Bare Marriage

Sheila Gregoire

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Tired of Christian pat answers about marriage? The podcast that goes in-depth into marriage, parenting, and even sex--to see how we can live the passionate life we were meant for. Paired with To Love, Honor and Vacuum--the blog!

Episode 280: The Problems with the Book The Love Dare--And How It Papers Over Real Problems

Send us a textThe Love Dare, based on the movie Fireproof, has been a huge best-selling marriage book for two decades. But does it actually contain good advice? Today on episode 280 of the Bare Marriage podcast, we show how The Love Dare simply regurgitates all the typical harmful evangelical marriage advice, telling women to make themselves smaller; never bring up issues; paper over problems; and, of course, never divorce, even if you’re being abused.OUR SPONSOR:Thank you to our sponsor, Zonder

Apr 24, • 57:25

Episode 279: Saving Face: Finding My Self, God, and One Another Outside a Defaced Church (feat. Aimee Byrd)

Send us a textWhat if vulnerability and authenticity are vital for true community? And what if we can never truly know God, and each other, until we know ourselves? It's episode 279 of the Bare Marriage podcast, featuring Aimee Byrd talking about her new book!Aimee Byrd's Book Saving Face Aimee Byrd's SubstackTO SUPPORT US: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workFor tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko

Apr 17, • 1:05:17

Episode 278: Why Don't Evangelical Women Want to Marry Evangelical Men?

Send us a textAl Mohler, president of Southern Baptist Theological Seminary, recently did a podcast bemoaning the fact that young women, unlike young men, are giving up on the "creation order" and abandoning marriage. But he distorts the argument, and misses the main problem: Women want to get married, but too many of the men available don't make good partners. WITH THANKS TO OUR SPONSOR:Beth Allison Barr's insightful and important new book Becoming the Pastor's Wife: Ho

Apr 10, • 1:11:19

Episode 277: Why Emotions Aren't Feminine (and Why Women Aren't More Emotional!)

Send us a textSo many evangelical pastors teach that men are rational while women are emotional. But is this true? And if women are more emotionally mature than men, then doesn't that mean that men need to learn from women? Listen in as Keith and Sheila dissect several clips from Josh Howerton, Emerson Eggerichs, Josh McPherson, and Matt Walsh.WITH THANKS TO OUR SPONSOR:Beth Allison Barr's insightful and important new book Becoming the Pastor's Wife: How Marriage Replaced Ordinati

Apr 3, • 1:08:40

Episode 276: Is Reading Romance Novels for Women the Same as Watching Porn?

Send us a textWe know watching porn is wrong--but are romance novels just as bad? We've often heard that comparison made: Sure, guys watch porn, but remember that women read novels! Today Rebecca and I talk about when the comparison may be fair, and when it isn't. And we ask: how should we see romance novels or erotic novels? Listen in and see what you think--as we try to reason it through!WITH THANKS TO OUR SPONSOR:Beth Allison Barr's insightful and important new book Becoming th

Mar 27, • 58:33

Episode 275: Becoming the Pastor's Wife feat. Beth Allison Barr

Send us a textWhat if marriage replaced ordination as a woman's path to ministry? What if we've systematically erased the stories of women ministering in the past, and in so doing silenced women's voices and removed opportunities to serve Jesus? Today Beth Allison Barr joins us to talk about her new book Becoming the Pastor's Wife!REGISTER FOR OUR FREE WEBINARJoin Beth Allison Barr, Sheila, and Karen Swallow Prior on Thursday, March 27 at 9 pm for a FREE webinar (recording wi

Mar 20, • 1:07:42

Episode 274: The Marriage You Actually Want

Send us a textThe Marriage You Want is LIVE! Our book launched this week, and in this week's podcast we take a broad, investigative look into the state of evangelical marriage publishing, and why there has very little change in the top 10 books in decades. Plus what it means to have SAFE and HEALTHY marriage advice! Come celebrate with us in episode 274 of Bare Marriage!THE MARRIAGE YOU WANTOrder it on AmazonOther places to buy! TO SUPPORT USJoin our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to s

Mar 13, • 52:34

Episode 273: Are Traditionally Christian Marriages Linked to More Immaturity? The Data Speaks!

Send us a textIt's episode 273 of the Bare Marriage podcast! We found that certain beliefs are correlated most with emotional immaturity--passive aggressiveness; outbursts of anger; emotional dysregulation. In our research for our book The Marriage You Want, we found that when couples believe the husband should  have the tie breaking vote, they score lower on maturity.Is this because emotionally immature people are drawn to these beliefs? Or do these beliefs hamper maturity? Today we talk a

Mar 6, • 57:20

Episode 272: Is "Acts of Service" Love Language Really a Cry for Help? All New Bonus Stats!

Send us a textWhat if the "acts of service" love language is masking something else--the totally unequal division of labor that many couples have, and Gary Chapman ignores? Plus does the "physical touch" love language mask something wrong in the bedroom? ALL NEW BONUS STATS today! Some of them aren't even in the new book!PREODER THE MARRIAGE YOU WANTPre-Order on AmazonGet other links to Pre-OrderSend in your preorder receipt to preorder@marriageyouwantbook.comTO SUPPORT

Feb 27, • 41:30

Episode 271: What the Unfairness Threshold Tells Us About Marriage (and Mental Load!)

Send us a textPREODER THE MARRIAGE YOU WANTPre-Order on AmazonGet other links to Pre-OrderSend in your preorder receipt to preorder@marriageyouwantbook.comTO SUPPORT USJoin our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workFor tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko FoundationAnd check out our Merch, or any of our courses!Join our email list!Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!And her FACEBOOK PAGE has been HACKED--so please join the new

Feb 20, • 57:45

Episode 270: What Does Prioritizing Marriage Look Like? Plus Do You Have to Choose Between Being a Good Wife and a Good Mom?

Send us a textPrioritizing your marriage can be tough. How do we spend enough time together? Do we need more date nights? And MOMS—don’t forget to be a wife first and a mom second! But in all this talk, are we missing the bigger point? If we’re functioning as a team, doing life together, then affection will grow. But if you see your kids as threats to your marriage, or think you can connect with a date night when you haven’t been in the trenches together all week, you’re not going to feel close.

Feb 13, • 1:15:09

Episode 269: The Marriage Hierarchy of Needs—and Why Compromise Doesn’t Work

Send us a textEver tried to find a compromise when you’re having an argument—but even the compromise doesn’t seem fair? In today’s podcast we explain why—using what we call The Marriage Hierarchy of Needs. We talk about this in our new book The Marriage You Want! Basically, compromise only works if you both start off on equal footing. But if one of you is already doing more than their fair share, compromise just makes it even more unequal. So let’s talk about foundation vs. frills, how to overco

Feb 6, • 54:17

Episode 268: Why Data Shows That Teamwork, Not Hierarchy, Is the Key to a Great Marriage!

Send us a textWhat is the biggest key to a great marriage? Teamwork! Let’s talk about how teamwork is associated with all the good outcomes we want for marriage—better sex; feeling close; resolving conflict—everything! But complementarianism, on the other hand, is associated with all the bad outcomes. Good outcomes and bad outcomes tend to travel together—and complementarianism travels with the bad stuff! Hear about all our new data from our new book The Marriage You Want! LINKSPREODER THE MARRI

Jan 30, • 58:24

Episode 267: Why Evangelical Marriage Advice Often Backfires

Send us a textIn our research looking at marital and sexual satisfaction among evangelicals, we’ve found that over and over again our best-selling books, and our megachurch pastors, teach things that are shown to lead to worse outcomes. Why? What’s going on? In today’s podcast we share the faulty premise that is at the heart of evangelical marriage advice, and the four toxic teachings that flow from that false premise. But when we fix that first premise—then our advice can finally get healthy (a

Jan 23, • 1:07:14

Episode 266: Demolishing the Love and Respect Dichotomy Definitively (with Data)

Send us a textThe idea that men need respect while women need love has been treated as gospel truth in the evangelical world. Best-sellers have been written based on it; it informs almost every marriage sermon. What if it’s not true? Using data from our marriage survey of 7000 people, we show how reality is very different—and what this means for how we should talk about marriage! TO SUPPORT USJoin our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workFor tax deductible donations in the U.S.

Jan 16, • 1:38:13

Episode 265: Culture Wars vs. Jesus: How to Not Get Sucked in To Toxic Teachings

Send us a textSo many of us got sucked into believing toxic stuff about marriage and sex in the evangelical church! But unless we figured out WHY we believed that, we’re likely to get suckered in again to toxic stuff—just DIFFERENT toxic stuff. So today, Rebecca and I are doing a postmortem, looking at what it is about church that leaves us vulnerable to believing things that are toxic and rather easy to see through. Let’s become critical thinkers, so we don’t get sucked in again! TO SUPPORT USJ

Jan 9, • 1:03:17

Episode 264: It’s the Peer Reviewed Celebration! Plus a Plea to Respect Science

Send us a textOur big announcement: We’re peer-reviewed! Our dataset for The Great Sex Rescue has now appeared in the November 2024 Sociology of Religion Journal. So let’s talk about what we found, but also ask: why are evangelicals so quick to dismiss science, but at the same time cling to bad interpretations of data if it suits their agenda? Can we become better critical thinkers? COMING IN 2025Pre-Order The Marriage You WantJoin our email list to be notified about the launch teamTO SUPPORT US

Dec 19, 2024 • 1:21:29

Episode 263: Even After Everything—Loving Anyway, Despite the Risks

Send us a textAdvent is normally a time of hopeful expectation. But what does it mean when our hopes have been dashed in the past? Stephanie Duncan Smith shares her stories of miscarriages and losses—as well as great celebrations, and what it means to embrace a life that is really messy. And we look at how we can celebrate the Incarnation by being Jesus’ hands and feet, seeing the work fighting sex trafficking that The Well House is doing. It’s the Christmas season, everyone! Stocking Stuffers:C

Dec 12, 2024 • 58:59

Episode 262: Problems with Marriage on the Rock by Jimmy Evans

Send us a textJimmy Evans started XO Marriage over 30 years ago, and his book Marriage on the Rock became a best-seller. He leads marriage conferences around the country. But for years he also Mark Driscoll on his leadership team. He got his start at Gateway Church under Robert Morris, who has been accused of grooming and sexually abusing a teen girl, starting when she was 12. And more recently audio of Evans’ bullying behavior has dropped. So let’s examine his book Marriage on the Rock—and we’l

Dec 5, 2024 • 1:34:24

Episode 261: Her Rites: The 6 Rites of Passage in a Woman’s Life feat. Christy Bauman

Send us a textEver feel like your body is a stranger to you? Like you’re plagued with insecurity, can’t find peace in your relationships? What if it’s because we’re running away from part of who we are, and we haven’t been able to honor who God made us to be? Christy Bauman, a licensed therapist, noticed in her counseling that her clients often didn’t have a clear identity or were able to articulate who they were. So she invites us on a journey of recovering rites of passage—where we honor sacre

Nov 27, 2024 • 1:18:37

Episode 260: Shame Must Switch Sides: It’s Not Shameful to NOT Want Pornified Sex

Gisele Pelicot famously said that "shame must switch sides"--and I think that applies to the evangelical church! Over and over again over the last few years ,when male teachers have presented a pornified view of sex and women have said "no", women have been accused of being prudes. But it is okay to reject objectification. A close look at Josh Butler, Gary Thomas coercing women into sending nude photos, and more--all of whom called us ashamed of sex for saying no.SPECIAL: The

Nov 21, 2024 • 1:11:02

Episode 259: Avoiding Power Struggles with Your Kids (Plus are you an unintentionally permissive parent?)

Do you find yourself in constant power struggles with your kids? Do you feel like your kids too often set the terms of their cooperation? Or are you worried that you are too hard and demanding on them? Well today I talk with Wendy Snyder, a positive parenting coach, as we get into the nitty gritty of how to find that balance between being authoritarian and overly permissive. Cut the drama, cut the power struggles, and learn how to thrive as a family!SIGN UP for our FREE Parenting Webinar with We

Nov 14, 2024 • 1:08:27

Episode 258: They’re Coming After Bluey Now? What’s Wrong with Involved Fathers?

Why are writers for The Gospel Coalition coming after the dad in the cartoon series Bluey? He’s an involved dad who loves his kids. Why are they so offended? Rick Pidcock joins Rebecca and Connor Lindenbach for a deep dive—and then Rebecca and Connor talk more about our anemic view of fatherhood. TO SUPPORT USJoin our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workFor tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko FoundationAnd check out our M

Nov 7, 2024 • 58:08

Episode 257: Little Girls in Church Parking Lots in BaptistLand

Christa Brown was sexually assaulted dozens of times by her youth pastor when she was 15. She was made to repent and apologize to his wife. The pastor just got moved around from church to church for decades. When Christa’s daughter reached the same age Christa was when she was assaulted, she went public—and started the movement to push the SBC towards accountability for the sexual abuse crisis in their midst. She’s written a memoir called BaptistLand, and today we talk about Christa’s fight—and

Oct 31, 2024 • 1:06:35

Episode 256: How Should You Handle the Sex Talk with Your Kids?

Talking to your kids about sex & puberty is awkward! And over the years the church has made some big mistakes. Today we talk about how to avoid the biggest ones--and some encouragement for how to do this with as little awkwardness as possible.OUR SEX AND PUBERTY COURSE:Check out our revamped version of The Whole Story--our sex and puberty course for parents to share with kids. It's video-based, and it makes covering all the info much easier. It's on sale until Monday, October 28 at

Oct 24, 2024 • 1:01:26

Episode 255: For Our Daughters—Plus Why Sex Abuse Scandals Keep Happening

We aren’t going to fix the abuse crisis in the church until we deal with the underlying beliefs that actually enable abuse. Today Kristin Kobes Du Mez joins us to talk about her new documentary For Our Daughters, which shows how beliefs about gender, power and politics that are rampant in the church actually contribute to abuse. And Pastor Trey Ferguson joins us to comment on a recent article he wrote explaining how evangelicalism’s views of sex, which ignore intimacy, contribute to abuse too.OU

Oct 16, 2024 • 1:12:09

Episode 254: The 5 Myths of Purity Culture with Dr. Camden Morgante

We know purity culture hurt so many of us. But how do we actually move on and recover from purity culture? Today Dr. Camden Morgante joins us to look at the 5 myths of purity culture, and how to heal and get to the other side!OUR FREE WEBINAR!Join Rebecca and me as we host Camden for a FREE webinar looking more into these myths, where we find them, and where we go from here! It'll be a super fun hour with some prizes, games, and lots of inside scoop!Monday, October 14, 8 pm EST. Sign up hereTHIN

Oct 10, 2024 • 59:59

Episode 253: The 93% Myth: That Stat That Says Fathers Are More Important Than Mothers Is Made Up!

Ever heard the stat from “a recent study” that found that, when a husband comes to Christ first, in 93% of cases the wife and kids follow, but when the wife comes to Christ first, it’s only 17%? Today Beth Allison Barr and Miranda Zapor Cruz, both academics looking into gender relations in church, join me to try to track down the source. Spoiler alert: People seem to have made this up about 30 years ago—and they keep quoting it! We look at what happens when churches assume this stat is true.OUR

Oct 3, 2024 • 57:52

Episode 252: Flourishing Families

We're all about healthy advice for marriage and sex. But what if evangelical teachings around parenting have also been messed up? And how can we parent in a healthy way? David and Amanda Erickson join us to talk about their new book The Flourishing Family, based on Scripture, brain science, attachment theory, and more. THIS is how we should parent! OUR SPONSOREver, AJ: Uniquely crafted vegan leather Bible cases. These Bible Cases are GORGEOUS and FUNCTIONAL! Use it as a traditional case, or you

Sep 26, 2024 • 1:24:06

Episode 251: All About Orgasms! Let’s Close the Gap!

The evangelical world has an orgasm gap of 47 points between husbands and wives. Only 48% of women orgasm almost always or always, and 33% orgasm never or rarely. The good news is that if you're in that 33%--you can still get to the 48%!Today Rebecca and I look back at all the other episodes we've talked about orgasms, and have a great time discussing how we can learn to help couples prioritize her pleasure!THE ORGASM COURSEIt's on sale until Monday, September 23 at midnight! When

Sep 19, 2024 • 1:02:09

Episode 250: Not All Men—But How Do We Tell?

We know it’s not all men who are predators. But it’s far too many. And a recent horrible court case in France is reminding women all over the world that far too many men are willing and eager to do the unthinkable. The only way to tell who is safe is to look at their words and their actions. And the words of far too many evangelical leaders and authors and pastors are straight up rape culture. After what happened to Gisele Pelicot, I’m not willing to put up with it anymore. No more Every Man’s B

Sep 12, 2024 • 55:38

Episode 239: Rebecoming: Figuring Out Why You’re Stuck feat. Dr. Merry Lin

It’s a complete therapy session—in one book and one podcast! Dr. Merry Lin joins us to explain why we so often feel stuck—and how to move forward. If you’ve been confused by terms like trauma, attachment theory, the Stone Age brain, and more, Dr. Merry Lin joins us for a primer that can help us get unstuck—and rebecome who we were meant to be!TO SUPPORT USJoin our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workFor tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative

Sep 5, 2024 • 57:11

Episode 248: Making Faith More Tangible in the Holy Everyday feat. Karen Stiller

What does it look like to actually grow like Christ? Like, not from a sermon, or not from some lofty retreat, but just in the here and now? Can we actually grow “holier”? A beautiful conversation with Karen Stiller, author of the book Holiness Here. We tackle envy, joy, contentment—and even grief, as she shares about processing the death of her husband. TO SUPPORT USJoin our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workFor tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith

Aug 29, 2024 • 1:01:23

Episode 247: Ask Sheila and Rebecca Anything! We Tackle Your Questions

Sheila and Rebecca are answering your questions today! We covered how to find a new church when you feel like church has let you down; how to start your sex life well; what to do when people don’t think purity culture was harmful; and so much more! And we throw data and nuance into the mix too.HELP US OUT AFTER THE HACKING!Please follow OUR NEW FACEBOOK PAGEIf you see a Facebook page called Endlessly Stories with weird images—that is our old page. Please report it!OUR SPONSORIt's the Bible that

Aug 22, 2024 • 1:02:55

Episode 246: How Toxic Marriage Advice Mirrors Coercive Control

What if you discovered that marriage books like The Excellent Wife actually follows Steve Hassan's BITE model of cult indoctrination? And what if these marriage books were giving advice that mirrored coercive control?Bare Marriage podcast, episode 246, featuring Bethany Jantzi. Bethany did her thesis on coercive control, and today she shows us how these books use methods like: diminishing/devaluing personhood; undermining autonomy; creating psychological dependency; using a fear-based system of

Aug 15, 2024 • 1:09:34

Episode 245: The Problems with The Excellent Wife by Martha Peace

The Excellent Wife by Martha Peace sells like hotcakes in biblical counseling/ fundamentalist/ homeschooling circles, and even though it seems like a “fringe” book, it’s affecting tens of thousands of women. Today Marissa Burt and Tia Levings and I sit down to talk about the problems with this book that tells women they must obey their husbands and submit—no matter what.Our Sponsor:It's the Bible that lets girls see themselves in the story! The Kingdom Girls Bible from Zonderkidz--with profiles

Aug 8, 2024 • 1:27:53

PODCAST: A Well-Trained Wife with Tia Levings

She went to a flagship SBC church. She wasn’t supposed to get sucked into fundamentalism. But Tia ended up being stuck in an abusive marriage, trying to fix things by following advice from Gothard and more. It made her sick. It made her hopeless. But finally she realized, no one else is going to rescue us. I have to do this for me and the kids. And she did. Her story is riveting, touching, and relevant. Listen to a Well-Trained Wife!Our Sponsor:(Put the Kingdom Girl’s Bible in from last week, et

Jul 31, 2024 • 1:26:16

Episode 243: Modesty vs. Vanity: Maybe We Need to Shift the Conversation!

