In the previous episode, Shane Whalley (ze/hir) shared out hir allyship tip: "I think being a good ally, is the willingness to be uncomfortable. If you make a mistake, I'm a big believer that I would love for someone[... to] #AcknowledgeandApologize and then ask if there's anything needed for repair and then do better. Right. And so for me, we're always going to make mistakes. We're always going to make mistakes. But, what we do once we do them is again, for me, is where our greatest learning happens and it's where our greatest healing happens."

In this mini-episode, host Chris Angel revisits this tip and shares 3 tools to help you genuinely apologize:

1. oops, ouch, I'm sorry (they now use "oops, ouch, thank you" - which will be addressed in a future bonus episode of season 3)
2. nine essential ingredients of a true apology
3. a repair model

These tools combined will help to give you the confidence you need to give better apologies.

💻 Sources and resources from this episode:

• Dr. Harriet Lerner and Brené Brown I’m Sorry: How To Apologize & Why It Matters
• Rhodes Perry: How Do You Repair After Unintentionally Causing Harm?

Host Charlie Ocean, MSW (they/them), has a background in LGBTQ+ training, community organizing, and technology. Guest episodes feature at least one allyship tip, including tailored questions based on the guests' unique intersecting identities. You can follow Charlie on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack. *You will hear Charlie's former name in this episode and previous ones.*