Self Care IRL

Self Care IRL

Ty Alexander

Welcome to Self Care IRL, a brave space for you to create better wellness experiences. Join me, Ty Alexander, wellness blogger and best selling author of "Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died", as I explore strategies and ideas for becoming your best self. This podcast will inspire you to take life by the horns and enjoy the ride despite your traumas or circumstances.Topics include relationships (especially the one with self), transitions, inner growth, life purpose, spirituality, and whatever else the world throws our way. Sharing the most intimate parts of myself with you...this is Self...

113. A Guide to Real Connection: 8 Ways to Check In Without Being Weird

113. A Guide to Real Connection: 8 Ways to Check In Without Being Weird

In this episode, you and I discuss how to actually be there for your strong friends. And not that surface level 'how are you?' text energy, but the genuine checking-in that your day-ones deserve. We're talking everything from how to celebrate their wins (even when they try to play them off), to respecting their space (without ghosting them), to making it okay for them to not have it all together (because baby, none of us do).Whether you're the friend everyone runs to with their drama, o

Dec 2, 2024 • 16:40

112. My best advice for not crashing out during the holidays

112. My best advice for not crashing out during the holidays

In this episode, we're getting real about maintaining your peace during the most wonderful (and sometimes most chaotic) time of the year. If you're feeling overwhelmed by family expectations, missing loved ones, or trying to make everything Instagram-perfect while your bank account is giving you the side-eye, this episode is your holiday survival guide. From learning the power of saying "nah" to toxic situations, to protecting your coins from those twinkling store displays, we're coveri

Nov 26, 2024 • 25:44

111. A Brutally Honest Guide For People Who Feel Like They're Faking It

111. A Brutally Honest Guide For People Who Feel Like They're Faking It

In this episode, you and I will discuss what it really feels like to look "successful" on the outside while battling imposter syndrome and anxiety on the inside. Through vulnerable conversations and ten practical strategies, we'll explore how to manage the weight of success when your brain keeps telling you you're a fraud. This isn't another toxic positivity pep talk – it's real talk about mental health, success, and learning to trust your journey, even when you're not sure you deserve

Nov 18, 2024 • 19:47

110. Why Being Nice Is Not Your Superpower

110. Why Being Nice Is Not Your Superpower

Today, we're going to have a real conversation about breaking free from these patterns that our mothers and grandmothers before us struggled with too. By the end of this episode, you'll have practical ways to set boundaries without guilt, specific phrases to use when you need to say no (and mean it), and most importantly, permission to put yourself first. Because contrary to what society might have told us, your well-being is not up for negotiation.RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - htt

Oct 28, 2024 • 23:37

109. Click here if you're always the one apologizing in your friendships

109. Click here if you're always the one apologizing in your friendships

Today's episode is all about knowing when to fight for a friendship and when to love yourself enough to walk away. We're talking toxic dynamics, accountability (or the lack thereof), and how to know if your bestie is still your bestie or if they've become your frenemy.RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challengeMy debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is availa

Oct 16, 2024 • 17:09

108. High-Maintenance vs. Low-Maintenance Friendships: What’s the Difference?

108. High-Maintenance vs. Low-Maintenance Friendships: What’s the Difference?

Friendship is a beautiful thing, but let’s be real—some friendships can be more work than others. We’ve all had those friends who need constant check-ins, and then there are the ones you don’t talk to for weeks (or months) and pick up right where you left off like no time has passed. Both types of friendships have their pros and cons, and understanding where they fall on the maintenance spectrum can save you a lot of headaches. Let’s dive into what makes a friendship high-maintenance ve

Oct 1, 2024 • 28:45

107. Let’s Talk About Overcoming Unresolved Trauma

107. Let’s Talk About Overcoming Unresolved Trauma

Today, you and I are going to discuss how to BEGIN to overcome unresolved trauma. Now I say begin because I recognize that (1) this isn't a one and done kinda of practice (2) with everything great and worthy you must at least just start. So this is the beginning for us. Now. This is a heavy topic, but I promise we will tackle it together. We might need to make this a series or even a live podcast with some special guests. Let me know on social media or in the reviews section.RESOURCES:M

Aug 6, 2024 • 30:17

106. Listen to this if you need help managing your emotions

106. Listen to this if you need help managing your emotions

We all know that emotions can sometimes feel like a rollercoaster, am I right? One moment you're on top of the world, and the next, you're down in the dumps. But don't worry, I've got your back. Today, we're diving into the topic of managing our emotions effectively.RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challengeMy debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is availabl

Jul 9, 2024 • 22:59

105. The Hidden Dangers of Silent Anger

105. The Hidden Dangers of Silent Anger

Ever find yourself just fuming inside, putting on that “I’m totally fine” mask for the world while internally you're about to combust? Yeah, I’ve been there too. It’s like this weird, toxic cocktail of simmering rage and pretending everything’s peachy keen. But let’s spill the tea: being silently pissed off is not the move. It’s actually super damaging to your mental health. So in this episode you and I are going to dive into why keeping all that anger bottled up is a big no-no.RESOURCE

Jul 9, 2024 • 20:16

104. IDK who needs to hear this but... (part 3)

104. IDK who needs to hear this but... (part 3)

Life can be a whirlwind of responsibilities, expectations, and the constant push to keep moving forward. In the midst of it all, it's easy to forget the simple truths that can make our journey a bit lighter and our hearts a bit fuller. That's why we're here to remind you of a few things you might need to hear today. In today's episode I am giving you 15 cheeky, relatable messages to give you a little boost, a chuckle, and perhaps a moment of reflection.RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal -

Jun 15, 2024 • 19:30

103. What to Do When Someone Doesn't Accept Your Apology

103. What to Do When Someone Doesn't Accept Your Apology

We've all been there. You mess up, you apologize, and then… crickets. Or worse, outright rejection. It's like a punch to the gut. In today's episode you and I are going to discuss what to do when someone doesn't accept your apology and how to handle it with grace, dignity, and a sprinkle of self-love.RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challengeMy debut book, Things I Wish I K