The evangelical church spends a lot of time giving modesty messages to girls. But we hardly ever talk about vanity--even though the Bible condemns it. Could it be that in all our talk about modesty, we're inadvertently promoting vanity? And perhaps we can't call out vanity, because our messages to boys essentially enable vanity. Join Rebecca and Sheila as we hash this one out!With thanks to our sponsor:If church was your place of deepest hurt, can you find peace and healing with Christ? Check ou

Jul 25, 2024 • 57:13

Episode 242: Spot the Propaganda and Logical Fallacies feat. Scott Coley

Ever heard people say, "The Bible is crystal clear" or "if you don't believe that, you don't believe the Bible?" Quite often people equate their interpretation of the Bible with the Bible itself--with bad results. Today Scott Coley joins us to talk about his new book Ministers of Propaganda, and to look at how many evangelical leaders have used logical fallacies to keep themselves at the top of the power hierarchy. Plus let's look at how to get back to the way of Jesus!With thanks to our sponsor

Jul 18, 2024 • 1:00:10

Episode 241: Both Hurt and Healed by the Church

What if the church hurt you terribly? Can you still heal? Today Ryan George joins us to talk about how his fundamentalist family covers up his father’s sexual abuse of others—and how Ryan eventually learned the truth and turned his father in. And then Ryan deconstructed so much of what he had been taught—and found the real Jesus. Join us as Ryan George talks about his book Hurt and Healed by the Church.About Ryan's BookRyan’s book Hurt and Healed by the Church Find all of Ryan's booksTo Support

Jul 11, 2024 • 1:07:06

Episode 240: Breaking Away from Christian Patriarchy (feat. Cait West) plus Why People Deconstruct

What happens when your family gets sucked into fundamentalism, and your father insists on controlling your life, including who you will marry? You grow up under Christian patriarchy, and you experience serious emotional abuse. Today Cait West joins us to talk about her absolutely beautiful memoir Rift, about how and why she had to break free. Then Keith and I talk about why people are deconstructing, and why it’s so desperately important to listen to stories like Cait’s.About Cait West:Find Cait

Jul 4, 2024 • 1:14:00

Episode 239: Who Are Exvangelicals? feat. Sarah McCammon

People who deconstruct are often accused of never believing in the first place, or of just wanting to sin. But those who deconstruct are often those who have been hurt the most by toxic teachings. Today Sarah McCammon joins us to talk about who are “ex-vangelicals”, and her own story of deconstruction. And then Keith and I talk about what it means to create a safe and just community that honors people’s fears, betrayals, and concerns.About Sarah McCammon:Find Sarah's book The Exvangelicals

Jun 27, 2024 • 58:33

Episode 238: The Problems with Lies Young Women Believe by Dannah Gresh and Nancy Wolgemuth

Why is a frequenty-used book in teen girls' Bible studies focusing on Satan and not Jesus?A deep dive into the book Lies Young Women Believe by Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth and Dannah Gresh. Let's see what is being taught to teen girls--and why it's so problematic. We can do better, church!Get our Downloadable One Sheet of the problems with the book Lies Young Women Believe: Thanks to our sponsor, the book The Sex Talk You Never Got by Sam Jolman And listen to our interview with Sam about the book! To

Jun 20, 2024 • 1:41:05

Episode 237: Do We Have to Frame All Dad's as Heroes

Every Father’s Day, there’s a rallying cry in many conservative evangelical spaces that men are losing out and fathers are under attack. Where’s the truth in this? And what are the problems with talking about marriage like this? Plus we rewrite Harrison Butker’s commencement speech! Thanks to our sponsor, the book The Sex Talk You Never Got by Sam Jolman And listen to our interview with Sam about the book! To Support Us: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workFor tax de

Jun 13, 2024 • 1:07:51

Episode 236: The Sex Talk You Never Got with Sam Jolman

Send us a textWhat if purity culture didn’t just steal sexual health from women, but stole it from men too? What does it mean for a man to have healthy sexuality? Today licensed counselor Sam Jolman joins us for The Sex Talk You Never Got.To Support Us:Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workFor tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko FoundationAnd check out our Merch, or any of our courses!Things Mentioned in the Podcas

Jun 6, 2024 • 1:01:53

PODCAST: Wolves, Chimpanzees, and Deer: Let’s confront the Alpha Male Myth

Evangelical conservatives too often portray masculinity as if men are supposed to be the “Alpha male”—aloof, emotionless, vying for control, and bullying. Today we look at how, even in nature, this concept of the Alpha Male has been overblown. And we present a better picture.To Support Us:Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workFor tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko FoundationAnd check out our Merch, or any of our c

May 2, 2024 • 1:01:56

Episode 234: Pastors’ Wives Spill the Tea on Church Life—and the search for authenticity and friendship

Church is messy. Friendships are hard to find. Life in a fishbowl is awkward. But what if…it’s worth it? Such a great convo with Stephanie, Jessica, and Jenna about their new book Pastors’ Wives Tell All!Things mentioned in the Podcast:Pastors’ Wives Tell All: Pre-order Here: https://amzn.to/3U7dtXMGet Your Preorder Bonuses: https://www.pastorswivestellall.com/bookFind out everything that’s happening at their website: https://www.pastorswivestellall.com/Follow Pastors’ Wives Tell All on Instagra

Apr 25, 2024 • 1:06:54

Episode 233: The Backlash from Those Defending Purity Culture feat. Zachary Wagner

With the release of so many books critiquing purity culture, what has the backlash been like? Well, let’s talk about it with Zachary Wagner, the author of Non-Toxic Masculinity as we celebrate the one-year anniversary of the launch of She Deserves Better. To Support Us:Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workFor tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko FoundationAnd check out our Merch, or any of our courses!About Zachary

Apr 18, 2024 • 1:04:54

Episode 232: When Submission "Cults" Groom for Abuse: One Woman's Story

We've got such a compelling interview with Lauren Rose from Called to Peace Ministries. She's telling her story--and it's a mesmerizing one--of what happened as her family got more and more into the Bill Gothard movement (and she was eventually one of the ones he allegedly abused, and was part of the lawsuit).But when you grow up feeling like your main role is to submit, are you even able to recognize abuse?Lauren tells her story of being in an abusive marriage, and how she eventually realized s

Apr 11, 2024 • 1:03:43

Episode 231: Are We Saying that Wives Don't Have to Have Sex?

Send us a textWhen we talk about how God made sex to be mutual, intimate, and pleasurable for both, and how, if women don't want sex, the answer is to figure out why, we invariably get people saying, "so you think women don't have to have sex then?"Today on the podcast we look at the 90% problem vs. the 10% problem. In 90% of cases where women don't want sex, there's a reason. Let's focus mostly on the 90%! But guess what? We actually talk about the 10% too!Our

Apr 4, 2024 • 51:14

Episode 230: Why Evangelical Honeymoons Go So Badly feat. Jay Stringer

Recently Texas SBC megachurch pastor Josh Howerton told the brides in his congregation that on the wedding night, they should "stand where he wants you to stand, wear what he wants you to wear, and do what he wants you to do." Sex was presented as something that HE has been waiting for his whole life, and that she has to provide.  There was no emphasis on how she actually has greater need to be cared for sexually, if you're going to begin well, than he does. Jay Stringer joins us today to talk a

Mar 28, 2024 • 56:45

Episode 229: A Victim-Centered Approach to Forgiveness After Trauma

Forgiveness is so often weaponized against victims in the church. But what does the Bible really say about forgiveness, especially when trauma is involved? How can we value our own mental health but also follow Jesus? This is a fascinating and healing conversation with Susannah Griffith, author of Forgiveness After Trauma.Our Sponsor:The Kingdom Girls NIV Bible. Meet the women in God's story! Designed for girls, but honestly--it's awesome for every woman! And it makes a great Easter gift. The Bi

Mar 21, 2024 • 56:26

Episode 228: How Our Stories Influence Our Marriage Choices feat. Natalie Hoffman

Natalie Hoffman joins us today to talk about her INCREDIBLE memoir All the Scary Little Gods. Natalie escaped an abusive marriage, and now coaches other women in similar situations.  In her memoir, she invites us to listen to the story from the point of view of Little Natalie, and using IFS (Internal Family Systems) to see it from all of her parts. And as we understand our stories, we make it so that we won't recreate the problems.To Support Us:Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to sup

Mar 14, 2024 • 1:06:45

Episode 227: Are We Creating a Strawman out of Complementarianism? We Respond to Critics

So many people resist admitting that they are actually egalitarians, because they think they have to be complementarian--even if they don't act like it. Today Sheila and her husband Keith dissect the arguments that are often used to say "we're really complementarian"--even when they're objectively not. And we invite people instead to preach what they practice.To Support Us:Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workFor tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit

Mar 7, 2024 • 1:04:33

Episode 226: What We've Learned 3 Years After Great Sex Rescue

The Great Sex Rescue turns 3 this week! And it's been a super eventful three years. So much has changed. So let's talk about the feedback we've had, what we've done since, what people are saying--and where we're going from here.To Support Us:Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workOr, for tax deductible donations in the U.S., support our Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko FoundationAnd check out our Merch at our store, or any of our courses!Things Mentioned in

Feb 29, 2024 • 1:09:48

Episode 225: Do You Even Want This Kind of Marriage?

Would our reaction to Christian marriage advice change if we realize how many people who write that advice are actually in abusive or destructive marriages? What if people in those marriages are more drawn to write marriage advice to process how they're feeling?Today we look at two different women that Focus on the Family have held up to be emulated. One is a woman who has written prolifically for them, and when you look at her articles and what she reveals about her relationship, a TON of red f

Feb 22, 2024 • 56:35

Episode 224: Lies Women Believe Part 2: Is God a Monster?

Lies Women Believe by Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth taught concerning things about shame, trauma, and even what God is like. On today's podcast, we're joined by Becky Castle Miller, a doctoral student looking at emotions in the Bible, and Helen Blake, a licensed counselor in Sydney, Australia, to discuss some of the damaging teachings--and point us to a Jesus who understands and sympathizes with our struggles.Things Mentioned in the Podcast:To Support Us:Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to

Feb 15, 2024 • 1:16:02

Episode 223: The Problems with Lies Women Believe by Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth

Lies Women Believe by Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth is one of the most popular women’s bible study books used in churches across North America. But what does the book actually teach about marriage? About sex? About divorce and abuse? It’s scary, and today Gretchen Baskerville and Natalie Hoffman join host Sheila Wray Gregoire to analyze the harmful messages in Lies Women Believe.Things Mentioned in the Podcast:Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work https://patreon.com/baremarr

Feb 8, 2024 • 1:28:22

Episode 222: How Sex Is Like Chef Boyardee–and Other New Research Findings!

Links to things mentioned:First, support us!Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work Or, for tax deductible donations in the U.S., support our Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation Check out our Merch!Our ResourcesSign up for Rebecca’s Friday emails The Orgasm Course (there’s also an add-on for husbands) She Deserves Better bookThe Studies We Looked At:Time Use and Feelings of Love “Women Get Worse Sex: A Confound in the Explanation of Gender Difference

Feb 1, 2024 • 55:31

Episode 221: Let Men Be Dads! Why Do So Many Evangelical Resources Portray Men as Pathetic Dads?

Links to things mentioned:Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work https://patreon.com/baremarriageOr, for tax deductible donations in the U.S., support our Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation: https://secure.qgiv.com/for/goodfruitsCheck out our Merch–including our Love & Respect His & Her mugs: https://sheilawraygregoire.com/shop/his-hers-love-and-respect-ceramic-mugs/Sign up for Rebecca’s Friday emails: http://eepurl.com/z0VFnThe Great Sex R

Jan 25, 2024 • 1:06:34

Episode 220: Why is Emerson Eggerichs Afraid of Women Talking? A Deep Dive into Love & Respect

Links to things mentioned:Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work https://patreon.com/baremarriageOr, for tax deductible donations in the U.S., support our Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation: https://secure.qgiv.com/for/goodfruitsCheck out our Merch–including our Love & Respect His & Her mugs: https://sheilawraygregoire.com/shop/his-hers-love-and-respect-ceramic-mugs/Emerson Eggerichs’ reel where he talks about relationships https://www.instagram.co

Jan 18, 2024 • 53:28

Episode 219: Let Men be Men - Because We Believe Men are Great!

Links to things mentioned:Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month, and get access to our Facbook group, unfiltered podcasts, and more!Thanks to everyone who helped us reach our fundraising goal! You can give to our work and get tax deductible donations (within the United States) by donating to the Good Fruit Faith initiative of the Bosko Foundation. Check out our Merch at our store, including our biblical womanhood and biblical manhood merch, our new Jezebel merch, and more!Join our email l

Jan 11, 2024 • 1:02:19

Episode 218: Let’s Pivot to Healthy Churches feat. Scot McKnight & Laura Barringer

Links to things mentioned:Partner with us at Good Fruit Faith, an initiative of the Bosko Foundation, as we help impact future church leaders with our data and our message (tax receiptable within the U.S.): https://secure.qgiv.com/for/goodfruitsJoin our Patreon for as little as $5 a month and get access to unfiltered podcasts! https://patreon.com/baremarriageFind Scot McKnight and Laura Barringer’s book Pivot: https://amzn.to/3ToOKiV, along with their first book together A Church Called Tov: htt

Dec 14, 2023 • 59:34

Episode 217: When Religion Hurts You feat. Laura Anderson

Links to things mentioned:Our marriage survey is still open! We’re looking for married couples to take it. https://baremarriage.com/grimJoin our Patreon for as little as $5 a month, and get access to our incredible Facebook group, unfiltered podcasts, and more! https://patreon.com/baremarriageHelp us raise $52,000 by Christmas to expand our reach and make inroads into academic circles! BOSKO LINK HERELaura Anderson’s book When Religion Hurts You https://amzn.to/3sB0ZhsFind Laura on Instagram: ht

Dec 7, 2023 • 1:01:31

Episode 216: Perceived Autonomy vs. Actual Autonomy: It’s Okay to Say No to Controlling Church Spaces

Things mentioned in this podcast:Our survey link! Couples are invited to take our marriage survey (you take it individually and it’s confidential): https://baremarriage.com/grimJoin our Patreon for as little as $5 a month and help support our research and our work! https://patreon.com/baremarriageJoin our email list and get Rebecca’s awesome Friday emails as well as a roundup of our best posts and podcasts: http://eepurl.com/z0VFnSarah’s Wilderness to Wild program: https://wildernesstowild.comNo

Nov 30, 2023 • 57:52

Episode 215: A Jesus-Centered Faith vs. Nationalism feat. Andrew Whitehead

Links to things mentioned:Take our marriage survey! We’re looking for couples to fill out our marriage survey: https://baremarriage.com/grimJoin our Patreon for as little as $5 a month and support our work, while getting access to our awesome Facebook community! https://patreon.com/baremarriageOur Merch makes great Christmas gifts! Order before December 11 to guarantee delivery by Christmas: https://sheilawraygregoire.com/product-category/merchandise/Andrew Whitehead’s book American Idolatry: ht

Nov 22, 2023 • 56:10

Episode 214: What if Momma Ain’t Happy? Why It’s Okay to Sweat the Small Stuff

Links to things mentioned:Our survey link! Couples are invited to take our marriage survey (you take it individually and it’s confidential): https://baremarriage.com/grim/Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month and help support our research and our work! https://patreon.com/baremarriageThe article where you can find the Elisabeth Elliot quote on the essence of femininity: https://www.crossway.org/articles/the-essence-of-femininity/Holly Furtick’s reel on being grumpy: https://www.instagram.

Nov 16, 2023 • 56:17

Episode 213: Stained Glass Ceilings: How the church does gender ft. Lisa Swartz

Links to things mentioned:Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month and help support our research and our work! https://patreon.com/baremarriageLisa Weaver Swartz’ book Stained Glass Ceilings: https://amzn.to/3suzUfJA write-up of the amicus brief submitted on behalf of the Southern Baptist Theological Seminary to deny victims the right to sue the organizations that failed to report and failed to protect: https://www.courier-journal.com/story/news/2023/10/27/southern-baptists-response-to-sex-a

Nov 9, 2023 • 58:38

Episode 212: Do Women Really Initiate 70% of Divorces for Frivolous Reasons?

