking me how they can support me is supportive." In this mini-episode, host Chris Angel (they/them) introduces
Oct 5, 2021 • 9:45
Agender in a Gendered World: Challenging Norms feat. Tasha Colin
In this week’s episode, Tasha Colin (rolling they/she) shares about coming out as a previously held identity and what three magic words of support boosted their spirit. Learn what book helped spark her curiosity and made her feel seen. We also discuss how asking about pronouns is totally okay AND how asking personal questions about sex and how people have it is NOT a good way of showing support. Have you ever heard of the term demisexual and wondered what that was all about or why a ter
Sep 28, 2021 • 39:40
Can we agree to stop assuming straight is the default?
Can we agree to stop assuming straight is the default? In the previous episode, Josée Sovinsky (she/her) shared out the allyship tip for people to "...actively seek out opportunities to [...] question their assumptions that they make." In this mini-episode, host Chris Angel (they/them) revisits this tip and introduces why coming out is a privilege, complicated, and nuanced. They also talk about how if LGBTQ+ youth are considering coming out, they need a safety plan if they have any reas
Sep 21, 2021 • 9:54
Bi & Committed: Debunking Relationship Myths feat. Josée Sovinsky
In this week’s episode, Josée Sovinsky (now using she/they pronouns) shares about coming out on her professional Instagram page this past pride month and what happened as a result. Learn what messages she was given about bisexuality while questioning her sexual orientation. We also discuss honoring marginalized communities by believing in science AND holding space for people’s own uniquely lived experiences + expertise (and paying them for it!). Have you ever wondered about some of the
Sep 14, 2021 • 50:34
What are rolling pronouns? Are there questions you shouldn't ask trans people?
What are rolling pronouns? Are there questions you shouldn't ask trans people? In the previous episode, Zoa Glows (rolling she/her, they/them, he/him) shared out the allyship tip: "My ally tip is to pause and ask yourself, "will my compliments, questions, and language uplift this individual? Or could they possibly cause them discomfort or harm?" Because each of those things- compliments, questions, a lot of questions have called caused me harm and discomfort and a lot of language has
Sep 7, 2021 • 9:27
High School Students as Unexpected Mirrors feat. Zoa Glows
In this week’s episode, Zoa Starlight Glows (Zoa now uses they/she pronouns) shares about coming out to her students and family. Learn about what messages she was given as a Black person while navigating a big, religious family, her LGBTQ+ identities over the years, and the noise of society overall telling and teaching her to hate herself (but rose above it!). We also discuss honoring students by giving a name + pronoun sheet ahead of time and how the term deadnaming doesn’t resonate fo
Aug 31, 2021 • 51:08
Calling in conversations and tips for bridging generations
Are you open to a conversation? In the previous episode, Coco Peru (she/her, he/him) shared out her allyship tip: "What's important is the story. And so I would encourage that part of allyship be don't always judge a person on what they are presenting, but listen to their story. Because the story is where it's rich and the story is where you're going to connect with that person. The person that might appear so different from you, might actually be your greatest ally. So I think that for
Aug 24, 2021 • 9:54
Surviving Through Laughter: LGBTQ+ Humor as Resilience feat. Coco Peru
In this week’s episode, Coco Peru (she/her, he/him) shares her history with self-identifying and how she's still seeking inspirational + affirming language, loving and reclaiming terms that are still used as slurs today, and a time in her life where the trans community and drag performers were under the same umbrella (and may still be for certain folks). We also discuss what it was like discovering We’wha and the term Two Spirit from a book, how reality TV has shaped drag over the years
Aug 17, 2021 • 51:57
Sorry Not Sorry: When Apologies Fall Flat for Queer Folks (And 3 Tools to Fix It)
In the previous episode, Shane Whalley (ze/hir) shared out hir allyship tip: "I think being a good ally, is the willingness to be uncomfortable. If you make a mistake, I'm a big believer that I would love for someone[... to] #AcknowledgeandApologize and then ask if there's anything needed for repair and then do better. Right. And so for me, we're always going to make mistakes. We're always going to make mistakes. But, what we do once we do them is again, for me, is where our greatest le
Aug 10, 2021 • 18:04
From Gender Gray to Genderqueer: Navigating Evolving Language feat. Shane Whalley
In this week’s episode, Shane Whalley (ze/hir) shares a bit about hir history of language and community. Learn about the differences between cultural competency, cultural humility, and cultural responsiveness. We also discuss honoring community organizations that have been doing the work to embrace the trans community and why acknowledging their history is important. Have you been wondering as a cisgender and heterosexual ally if you can use the term queer? Ze has some tips for you.🎙️
Aug 3, 2021 • 49:45