Jun 13, 2024 • 15:38

102. Things you can do to improve your relationship with your siblings

102. Things you can do to improve your relationship with your siblings

Even though two children in the same household can have very different experiences of childhood, my brother is the only person who will ever understand what it was like to grow up in my parents' house. In this episode, I give you some insight on how I'm recommitting to a better relationship with my brother.RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challengeMy debut book, Things I Wi

Jun 11, 2024 • 24:24

101. Lemme read you this email I got (it's about depression btw)

101. Lemme read you this email I got (it's about depression btw)

Someone on Twitter recently reminded me that I use to be on Beyonce’s Internet really writing. Time and tasks have me missing that part of me. But I actually read my own words on this blog post and I sobbed. I also took a few deep breaths of relief because I know I am not in this dark place anymore.I wrote this blog post about grief in 2014 but I felt like it deserved a new space to breathe. After you listen it let’s chat (hoping to find my people).RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - htt

May 13, 2024 • 21:57

100. Wow we really cleared "a hunnit" episodes + our origin story

100. Wow we really cleared "a hunnit" episodes + our origin story

WOW! A hunnit episodes later and you are still here. Clap it up for yourselves while I take you down memory lane. This episode is our origin story (I rambled, sorry). Enjoy. RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challengeMy debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8hCONNECT WITH US:Join in on my intimate wr

May 9, 2024 • 31:48

99. These are the 5 manifesting techniques I'm using to create my dream life

99. These are the 5 manifesting techniques I'm using to create my dream life

Manifesting is a larger umbrella term for a lot of aspects of making your goals a reality. So in today's episode you and I are gonna discuss how you can get better at manifesting your dreams and goals.RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challengeMy debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8hCONNECT WITH U

Apr 15, 2024 • 18:21

98. My journey to reframing my sadness

98. My journey to reframing my sadness

In today's episode, I am going to give you some suggestions on how we can reframe our sadness. Now all of these suggestions are under the assumption that you have already sat with the sadness, you have reconciled that you are sad, you have determined why you are sad, and you are now ready to reframe it. This absolutely does that mean that the minute that you begin to feel sadness rising that you "quote unquote" reframe it. Because now, that is avoidance and we're not doing that.RESOURCE

Mar 26, 2024 • 21:21

97. Lessons I Learned From The Wendy Williams Docuseries

97. Lessons I Learned From The Wendy Williams Docuseries

I watched the two part docuseries, Where Is Wendy Williams? and I am honestly a bit floored. Which is why it's now two weeks later and I am just gathering my thoughts. It was not what I expected. I was geeked to see Wendy cut up in the ways only she can. Messy, cheeky, and semi rude. But instead we got a raw, unfiltered, and highly vulnerable depiction of the media legend.In this episode I unpack some of the lessons I learned from watching, Where Is Wendy Williams? .RESOURCES:Make It Ha

Mar 11, 2024 • 30:07

96. How to have a relationship with a toxic parent

96. How to have a relationship with a toxic parent

In today's episode I am going to tell you a quick story of what lead me to a 30 day break and then I'm going to give you/me some guidance on how to navigate your relationship with the toxic parent.RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challengeMy debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8hCONNECT WITH US:Jo

Feb 5, 2024 • 22:04

95. How To Have A Relationship (Or Not) With Your Emotionally Immature friend

95. How To Have A Relationship (Or Not) With Your Emotionally Immature friend

In today's episode you and I going to dive into how to handle this with the grace. From setting boundaries to understanding when to take a step back, I’ve got you covered. RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challengeMy debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8hCONNECT WITH US:Join in on my intimate writ

Jan 25, 2024 • 23:53

94. IDK who needs to hear this but... (part 2)

94. IDK who needs to hear this but... (part 2)

To celebrate the end of 2023 this episode is back to back gem-worthy memes (remixed of course). You might wanna grab a journal and pen to take notes.RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challengeMy debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8hCONNECT WITH US:Join in on my intimate writings on newsletter - ht

Dec 19, 2023 • 14:42

93. All the reasons you need to start trying new things in 2024

93. All the reasons you need to start trying new things in 2024

Are you tiptoeing around the edge of your comfort zone, itching for a splash of excitement? In today's episode you and I are going to discuss a few reasons why you gotta start trying new things.RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challengeMy debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8hCONNECT WITH US:Join

Dec 18, 2023 • 12:10

92. 7 Pieces of Advice That Will Change Your Mentality

92. 7 Pieces of Advice That Will Change Your Mentality

In today's episode, I'm giving you my 7 Pieces of Advice That Will Change Your Mentality. This is going to be like your secret roadmap that leads to an incredible treasure, but here's the twist – the treasure is a you being a more happier, more bomb version of you.RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challengeMy debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available

Dec 4, 2023 • 13:37

91. What is Toxic Positivity and how can you stop doing it?

91. What is Toxic Positivity and how can you stop doing it?

Today you and I are tackling a topic that's super trendy on Beyonce's Internet and often flies under the emotional radars. Toxic Positivity. I know. And I can almost hear you from here, saying, "Hold up, positivity is toxic? Sometimes, yes. Stick with me, because this is a game-changer in how we support ourselves and our tribe!EPISODE LINKS:All the ways you can support someone without giving suggestions - https://tyalexander.co/podcast/all-the-ways-you-can-support-someone-without-giving

Nov 27, 2023 • 14:23

90. All the red flags you might be ignoring in your Friendship

90. All the red flags you might be ignoring in your Friendship

In today's episode, we're diving into the often overlooked red flags in friendships. We'll explore everything from one-sided efforts to disrespect of boundaries, helping you recognize and address the subtle yet significant signs that may indicate it's time to reassess your relationships.RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challengeMy debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My