Links to things mentioned:Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month and support our work and research, while getting access to our Facebook group, unfiltered podcast, merch discounts, and more! https://patreon.com/baremarriageSign up for our email list to hear about when our next study is out! http://eepurl.com/z0VFnThe study that people say claim 75% of women divorce for lack of commitment (it doesn't really say that): https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4012696/The study on ho

Nov 2, 2023 • 58:28

Episode 211: Bullied for Leaving an Abusive Husband ft. Naghmeh Panahi

Send us a textLinks to things mentioned:Join our Patreon and get access to the best place on the internet! https://patreon.com/baremarriageCheck out our Domestic Violence Awareness Merch and our Breast Cancer Awareness Merch--20% of profits go to support charities involved in fighting DV and breast cancer: https://sheilawraygregoire.com/product-category/limited-edition/See Naghmeh's book I Didn't Survive: https://amzn.to/3MgUpmPListen to the audio of Franklin Graham confronting Naghmeh

Oct 26, 2023 • 1:09:32

Episode 210: The Enneagram and Marriage ft. Christa Hardin

Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month, and get access to our amazing Facebook group and unfiltered Sheila & Rebecca! https://patreon.com/baremarriageChrista Hardin's new book The Enneagram in Marriage: https://amzn.to/3SmZyxRChrista's podcast The Enneagram and Marriage:https://www.enneagraminyourmarriage.com/podChrista on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/enneagramandmarriage/The study we analyzed:https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/full/10.1111/jomf.12863Our new Biblical

Oct 19, 2023 • 56:44

Episode 209: Why Don't Evangelical Sex Teachers Know What They Don't Know?

Links to things mentioned:Join our Patreon group for as little as $5 a month and be part of the most amazing place on the internet: https://patreon.com/baremarriageJoin our email list so that you'll be notified when I'm in your area--and so you don't miss any of Rebecca's amazing round-ups: http://eepurl.com/z0VFnKristin Kobes Du Mez' Twitter thread: https://twitter.com/kkdumez/status/1709746160120795295Josh Howerton's sermon where the clip came from: https://subspl

Oct 12, 2023 • 1:08:51

Episode 208: What Happens When a Pastor Sets Out to Prove Complementarianism? ft. Terran Williams

Links to things mentioned:Join our Patreon and support our work for as little as $5 a month! https://patreon.com/baremarriageCheck out our new Biblical Manhood Merch! https://sheilawraygregoire.com/product-category/biblical-manhood/Terran Williams’ Book How God Sees Women: https://amzn.to/3PJjwQ2Terran’s book What’s So Amazing About Scripture: https://amzn.to/3ROMSiZTerran’s series on Mike Winger’s videos on complementarianism/egalitarianism: https://terranwilliams.com/what-winger-presently-gets

Oct 5, 2023 • 56:10

Episode 207: The Ultimate Anti 'Obligation Sex' Episode

Links to things mentioned:Join our Patreon! Support us for as little as $5 a month and get access to unfiltered podcasts, merch, and more! https://patreon.com/baremarriageCheck out our Biblical Womanhood merch, and our new Biblical Manhood merch!https://sheilawraygregoire.com/product-category/biblical-womanhood-collection-merchandise/https://sheilawraygregoire.com/product-category/be-a-biblical-woman-collection/https://sheilawraygregoire.com/product-category/biblical-manhood/Our Great Sex Rescue

Sep 28, 2023 • 1:01:07

Episode 206: A Deep Dive into 'For Women Only' by Shaunti Feldhahn ft. Meghan Tschanz + Devi Abraham

Links to things mentioned:Join our Patreon and support our research, plus hear me working through future posts and wondering what I should do next! https://patreon.com/baremarriageOur summary of all the issues in this podcast, plus a downloadable one sheet! https://baremarriage.com/2023/09/review-of-the-problems-with-for-women-only-by-shaunti-feldhahn-with-download/Our post that does a deep dive in the problematic survey questions that Shaunti Feldhahn asks:https://baremarriage.com/2021/01/fixed

Sep 21, 2023 • 1:28:00

Episode 205: Do Complementarian Men Make the Best Husbands? A response to Nancy Pearcey

Links to things mentioned:Join our Patreon and support our research for as little as $5 a month! https://patreon.com/baremarriageOur op ed with Baptist News that goes over the points in this podcast: https://baptistnews.com/article/do-complementarian-men-do-better-a-response-to-nancy-pearcey/Our initial article responding to Josh Howerton's claim that conservative evangelicals have the best sex and marriages https://baptistnews.com/article/do-conservative-evangelicals-enjoy-better-sex-and-m

Sep 14, 2023 • 1:21:42

Episode 204: Untangling Toxic Teachings on Suffering ft. Rebecca Davis

Links to things mentioned:Get a FREE copy of Rebecca's new book, Untwisting the Scriptures #5 when it launches September 11! Just sign up for her FREE ebook now and you'll be notified on September 11! https://sendfox.com/heresthejoyJoin our Patreon for as little as $5 a month! Get exclusive access to our Facebook group, merch, and more perks! https://patreon.com/baremarriageSign up for our FREE webinar with Wendy Snyder from Fresh Start Family! Disciplining with Compassion, Connection,

Sep 7, 2023 • 1:04:14

Episode 203: Parenting without Yelling: Discipline & Kindness Can Go Together! ft. Wendy Snyder

Links to things mentioned:Sign up for our FREE webinar with Wendy from Fresh Start Family: September 14 at 1 pm EST (recording will be available): https://freshstartfamilyonline.com/baremarriage/Check out last year's podcasts with Wendy: Part 1 and Part 2https://baremarriage.com/2022/05/podcast-how-to-misuse-statistics-for-dummies/https://baremarriage.com/2022/05/podcast-connection-not-punishment-a-better-way-to-parent-feat-wendy-snyder/Find Wendy on Instagram!https://www.instagram.com/fres

Aug 31, 2023 • 1:05:13

Episode 202: The Barbie Movie, South Korean Women, and the Evangelical Church

Links to things mentioned:Our Patreon! Join for as little as $5 a month and support our research while getting access to our awesome Facebook group!https://patreon.com/baremarriageOur Limited Edition Merch--it's only available until the end of the month! Check out these great beach towels:https://sheilawraygregoire.com/product-category/limited-edition/And don't forget our Biblical Womanhood merch that's available year-round:https://sheilawraygregoire.com/product-category/be-a-bibl

Aug 24, 2023 • 55:27

Episode 201: What Does a Biblical Marriage Look Like?

Links to things mentioned:Our patreon! Join our exclusive, behind-the-scenes group and get extra access to Sheila, Rebecca, and Joanna for only $5 a month!Our amazing Insulated Travel Mugs, that keep water super cold, and keep things hot, too! We've got them in a variety of designs, including Prayer and Tent Pegs, our She Deserves Better slogans, and our Biblical Womanhood MerchN.T. Wright's book How God Became King, and Rachel Held Evans' book Inspired: Slaying Giants, Walking on

Aug 17, 2023 • 1:07:50

Episode 200 Special! - Our "Brio Magazine Deep Dive" PJ Party!

Links to things mentioned:Join our Patreon and join our LIVE Brio magazine pajama party! https://patreon.com/baremarriage Get our Great Sex Rescue Toolkit, to explain our findings to your friends: https://sheilawraygregoire.com/product/great-sex-rescue-toolkit/ See our She Should Know merch, based on She Deserves Better: https://sheilawraygregoire.com/product-category/she-should-know-collection/ Check out our Limited Edition beach towels: https://sheilawraygregoire.com/product-category/limited-e

Jul 13, 2023 • 58:54

Episode 199: Jane Austen, Pride & Prejudice, and Marriage Advice!

Links to things mentioned:Our Patreon! Support us for as little as $5 a month and get access to our amazing behind-the-scenes Facebook group, and more.Our Great Sex Rescue Toolkit–help for you as you talk about healthy teachings to your friends and church

Jul 6, 2023 • 1:10:34

Episode 198: The 4 Ways Complementarian Marriages Can Go Wrong (Keith Takes on the Danvers Statement)

Links to things mentioned:Our Patreon! Support us for as little as $5 a month and get access to our amazing behind-the-scenes Facebook group, and more.Our Great Sex Rescue Toolkit--help for you as you talk about healthy teachings to your friends and church https://baremarriage.com/toolkit/Keith's Danvers Statement posts--Start here.Emerson Eggerichs warns against wives following into sin (watch the first few video clips and see his emotional response)Our Power of a Praying Wife podcast and

Jun 29, 2023 • 1:02:17

Episode 197: How The Power of a Praying Wife Can Go Horribly Wrong

Links to things mentioned:Join our Patreon! Support us for as little as $5 a month, and get exclusive access to our Facebook group--and even free merch!A Synopsis of all the problems in Power of a Praying Wife--with an optional downloadGretchen Baskerville at the Life-Saving Divorce, and her book The Life-Saving Divorce. Follow her on Facebook and YouTube.Gretchen's articles with info on the effect of divorce on kids; the ACE study; and more.Sarah McDugal from Wilderness to Wild. Follow her

Jun 22, 2023 • 1:19:55

Episode 196: New Research on the Effects of Obligation Sex! (It's Bad...)

Links to things mentioned:Sign up for our FREE webinar on June 21!https://us06web.zoom.us/webinar/register/WN_odcOvC0uTzugaA7JvnUe1wOur book The Great Sex Rescue!Join our Patreon and support our work for as little as $5 a month. Plus gain access to our exclusive Facebook group, exclusive merch, and more!Our research methods for The Great Sex Rescue, with FAQs, and a Twitter thread analying our methods by someone we don't even know!Article from The Journal for Sex Research on the motivations

Jun 15, 2023 • 57:54

Episode 195: How To Support Your Wife in an Equal Relationship feat. Todd Korpi

Links to things mentioned:Our Patreon! Get free merch, access to our Facebook group, discounts on courses, and more! Todd Korpi's book Your Daughters Shall Prophesy: Amplifying the Voice and Place of Christian Women (https://amzn.to/3MWkPtH)Follow Todd on Twitter and InstagramOur new "She Should Know" merch based on empowering sayings from our book, She Deserves Better

Jun 8, 2023 • 49:43

Episode 194: Male-Centric Sex vs. the Female Sexual Response Cycle

Links to things mentioned:Our Patreon community! It's super fun, and it helps fund our research! Join us for as little as $5 a month.Our book The Great Sex Rescue, plus our two books that look into the sexual response cycle in detail: The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex. Emerson Eggerichs: His podcast where the clips were taken from, plus the podcast where we analyzed his advice to the woman crying the shower; the post where we went into this i

Jun 1, 2023 • 1:06:51

Episode 193: Tell Her Story: The Forgotten Women of the Bible with Nijay Gupta

Links to things mentioned:Our Patreon! Join us for as little as $5 a month, and get access to exclusive content while also supporting our research.Nijay's new book Tell Her Story Our podcast looking at how Emerson Eggerichs mishandles Scripture, featuring Nijay GuptaThe audio version of She Deserves Better is now available! https://amzn.to/43tbmkpOur new She Deserves Better merch!Amazon Prime's new series Shiny Happy People (coming June 2)

May 25, 2023 • 59:31

Episode 192: How 'Every Young Man's Battle' Makes Everything Worse ft. Andrew Bauman & Zachary Wagner

Links to things mentioned:Our Patreon! Support us for as little as $5 a month and join our exclusive Facebook group, plus help support our research!Our new book She Deserves Better--the audio has now launched!Our one-sheet download of the problems with Every Young Man's BattleOur podcast with Zachary Wagner, his new book Non-Toxic Masculinity, and his TwitterAndrew Bauman's book The Sexually Healthy Man and his FacebookOur Whole Story puberty course to tell your kids about sex & pu

May 18, 2023 • 1:18:34

Episode 191: Finding a Healthy Church with Beth Allison Barr

Links to things mentioned:Our Patreon! Support us for as little as $5 a month, and get access to our unfiltered podcasts and more. Your donations help support our next big survey coming this summer!Our new book She Deserves BetterBeth Allison Barr's book The Making of Biblical Womanhood, plus follow Beth on TwitterOur books that are awesome for couples about to get married--The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex

May 11, 2023 • 58:42

Episode 190: 'Pink' and 'Blue' Faith -- Plus we take a submission quiz! ft. Aimee Byrd

Links to things mentioned:Our Patreon! Support us for as little as $5 a month and get access to our exclusive Facebook group, unfiltered podcasts, and more!Our new book She Deserves Better!Aimee Byrd's book Recovering from Biblical Manhood and Womanhood, and her new book The Sexual ReformationAimee Byrd's story of the bullying she went through in her denomination, and some more recent thoughts on the aftermath. Take the submission quiz yourself! It starts on p. 30 of this download, but

May 4, 2023 • 54:43

Episode 189: Non-Toxic Masculinity ft. Zachary Wagner

Links to things mentioned:Our Patreon! Support us for as little as $5 a month and get access to our exclusive Facebook group, unfiltered podcasts, and more!Our new book She Deserves Better!Zachary Wagner's book Non-Toxic Masculinity, plus find Zachary on TwitterOur Hazardous Materials stickers to put on books  you're concerned aboutThe Instagram Reel from thatdarnchat

Apr 27, 2023 • 1:19:08

Episode 188: What We're Fighting For: A Glimpse 20 Years Down the Road

Links to things mentioned:Our new book She Deserves Better:https://baremarriage.com/she-deserves-better/Support us for as little as $5 a month, and get access to unfiltered podcasts, our exclusive Facebook group, and more. Join our Patreon!https://patreon.com/baremarriageThe Instagram Reel from 247 Marriage:https://www.instagram.com/reel/CnetOgDhM1S/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_linkThe podcast where we discussed "Girls Talk Too Much":https://baremarriage.com/2023/03/do-women-talk-more-than-

Apr 20, 2023 • 56:03

Episode 187: 'Nice Guy' Syndrome & Drawing Boundaries: What Girls Need to Know

THINGS MENTIONED IN THE PODCASTOur new book She Deserves BetterSupport us for as little as $5 a month, and get access to unfiltered podcasts, our exclusive Facebook group, and more. Join our Patreon!Article on the problem with “Nice Guy” behavior when it’s rooted in entitlementOur episode of Theology in the Raw with Preston Sprinkle (the interesting parts are from 30 minutes on)

Apr 13, 2023 • 58:54

Episode 186: Shame, DARVO & Spiritual Bypassing - Let's get to the bottom of it! ft. Jasmine Holmes

Things mentioned in our Podcast!Our Patreon! Thank you for supporting us and helping us fund our research. You can join us for as little as $5 a month!Jasmine Holmes’ new book Never Cast Out! Plus find her on Instagram. Jasmine on our podcast a few months ago talking about her book Carved in Ebony.Our book She Deserves Better! Pre-order it and get access to our bonuses.

Apr 6, 2023 • 54:11

Episode 185: Trauma, EMDR, and 'Himpathy' ft. Jenna Mountain

Links to things mentioned:Our Patreon! Support us for as little as $5 a month!Our new book She Deserves Better! Send in your pre-order receipts for lots of pre-order bonuses. Study on Himpathy on what makes people sympathize with perpetrators rather than victimsJenna Mountain's counseling center Aspen Haus

Mar 30, 2023 • 1:07:38

Episode 184: Why do WOMEN also push the Modesty Messages? plus Why Churches Need to Recognize Date Rape

Links to things mentioned:Pre-Order She Deserves Better and join our launch team! The Launch Team closes on Tuesday, March 28, so get your pre-order receipts in now!Help support our research, plus get access to unfiltered podcasts, an amazing Facebook group, and more, by joining our PatreonLast week's podcast where we looked at the problems with one of Shaunti Feldhahn's survey questions around modestyA podcast where we walked through another issue with Shaunti Feldhahn's survey q

Mar 23, 2023 • 1:13:08

Episode 183: What Modesty Messages Did to Us

THINGS MENTIONED IN THE PODCASTShe Deserves Better–our new book! Preorder on Amazon, or here are other places to get it (Baker Books has 40% off and free shipping within the U.S.!).Join the launch team if you’re willing to write a review!On Modesty: We shouldn’t sacrifice teens’ well-being for adult men’s comfort

Mar 16, 2023 • 58:30

Episode 182: 'Do Girls Talk Too Much?' Another claim that was made up

Links to things mentioned:Our book She Deserves Better! Pre-order it now (it helps us a ton), and then on Monday I'll give you information on how you can join the launch team. Sign up for my email list so you don't miss out on joining the launch teamA study of gender differences in children and number of words spoken (hint, not much of a difference)An article explaining the issue of faulty claims, and giving the results of a study inspired by these faulty claims.The Mendelberg and Karp

Mar 9, 2023 • 51:57

Episode 181: How Does Dating Affect Teens? Let's look at the data!

Should we kiss dating good-bye? In purity culture, we made dating a sin. But what does the data actually say about how dating affects teen girls? In today's Bare Marriage podcast, we share our findings from our survey of 7000 women!Things Mentioned in the Podcast:Our new book She Deserves Better, which launches April 18! It helps us immensely when you pre-order!Sign up for my email list to be notified about how you can join the launch team!Our book The Great Sex RescueThe University of Geor

Mar 2, 2023 • 54:50

Episode 180: Exodus Cry: What We Need to Know about Sex Trafficking

Links to things mentioned:Our Patreon that helps support our podcast! You can join for as little as $5 a month! There's unfiltered podcasts, our exclusive Facebook group (it's really active!), merch, and more!Exodus Cry. Check out the organization and see what they're doing!See how to get involved (it's easy!). Join the fight against PornHub, sign petitions, read their articles, and more!Watch Exodus Cry's documentaries. They're so well done and hard hitting.Follow

Feb 23, 2023 • 55:16

Episode 179: Why Did a Church Put a Marital Rape Victim under Church Discipline?