Nov 14, 2023 • 28:26

89. Listen to this to get better at manifesting your dreams

89. Listen to this to get better at manifesting your dreams

In this week's episode I tell you the story of how I manifested being a guest DJ on The Estelle Show on Apple Music. Of course I also give you a few tips on how you can start manifesting them wild dreams of yours.RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challengeMy debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8hCO

Oct 30, 2023 • 31:27

88. Three things grief does to us all

88. Three things grief does to us all

In my next book I’m teaching you how to choose gratitude over grief. There are lots of ways that you can do this but because I love you I'm gonna give you 3 tried and true top tier things that you need to start incorporating into your wellness work today.RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challengeMy debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in booksto

Oct 18, 2023 • 21:40

87. Life lessons I learned from deejaying NYFW

87. Life lessons I learned from deejaying NYFW

NYFW came and went but these lessons are here to stay. In this week's episode I'm sharing 3 life lessons I've learned from deejaying.RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challengeMy debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8hCONNECT WITH US:Join in on my intimate writings on newsletter - https://tyalx.com/

Sep 26, 2023 • 23:51

86. All the ways you can unlock the potential of your emotional intelligence

86. All the ways you can unlock the potential of your emotional intelligence

Having a high level of emotional intelligence can help you navigate the ups and downs of life more effectively. And I promise you when you spend more time developing your emotional intelligence you will improve your relationships. It will boost your overall well-being.In today's episode, you and I chat about some techniques that will unlock the true power of your emotional intelligence.EPISODE LINKS:Episode 11: How to Set Clear MFing Boundarieshttps://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/11-ho

Sep 19, 2023 • 23:30

85. IDK who needs to hear this but... (part 1)

85. IDK who needs to hear this but... (part 1)

This episode is filled with a bunch of gems I tell myself daily. You might wanna grab a journal and pen to take notes.RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challengeMy debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8hCONNECT WITH US:Join in on my intimate writings on newsletter - https://tyalx.com/mentalnotesAlso

Aug 21, 2023 • 17:37

84. All the ways you can support someone without giving suggestions

84. All the ways you can support someone without giving suggestions

Supporting someone doesn't always mean providing solutions or suggestions. In this week's episode you and I discuss 8 ways you can support someone without giving suggestions.RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challengeMy debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8hCONNECT WITH US:Join in on my intimate wr

Aug 14, 2023 • 18:32

83. Nine things you need to do to move forward

83. Nine things you need to do to move forward

In today's episode you and I are going to discuss some things we need to do to move forward. Nine to be exact. Before we get into though I wanna remind you (and me) to be gentle with yourself. Be kind. Learn the lesson as many times as you need to. Also. Today's episode is just as much for me as it may be for you. So excuse the somber tone as I am clutching for happiness and joy. As I like to remind you I am on this journey with you. We side by side. We gone learn it together fren!RESOU

Jul 19, 2023 • 22:30

82. What to do when your loved one is transitioning (to death)

82. What to do when your loved one is transitioning (to death)

In today's episode, I'll be sharing some general tips and insights to help you navigate this challenging time, but please remember to trust your own instincts and do what feels right for you and your loved ones.RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challengeMy debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8hCONN

Jun 20, 2023 • 34:59

81. Understanding Anxiety: Recognizing Signs and Taking Control

81. Understanding Anxiety: Recognizing Signs and Taking Control

In today's episode you and I are going to dive deep into the world of anxiety and we going to explore the signs and symptoms. We'll also uncover the hidden triggers that set anxiety into fast motion. And I am going to do my best to equip you with a stockpile of self-help techniques and coping strategies that will serve you on your journey to building better wellness experiences.EPISODE LINKS:Episode 48 - How To Journal Consistently To Fight Off Negative Thoughts & Anxiety Episode 11

May 23, 2023 • 30:51

80. All the ways I’m living a soft life… join me?

80. All the ways I’m living a soft life… join me?

In this episode you and I are going to discuss how to live a softer life. It's time for us to take a step back from this chaos we call life and focus a lot more on what truly matters – us! We are going to create a life that feels more calm, centered, and balanced, no matter what challenges may come our way.RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challengeMy debut book, Things I Wi

May 9, 2023 • 24:57

79. Here's what you need to do when your parents' best wasn't good enough.

79. Here's what you need to do when your parents' best wasn't good enough.

In this episode you and I are going to take a dive deep into our relationships with our parents and the impact they've had on our lives. Sometimes, despite their best efforts, our parents' actions and decisions just didn't cut it. I'm going to share 15 emotionally intelligent solutions to help you heal and move forward. Even if your parent isn't a willing participant.RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - h

Apr 24, 2023 • 26:14

78. Ten polite ways to say no to someone

78. Ten polite ways to say no to someone

Today, we're going to talk about one of the most powerful tools in your self-care toolkit - the power of saying no. Many of us struggle with saying no, whether it's because we're afraid of hurting someone's feelings or because we feel like we have to say yes to everythingSo in today's episode, we'll explore 10 ways to say no politely and respectfully, with a focus on mindfulness, optimism, and personal growth.RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-

Apr 11, 2023 • 20:51

77. Listen to this episode for realistic work life balance tips

77. Listen to this episode for realistic work life balance tips

I got another DM this morning and since I had no clue of what you and I were gonna chat about today I figured why not. In this episode you and I are going to discuss 10 ways to achieve a very realistic and tangible work-life balance that you can actually sustain.RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challengeMy debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in

Mar 20, 2023 • 22:31

76. How to build your friendship circle from scratch

76. How to build your friendship circle from scratch

In today's episode you and I are going to discuss 10 ways you can build your friendship circle from scratch. Now, we all know how important it is to have a solid group of homies in our lives. So whether you are struggling to find your click in high school, or you're new in town, perhaps you are just starting college, or simply looking to expand your social circle, then this episode is for you.RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 D