Today I want to tell you the story of an amazing woman who was the victim of her marriage AND her church that knew all the gory details, and yet chose to put her under discipline when she decided to end the marriage.TRIGGER WARNINGIn the first half of the podcast there is graphic descriptions of what her husband did to her. I did mention during the podcast when this was about to occur, so that people could fast forward if they chose to. But the description is horrendous. I wanted people to know

Feb 16, 2023 • 1:07:20

Episode 178: Fixing Conversations Together! ft. Ngina Otiende & Philip Payne

Links to things mentioned:Our Patreon! Our research relies on your support, and we're doing two huge new research projects this year. Join us on Patreon!Ngina Otiende: https://intentionaltoday.com/  https://twitter.com/NginaOtiendePhilip Payne's new book The Bible vs. Biblical Womanhood (available for pre-order now!)Other books by Philip Payne, including Man and Woman, One in Christ: An Exegetical and Theological Study of Paul's Letters, and Mutual by Design (where he has written

Feb 9, 2023 • 49:03

Episode 177: The Bible vs. Biblical Womanhood ft Philip Payne

Links to things mentioned:Our Patreon! Our research relies on your support, and we're doing two huge new research projects this year. Join us on Patreon!Philip Payne's new book The Bible vs. Biblical Womanhood (available for pre-order now!)Other books by Philip Payne, including Man and Woman, One in Christ: An Exegetical and Theological Study of Paul's Letters, and Mutual by Design (where he has written a chapter on headship)Philip Payne's Twitter

Feb 2, 2023 • 57:27

Episode 176: Bring Back 'Vanilla' Sex!

Links to things mentioned:Our Patreon! Support us for as little as $5 a month, and you can get access to our awesome Facebook group, our unfiltered podcasts, and more!This is the LAST WEEK to get the ebook for The Great Sex Rescue for just $2.99! On February 1 it goes up to its regular price!The Orgasm Course! If this is a struggle for you, we can help. https://baremarriage.com/the-orgasm-course/Our new book She Deserves Better is out in April! You can pre-order it now.My post Bring Back Vanilla

Jan 26, 2023 • 51:21

Episode 175: How Emerson Eggerichs Misuses Scripture in Love & Respect ft. Nijay Gupta

Links to things mentioned:Our Patreon! Support us for as little as $5 a month and get access to unfiltered podcasts, while supporting our work counteracting harmful messages of marriage in the evangelical churchOUR LOVE & RESPECT ONESHEET: Download our new resourceNijay Gupta's upcoming book Tell Her Story. Follow Nijay on Twitter!Our post on Baby Bibles distorting the Genesis accountOur original Love & Respect post, followed by our Open Letter to Focus on the Family, Our look at ho

Jan 19, 2023 • 1:12:57

Episode 174: Why You CAN Trust Your Emotions ft. Becky Castle Miller

Links to things mentioned:Patreon:https://patreon.com/baremarriageShe Deserves Better (our new book coming in April; you can pre-order it now!)https://amzn.to/3ZGFs2PThe Great Sex Rescue (on for just $2.39 on ebook this month, and the paperback is on sale too!)https://amzn.to/3GV4aouBecky Castle MillerWebsite: https://www.beckycastlemiller.com/Twitter: https://twitter.com/bcastlemillerTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@beckycastlemillerInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/wholeemotion/Marc Alan Sch

Jan 12, 2023 • 1:07:24

Episode 173: The Strike at Putney: What Would Happen if Women Just Stopped?

Links to things mentioned:Our Patreon! Support our work for as little as $5 a month, including all the amazing things that are coming in 2023, including two new big surveys, one sheets of harmful books to give to your churches, and scholarships as others continue the research!Our podcast on finding new church homesThe Strike at Putney by Lucy Maud MontgomeryOur podcast with Beth Allison BarrThe research study finding that churches with gender hierarchy produce worse health outcomes for women, pl

Jan 5, 2023 • 1:13:12

Episode 172: We Are Not Spiritually Homeless Anymore! A Personal Christmas Update

THINGS MENTIONED IN THE PODCASTOur Patreon! They’ve supported some amazing projects this year, and you can join us for as little as $5 a month! The original podcast on feeling spiritually homelessLast year’s update on feeling so disappointed by faith leaders (plus the podcast on how the authors we critiqued responded to The Great Sex Rescue)

Dec 22, 2022 • 40:28

Episode 171: Identifying Spiritual Abuse and Trauma ft Dr. Foluso and Johnna Harris

Links to things mentioned:Our patreon community! Join for as little as $5 a month, and get access to our exclusive Facebook group, merch, and more!https://patreon.com/baremarriageThe Bodies Behind the Bus podcast:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/bodies-behind-the-bus/id1601586078and Johnna Harris' Instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/bbtbpod/Me as a guest on the Bodies Behind the Bus podcasthttps://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/guest-sheila-gregoire/id1601586078?i=1000555692110Dr. Foluso

Dec 15, 2022 • 1:23:24

Episode 170: Does God Hate Divorce? plus The Women Carved in Ebony

Links to things mentioned:Our Patreon! Support us for as little as $5 a month, and get access to unfiltered podcasts, more merch, and an exclusive Facebook Group!Our Merch! Makes great last minute Christmas gifts, and check out our Be a Biblical Woman or our Love & Respect collection, or even our new Fixed it For You!Winston Bosch’s Sermons: What God Hates More than Divorce (Mal. 2:16): Jesus and Divorce; and Paul and DivorceJasmine Holmes’ book Carved in Ebony, plus find Jasmine on Instagr

Dec 8, 2022 • 57:18

Episode 169: Learned Helplessness & Sex ft. Sam Tielemens

Links to things mentioned:Our Merch–mugs, t-shirts, canvas wall hangings and more that are great for Christmas gifts and stocking stuffers. Check out our Love & Respect collection, our Biblical Womanhood collection, and especially our Be a Biblical Woman collection!Our Patreon–join for as little as $5 a month and help support our research!A brief synopsis of the learned helplessness experiments with dogs, and then a run down on the learned helplessness experiment in the classroom. Plus you c

Dec 1, 2022 • 55:46

Episode 168: The Myth of the Magical Penis

Links to things mentioned:Our Patreon: Support us for as little as $5 a month to help us branch out and continue this movement!https://patreon.com/baremarriageThe Great Sex Rescue:https://baremarriage.com/great-sex-rescue/Our series on our 4 step recovery plan when sex has become a major issue:https://baremarriage.com/2022/11/the-sex-recovery-series-4-point-plan-to-rebuild-your-sex-life/One story on what recovery looks like:https://baremarriage.com/2022/11/heres-what-recovery-from-sexual-problem

Nov 17, 2022 • 51:50

Episode 167: 'Unwanted' - Discovering our Route to Sexual Healing ft. Jay Stringer

Links to things mentioned:Our Patreon: Support us for as little as $5 a month to help us branch out and continue this movement!https://patreon.com/baremarriageThe Great Sex Rescue:https://baremarriage.com/great-sex-rescue/Jay Stringer’s book Unwanted:https://amzn.to/3DOvJgoJay’s website:https://jay-stringer.com/Jay’s Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/jay_stringer_/Emily Nagoski’s book Come As You Arehttps://amzn.to/3zYymvd

Nov 10, 2022 • 59:52

Episode 166: A Deep Dive into Ephesians 5 - Why Hierarchy in Marriage Doesn't Work

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Nov 3, 2022 • 1:01:00

Episode 165: The 3 Types of Libido

Links to things mentioned:Our Patreon! Support where this blog is going for as little as $5 a month!The Boost Your Libido Course and The Orgasm CourseThe birth control series where we went over how some contraception methods MAY affect libidoHow our hormones and our cycle affect libidoOur post on how the sexual debut affects libido laterOur post on how mental load and division of labor affects libidoOur Love AND Respect Merch

Oct 27, 2022 • 1:04:56

Episode 164: Scary Body Language & Telling on Yourself

Links to things mentioned:Our Patreon: https://patreon.com/baremarriageThe study on Who Cheats More: https://ifstudies.org/blog/who-cheats-more-the-demographics-of-cheating-in-americaThe Dennis Prager Facebook Video: https://www.facebook.com/prageru/videos/868111834352628/The Great Sex Rescue: https://baremarriage.com/great-sex-rescue/The podcast with Alyssa Wakefield https://baremarriage.com/2022/06/groomed-for-an-abusive-arranged-marriage-alyssa-wakefields-story-podcast/The podcast with Natali

Oct 20, 2022 • 1:07:13

Episode 163: Let's Talk Ogling and Dressing for Attention - Research Deep Dive Episode!

Links to things mentioned:See the study!Want an easier way to read a summary of the study? Read yesterday's post.Previous podcast: are men and women's brains really that different? Previous podcast: Let's talk MODESTY.Follow Meghan Tschanz on InstagramLearn more about The Great Sex Rescue

Oct 13, 2022 • 1:09:04

Episode 162: Why We Need a New Standard for Healthy Teaching Today

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Oct 6, 2022 • 54:10

Episode 161: Should Pastors be Expected to Give Sex Advice?

Links to things mentioned:Our Patreon! Support us for as little as $5 a month, and fund our ongoing projectsThe Great Sex Rescue, our book that showed the issues with a lot of evangelical teaching about sex, based on our survey of 20,000 womenOur Merch: Check out our Be a Biblical Woman collectionThe other times we've talked about Josh Howerton, specifically with Josh Howerton plagiarizing others; and Josh Howerton misrepresenting research. Download our rubric of healthy sexuality teaching

Sep 29, 2022 • 1:11:34

Episode 160: How Marriage Advice can be Misdiagnosed

Links to things mentioned:Our Patreon! Our patrons have helped us have the time and flexibility to write She Deserves Better (out in April), along with the stats for The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex. Right now Joanna is working on two different peer-reviewed papers, and our next big project we'd like to fund is creating a database of good and bad books. You can support us for as little as $5 a month, and get behind-the-scenes access! Support

Sep 22, 2022 • 58:45

Episode 159: How Christian Marriage Books Set Me Up For Failure ft. Natalie Hoffman

Links to things mentioned:Natalie’s Flying Free site, and Natalie’s awesome Facebook Page, Instagram, and YouTube channel. Plus listen in to her podcast!Natalie’s book “Is It Me”?The terrible books Natalie mentioned: Our post about Created To Be His Helpmeet; Julie Anne Smith’s review of The Excellent Wife by Martha PeaceThe book that helped Natalie: Leslie Vernick’s Emotionally Destructive MarriagePatrick Weaver’s I Hate Divorce t-shirtsPatrick Weaver on the Malachi verse that is too often tran

Sep 15, 2022 • 1:05:08

Episode 158: Pastors Plagiarizing: An Example Using Josh Howerton--with Scot McKnight's commentary

On Plagiarism:Scot McKnight's book A Church Called TOVhttps://amzn.to/3cRXoDMScot McKnight's New Testament Everyday Bible Study Series:https://amzn.to/3x3CBUVScot McKnight's previous podcast with us:https://baremarriage.com/2021/04/podcast-a-church-called-tov-and-matthew-18/Warren Throckmorton on Mark Driscoll's apparent plagiarism:https://wthrockmorton.com/2014/03/03/mark-driscolls-tim-keller-remix-is-this-plagiarism/David Dzimianski on Tim Keller's apparent plagiarism:

Sep 8, 2022 • 1:00:32

Episode 157: Celebrities for Jesus -- Who should we follow? ft Katelyn Beaty

THINGS MENTIONED IN THE PODCASTOur Patreon! Support us for as little as $5 a month and get access to an awesome Facebook group, unfiltered podcasts, and more. Or if you don’t want to support long term, considering leaving something in our tip jar! Katelyn Beaty’s book Celebrities for Jesus! Plus find Katelyn on Twitter ! That’s where I got to know her.Our evidence-based courses: The Orgasm Course and the Boost Your Libido course and the Honeymoon Prep Course!

Sep 1, 2022 • 53:07

Episode 156: How The Authors We Critiqued Responded to The Great Sex Rescue

Links to things mentioned:https://www.amazon.ca/Great-Rescue-Sheila-Wray-Gregoire/dp/1540900827http://Patreon.com/baremarriageDownload our rubric and scorecard! https://baremarriage.com/gsr-rubric/The blog post where I include links for everything I talked about, plus write out the email we sent to Gary Thomas:https://baremarriage.com/2022/08/podcast-how-have-the-authors-we-critiqued-responded-to-the-great-sex-rescue/

Aug 25, 2022 • 1:18:57

Episode 155: The Rise of Lonely Men - Plus How to be Inspiring!

Links to things mentioned:Patreon https://patreon.com/baremarriageOur Whole Story Sex & Puberty course: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/the-whole-story/An article about Chief Theresa Kachimondotohttps://www.lifegate.com/theresa-kachindamoto-child-marriage-malawiThe All the Books YouTube video:https://youtu.be/rFl8sJg8VqYThe Rise of Lonely, Single Menhttps://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/the-state-our-unions/202208/the-rise-lonely-single-menPew Research Study they cite:https://www.pewresea

Aug 18, 2022 • 55:06

Episode 154: Katharine Bushnell: Another Hero you NEED to know ft. Kristen Kobes Du Mez + Julie Coleman

Links to things mentioned:The New Gospel for Women: Katharine Bushnell and the Challenge of Christian Feminismhttps://amzn.to/3QivoHXOn Purpose: Understanding God's Freedom for Women Through ScriptureJulie Zine Colemanhttps://amzn.to/3zKYB7yPatreon:http://patreon.com/baremarriageThe Great Sex Rescue https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/great-sex-rescue/

Aug 11, 2022 • 1:02:10

Episode 153: Josephine Butler: The Hero You Never knew

Links to things mentioned:Josephine Butler, Patron Saint of Prostitutes (it's a great read for the summer!)Join our Patreon and support the podcast transcription--and all the research we're doing!Check out our biblical womanhood merch!If you haven't read The Great Sex Rescue yet, you need to. It seriously will change your life. And then buy it for a pastor or counselor you know!

Aug 4, 2022 • 1:07:59

Do You Know What Your Wife Has Been Taught About Sex? (Rerun Summer Episode)

Links to things mentioned:The Great Sex Rescue: Our new book, that looks at how harmful some of these messages have beenSupport our research by joining our Patreon group! Even for as  little as $5 or $8 a month!Our "Do All Men Struggle with Lust" podcastOur open letter to Focus on the Family about Love & Respect (at the bottom of this post is links to all of the other things we've said about this book)The study on complaining and maladaptive worry and status

Jul 28, 2022 • 49:21

Duty Sex isn't Sexy! (Rerun Summer Episode)

Links to things mentioned: Andrew Bauman: https://andrewjbauman.com/And his book The Sexually Healthy Man: https://amzn.to/3p4JmyFBenjamin Young's Twitter Thread: https://twitter.com/BJYoung1990/status/1353521004073652224Benjamin Young's ministry Guard the Gift: https://guardthegift.com/The Great Sex Rescue: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/great-sex-rescue/Our Previous Podcast on Marital Rape and Consent: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2020/04/podcast-marital-rape-consent/

Jul 21, 2022 • 57:00

Can We Stop Talking About Girls Being Stumbling Blocks and Causing Men to Lust? (Rerun Summer Episode)

Links to things mentioned:The Blog: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com4 Stages of Porn Recovery: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2020/04/4-stages-of-porn-recovery-what-porn-recovery-in-marriage-looks-like/ The Bell-curve Modesty Rule: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2019/03/new-look-at-christian-modesty-guidelines/The Whole Story: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/the-whole-story/The Great Sex Rescue: https://www.amazon.com/Great-Sex-Rescue-Recover-Intended/dp/1540900827Andrew Bauman: https://and

Jul 14, 2022 • 53:29

Unconditional Respect is NOT a Thing! (Rerun Summer Episode)

Links to things mentioned: The Blog: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com Follow Sheila on Instagram: @sheilagregoire https://instagram.com/sheilagregoire Dr. Cynthia Long Westfall: https://www.amazon.ca/Paul-Gender-Reclaiming-Apostles-Vision/dp/0801097940https://mcmasterdivinity.ca/faculty-and-administration/cynthia-long-westfall/The Great Sex Rescue: https://www.amazon.com/Great-Sex-Rescue-Recover-Intended/dp/1540900827 Psychology Today article: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/the-joint-ad

Jul 7, 2022 • 55:39

Episode 152: What is Killing Women's Libido?

Send us a textWe wrap up what can cause women’s libidos to plummet–and what men can do about it!Because it isn’t always men’s fault (in fact, it’s often not). But guys can still be a big part of the solution. And if libido differences are a huge issue in your marriage, it doesn’t mean that there’s nothing that can be done.Asking the hard questions can really help!Links to things Mentioned in This Podcast:The Great Sex RescueOur totally revamped Boost Your Libido courseElora Dodd on Instagram , p

Jun 30, 2022 • 1:01:44

Episode 151: Why John Piper Should Stop Speaking on Marriage -- and turning the other cheek!

Links to things mentioned:John Piper article on harsh husbands:https://www.desiringgod.org/interviews/counsel-for-wives-with-harsh-husbandsOur original Facebook Live (expanded content from this podcast, extra 13 minutes on end):https://www.facebook.com/100044310975500/videos/1036770680299677Our article talking about John Piper and harsh husbands:https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2022/06/john-piper-tells-women-with-harsh-husbands-to-basically-do-nothing/Dr. Alison Cook on Turning the Other Cheek:h

Jun 23, 2022 • 59:14

Episode 150: Escaping a Sex Cult: Alyssa Wakefield's Story Part 2

Send us a textLet’s face the fact that fundamentalist Christianity in North America is basically a sex cult.That’s Alyssa Wakefield’s conclusion in Part 2 of her story on the Bare Marriage podcast!Links to things mentioned:Part 1 of Alyssa's storyWendy Snyder's FREE Parenting Workshop RegistrationTraumaMAMAS appSarah McDugal:Instagram FacebookNatalie Hoffman's book Is It Me?To Support Us: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workFor tax deductible donations

Jun 16, 2022 • 1:02:47

Episode 149: Groomed for an Abusive Arranged Marriage: Alyssa Wakefield's Story Part 1

What if you grow up in what you now call a sex cult, and you marry because your dad told you to?Did you really consent to that marriage? And how does it even happen in North America today that girls are being pushed into arranged marriages?Today's podcast sounds more like one of those True Crime documentaries.Our podcast on the Gothard movement with Emily Elizabeth AndersonOur podcast on positive parenting with Wendy SnyderRegister for our free webinar with Wendy!

Jun 9, 2022 • 1:01:23

Episode 148: Is Sex a Yes Space For Men? And What Does That Do to a Woman's Libido?

Links to things mentioned:The Orgasm Course:https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/the-orgasm-course/Podcast where we talked about postpartum sex:https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2021/11/the-sexual-favors-postpartum-podcast-can-we-please-stop-being-selfish/Review of Married Sex:https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2022/01/a-book-review-of-married-sex-by-gary-thomas-and-debra-fileta/Mental Load Podcast:https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2020/06/the-emotional-labor-and-mental-load-podcast/

Jun 2, 2022 • 57:30

Episode 147: The Porn Triage

Links:Find Sarah! https://www.facebook.com/sarahmcdugalauthorTrauma Mamas App: https://www.wildernesstowild.com/wild-traumamamas-mobile-appSarah's full Noticing vs. Lusting video:https://www.facebook.com/sarahmcdugalauthor/videos/421831613107412Knix in the U.S.: https://redirect.viglink.com?u=http%3A%2F%2Fknix.com&key=fdca749bda65f8445d29ae7a4952e9e2 Knix in Canada: http://rwrd.io/4mf6sks?c Patreon: https://patreon.com/baremarriage The Great Sex REscue: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/

May 26, 2022 • 1:01:23

Episode 146: Let's Talk Attachments Styles and Marriage with guests Milan & Kay Yerkovich

Links to things mentioned: Yerkovich's Website: https://howwelove.com How We Love: https://amzn.to/3yLsrtB The Orgasm Course: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/the-orgasm-course/ Our Post on the 5 Love Styles: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2022/05/the-5-love-styles-and-the-attachment-styles-dance/ Knix in the U.S.: https://redirect.viglink.com?u=http%3A%2F%2Fknix.com&key=fdca749bda65f8445d29ae7a4952e9e2 Knix in Canada: http://rwrd.io/4mf6sks?c Patreon: https://patreon.com/baremarriage

May 19, 2022 • 54:47

Episode 145: Connection Not Punishment: A Better Way to Parent feat. Wendy Snyder

Links to things mentioned: Fresh Start Family Podcast episode 122: https://freshstartfamilyonline.com/podcast/why-connection-through-discipline-is-so-important-with-chad-hayenga/ Episode 123: https://freshstartfamilyonline.com/podcast/parenting-without-punishment-with-tanya-camps/Wendy's site: http://FreshStartfamilyonline.com Discipline Class: https://freshstartfamilyonline.com/disciplineclass/Strong Willed Kids help:: https://freshstartfamilyonline.com/strongwilledkidsLogical Discipline P

May 12, 2022 • 58:28

Episode 144: How To Misuse Statistics for Dummies - feat Wendy Snyder

Links to things mentioned:Find Wendy!https://freshstartfamilyonline.com/about-wendy/https://www.instagram.com/freshstartwendy/?hl=en Our articles on Spanking Babies and the research on spanking:https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2020/08/what-does-the-research-say-about-spanking/https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2020/08/can-christians-please-stop-talking-about-disciplining-babies/The Gershoff Meta-Analyses of Spanking:https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7992110/The problems with the book Lo

May 5, 2022 • 54:47

Episode 143: Do You Know Your Attachment Style? (Start Your Engines)

Links to things mentioned: Knix in the U.S.: https://redirect.viglink.com?u=http%3A%2F%2Fknix.com&key=fdca749bda65f8445d29ae7a4952e9e2 Knix in Canada: https://redirect.viglink.com?u=http%3A%2F%2Fknix.ca&key=fdca749bda65f8445d29ae7a4952e9e2 Patreon: https://patreon.com/baremarriage The Great Sex REscue: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/great-sex-rescue/Attachment Theory in Religion, Current Opinions in Psychology (2021): https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S2352250X2030172X

Apr 28, 2022 • 58:42

Episode 142: No, Christians Don't Always have Better Marriages and Sex Lives--a response to Josh Howerton

Josh Howerton's article: https://www.thegospelcoalition.org/article/christianity-not-bad/The Institute for Family Studies report that he references:https://ifstudies.org/ifs-admin/resources/reports/worldfamilymap-2019-051819final.pdfKnix in the U.S.: https://redirect.viglink.com?u=http%3A%2F%2Fknix.com&key=fdca749bda65f8445d29ae7a4952e9e2Knix in Canada: https://redirect.viglink.com?u=http%3A%2F%2Fknix.ca&key=fdca749bda65f8445d29ae7a4952e9e2Patreon: https://patreon.com/baremarriageTh

Apr 21, 2022 • 1:11:10

Episode 141: The Most Misunderstood Women in the Bible - and Research! ft Mary DeMuth

Links to things mentioned:Mary DeMuthThe Most Misunderstood Women of the BibleOur podcast on the problems with the original Love & Respect question:The podcast with the problems with For Young Women Only’s question on 82% of boys going too far, and our post fixing that questionThe Podcast exploring the problems with misusing neuroscience researchThe Great Sex RescuePatreon:Here is the link with Knix.com

Apr 14, 2022 • 54:49

Episode 140: A Victim of Bill Gothard's Story: Escaping a Cult & Finding Freedom with Emily Elizabeth Anderson

Links to things mentioned:Emily's blog Thriving Forwardhttps://thrivingforwardblog.com/blog/Emily on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/ThrivingForwardBlogStories about the lawsuit against Bill Gothardhttps://www.washingtonpost.com/news/acts-of-faith/wp/2016/01/06/new-charges-allege-religious-leader-who-has-ties-to-the-duggars-sexually-abused-women/https://medium.com/iron-ladies/with-lawsuit-withdrawn-where-is-justice-for-the-victims-of-bill-gothard-and-iblp-50c12c236ea0Patreon:http://patreo

Apr 7, 2022 • 59:17

Episode 139: How Many Men Are Sexually Safe?

Links to things mentioned:Keith's post that he read: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2022/03/real-men-are-not-bullies-lets-talk-about-the-churchs-view-of-masculinity/The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex: https://amzn.to/3JWPAvIThe Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex https://amzn.to/3LrTiy2Our Patreon: https://patreon.com/baremarriage

Mar 31, 2022 • 50:55

Episode 138: Echoes of Menstruation (...really, Focus on the Family?!)

Links to things mentioned:Side by side screenshot of original review and edited review:https://www.facebook.com/Sheila.Gregoire.Books/posts/526956238791404Current review of Turning Red:https://www.pluggedin.com/movie-reviews/turning-red-2022/The Whole Story Puberty Course:https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/the-whole-story/Our Period Series:https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2020/08/periods-going-to-beach-teenager/Kyle Howard on Twitter:https://twitter.com/KyleJamesHoward

Mar 24, 2022 • 1:00:58

Episode 137: New Research Blows Away the Evangelical Idea About Lust

Links to things mentioned:The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/good-girls-guys-guide-great-sex/Our patreon! Suport us for as little as $5 a month and get access to our exclusive Facebook Grouphttps://streaklinks.com/A9slQrDFhYUQaoQ1AQPYigQ5/https%3A%2F%2Fpatreon.com%2FbaremarriageAndrew Bauman: https://andrewjbauman.com/Carl Thomas: https://amzn.to/3Hsssn7https://xxxchurch.com/

Mar 17, 2022 • 56:38

Episode 136: The Uncomfortable Truth About Waiting for Marriage for Sex

Does waiting for marriage really guarantee a great sex life? Sheila, Rebecca, and Keith weigh in on this week's podcast!Links to things mentioned:Our patreon! Suport us for as little as $5 a month and get access to our exclusive Facebook GroupPre-Order our two new books--The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex and the all new Good Girl's Guide to Great SexThe podcast on the Sexual Response CycleThis week's post on vaginismus and wedding night sexHere is the link with Knix.com https

Mar 10, 2022 • 1:02:15

Episode 135: How Much Sex Have We Rescued? Plus, Elizabeth Fisher Good!

Please use these affiliate links if you're interested in trying Knix!Here is the link with Knix.com https://redirect.viglink.com?u=http%3A%2F%2Fknix.com&key=fdca749bda65f8445d29ae7a4952e9e2Here is the link with Knix.cahttps://redirect.viglink.com?u=http%3A%2F%2Fknix.ca&key=fdca749bda65f8445d29ae7a4952e9e2Elizabeth Fisher Good:https://www.freewithe.com/The Great Sex Rescuehttps://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/great-sex-rescue/Articles this week about men and how the teachings affected the

Mar 3, 2022 • 57:18

Episode 134: What Guys Can Do If They've Messed Up

Links to mentioned items:When Shame Gets Real by Carl Thomashttps://amzn.to/3Hsssn7XXX Church: xxxchurch.comPatreon: http://patreon.com/baremarriageJoin our launch team! https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/gsr-launch-team/

Feb 24, 2022 • 1:03:39

Episode 133: Birth Control & Lust Control

Special thank you to our guest Patrick Weaver for joining us today! We look forward to having him on the podcast again in the future!Links to things mentioned:Our Patreon! Support us for as little as $5 a month and help us get our research into peer reviewed journals. Plus you can join our rocking Facebook group and get unfiltered podcasts!Pre-Order The Good Guy’s Guide to Great Sex or The Good Girl’s Guide to Great Sex and you can get our pre-order bonuses: awesome Evangelical Sex Report Card a

Feb 17, 2022 • 57:27

Episode 132: All About the Sexual Response Cycle

Here are the links to the resources mentioned in the episode!The Intimately Us app!The podcast where we dissected Emerson Eggerichs’ reply to the woman crying in the shower; and the podcast where the woman crying in the shower respondsThe Dunning Kruger Effect: Article 1 and Article 2Pre-Order The Good Guy’s Guide to Great Sex and/or The all new Good Girl’s Guide to Great Sex! And then send us your receipt to get the preorder bonuses and/or join the launch team!The Sexual Response Cycle articleT

Feb 10, 2022 • 1:02:47

Episode 131: The woman who was crying in the shower is here!

We are so honoured to have on the podcast today the woman who wrote that letter we discussed back in episode 129. She joins us to share her story, give some updates, and shed some light on what toxic teachings in practice actually resulted in. Links to things mentioned:The Intimately Us App! Download the free version right now–and there are special sexy challenges for Valentine’s Day!https://r.intimately.us/tlhvCT Article about Domestic Violence in Brazil:https://www.christianitytoday.com/ct/202

Feb 3, 2022 • 58:52

Episode 130: It's Time to Jump out of the Boiling Water

Research study about remarriage after divorce:Remarriage: https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2014/11/14/four-in-ten-couples-are-saying-i-do-again/Great Sex Rescue:https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/great-sex-rescue/Keith's article on the boiling waterhttps://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2022/01/keiths-manifesto-misogyny-evangelical-church/Owen Strachan's tweet:https://twitter.com/ostrachan/status/1360257958526001153

Jan 27, 2022 • 45:40

Episode 129: The Podcast Where Emerson Ignores Marital Rape

Our wonderful sponsor the Intimately Us app! A-so-much-more-than-foreplay app. Helps you communicate about sex, have awesome bedroom games, discover what you like (and communicate about it), and more! Clean and totally non-creepy too.Our Patreon--support us for as little as $5 a month and get access to unfiltered podcasts and help support our research!Connor's post detailing all our problems with Emerson Eggerichs' podcast episodeOur Open Letter to Focus on the Family about Emerson Egg

Jan 20, 2022 • 1:02:32

Episode 128: How YOU Can Make the Church a Healthier Place for Marriage

Open Letter to Focus on the Family about Love & Respecthttps://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2020/01/open-letter-focus-on-the-family-love-respect-emerson-eggerichs/Download our scorecard and rubric for how we scored the books:https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/gsr-rubric/Ngina Otiende's blog, Intentional Today:https://intentionaltoday.com/My post about Christopherhttps://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2016/08/im-okay-20-years-son-died/Our Patreon:https://patreon.com/baremarriageThe Great Sex Rescue:

Jan 13, 2022 • 57:01

Episode 127: Putting the 'Christ' back in Christian Marriage

Welcome to a new year with the Bare Marriage podcast! We're glad you're joining us again after our break for the holidays!Links to things mentioned:https://twitter.com/scott_m_coley/status/1470964828206477320https://www.amazon.ca/Great-Rescue-Sheila-Wray-Gregoire/dp/1540900827

Jan 6, 2022 • 1:14:49

Episode 126: The Disease That Must Be Named + feeling less homeless!

Links to article on the blog: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2021/12/the-emotional-journey-with-vaginismus/

Dec 16, 2021 • 53:28

Episode 125: Why is Marriage Advice Mostly Aimed at Women?

Our sponsor Femallay! https://femallay.comBecome a patreon and support us for as little as $5 a month! Our New Merch! Check out all of our merch, and our Be a Biblical Woman collectionNicole Parker's Tales of Exodus book seriesThe Great Sex RescueOur Mental Load and Emotional Labor seriesHow Christian Resources teach women to be passive aggressive  Barbara Rainey's article on spiritual leadershipOur FREE Video Book Study for The Great Sex Rescue Dora on TikTok about raising orphans

Dec 10, 2021 • 1:06:03

Episode 124: Does Your Vagina Have a Brain? The Mind-Body Connection

Links:Our wonderful sponsor Femallay. Check out their vaginal melts, and their innovative menstrual cups that allow you to empty them while they're still inserted.The Great Sex Rescue! https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/the-orgasm-course/https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2021/12/arousal-non-concordance-you-really-need-to-know-what-it-is/Support us on Patreon for as little as $5 a month! And be sure to sign up for our Tea and Tent Pegs webinar that goes live December 6!

Dec 2, 2021 • 55:58

Episode 123: Let's talk Sexual Favours Postpartum

Links to things mentioned:Our wonderful sponsor Femallay. Check out their vaginal melts, and their innovative menstrual cups that allow you to empty them while they're still inserted.The Great Sex Rescue! Especially chapter 11 where we talk about postpartum sex and the advice given to womenThe Italian study Keith and I referencedThe Facebook post where women shared their storiesPlus we didn't mention it, but please: Support us on Patreon for as little as $5 a month! And be sure to sign

Nov 25, 2021 • 1:04:50

Episode 122: The Making of Biblical Womanhood ft Beth Allison Barr

Links to things mentioned:Link to the Webinar with Sheila, Kristin, and Beth! https://us06web.zoom.us/webinar/register/3916371742777/WN_4zAQL63IQKWmABs58aF6_AThe Making of Biblical Womanhood: https://amzn.to/3x0aULdL. M. M. story mentioned: http://fullreads.com/literature/the-strike-at-putney/Check out our sponsor, Femallay! https://femallay.comJoin our Patreon! https://patreon.com/baremarriage

Nov 18, 2021 • 59:27

Episode 121: Finding Your Own Path ft hosts of NeuroDiverse Christian Couples Podcast

Find Dan and Stephanie's podcast here! https://podcastaddict.com/podcast/3567488

Nov 11, 2021 • 1:01:32

Episode 120: Why Too Many Can't Let Go of the 'Obligation Sex' Message

The blog: http://tolovehonorandvacuum.comOur Patreon! Please join for as little as $5 a month and get access to our private (and very active!) Facebook group; our unfiltered podcast; merchandise; free books, and more! It supports Joanna's and Rebecca's time in getting our research into peer-reviewed journals and expanding to new social media outletsFemallay! We love what they're doing to help women experience more pleasure and more comfort in our own bodies. Please check them out.

Nov 4, 2021 • 59:51

Start Your Engines Ep. 17: How To Be Sex Positive Without Being Creepy

Thanks to our sponsor Femallay! Check out their vaginal melts, and my post on how your vagina changes as you ageOur Patreon–support us for as little as $5 a month and get access to our unfiltered podcasts and our private Facebook group (which is really active!)The Great Sex Rescue–Chapters 5 and 6 cover the lust issue and porn issue, and try to do so in a non-shaming way, focused on actual researchOur Sexy DaresThe Intimately Us AppOur Orgasm CourseKeith’s post on sexually confident menOur podca

Oct 28, 2021 • 57:33

Episode 118: What Are Christian Resources NOT Telling You About Abuse? ft. Gretchen Baskerville

We are thrilled to have a wonderful guest joining us this week! We hope you enjoy Sheila's conversation with author Gretchen Baskerville, as they discuss some extremely important points we need to include in our conversations around divorce in the Christian church.Links to things mentioned:The blog post that goes along with this podcast:https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2021/10/podcast-focus-on-the-family-and-abuse-divorce/Gretchen Baskerville's Site:https://lifesavingdivorce.com/Gretch

Oct 21, 2021 • 59:57

Episode 117: All about BOOBS!

We have a VERY special guest  joining later today! For the first time ever we have Sheila's mother, Elizabeth, here to share all her wisdom! We hope you enjoy today's episode all about boobs, and breast cancer awareness!Links to things mentioned:Link for breast self-exam: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nkPR4ar1EQ4Link for Married Sex on Amazon--many of the reviews refer to the breast problem https://amzn.to/3iYfEvkPatreon: https://patreon.com/baremarriageFemallay: https://femallay.com

Oct 14, 2021 • 55:09

Episode 116: Why Teenagers SHOULD know lots about Sex!

For this special edition of the Bare Marriage Podcast we created an episode that you can listen to WITH your teenagers! Rebecca and Connor walk through their own 'Sex-Ed' experiences, and discuss how they plan to talk to their own children about sex and sexual health one day. We hope this episode can be a great jumping off point for important parent/teenager conversations that may happen throughout these teen years, to help you equip your children in making wise decisions as they go th

Oct 7, 2021 • 43:03

Episode 115: Are 'Pink Brains' and 'Blue Brains' Real?

Today it's Rebecca and Connor coming to you, to discuss some neuropsychology! We know, it's a lot, but bare with us! We hope you enjoy this ramble through some statistical and psychological studies that can give us all a clearer picture on how we should be talking about the differences between men and women's brains.Links to things mentioned:Check out Femallay's products here: https://www.femallay.com/2021 Meta-analysis of gender differences in the brain: https://www.scienced

Sep 30, 2021 • 49:12

Episode 114: Life Hacks to Help Know Which Christian Book are Toxic

Many of you have asked for a step by step guide to clarify how to gauge whether a book is harmful or helpful. So today, we thought we'd do just that, and help walk everyone through the process we use when critiquing Christian resources we see being used today. We'd also like to thank our guest Neil Schori for joining us today with such a wonderful discussion on how to talk to pastors about the harm found in resources. We can't wait to have him back on the podcast again soon!Links

Sep 23, 2021 • 59:34

Episode 113: Are You Doing Sex on Hard Mode?