Mar 14, 2023 • 25:04

75. Ten ways to tell your friends the truth

75. Ten ways to tell your friends the truth

In this week's episode you and I are going to discuss some practical and effective ways to tell your friends the truth, no matter how difficult it may seem.RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challengeMy debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8hCONNECT WITH US:Join in on my intimate writings on newslett

Feb 27, 2023 • 16:51

74. Here's what grief sounds like (also you are not alone)

74. Here's what grief sounds like (also you are not alone)

In this week's episode I share a reader's DM to me. I talk a lot about grief but today I want you to hear how it sounds. But more importantly I want you to listen in to know that you are not alone. RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challengeMy debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8hCONNECT WITH US:J

Feb 15, 2023 • 25:02

73. Do these things to make your year different than last year

73. Do these things to make your year different than last year

In this week's episode you and I are going discuss (in no particular order) ways that we can really slow this year down to get to most out of it and not feel a consistent burden of "OMG I am forever behind!".RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challengeMy debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8hCONNECT

Feb 6, 2023 • 23:17

72. (Guided Meditation): Visiting your safe space

72. (Guided Meditation): Visiting your safe space

The folks asked for a guided meditation (you say you like my voice). So here is my second mediation. Be sure to leave and comment and share if you loved it. This one will help you find your mental safe space. Maybe there will be more?! RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challengeMy debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - ht

Dec 12, 2022 • 16:43

71. 8 acts of self respect to start your new year

71. 8 acts of self respect to start your new year

I hope you've managed to curate your little space with people who you can learn from or folks that make you laugh or bring you joy. One of my favorite people to follow is Dr Nicole LePera. Her handle is the.holistic.psychologist on IG. She talks a lot about healing and gives examples of language for a lot of the common but taboo emotional things that we deal with daily. Recently she made a meme about respect and I found it to be so simple but profound so I wanted to expand on it.So in t

Dec 6, 2022 • 27:09

70. (Guided Meditation): Letting Go Of Your Day With Gratitude

70. (Guided Meditation): Letting Go Of Your Day With Gratitude

The folks asked for a guided meditation (you say you like my voice). So here is my first mediation. Be sure to leave and comment and share if you loved it. This one will help you find gratitude. Maybe there will be more?!RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challengeMy debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3

Nov 28, 2022 • 12:25

69. Ways To Cope With A Terminally Ill Parent

69. Ways To Cope With A Terminally Ill Parent

In today's episode I give 3 gems necessary to cope with a terminally ill parent (in a healthy way). RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challengeMy debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8hCONNECT WITH US:Join in on my intimate writings on newsletter - https://tyalx.com/mentalnotesAlso. Consider subscri

Nov 23, 2022 • 19:40

68. The 8 small steps you need to start your self-improvement journey

68. The 8 small steps you need to start your self-improvement journey

In today's episode, I chat about a quick method I saw circulating on Beyonce's internet on how to start small to improve yourself. And even added few steps because... improvement.RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challengeMy debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8hCONNECT WITH US:Join in on my intima

Nov 14, 2022 • 31:30

67. This one is for you if you're ever watched a show bubble snot crying

67. This one is for you if you're ever watched a show bubble snot crying

Today's episode is a bit different from the norm. I am unpacking my emotions after binging the Netflix series, From Scratch. This might be the emotional vomit we all needed. RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challengeMy debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8hCONNECT WITH US:Join in on my intimate wr

Nov 10, 2022 • 34:58

66. Listen to this if you are a overthinker

66. Listen to this if you are a overthinker

In today's episode you and I are going to discuss 8 ways we can stop our overthinking dead in its tracks.RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challengeMy debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8hCONNECT WITH US:Join in on my intimate writings on newsletter - https://tyalx.com/mentalnotesAlso. Consider su

Nov 1, 2022 • 19:04

65. Habits you have that you need to break TODAY!

65. Habits you have that you need to break TODAY!

In today's episode, you and I are going to discuss what current habits should you break, like right now, if you truly want to be better, for tomorrow.RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challengeMy debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8hCONNECT WITH US:Join in on my intimate writings on newsletter - h

Oct 26, 2022 • 20:23

64. Things that will help battle your seasonal depression, 15 to be exact!

64. Things that will help battle your seasonal depression, 15 to be exact!

In this episode you and and I are going to discuss things that we can do to manage and maneuver around seasonal depression.RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challengeMy debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8hCONNECT WITH US:Join in on my intimate writings on newsletter - https://tyalx.com/mentalnote

Oct 11, 2022 • 25:34

63. Hysterectomy, one year later.

63. Hysterectomy, one year later.

In today's episode, I will update you on how my body feels now post hysterectomy and if I have any regrets, one year later.RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challengeMy debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8hCONNECT WITH US:Join in on my intimate writings on newsletter - https://tyalx.com/mentalnote

Oct 4, 2022 • 32:19

62. Everything you need to know about finding the perfect therapist

62. Everything you need to know about finding the perfect therapist

In today’s episode you and I are going to discuss some of the strategies that can help you narrow down—or expand—your options and pick a therapist who is likely to be a perfect match for you.Links to online directories: 1. Black Virtual Wellness Directory2. Therapy for Black Girls3. Zencare4. Psychology Today 5. Open Paths Counseling Center 6. BetterHelp 7. Headway RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - htt

Aug 9, 2022 • 27:30

61. The best habits you should still hold onto post-pandemic

61. The best habits you should still hold onto post-pandemic

In this episode you and I are going to discuss some crucial habits you should be holding onto when normal life resumes, whenever that will be. RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challengeMy debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8hCONNECT WITH US:Join in on my intimate writings on newsletter - https://