We are thrilled to bring you another weekly edition of the Bare Marriage podcast, with a special guest appearance by friend of the show Andrew Bauman for a short segment today.  Please remember to read the blog post that accompanies this podcast for more context into the topics we discussed.Links to things mentioned:The Blog: http://tolovehonorandvacuum.comThe Great Sex Rescue and 31 Days to Great SexSupport our Patreon for as little as $5 a month! Help fund our peer reviewed research and new so

Sep 16, 2021 • 48:53

Episode 112: You're Supposed to be a TEAM!

Thank you to our lovely guest Micah for joining us today! You can find her online here:https://www.apexcounselingservices.com/clinician/micah-morgan/Links to other things mentioned:https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2021/07/on-elisabeth-elliots-terrible-courtship-and-dating-men-sold-out-for-jesus/https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2021/08/the-great-sex-rescue-video-group-study/

Sep 9, 2021 • 59:58

Episode 111: Are We Making Christian Marriage Harder Than It Needs To Be?

Join us this week as we discuss the idea of how our expectations of marriage highly affect how we experience it-- and how expectations might not always be the problem! And thank you again to Bruce for joining us today for another deep dive into scripture!Links to things mentioned:Find more from Bruce on his website!https://tru316.com/Camden's articlehttps://www.cbeinternational.org/resource/article/mutuality-blog-magazine/when-religion-hurts-how-complementarian-churches-harmOriginal study a

Sep 2, 2021 • 58:26

Why Do Christian Books Make Men Sound So Fragile?! - Start Your Engines Ep. 19

We have the guys back for today's 'Men's Edition' of the podcast!And thank you to Michael John Cusick for joining us today for our Reader Question!You can find Michael here: https://michaeljohncusick.com/Restoring the Soul Podcast: https://restoringthesoul.com/Sign up for the emails to be entered in our draw for The Orgasm Course:http://eepurl.com/z0VFnOur Direct Communication Series (check out the links at the bottom for all of the posts):https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/202

Aug 26, 2021 • 55:58

Episode 109: A Journey of Faith (Special BTS look at our 'Unfiltered Podcast!)

This week we're bringing you something different. This 'unfiltered podcast' that aired with our Patrons in July was an episode that we ended up feeling was worth being shared on a larger scale. We hope you enjoy this honest, vulnerable look into Rebecca and Joanna's faith thought processes, and that it may spark some discussion for yourself. We will be back next Thursday with a 'Start Your Engines' podcast, for the last week of the month, as usual!

Aug 19, 2021 • 45:30

Episode 108: Direct Communication 101

This week's episode is ALL about communicating! Both with our spouses, and with our kids!Check out the links to things we mentioned this episode:Brett Ullman's website where he collates amazing parenting stuff, plus his book Parenting: Navigating EverythingOur Patreon--support us for as little as $3 or $5 a month, and get access to behind-the-scenes things!My books The Great Sex Rescue and 9 Thoughts That Can Change Your MarriageOur Direct Communication Series: Why it's hard; what

Aug 12, 2021 • 54:30

Episode 107: Sex and the Sixth Reformation (Or Fourth. Or Second?)

Aaaaand we're back! Thank you for all being gracious while we took a much needed one-month break in July. Links to things mentioned:Subscribe to the email list! https://tolovehonorandvacuum.us7.list-manage.com/subscribe?u=7dab5e96bfaeb6aaa1503b481&id=5b44e4e8aaOur Patreon--support us for as little as $3 a month! We also have unfiltered podcasts and more available for our supporters. The money doesn't go to this blog or podcast, but to cover the cost of our research.The Great Sex Re

Aug 5, 2021 • 1:14:05

The Slippery Slope of Putting Men in Charge of Women - Start Your Engines Ep. 18

Keith's post on the slippery slope of male-only leadershipThe Emotional Labor and Mental Load Series, with a podcast describing the issueThe Let's Go to the Beach Revisited postThe Great Sex RescuePastors: Preach what you practice! About how pastors often say that husbands should make the final decision, though that's not what they actually do.

Jun 24, 2021 • 41:32

Episode 105: The Pelvic Floor Episode! (Plus, can you say 'vulva'?)

What  fun episode this week! With our wonderful guest Dr Bethany Peterson joining us, we talk all things pelvic floor and how we as women can improve our lives dramatically with more information on this topic!Bethany Peterson and Well-Core Physiotherapy. You can also find Bethany on Instagram. Bethany's post on why we need to explore our pelvic floorsThe FemFusion Guided Meditation for Pelvic Floor Relaxation videoThe Great Sex Rescue--and our FREE Video Group Study that goes along with itT

Jun 17, 2021 • 54:30

Episode 104: Jesus and John Wayne -- the bits about sex!

Jesus and John Wayne--order it this week!. And follow Kristin on Twitter like I do. She's awesome.The Great Sex Rescue: A great companion to Jesus and John WayneOur Patreon group: Support us for as little as $5 or $8 a month to help fund new social media outreaches and Joanna's work getting our research into peer reviewed journalsKatie's awesome video and our awesome romance novels we made up, plus Katie's Instagram where you can see all the covers on her story highlightsOur

Jun 10, 2021 • 57:24

Episode 103: Great Sexpectations and Birthing Babies

Find Jenn Riedy here: http://lehighvalleybaby.com/Download the 'Intimately Us' app! https://intimately.us/

Jun 3, 2021 • 52:48

Do You Know What the #1 Marriage Speaker in the US Military teaches about Sex? - Episode 102

Support us on Patreon! For as little as $5 or $8 a month you can help pay Joanna so that she can get our research published in peer reviewed journals, and you can help us break in to new social media channels! (This blog and podcast are already fully funded; the money doesn't go to me but to the project).The Great Sex Rescue, our new book that has upset everyoneThe audio between Mark and Lexi. You can also read a transcript of the audio by Shannon Ashley, or a transcript with abuse tactics

May 27, 2021 • 56:46

Episode 101: How Do Our Beliefs Affect Human Sex Trafficking?

We have a fantastic guest joining us today! With real experience on the mission field, Meghan Tschanz is in a great position to share her thoughts and add her voice to this conversation. Thank you for joining us and listening in today, and thank you again to Meghan for being on our podcast!Things Mentioned in This Podcast:Meghan Tschanz's book Woman Rising: Learning to Listen, Reclaiming Our VoiceThe study about Calvinist/complementarian beliefs and their correlation with domestic violence

May 20, 2021 • 52:39

Episode 100: Is Premarital Sex Dehumanizing?

We made it to 100 episodes! Thank you to all our listeners for sticking with us, whether from day one or last week, we SO appreciate you being here! And thank you to all those who sent in messages for us to listen to in this episode!  Great Sex Rescue! Support us on Patreon--even for as little as $3 or $5 a month!Michael John Cusick's Site, his book Surfing for God, and his Restoring the Soul podcastTim Keller's Twitter ThreadFocus on the Family article about consent The Honeymoon Cour

May 14, 2021 • 1:05:23

Episode 99: Don't Let Your Voice be Small Just Because You're a Woman

Thank you to our WONDERFUL guests this week! We have 3 different people joining in on the discussions today!Links to things mentioned:Timothy Thomas' articles, Part 1 and Part 2Bruce C.E. Fleming's Eden podcast and Book of Eden book. The podcast walks through many of the Genesis verses regarding gender and shows us a beautiful picture of wholeness and freedomShannon Ashley's article about our interaction with Mark GungorThe Great Sex Rescue! Support our Bare Marriage Patreon for a

May 6, 2021 • 1:07:44

Do You Know What Your Wife Has Been Taught About Sex? - Start Your Engines 17

Here we are with another 'Start Your Engines' edition of the podcast! Join Keith and Sheila as they discuss some strange things your wife might believe about sex, and Rebecca and Sheila as they break down an interesting perspective on how the men's lust message can mess up women too! LINKS:The Great Sex Rescue: Our new book, that looks at how harmful some of these messages have beenSupport our research by joining our Patreon group! Even for as  little as $5 or $8 a month!Our &quot

Apr 29, 2021 • 49:00

Episode 97: That Weird 70s Sex Era

We've been going back in time on the blog and looking at how different eras viewed sex, so this week on the podcast we're bringing more of that conversation! Listen in as Sheila, Connor, and Rebecca break down what led to the sexual revolution and how the church responded to it at the time.LINKS:Come support our peer-reviewed research and getting into more social media channels!Connor's review of the 1970s sex bookMy review of The Act of MarriageOur sexuality through the ages seri

Apr 22, 2021 • 48:48

Episode 96: Let's Turn Toxic Church Cultures into Goodness Cultures! ft Scot McKnight & Laura Barringer

We've got some AMAZING guests joining us on the podcast today, authors/father-daughter duo Scot McKnight and Laura Barringer! We hope you enjoy this discussion on church cultures, and can find your own church that is 'tov'! Links to things mentioned:Scot & Laura's book! https://amzn.to/2OP4Nb9 (A Church Called Tov)Our rubric and scorecardThe Great Sex RescueOur Patreon--so you can support us!

Apr 15, 2021 • 51:28

Episode 95: How to Talk about Sex with Your Teens so You Don't Scar Them for Life

This week's episode is going out to all the parents of teens out there. We know that sex and puberty can be a tough topic to navigate with your children as they grow up, so we wanted to really delve into that topic and hopefully help further healthy messages for the future generations!Our Patreon! Help fund getting our research into peer-reviewed journals and onto new social media channels. Even $3 or $5 a month helps!The Whole Story: Our puberty & sex course for moms/daughters or dads/

Apr 8, 2021 • 48:00

Episode 94: Logical Fallacies in our Marriage Advice! The Power & Statistics Episode

This is a jam-packed episode of the Bare Marriage podcast! We hope you enjoy listening in this week!Our Patreon! Support us getting our research into peer-reviewed journals and getting on new social media channelsThe Great Sex Rescue! And remember to rate and review!Last week's long post on Emerson Eggerichs gaslighting abuse victims--and the podcast that went with itThe blog post where Emerson Eggerichs uses the stat both correctly & incorrectly at the same time10 reasons rushing forgi

Apr 1, 2021 • 1:06:29

Start Your Engines Ep. 16: Can We Be a Church that Doesn't Gaslight Abuse Victims and Bounce our Eyes?

Our Patreon! Come on over and support our research: https://patreon.com/baremarriageThe post yesterday where we discussed Emerson Eggerichs' sermons in detail https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2021/03/emerson-eggerichs-and-the-gaslighting-of-emotional-abuse-victims-in-a-sermon-series/Last week's post on the Atlanta shootings and seeing women as dangeroushttps://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2021/03/how-has-evangelical-teaching-about-sex-contributed-to-horrific-news-stories/Study showing that

Mar 25, 2021 • 1:05:28

Episode 92: All about Orgasms!

Let's discuss orgasms this week, shall we?! We're thrilled to announce our new Patreon!https://patreon.com/baremarriageThe Great Sex Rescuehttps://tolovehonorandvacuum/great-sex-rescue/The Orgasm Coursehttps://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/the-orgasm-course/The Honeymoon Coursehttps://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/the-honeymoon-course-start-your-marriage-and-your-sex-life-off-well/The Orgasm Serieshttps://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2020/10/you-are-not-broken-if-you-cant-reach-orgasm/ᐧ

Mar 18, 2021 • 39:31

Episode 91: The Thalidomide Test: What Makes a Marriage Book Good?

Another week where we're discussing sex and marriage here on the Bare Marriage Podcast! Here are your links to things mentioned:The Great Sex Rescue--it's doing wonderfully and selling wonderfully! Thank you so much--and help us out by leaving a review on Amazon or Goodreads once you've read it!https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/great-sex-rescue/Our survey methodology https://greatsexrescue.com/gsr-survey/Books that we liked--How We Love by the Yerkovichs; Boundaries and Boundaries

Mar 11, 2021 • 59:28

Episode 90: The book launches, Becca breaks down... and should you kiss before marriage?

The Great Sex Rescue: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/great-sex-rescue/Our survey methods: https://greatsexrescue.com/gsr-survey/Dr. Camden Morgante: And check out her "which purity culture myth affected you" quiz! https://drcamden.com/ https://drcamden.com/take-the-quiz/ Our Podcast from last week discussing how children are not sexual: https://youtu.be/jz3ci85r3Bc?t=1740Our Honeymoon Prep Course (where we help people prepare for sex on the honeymoon--and how not to rush intercourse!

Mar 4, 2021 • 1:00:00

Episode 89: Can we please not be weird about sex?

The Great Sex Rescue is available to order now! -  https://www.amazon.com/Great-Sex-Rescue-Recover-Intended/dp/1540900827 Andrew Bauman: https://andrewjbauman.com/

Feb 25, 2021 • 48:48

Episode 88: Self-Fulfilling Prophecies and Sex

The Great Sex Rescue--launches March 2, but you can preorder now!https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/great-sex-rescue/Rabbi Shlomo Slatkin's Imago Marriage Counseling. You can schedule a free consultation now--or check out his retreats. https://themarriagerestorationproject.com/My viral Twitter threadhttps://twitter.com/sheilagregoire/status/1360634344390426629Last week's article about how The Act of Marriage impacted mehttps://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2021/02/why-i-drowned-a-book-in-the-

Feb 18, 2021 • 53:49

Episode 87: Duty Sex isn't Sexy

This week were talking all about duty sex and consent! Thank you to our guests that joined us, it's so encouraging to hear other voices out there with a heart to share this hopeful message of what healthy sex looks like in marriage.Links to things mentioned: Andrew Bauman: https://andrewjbauman.com/And his book The Sexually Healthy Man: https://amzn.to/3p4JmyFBenjamin Young's Twitter Thread: https://twitter.com/BJYoung1990/status/1353521004073652224Benjamin Young's ministry Guard

Feb 11, 2021 • 56:48

Episode 86: You are NOT methadone for your husband's porn use!

This week Sheila and Rebecca are digging deep into just how bad some of the advice out there is for Christians dealing with porn use in their marriage. We need to talk about this better, everyone!Thank you to Michael John Cusick for stopping by to help give us an even better look at what healing and recovery can look like for the many people struggling with pornography.Links to things mentioned:Our Porn series in April (read the first; the rest are linked from there) https://tolovehonorandvacuum

Feb 4, 2021 • 58:35

Start Your Engines Ep. 15: What if Lust ISN'T Every Man's Battle?

And we're back with a new 'Start Your Engines' episode! The whole team is practically here today, as Sheila, Keith, Joanna, AND Rebecca all join in to discuss this all too common teaching that 'ALL men will struggle with lust!'Links to things mentioned:The Great Sex Rescue! Pre-order it now--and if you want access soon, why not join our launch team? All you have to do is write a review for it, but you'll also get access to special Facebook Lives and more!And don&apo

Jan 28, 2021 • 57:10

Episode 84: On Sexual Boundaries and Rape Culture in the Church ft. Ruth Everhart

Joining us on the podcast this week is Ruth Everhart, author of the book 'The #MeToo Reckoning'. We hope you find today's podcast a helpful step in the larger conversation in how we need to handle and address sexual assault situations in the church.Links to things mentioned: Last spring we had a number of posts and podcasts on the problem with the gatekeeping message--namely that it can hinder arousal. Some of them are: Arousal: The missing piece podcast; And the let's bring

Jan 21, 2021 • 50:05

Episode 83: Talking Back to Purity Culture ft. guest Rachel Joy Welcher

This week we are joined by author Rachel Joy Welcher, as we discuss all things purity culture - and where it went wrong! We so appreciate Rachel joining us and giving her insight!Links to things mentioned:The Blog: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com Follow Sheila on Instagram: @sheilagregoire https://instagram.com/sheilagregoire The Great Sex Rescue (pre-order!): https://www.amazon.com/Great-Sex-Rescue-Recover-Intended/dp/1540900827  Check out Rachel's book "Talking Back to Purity Cultur

Jan 14, 2021 • 53:27

Episode 82: Stripping Everything Bare (New Year, New... Name?!)

Welcome back! We are excited as we begin our rebranding process from To Love, Honor, and Vacuum to… *drumroll* Bare Marriage! Listen in as we discuss what led to this new name choice and our thoughts on how we see 2021 going, as we focus on a Jesus-centered marriage!Links to things mentioned:The Blog: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com  Follow Sheila on Instagram: @sheilagregoire https://instagram.com/sheilagregoireThe Great Sex Rescue (pre-order!): https://www.amazon.com/Great-Sex-Rescue-Recover-

Jan 7, 2021 • 44:23

Episode 81: 'Churchianity' vs Christianity - Our Year of Feeling Homeless

2020 has been a wild year for everyone. As we close off this year, we want to reiterate how much we appreciate everyone who has taken the time to read the blog, listen to the podcast, buy the books, buy the courses and just be a part of our TLHV family. We hope you've enjoyed learning lots along with us this year, and we can't wait for the release of our book in March as we enter a new era on To Love, Honor, and Vacuum, (and hopefully a more joyful era at that!)Links to things mentione

Dec 17, 2020 • 56:00

Episode 80: Unconditional Respect is NOT a Thing.

Another week, another episode of the TLHV podcast! A special thank-you to our guest Dr. Westfall for helping shed more light and give new perspectives on a passage in scripture that we read so often! We hope you enjoyed today's episode, and while we know we got pretty technical with some context and vocabulary, we believe it is very important that we look at these topics as clearly as possible to gain the best understanding.Links to things mentioned: The Blog: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.c

Dec 10, 2020 • 55:20

Episode 79. Can We Stop Talking about Girls Being Stumbling Blocks and Causing Men to Lust?

We always love tackling tough subjects on the To Love, Honor, and Vacuum Podcast and we hope you enjoyed our passionate discussion today. Links to things mentioned:The Blog: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com4 Stages of Porn Recovery: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2020/04/4-stages-of-porn-recovery-what-porn-recovery-in-marriage-looks-like/ The Bell-curve Modesty Rule: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2019/03/new-look-at-christian-modesty-guidelines/The Whole Story: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.

Dec 3, 2020 • 54:46

Start Your Engines Ep. 14 Guys and Emotions: They're Not Polar Opposites ft. Andrew J. Bauman

Alright, gentlemen, we're here again for another Start Your Engines episode! Thank you to Andrew Bauman for joining us today for this important conversation and being a great voice advocating for emotional health.We apologize for the slightly muffled audio, we did our best to clean it up, and we appreciate your grace with us as we begin to invite guests onto the show and work out new technical challenges.Links to things mentioned:Andrew J Bauman's Surveys: https://andrewjbauman.com/sur

Nov 25, 2020 • 44:00

Episode 78. What Does Emotional Maturity Look Like? ft. Marc Alan Schelske

We want to give a special welcome this week to our first non-family-member guest, Marc Alan Schelske! We hope you enjoy our discussions today all about emotional intelligence and emotional maturity.Links to things mentioned:Marc Alan Schelske's book: https://www.amazon.com/Wisdom-Your-Heart-Discovering-God-Given-ebook/dp/B073VCKVMLhttps://marcalanschelske.com/Podcast: https://marcalanschelske.com/indexes/index-the-apprenticeship-way-podcast/Workbook mentioned: https://marcalanschelske.com/u

Nov 19, 2020 • 47:07

Episode 77. Why It's Hard For Victims to Share Their Stories of Abuse

Sheila and Rebecca decided to take the time this week to further flesh out a podcast topic addressed a few weeks ago, that was perhaps not portrayed in the best way. Thank you for making the 'To Love, Honor, and Vacuum' podcast part of your week! Links to things mentioned:The Blog: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/"Rushing Forgiveness Ruins Intimacy": https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2019/08/10-reasons-why-rushing-forgiveness-ruins-intimacy/Pre-Order 'The Great Sex Rescu

Nov 12, 2020 • 38:31

Start Your Engines Ep. 13: On Arousal Non-Concordance and the Sexy Sex

It's time for our monthly 'Start Your Engines' podcast, with special guest Keith! We hope you enjoyed this conversation all about the sexy sex!  Links to things mentioned:   10 Things Husbands Who Are Great Lovers Do: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2020/10/10-things-husbands-who-are-great-lovers-do/ The Orgasm Course: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/the-orgasm-course/ Some articles from the blog talking about dealing with Pornography addiction: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.c

Oct 29, 2020 • 34:44

The One MAJOR Roadblock to Orgasm

Join us for another week of the To Love, Honor, and Vacuum Podcast, where Sheila explores some of your comments on how the beliefs we internalize affect a couple's sex life. Link to the blog: http://www.tolovehonorandvacuum.comLink to Pre-Order The Great Sex Rescue: https://www.amazon.com/Great-Sex-Rescue-Recover-Intended/dp/1540900827

Oct 15, 2020 • 39:02

Episode 74. Having Troubles with Orgasm? You are NOT Broken!

This month on the blog we're going to be talking lots about orgasms! Do you struggle with having orgasms? Do you see your body as something working against you, not for you? We're here to help talk about these things!And today we have Sheila, Rebecca AND Connor all hopping on the podcast to give some great thoughts about how we talk about women's sexuality, how we view our sexual needs, and how we can increase the likelihood of orgasming!Blog post mentioned from Monday: https://to

Oct 8, 2020 • 39:24

Episode 73. Questions on Sexual Abuse and the Road to Recovery

Join us this week as Sheila Wray Gregoire and Rebecca Gregoire Lindenbach discuss some important topics -- sexual abuse and when to seek professional help.Links to things mentioned in the podcast: The need for licensed counselling :  https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2019/03/question-your-biblical-counsellor/Dan Allender's book: https://www.amazon.com/The-Wounded-Heart-Dan-B-Allender-audiobook/dp/B01ATOK6H8"98 Ways You Could Be Sinning Against Your Husband": https://tolovehonorandv

Oct 1, 2020 • 40:02

Start Your Engines Ep. 12: On Frequency and Feeling Sex-Starved

Thank you for tuning in to the September edition of the 'Start Your Engines Podcast'! Links mentioned in the episode:Blog Post on Frequency: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2020/09/how-much-sex-should-you-have-every-week/Email List Sign-up: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.us7.list-manage.com/subscribe?u=7dab5e96bfaeb6aaa1503b481&id=5b44e4e8aaLink for the Blog: http://tolovehonorandvacuum.com

Sep 24, 2020 • 34:40

Episode 72. What if Frequency and Libido Differences AREN'T the Real Issue?

This month on the blog we’re discussing all things ‘Libido’! Listen in to hear Rebecca Gregoire Lindenbach and Sheila Wray Gregoire talk about what could possibly be the key to unlocking your spouses’ low libido, and perhaps make you rethink how you see 'frequency' in relation to healthy sex! Blog Posts Mentioned in this Podcast: How frequently should a healthy couple have sex?:https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2020/09/how-much-sex-should-you-have-every-week/How to see Every Man’s Battl

Sep 17, 2020 • 44:53

Episode 71. Are Sex and Talking Really the Same Thing?

This week Sheila is flying solo on the podcast, and getting a bit more controversial! Listen in to hear her discuss the concept of how being content with your sex life can perhaps cause it to flourish even more, how sex and talking are NOT equivalent, and how Christians should better handle speaking about divorce.  Links for Things Mentioned:Free Sex Pep-Talk Course! https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/sex-pep-talk-course/This week's mentioned post: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2020/09/lib

Sep 10, 2020 • 36:10

Episode 70: How To Handle Complicated Engagements

How do you handle it when tough conversations come up and loved ones are making decisions you don't agree with? Especially when marriage and engagements are the starting point for those hard conversations?Today Sheila Wray Gregoire and Rebecca Gregoire Lindenbach from To Love, Honor and Vacuum talk through different Reader Questions and come up with some tips on communicating and how to discuss issues such as pornography and past trauma with your fiance! Some links mentioned in this podcast

Sep 3, 2020 • 38:35

Start Your Engines Ep. 11: How NOT to Flirt With Your Wife

What if, when flirting, your signals keep getting crossed and for some reason your wife doesn't respond well to your advances? In today's episode, Sheila and Keith, (plus Rebecca and Connor!), sit down to break down why flirting and groping are different things, as well as how to optimize your timing and context when flirting! Check out the blog for so much more on this topic, and fun challenges to do with your spouse!http://tolovehonorandvacuum.com

Aug 27, 2020 • 37:29

Episode 69: Let's Talk Sexual Favours... and Pain?

What do you do if you can't/don't want to have intercourse, but other forms of sex are actually uncomfortable?Some Christian books tell women they should give sexual favors, because they're "simple" and take a "minimum of effort." Today Sheila Wray Gregoire and Rebecca Gregoire Lindenbach from To Love, Honor and Vacuum look at the complete picture--what this should look like in a healthy relationship, and how to think about it if one of you actually is physical

Aug 20, 2020 • 36:14

Episode 68: Are Women Responsible For Their Own Orgasms?

Another Thursday, another episode of our podcast!It's Sheila Wray Gregoire and Rebecca Gregoire Lindenbach from the To Love, Honor and Vacuum blog, discussing expectations of the effort we put into sex and making one another feel good!And yes, we're still filming from Sheila's closet because the sound is best there! :) Check out the posts mentioned in the podcast: The Honeymoon course:https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/the-honeymoon-course-start-your-marriage-and-your-sex-life-off-w

Aug 13, 2020 • 29:53

Episode 67. TMI: All about PERIODS!

Why do we feel such shame? How can we help men be more sensitive to women--without being creepy? And how can we as women be empathetic towards each other? These are questions Rebecca and I tackle in this week's podcast.Plus we'll discuss why using tampons does not impact your virginity (why do we even think that's a thing? Sheesh!).Check out the posts mentioned in the podcast: Our Whole Story puberty course!https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/the-whole-story/And our period series--ch

Aug 6, 2020 • 36:27

Start Your Engines Ep. 10: How Husbands can be Sex Heroes!

Today Keith joins me for yet another episode of our ‘Start Your Engines’ edition of the podcast to discuss how husbands and wives approach to sex can vary greatly, but how neither one is wrong! Blog posts mentioned in this episode:“Should I Tell My Husband if I Fake Orgasm or Fantasize During Sex?”https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2020/07/should-i-tell-my-husband-if-i-fake-orgasm-or-fantasize-during-sex/“Understanding Sex from a Woman’s Perspective” https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2020/07/unders

Jul 30, 2020 • 34:42

Episode 66: The WEIRD Sex Questions!

This week--how do you untangle sex problems, especially because there's usually not just one problem? And how to tell if there are red flags that something's really wrong!Thanks to our sponsor Ann Mainse, whose wonderful devotional Coffee with Him helps any woman walking through rough times--whether cancer or betrayal or heartache or disillusionment--find peace. Raw and real, Ann shows how we can be honest with God in the darkness.https://amzn.to/30CfBLAPosts mentioned in this podcast:

Jul 23, 2020 • 42:58

Episode 65: Awkward Newlywed Sex Questions

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Jul 16, 2020 • 43:33

Episode 64: Sometimes a Vagina is Just a Vagina!

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Jul 9, 2020 • 44:45

Episode 63: Sex Questions You Can't Ask Your Pastor

We often go to our pastors for marital advice and answers to tough questions. But what about the questions you can't ask them? In preparation for my Sex Questions You Can't Ask Your Pastor tomorrow at 9:00 PM Eastern Time.If you want to sign up, just follow the link to buy your ticket, which comes with a FREE copy of my book 31 Days to Great Sex, and a FREE copy of Spicy DaresSign Up for the Webinar HereBlog Post Extras

Jul 2, 2020 • 37:30

Start Your Engines Ep.9: Honey, Just Give Me a List!

We have been talking about the concept of mental load and the emotional burden of taking care of kids and the household. And when your wife is feeling overburdened bu all the things she needs to track, it's hard for her to get invested in the bedroom. It's so important, then, for husbands to get invested in the household, but is asking her to make a list really going to help the problem? Let's discuss!

Jun 25, 2020 • 45:03

Episode 62: Are We Man-Bashers Now?

I've been talking on the blog about the mental load of housework and how it often falls on the wives, even when they are the one who works outside the house. I have also been saying that men can step up more because being a man doesn't make them less capable. Curiously, that sentiment has earned me the title of man-basher from some of my male commenters. So Let's talk about that.Podcast Extras9 Thoughts That Can Change Your Marriage

Jun 18, 2020 • 37:28

Episode 61: Are Your Standards for Housework Unreasonable?

Let's talk about minimum community standards and how they can be used to reduce your mental load and get you and your spouse on the same page in terms of housework!

Jun 11, 2020 • 55:50

Episode 60: Splitting the Mental Load of Housework

This month we are doing our series on emotional labour. In keeping with that trend, today's podcast is all about how much of a mental load it is to be solely in charge of housework, and how to find a healthier balance with your spouse.

Jun 4, 2020 • 47:42

Start Your Engines Ep.8: What About Gender Differences?

What are the differences between men and women, and how important are they actually? Have we been focusing on the wrong thing?

May 28, 2020 • 40:25

Episode 59: Should Women be the Gatekeepers of Sex?

So much of the teachings out there for young women is that when they are dating, they must be the gatekeeper and stop physical interactions from reaching their boyfriend's 'point of no return.' Let's talk about how this mentality often ends up holding women back from enjoying sex once they are married.Honeymoon Course

May 14, 2020 • 18:28

Episode 58: Quarantine with Your Spouse

Today we talk about about how to handle being cooped up in the house spending all day every day with your spouse. It's not just something to get through, but something you can even grow to love!

May 7, 2020 • 42:47

Start Your Engines Ep.7: Is Your Wife Being Held Back by the 'Duty Sex' Message?

We have found the the message that "women NEED to have sex regularly or else their husbands will stray" Is very harmful to their enjoyment of sex. But we also found that they often don't get that message from their husbands. Their are a lot of great husbands out their whose wives are still struggling because they have heard this message at church or in books or from media .So let's talk about how you can replace that message with something better and help your wife find sex s

Apr 30, 2020 • 38:39

Episode 57: Marital Rape, Consent, and Obligation Sex

We need to talk about what actually constitutes rape and consent in marriage, and where obligation sex fits into the conversationPodcast Extras on the BlogMarital Rape1 Corinthians 7:3-5: What do the verses really mean? Do Not Deprive: What if it’s actually women who are being deprived?Why We Need a New Definition of SexHave we made sex into an entitlement?Why submission doesn’t mean letting yourself be hurt (a look at the book Created to be His Helpmeet)Sexual trauma & The Body Keeps the Sc

Apr 23, 2020 • 50:37

Episode 56: "Sheet Music" is Really Explicit!

Today, Rebecca and I review sheet music and talk about how a book that gives overly explicit sex advice can become just plain creepy.Honeymoon Course

Apr 16, 2020 • 38:39

Episode 55: Reacting to "The Act of Marriage"

I read out some quotes and anecdotes from Tim LaHaye's book, The Act of Marriage, to my Rebecca to get her reaction.

Apr 9, 2020 • 1:11:46

Episode 54: What do Porn and Coronavirus Have in Common?

COVID-19 is everywhere in the news right now, and people are scared. But while everyone is talking about the novel coronavirus and our response to it, I want to discuss the similartities between COVID-19 and porn use, particularly in terms of what we should do about it.Podcast ExtrasWhy Every Man's Battle FailsWives Are not to Blame

Apr 2, 2020 • 44:15

Start Your Engines Ep.6. Do All Men Lust?

It's time to rethink 'every man's battle' and talk about what lust really is, and how to really combat it.Podcast ExtrasThe Church View of Lust Disrespects WomenAre Men Visual?Masturbation in MarriageWhen She’s Always Left HangingWomen Deserve Orgasm, tooWhy Women’s Fireworks Matter

Mar 26, 2020 • 41:59

Episode 53: Re-imagining the Sunday Service?

We live in a rapidly changing world where information is available at the touch of a button, yet the Sunday church service has stayed pretty consistent. Is it time to shake things up?Podcast ExtrasBeing Lonely in a Group of People10 Ways to Break Into A New Church and Find FriendsWhat Happened at Willow Creek?10 Signs You’re in a Legalistic ChurchWhen Women Start Saying No to Church ActivitiesThe Case Against Sermon-Centric Sundays

Mar 19, 2020 • 44:09

Episode 52: Are You a Community Giver or Taker

Community is an important part of our life, but what do you do when you have trouble finding it? Or when you've found it, but can't join it? Or when you feel you have a little too much of it, and people are giving you unsolicited advice? All that and more on today's episode!Podcast ExtrasMaking Community at ChurchPodcast: Getting Your Life TogetherCanadian Pediatric Society Screen GuidelinesAmerican Academy of Pediatrics Family Media Plan

Mar 12, 2020 • 43:39

Episode 51: So Many Reader Questions!

My reader questions are coming in faster than I can write posts on them, so for today's podcast I am going to answer a bunch of my readers questions about marriage, sex, and everything else!Podcast ExtrasCan You Divorce for Abuse?Why I’m Anti-Divorce but Pro RemarriageIs the Husband the Tie-Breaker?Are Husbands Supposed to "Get Their Wives Ready for Jesus?"

Mar 5, 2020 • 40:22

Start Your Engines Ep.5: Finding Good Sex Advice

There are a lot of unhelpful or harmful teachings about sex out there, so let's talk about how to discern the good from the bad. Also on this episode, Rebecca and I will talk about how to navigate your wife's hormonal cycles when it comes to the bedroom!Spicy DaresPodcast Extras

Feb 27, 2020 • 55:12

Episode 50: Recovering Your Sex Life After a Baby

The idea of having sex after giving birth is daunting, especially after complications. And if we move too fast, we risk making recovery even harder. So let's talk about not just how to start having sex again, but how to get back to enjoying it!Podcast Extras

Feb 20, 2020 • 41:52

Episode 49: What Does it Mean to Be a Sexual Being?

Valentine's Day is coming up, so let's talk about what it means to be a sexual being, how the world can sometimes take our sexuality away from us, and how we can reclaim it!Podcast ExtrasSexy DaresWhy I didn't Rebel

Feb 13, 2020 • 44:14

Episode 48: How Do You Feel Comfortable in Your Body

When I surveyed women for one of my books, I asked them to name three things about their body. Most of them really struggled to come up with one, but they had a whole of things they DIDN'T like. So let's talk about how to not just accept our bodies, but to LIKE them. Because after all, they're the ones God gave us!Podcast Extras

Feb 6, 2020 • 39:36

Start Your Engines Ep.4: When Your Wife Won't Have Sex

Let's talk about a big issue we hear about a lot: Sexless marriages. Whether a wife is withholding sex because of her husband's behaviour, because she doesn't enjoy it, or just because she finds it gross, let's figure out why she cut things off, what a healthy sex life should look like, and how to get there!Podcast Extras

Jan 30, 2020 • 43:31

Episode 47: When Something is Bugging You in Your Marriage

Something’s wrong in your marriage. So what do you do about it? This month I’m running my iron sharpens iron series, about how marriage is supposed to make you better people. But it can’t do that if we don’t speak up when things are wrong! So today on the podcast I’m continuing my discussion about how to confront your spouse if something’s bugging youPodcast Extras9 Thoughts That Can Change Your MarriageSubmission Podcast

Jan 23, 2020 • 36:47

Episode 46: Love and Respect Wrap Up

It's one year this week since I ran my huge Love & Respect series. I've written about how Love & Respect treats sex horribly and harms marriages off and on throughout this last year, since the original week-long series ran. And now, on this one year anniversary, I've been tying up some loose ends, including dropping my 5500 word open letter to Focus on the Family questioning their support of Love & Respect, as we cap off our discussion.This Episode's Blog Post

Jan 16, 2020 • 57:10

Episode 45: Drawing Boundaries Around a Spouse's Bad Behaviour

Let's look today at how to draw boundaries and actually see progress in messy areas of marriage. We're in the middle of our iron sharpens iron series on the blog, where I'm talking all month about how marriage is supposed to make us better people. I'm afraid that, too often in marriage, we tolerate small things early in the relationship that then become engrained habits that get worse and worse and worse. By speaking up and doing something about behaviour that is damaging to

Jan 9, 2020 • 42:17

Episode 44: Last Year's Frightening Revelation About Christian Teachings on Sex

Last January, I read Love and Respect  for the first time, and it was like a bomb had been dropped. I knew I was going to have to talk about it. One thing led to another and 2019 became a pretty big year. So let's recap on some of the big changes and talk about where we are going from here, answering a few reader questions along the way!Podcast ExtrasProductivity Bundle

Jan 2, 2020 • 36:41

Start Your Engines Ep.3: Give Your Wife the Gift of Good Sex

Let's talk about what you can do to really get your wife involved and enthusiastic about your bedtime escapades. Because good things come when her pleasure is your focusToday's Links:Podcast Extras Post"Do Not Deprive" PostGood Girl's Guide to Great Sex

Dec 19, 2019 • 35:57

Episode 43: Family Trouble Around the Holidays

With Christmas coming up, it's time to talk about something many of us dread: Navigating tricky family dynamics at holiday gatherings. Rebecca, Connor, and I are going to talk about both toxic and non-toxic family situations.Why I Didn't RebelPodcast ExtrasWhen to Walk Away

Dec 12, 2019 • 42:13

Episode 42: Is It Your Fault If He Watches Porn?