Aug 4, 2022 • 25:01

60. These 5 things are standing in your way of grief recovery

60. These 5 things are standing in your way of grief recovery

In today’s episode you and I are going to discuss a few things that are standing in the way of your grief recovery and I’m going to give you some strategies you can apply today if you’re finding it difficult to get through your grief on your own.RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challengeMy debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores every

Jul 27, 2022 • 21:21

59. How you can learn the art of surrender + welcome peace daily

59. How you can learn the art of surrender + welcome peace daily

Surrender can be very scary to us. It is the opposite of what we are constantly trying to do — and that is gain control. Over everything. We are constantly seeking control. In this episode you and I are going to discuss some ways you can let grace infuse your way of thinking and how we can take small steps to begin to shift our orientation towards surrender.RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tya

Jul 25, 2022 • 18:18

58. A bunch of steps to texting someone you haven’t talked to in a long time

58. A bunch of steps to texting someone you haven’t talked to in a long time

Because we all know that text messages can open the door for more meaningful interactions with someone, or even help repair and rebuild relationships with people you’ve grown apart from, today’s episode will detail step by step how to text someone you haven’t talked to in a long time.RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challengeMy debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom

Jul 15, 2022 • 25:23

57. Reading from my book, Chapter 3: The Art Of Losing

57. Reading from my book, Chapter 3: The Art Of Losing

Reflection has been my biggest healing tool. While thinking about how far I've come, I reminisced on my first book Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died. This was the start of my Self Care IRL journey. In today's episode, I read chapter 3 from her book - The Art Of Losing. RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challengeMy debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is

Jul 8, 2022 • 30:09

56. Ways to release the "strong friend" behavior + why you should be checking in on "your" people

56. Ways to release the "strong friend" behavior + why you should be checking in on "your" people

In today’s episode you and I are going to discuss a few really powerful reasons why you should be checking in on your strong friend and ways to release the strong friend behavior. RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challengeMy debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8hCONNECT WITH US:Join in on my intim

Jun 30, 2022 • 23:49

55. Roe vs Wade - We are screwed, now what?

55. Roe vs Wade - We are screwed, now what?

In today’s episode you and I are going to chat about the radical care we need to implement post Roe vs Wade reversal and the resources you can support if advocacy is on your heart. EPISODE LINKS: AOC Instagram post on how we got here & what's next - https://www.instagram.com/p/CfRWbdkgPri/Organizations to support: https://www.ineedana.com/advocacyPodcasts on this topic: The Science Vs podcast - The Abortion Underground https://open.spotify.com/episode/3t58sDxSWwPNoVMsfc6wAh?si=Hf2qk

Jun 30, 2022 • 25:35

54. How to protect yourself from energy vampires

54. How to protect yourself from energy vampires

In today’s episode, I share with you how you can also protect your energy. I break down exactly what energy I mean. And of course I will give you a few gems that will help you keep your energy at “so fresh and so clean” level at all times. RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challengeMy debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere

Jun 16, 2022 • 25:20

53. Learn Your Emotional Buttons And How To Lessen Their Impact

53. Learn Your Emotional Buttons And How To Lessen Their Impact

In today’s episode you and I are going to discuss how to disconnect your emotional buttons with a few strategies that I often lean on. RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challengeMy debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8hCONNECT WITH US:Join in on my intimate writings on newsletter - https://tyalx.co

Jun 15, 2022 • 21:58

52. How this Award Winning Producer is setting boundaries, dating with purpose, and leaning in for help

52. How this Award Winning Producer is setting boundaries, dating with purpose, and leaning in for help

In this episode, I invited good good girlfriend of the show and Sr Producer of Digital for The Real, Krystal Franklin. We chat about setting boundaries (because there is 50 ways to skin that cat), dating with purpose, and leaning in for help.RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challengeMy debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywher

May 26, 2022 • 1:13:29

51. 11 Things That You Forget Affect Your Mood (In Big Ways)

51. 11 Things That You Forget Affect Your Mood (In Big Ways)

In this episode you and I are going to discuss how understanding the small, day-to-day experiences that impact your mood is crucial to your mental wellness.RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challengeMy debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8hCONNECT WITH US:Join in on my intimate writings on newslett

May 16, 2022 • 20:51

50. Life Lessons I've Learned From Podcasting + Happy 50th Episode to Us!

50. Life Lessons I've Learned From Podcasting + Happy 50th Episode to Us!

OMG! Wow. We made it sis. 50 episodes of Self Care IRL in the books. In this episode you and I discuss this magnificent milestone in relation to real life goals and dreams because duh... this is Self Care IRL. Enjoy.RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challengeMy debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8

Apr 25, 2022 • 22:43

49. 8 Bedtime Rituals for your Mind & Body

49. 8 Bedtime Rituals for your Mind & Body

In today’s episode you and I are going to learn how to create simple bedtime rituals that will have you waking up every morning feeling refreshed and restored.RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challengeMy debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8hCONNECT WITH US:Join in on my intimate writings on newsl

Apr 13, 2022 • 17:28

48. How To Journal Consistently To Fight Off Negative Thoughts & Anxiety

48. How To Journal Consistently To Fight Off Negative Thoughts & Anxiety

In this episode you and I are going to discuss some things you can do to help you develop your own individual style so that you can start a journal and stick with it.RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challengeMy debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8hCONNECT WITH US:Join in on my intimate writings o

Apr 5, 2022 • 14:09

47. Should You Just Ignore Your Negative Emotions?

47. Should You Just Ignore Your Negative Emotions?

In this episode you and I are going to discuss negative emotions and what you can do about them. RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challengeMy debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8hCONNECT WITH US:Join in on my intimate writings on newsletter - https://tyalx.com/mentalnotesAlso. Consider subscribin

Apr 5, 2022 • 22:56

46. The Oscar Night Feud: Gaslighting, Protecting Black Women + More

46. The Oscar Night Feud: Gaslighting, Protecting Black Women + More

It's the day after the Oscars Night Feud between Will & Chris and I have something to say about. But in this week's episode I bring back friend of the show and trauma therapist, Kobe Campbell for her expert opinion and a little therapy unpacking session. Listen in for the gems.RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challengeMy debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Di

Mar 28, 2022 • 48:07

45. Healing While Black with Kobe Campbell (LIVE PODCAST)

45. Healing While Black with Kobe Campbell (LIVE PODCAST)

We have a super special treat for you. I hosted our second live podcast with trauma therapist and host of The Healing Circle Podcast, Kobe Campbell.In front of a live virtual audience, Kobe and I spoke about Christian therapy and what it is, how to enforce your boundaries, abusive cycles in friendships and how to recognize them, and so much more. For those of you who were able to join live, you know THIS was a good one. So good that it’ll be something you listen back to over and over fo

Mar 16, 2022 • 1:19:36

44. 6 Ways to Communicate Better with Your Partner

44. 6 Ways to Communicate Better with Your Partner

Communication is very vital to any long and healthy relationship but especially between you and your partner. But it can be a difficult skill to master. In this episode you and I discuss a few strategies we all can use to communicate better with our partners.RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challengeMy debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in boo

Mar 7, 2022 • 18:35

43. 6 Techniques That Help You Manage Your Emotions

43. 6 Techniques That Help You Manage Your Emotions

In today’s episode, you and I discuss how to work WITH your emotions instead of letting them get the best of you. I share 6 of my go-to techniques I use to better manage my emotions.RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challengeMy debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8hCONNECT WITH US:Join in on my int

Mar 3, 2022 • 15:51

42. 10 Habits of the Happiest People You Know

42. 10 Habits of the Happiest People You Know

This might be the episode where you need your pen and paper so feel free to put me on pause, grab your things, and come right back. In today’s episode you and I will discuss 10 habits of the happiest people that you know. RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challengeMy debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/

Mar 1, 2022 • 25:49

41. All the reasons we need to stop saying, 'I’m sorry for your loss' + 8 Alternatives!

41. All the reasons we need to stop saying, 'I’m sorry for your loss' + 8 Alternatives!

In this episode, I explore some of the reasons why I have an advanced dislike for the phrases, “sorry for your loss” and “my condolences”. I also give you some alternative responses for when someone you love or even someone you barely know is dealing with death. RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challengeMy debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in

Feb 23, 2022 • 26:52

40. How to choose your beliefs and values over money

40. How to choose your beliefs and values over money

This episode is a little bit of a story time. Don't worry it's also layered with the same gems you expect at the end. At the end of the quick story time, I give you some ways that you can choose your beliefs and values over the money that is dangled in front of you.RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challengeMy debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available

Feb 9, 2022 • 24:54

39. 14 Ways to Strengthen Your Friendships

39. 14 Ways to Strengthen Your Friendships

In today’s episode, I chat about the ways we can strengthen our friendships including the intimate ones that turn into relationships.RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challengeMy debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8hCONNECT WITH US:Join in on my intimate writings on newsletter - https://tyalx.com/

Feb 1, 2022 • 22:00

38. Things your strong friend will never admit

38. Things your strong friend will never admit

Your strong friend is strong for a reason. In this episode, you and I discuss some things they will never admit to you.RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challengeMy debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8hCONNECT WITH US:Join in on my intimate writings on newsletter - https://tyalx.com/mentalnotesAls

Jan 31, 2022 • 23:17

37. 13 Healing Things to Do When a Friendship Ends

37. 13 Healing Things to Do When a Friendship Ends

Because even though friendships are really essential to our wellbeing, we often fail to give them the attention they deserve. In this episode, you and I are going to discuss the things we can do to help heal after our friendships end.RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challengeMy debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - http

Jan 20, 2022 • 24:17

36. How To Manage Your Mental Chatter

36. How To Manage Your Mental Chatter

We all have this constant companion that never shuts up. The mental chatter in our heads starts from the time we wake up and carries on until we eventually fall to sleep. And not surprisingly, our mind is even active during our dreams.In today’s episode, you and I will explore a few tactics that we can use to manage our mental chatter.RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challe

Jan 14, 2022 • 21:36

35. How to Reconnect With a Friend After a Falling Out

35. How to Reconnect With a Friend After a Falling Out

In today’s episode, I explore how to reconnect with a friend after a falling out. Press play to find out where to start and what to say.RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challengeMy debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8hCONNECT WITH US:Join in on my intimate writings on newsletter - https://tyalx.c

Dec 20, 2021 • 24:44

34. The 15 Lies That We Need To Stop Telling Ourselves

34. The 15 Lies That We Need To Stop Telling Ourselves

December brings us all moments of reflection as we prepare for the new year. Through the years, and TBH therapy, I have learned that reflection requires us to do the deepest dive known to man into our souls. But deep dives require an honest thought. In this episode, I explore 15 lies that we need to stop telling ourselves.RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challengeMy debut b

Dec 13, 2021 • 29:09

33. 8 Strategies to Help You Choose Happiness in Times of Grief

33. 8 Strategies to Help You Choose Happiness in Times of Grief

Everyone is forced to deal with grief at some point in their life. It’s challenging, but taking these steps will both lessen the grief and enable you to get something positive from it. In this episode, I share the 8 strategies I've learned that have helped me choose happiness in my grieving journey.RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challengeMy debut book, Things I Wish I Kne

Dec 6, 2021 • 23:15

32. 13 Secrets to Supporting Someone Who Is Grieving

32. 13 Secrets to Supporting Someone Who Is Grieving

Skillful support can ease the burden on family and friends who are grieving. In this episode, I share 13 secrets to supporting someone who is grieving. Practice these techniques often so you’ll be prepared to help them in their time of need.RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challengeMy debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere

Nov 28, 2021 • 34:15

31. You Are In Control with Special Guest Actress, Malinda Williams

31. You Are In Control with Special Guest Actress, Malinda Williams

This week on the podcast, I chat with the lovely Malinda Williams. You know her as an incredible actress and producer, but this week you are going to get to know her a little better. We explore the necessity of grief, the power of healing, and the importance of recognizing our greatness.RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challengeMy debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My

Nov 21, 2021 • 51:39

30. So I had a hysterectomy and it wasn't what I expected (Part 3)

30. So I had a hysterectomy and it wasn't what I expected (Part 3)

This is the final episode in my hysterectomy experience. I'm sharing what happens when I was released from the hospital, the miracle that saved me when I got home, and a few real life testimonies from you, my Internet besties.RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challengeMy debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn

Nov 14, 2021 • 45:25

29. So I had a hysterectomy and it wasn't what I expected (Part 2)

29. So I had a hysterectomy and it wasn't what I expected (Part 2)

In today's episode we learn more details about what was supposed to be a routine hysterectomy for me, my semi-horrific hospital stay, and why narcotics scare me to pieces.RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challengeMy debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8hCONNECT WITH US:Join in on my intimate writi

Nov 7, 2021 • 29:45

28. So I had a hysterectomy and it wasn't what I expected (Part 1)

28. So I had a hysterectomy and it wasn't what I expected (Part 1)

If you follow me on Instagram then you know I've been down for a month after having a hysterectomy. The process was long and not what I expected at all. Here's my story. Well part 1 at least.RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challengeMy debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8hCONNECT WITH US:Join in

Oct 31, 2021 • 35:25

27. Listen To This Episode If You Have People-Pleasing Tendencies

27. Listen To This Episode If You Have People-Pleasing Tendencies

In today’s episode, I am going to convince you that trying to make others happy at your own expense is a poor way to spend your time and energy. If you’re looking out for everyone else, who has your best interests at heart?RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challengeMy debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to

Oct 10, 2021 • 16:41

26. Do Your Words Hurt or Heal? The Language of Mending Feelings

26. Do Your Words Hurt or Heal? The Language of Mending Feelings

In today’s episode I explore some wonderful words to use often and generously with the people you love. These terms usually make others feel great and will go a long way towards mending any broken relationships that require a little fixing.RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challengeMy debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere

Oct 3, 2021 • 14:00

Soul Dump 2. Annoying Dad Trauma (BONUS AUDIO)

Soul Dump 2. Annoying Dad Trauma (BONUS AUDIO)

Can't believe we are sharing this, but hey. Here is Soul Dump #2. Send Ty a message on social if you can relate.

Sep 29, 2021 • 12:10

25. How To Deal With Your Needy Friends

25. How To Deal With Your Needy Friends

Wow. So we're talking about needs today in this episode! I break down steps to consider when dealing with your needy friend that can help you build a healthier and happier relationship.RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challengeMy debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8hCONNECT WITH US:Join in on my

Sep 26, 2021 • 19:17

24. Behind The Music Inside Our Wellness with DJ AK47 (LIVE EPISODE)

24. Behind The Music Inside Our Wellness with DJ AK47 (LIVE EPISODE)

For our second live podcast, I'm chatting with fellow vibe curator, The Real DJ AK47. With incredibly similar stories, we celebrate our mothers with a deep dive into our love, reflecting on the loss, and unpacking the tools for healing and moving through grief.RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challengeMy debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in b

Sep 19, 2021 • 1:25:12

23. Waiting for an Apology? Do This Instead!

23. Waiting for an Apology? Do This Instead!

In today’s episode, we’re going to learn why it’s wiser to move on instead of waiting for an apology, and how you can make the first move. Listen in for 9 must-hear tips on forgiveness.RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challengeMy debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8hCONNECT WITH US:Join in on my

Jun 27, 2021 • 21:04

Bonus Ep 1 - Soul Dump: Due process was served, not Justice

Bonus Ep 1 - Soul Dump: Due process was served, not Justice

Soul Dumps will be my in the moment really quick mental vomits or confessions about current events and life happenings. I typically do this on my Instagram Stories but I thought they might be powerful as quick listens for you here on the podcast. I don’t know how many I will do or how often but if you’re loving them make sure you sent me a note on social. Enjoy episode 1.

Apr 21, 2021 • 4:59

22. Where The Healing Resides with Kobe Campbell (LIVE EPISODE)

22. Where The Healing Resides with Kobe Campbell (LIVE EPISODE)

We kicked off our first LIVE podcast event with trauma therapist and host of The Healing Circle Podcast, Kobe Campbell.We spoke all about how to avoid ghosting someone, how to understand and heal from past trauma, and how to effectively set and maintain boundaries. For those of you who were able to join live, you know it was a good one. So good that this will be an episode you bookmark to listen over and over again.RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/ma

Feb 9, 2021 • 1:14:05

21. 6 Habits That Are Preventing Your Happiness

21. 6 Habits That Are Preventing Your Happiness

In this week's episode, I talk you through some hidden habits that you might be doing every day, making it very unlikely you'll experience any happiness.RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challengeMy debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8hCONNECT WITH US:Join in on my intimate writings on newsletter

Aug 16, 2020 • 12:20

20. How to Stop Feeling Guilty For Every Damn Thing

20. How to Stop Feeling Guilty For Every Damn Thing

In today’s episode, I teach you how to kick the butt of those unnecessary or excessive feelings of guilt that can also be a psychological burden interfering with your emotions.RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challengeMy debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8hCONNECT WITH US:Join in on my intimate