So often I hear the sentiment that the reason so many good christian guys are using porn is that their sexual needs are not being met by their wives. Not only is this blaming wives for their husband's sin, but it simply isn't true most of the time. So I am going to talk about this issue and lay down some facts about why porn use starts, how it affects mirriages, and how we can move past it!Here are the links from today's podcast:Today's Podcast ExtrasFocus on the Family Podca

Dec 5, 2019 • 40:36

Episode 41: All About Erections

My husband who is a pediatrician joins me on the podcast to address a slew of reader questions about erections. There's really not much more to say than that!Links:31 Days to Great SexThe Whole StoryTo Love Honor and Vacuum Blog

Nov 21, 2019 • 28:39

Episode 40: How Do You Know When Someone is Grooming You?

Today let's talk about a very serious topic. With all the cases of pastors and other influential people in church using their power to sexually abuse members of their congregations, and the recent news about Christian comedian, John Crist, I want to talk about how to recognize the patterns and processes of people who are trying to groom others for their own purposes.Read the Podcast Extras HereCheck out "Get Your Marriage On" HereComplete My Marriage Survey Here!

Nov 14, 2019 • 37:06

Episode 39: Postpartum Blues

My grandson is 2 weeks old now, so I will be talking with my daughter about the difficulties of the road to recovery after a baby. It's a topic that people often don't talk about, but it is so important to have understanding and compassion for those going through it. On a related note, I also address a reader question about overcoming vaginismus.Take Our Marriage SurveySee Today's Post

Nov 7, 2019 • 30:08

Start Your Engines Ep. 2: Starting Conversations About Sex

Today is Halloween and the last Thursday of the month, which means I am once again speaking to you men out there. And this week we are talking about how to start those uncomfortable conversations about sex with your wife when you think you should both be getting more out of your sex life.Here are the links mentioned in the podcast:Post "Why Your Husband Wants You to Read This Blog"To Love Honor and VacuumGet Your Marriage On31 Days to Great Sex

Oct 31, 2019 • 39:23

Episode 38: How To Actually Get Your Life Together

Today Rebecca and I talk about one of the big ways in which we as women today are making our lives a lot more difficult than they need to be. So let's talk about areas of expertise, social comparisons, and asking for help when we need it.If you want to read the post that accompanies this episode, head on over to "To Love Honor and Vacuum!"

Oct 17, 2019 • 27:41

Episode 37: "We Have a Newborn, Husband Wants and Xbox!" and More Reader Questions

Today we are answering reader questions from marriages that are past the honeymoon stage and are now working on sorting life out. One reader asks what to do when your husband won't come to bed with you and stays up playing video games. Another asks if it is wrong to want a great marriage, not just a fine one. And a third reader asks what to do if your husband who is hooked on games wants to buy an Xbox at the same time your child is due!Links mentioned in the podcast:Podcast ExtrasLast Week

Oct 10, 2019 • 38:11

Episode 36: The Honeymoon Years of Sex (Figuring it Out)

Kicking off October's series on the stages of a sex life, we are addressing a number of issues and questions regarding the beginning of marriage. We will be talking about boundaries during engagement, what to do when the honeymoon years of sex aren't as mindblowing as you expected, and why the best sex is usually had after 15 years of marriage! As always, check us out on the blog, and to enter my giveaway for 31 Days to Great Sex or the set of Sexy Dares, you just have to sign up for m

Oct 3, 2019 • 40:11

Start Your Engines Ep. 1: Understanding Female Sexuality

I have had many women asking me to do a podcast for men so they can get their husbands to listen and understand women better. So, starting this week, the last Thursday of each month will be a men's episode called "Start Your Engines." Ladies are of course still welcome to listen in, as it's still relevant for you, but I am speaking more directly to the men here. We start off our first episode giving an overview of the often overlooked differences between male and female sexua

Sep 26, 2019 • 39:52

Episode 35: Using the Bible to Gaslight Women?

This is a long one. Recently, the author of Love and Respect sent out an email to his readers addressing some complaints he often receives about how his teachings from the book are applied. And his response sent up a sea of red flags. So, I have brought my husband on to discuss our issues with it. If you want to check out the blog post that accompanies this podcast, you can find it here. And as always, if you like the podcast, leave a rating and a review!

Sep 19, 2019 • 1:14:39

Episode 34: Sexonomics

What do economics have to do with your sex life? More than you'd think. Today I talk about that in depth, and also address reader questions and comments about how to live with joy together in the middle of the mundane. Finally, Rebecca and I address the criticisms we have received for teaching women how to reduce their risk of being sexually assaulted. Check out the challenge blog post, Mother.ly, and the post for this episode!

Sep 12, 2019 • 38:14

Episode 33: What's Stressing Out Your Marriage?

Let's talk about how a seemingly small financial decision can have a domino effect that may create stress in your marriage. Also, how can we use routines without letting them take over our lives? Don't forget to check out the amazing "Get Your Marriage On" app, and check out the blog at To Love Honor and Vacuum!

Sep 5, 2019 • 32:56

Episode 32: What Does Headship in Marriage Really Mean? It's All Greek to Me!

We're going to be getting a little academic today as I look at the Greek and the Hebrew used in the Bible to shed some light on the discussion about what it means for the man to be the head of the family. Rebecca and also talk about family support and family boundaries. As always, check us out on To Love Honor and Vacuum!Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide t

Aug 28, 2019 • 39:21

Episode 31: The Only Way to Grow Your Marriage

I think we often go looking for marriage advice hoping for some easy fix that doesn't really require effort or change. But that's not how to get the most out of marriage. Starting now,  the blog and the podcast will both be focusing on action steps. Each week, I will issue a challenge to help you grow your marriage. Also in this episode, I address a reader question about dating a long-distance woman who lives with a highly restrictive father, and Rebecca gives her thoughts on unhealthy

Aug 22, 2019 • 37:48

Episode 30: Yoga Pants and Why We Need a Better Shame-Free Message

We have had a lot of conversations on the blog about modesty recently, and questions about yoga pants and women who wear revealing outfits at church always come up. In this episode, My daughter, son-in-law, and I go in depth on the topic to break down some of the unhealthy teachings and talk how to build each other up in Christ!As always, check out the extras on the blog here!

Aug 15, 2019 • 41:53

Episode 29: The Lonely Generation

In light of recent events, I want to talk about the isolation and loneliness pervasive in today's society and address what we can do as individuals, parents, friends, and church members to connect with one another on a more effective level. As always, check out the blog for all of the extras right here!

Aug 8, 2019 • 45:28

Episode 28: Taking Back Sexy

This month I am focusing on taking back "sexy", so for today's podcast we are discussing how sexy isn't shameful. My daughter comes on to talk about lingerie that can make you feel sexy and comfortable at the same time. I also talk about how sometimes it would benefit us to adopt a broader approach to our faith rather than to become immobile or ineffective due to a narrow spiritual world-view. Check out the extra's for today's blog post here!

Aug 1, 2019 • 42:17

Episode 27: The Purity Culture and the Prosperity Gospel

Today, Joanna, Rebecca, and I talk about some sad recent news in the Christian world and talk about the current status of the purity culture. Check it out on the blog here!

Jul 25, 2019 • 38:54

Episode 26: Communicating with Your Grown Up Kids

Sometimes the way we talk about dating and marriage with our kids can seriously hold them back when it comes to finding a good spouse. But there are ways that we can set them up with the tools to succeed when the opportunity arises. Rebecca and Joanna also go on to discuss what to do when your relationship with your college-aged kid starts to become strained. Be sure to check out all the extras on the blog here!

Jul 18, 2019 • 43:05

Episode 25: Making Marriage Easier and Pregnancy Etiquette

Today I am on vacation so Rebecca, Connor, and Joanna take over to talk about how putting systems in place can take a lot of the stress out of marriage and how to be sensitive when talking to people about pregnancy. For all the extras, check out the post here!

Jul 11, 2019 • 32:41

Episode 24: I Was Naive But Now My Eyes Are Open

Events on the blog lately have woken me up to some of the disturbing realities of our culture, and so I talk with various members of my staff and family about these big issues on my mind recently. If you want all of the extras, check out the post here!

Jun 27, 2019 • 44:52

Episode 23: Emotional Needs and Emotional Affairs

Today I continue my conversation from the blog about the importance of identifying your and your spouse's emotional needs, and I get into how it can help you resolve conflict. I also address a reader question about how to move forward when you have had an emotional affair with someone outside your marriage, and I also give my boardgame recommendations! Find the link to the emotional needs download, the board game post, and more right here!

Jun 20, 2019 • 29:58

Episode 22: How Sex Can Start Off Badly

I just released the honeymoon course on my blog this week, so Rebecca and I have been talking about how marriages can get off to a great start, or a not so great start. I also address when and how to have conversations about sex while dating or engaged, and I share my thoughts on masturbation. If you want to check out the honeymoon course, click here! And of course, if you want to check out this podcast's blog post, click here!

Jun 13, 2019 • 35:39

Episode 21: Resolving Conflict With 5 Why's

Today, my husband joins me as we talk about how there is often a deeper root to conflict than it first seems. One technique for finding that root is the 5 "why" method. I also address a reader question about the sexual difficulties in her new marriage, and I discuss a revelation I had thanks to a Twitter argument! For more, check out the blog post on To Love Honor and Vacuum!

Jun 6, 2019 • 34:56

Episode 20: Horrible Scorecards for Wives

Some of our readers have shared some sin checklists and score cards for wives that are being used by their churches as resources for marital counselling. They are both hilarious and concerning, so that is what I, Rebecca, and her husband (Connor) are talking about on today's podcast. To read more, and to take a look at these checklists yourself, visit my website here!

May 30, 2019 • 39:51

Episode 19: Sex Ed for Adults

On the blog I have been talking about sex and theology, so I'd like to bring it all together and take a look at what we can learn from the way God made our bodies, marriage, and sex!For the podcast extras, check out the post on my blog hereAnd of course don't forget to check out Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and 9 Thoughts that Can Change Your Marriage!

May 23, 2019 • 33:03

Episode 18: Remebering Rachel Held Evans: Don't Let the Church Drive You Away From Jesus

In the wake of Rachel Held Evans' passing, Rebecca and I talk about her work and ideas about prioritizing authentic living-in-Christ over strict adherence to doctrine. While different doctrines can be a source of division for Christians, Jesus' universal love ties us all together. And all too often, kids fall away from church because doctrine was the centre rather than a relationship with Christ. Check out my blog, To Love Honor and Vacuum, for podcast extras and more great content!

May 9, 2019 • 37:40

Episode 17: Can We Stop with Gender Stereotypes Already?

Today, my daughter and I talk about gender differences and gender stereotypes. God created man and woman, but culture created masculine and feminine. We address how the ways that we look at masculinity and femininity are restrictive and work against inclusivity. And a strict adherence to gender stereotypes can also really damage our marriages. I also talk about whether it is selfish or frivolous to spend time and energy improving your sex life (I think you know my stance). For all this and more,

May 2, 2019 • 40:21

Episode 16: Forgiveness, Healing, and Lust

I don't think we always talk about forgiveness in a way that is actually helpful. Today I talk about what it really means to heal and move past something. And while I talk about forgiveness, I also address some reader question and comments regarding men lusting after other women, and the harm behind the mentality that every man will have this struggle. Join us on the blog for even further discussion at To Love Honor and Vacuum! I would love to hear your thoughts.

Apr 25, 2019 • 32:16

Episode 15: Women and Porn, Creepy Men, and More

We talk plenty about men struggling with porn, but today I address the growing number of women who are struggling with it. Rebecca and I also talk about whether to get involved if your child is dating a non-Christian, and how you can make yourself less of a target for sexual harassment from creeps you don't know. All that on today's podcast and more! Also, don't forget to check out the blog if you want more, at tolovehonorandvacuum.com!

Apr 18, 2019 • 39:30

Episode 14: Seriously? Are Women Actually Stumbling Blocks?

Today I tackle the issue of modesty. We often warn women not to be stumbling blocks for men, and lay the blame for men's lust at their feet, but what if that is actually creating a stumbling block for our women? I also address whether you should fake orgasm every time, and Rebecca and I discuss wedding vows

Apr 11, 2019 • 34:18

Episode 13: Speak Up in Your Marriage

All too often, big problems later on in marriage arise as a result of bad habits and poor communication earlier on. Let's talk about how to fix our marriages before they are broken. Rebecca also joins me to talk about why so many Christian women are having trouble finding a husband, and I address dealing with a spouse's sexual history.

Apr 3, 2019 • 28:19

Episode 12: The Burden of the Household

Everyone is sick today, so we have a short episode of Rebecca and Connor talking about the psychological burden of being in charge of chores. They talk about their own journey through sorting out the division of tasks and responsibility, and give some advice on how you can find a healthier balance in your marriage too!

Mar 29, 2019 • 16:03

Episode 11: A New Take on Resolving Conflict

Today I talk about what I have learned and observed about resolving "conflicts in marriage" and present some insights on a more productive approach. I also talk about some tricks to help you and your spouse communicate love to one another, and Rebecca and I delve into cellphones and the millennial mental health crisis.

Mar 21, 2019 • 37:04

Episode 10: A New Definition of Sex

This week we're finishing up our series on how sex should be mutual--including working towards a new definition of sex. I also talk about what to do when a husband in a high-pressure job is too tired for sex, why you might want to reconsider cosleeping, and then Rebecca comes on to talk about what millennials are getting RIGHT! Check out the podcast extras here.

Mar 14, 2019 • 45:26

Epidode 9: Two Keys to a Successful Marriage

Today I talk about two small but vital things that can change your marriage from the ground up. Rebecca and I later discuss Dr. Ron Welch's book, 10 Choices Successful Couples Make, and I address some comments and questions from my readers about how society talks about sex, and why women often lose their libidos right before marriage. As always, if you want more you can check out the blog post for extras right here!

Mar 7, 2019 • 40:27

Episode 8: Who's being deprived

Today we take a look at the do not deprive verses; have we been using them all wrong? I also speak with my daughter about the risks of having a young youth pastor, as well as the critical differences between Christian counselling and biblical counselling. Check out the post here!

Feb 28, 2019 • 53:10

Episode 7: How Our Bodies Work, Sexual Health, and More!

Keeping with the theme of the month on my blog, we talk about sexual health, pelvic floor exams, testosterone levels, and flipping how sex is typically thought of in Christian communities. Speaking of community, my daughter and I talk about why community among millennials seems to be lacking, and what can be done about it. Check out the blog post here!

Feb 21, 2019 • 45:55

Episode 6: Valentine's Day! Being a Sexually Confident Woman

Today we talk about how to be a sexually confident woman, mutual sex, and more! My daughter joins me once again to talk about how modern marriage is being done differently in our Millennial Marriage Corner, and she addresses some reader comments about the psychological effects of porn. Check out the post here! Go to Covenant Eyes and use the code "TLHV," or use this link to get your first month free!

Feb 14, 2019 • 44:12

Episode 5: Hot and Holy Sex, Control Freaks, and More!

This week we are talking a lot about sex: How to let yourself be in the moment during sex, how to turn off the parts of your brain that distract you from enjoying sex, how to deepen intimacy with your partner, and how and when to try changing things up a bit. I also talk with my daughter about the student loan crisis and how college and university students can combat lifelong debt through their lifestyle! You can also check out the post that accompanies the podcast over at https://tolovehonorand

Feb 7, 2019 • 36:11

Episode 4: You Don't Get to Be Selfish

Today we talk about what it means when you say you regret having kids, why it's important to take our thoughts captive, how and when to rebuild trust after an affair, and more.My daughter and I also take about the issue of millennials falling away from church. Tune in to hear it all, or go check out the post on my site: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2019/01/podcast-you-dont-get-to-be-selfish

Jan 31, 2019 • 39:20

Episode 3: Creating Conditions for Success in Marriage

How can we create conditions for a thriving marriage? Can we actually find more joy by cutting out the time wasters in our life? Does "Love and Respect" actually point us toward Jesus? Today we  will be talking about all this and more, including a guest appearance from my son-in-law and daughter to talk about how they handled video-games in their marriage. To read the post for this episode check out my site, To Love Honor and Vacuum!

Jan 24, 2019 • 36:37

Episode 2: Love and Respect

Today I take a really critical look at the Christian bestselling book "Love and Respect," giving you my opinion on some of the harmful messages it puts forward. Later, I talk about how divorce affects kids, what to do if your husband ogles other women, and I sit down with my daughter to discuss "Tidying Up with Marie Kondo." Check out the post for this episode here!

Jan 17, 2019 • 42:27

Episode 1: Health, Sex, and Wine Culture

Welcome to the new To Love Honor and Vacuum Podcast! Today we are talking about creating healthy habits, the problem with mommy "mommy wine culture," and more! You can listen on my blog at https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2019/01/our-first-to-love-honor-and-vacuum-podcast/

Jan 7, 2019 • 38:14