Aug 9, 2020 • 14:32

19. Former 'ANTM' Model Eugena Washington on Loving Our Bodies, Healing From Dad Trauma + More

19. Former 'ANTM' Model Eugena Washington on Loving Our Bodies, Healing From Dad Trauma + More

Joining me this week for a fruitful healing discussion is model, actress, writer, and beauty enthusiast Eugena Washington. Eugena, like many of us, is trying to cope with the scam that is adulthood all while breaking generational curses. Her mission is to show women how to love themselves intimately and unconditionally by sharing her own personal journey of love and acceptance.We collaborated with Mae Jones Magazine to feature Eugena as she is also the July editorial model for Mae Jones

Jul 14, 2020 • 48:36

18. The Unpacking Of Our Black Names

18. The Unpacking Of Our Black Names

Following up from last week's revealing episode,I am joined by my good good girlfriend and fellow content creator LaVondra Shinholster of Typical BlaQueen. Listen in as we swipe stories filled with trauma, laughter, and awakening.RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challengeMy debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://

Jun 21, 2020 • 42:53

17. Are You Ashamed of Your Black Girl Name? Me Too..

17. Are You Ashamed of Your Black Girl Name? Me Too..

No life-changing tips or soul-awakening gems for you this week. In this episode, I share a secret with you. One that I've been holding close to my heart nearly all of my life. If you can relate be sure to share this episode with friends.RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challengeMy debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - h

Jun 14, 2020 • 13:19

16. Quarantine Tips- 10 Things To Do While You're Bored In The House

16. Quarantine Tips- 10 Things To Do While You're Bored In The House

This pandemic has been a wildly powerful reminder of how important freedom is - and how much we need human connection. In this episode, I am reminding you that the power of freedom still lives in you. Listen to learn how you can gain control again.RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challengeMy debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores eve

May 18, 2020 • 27:49

15. Can You Recover From Grief

15. Can You Recover From Grief

There are a lot of norms society has placed on us. But is this really true? In this episode, I introduce us to the idea of grief recovery and if it’s possible for you.RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challengeMy debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8hCONNECT WITH US:Join in on my intimate writings

May 10, 2020 • 19:17

14. Things Every Mother Should Tell Their Daughter

14. Things Every Mother Should Tell Their Daughter

Everything about the woman I have become came from my mother. In this episode, I share an endearing childhood memory that taught me and my mother a valuable lesson in love. I also give tips on the things that every mother should tell their daughter.RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challengeMy debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores ev

Dec 8, 2019 • 15:03

13. How to Take Care of Yourself While Being a Caregiver

13. How to Take Care of Yourself While Being a Caregiver

Lending your time to take care of a loved one is a selfless act. But what happens when you lose a part of who you are during the process. I'm sharing 4 tips on how to supercharge your soul when caring for the person you love becomes a burden to you.RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challengeMy debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores ev

Nov 17, 2019 • 14:49

12. Learn How to Unpack Your Emotional Suitcase

12. Learn How to Unpack Your Emotional Suitcase

Unpacking is just being mindful or aware. And not just being present in your feelings but also being aware of being aware. In this episode, I share some deeply personal stories that led me to be more mindful which has allowed me to easily unpack my emotional suitcase.RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challengeMy debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is availab

Nov 11, 2019 • 19:59

11. How to Set Clear MFing Boundaries

11. How to Set Clear MFing Boundaries

When we think about boundaries we typically think about all of the times people overstep them. But we don’t ever really discuss how we come to set realistic boundaries, how to express our boundaries to people AND how to hold people accountable. In this episode, I dissect, unpack, and unravel what boundaries mean to me and how to set boundaries that are really clear.RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - htt

Oct 27, 2019 • 18:48

10. A Quick Lesson on How to Not Give a Fcuk

10. A Quick Lesson on How to Not Give a Fcuk

Don’t worry you’re not soft or a punk it is totally natural. In the episode, I explain why I have no fcuks left to give and will also lay down the law on how you can mimic my behavior.RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challengeMy debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8hCONNECT WITH US:Join in on my i

Oct 20, 2019 • 17:28

9. To The Girl Who Can't Seem to Get Her Shit Together

9. To The Girl Who Can't Seem to Get Her Shit Together

Confession, there’s a little bit of that girl in us all. In this episode, I get real with myself about why I abandon greatness for procrastination and laziness. I set a few goals for myself that are guaranteed to be useful AF to you.RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challengeMy debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https

Oct 6, 2019 • 15:56

8. Listen to This When Life Gets Heavy

8. Listen to This When Life Gets Heavy

With the holidays creeping up on us it’s easy to sink into situational depression. In this episode, I reveal how depression has held me hostage and how I keep pushing even when there is little push left.RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challengeMy debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8hCONNECT WITH

Sep 29, 2019 • 10:54

7. Some People Won’t Like You and That’s Ok

7. Some People Won’t Like You and That’s Ok

It’s time to lessen likability’s hold on you. In this episode, I break down our obsession with being well-liked and share what I have unpacked about not being liked from my experiences living in New York.RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challengeMy debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8hCONNECT WIT

Sep 23, 2019 • 15:26

6. Ghosting is Not an Acceptable Form of Communication, Even if You Have a Good Reason

6. Ghosting is Not an Acceptable Form of Communication, Even if You Have a Good Reason

I'm breaking down why ghosting should not be your first choice of communication and giving you a cheat sheet on how to be a better communicator.RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challengeMy debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8hCONNECT WITH US:Join in on my intimate writings on newsletter - https:/

Sep 15, 2019 • 18:51

5. Plot twist- Death is Not Optional, However Grief Doesn’t Have to Hurt You

5. Plot twist- Death is Not Optional, However Grief Doesn’t Have to Hurt You

I'm exploring the idea of accepting death as a blessing rather than a curse. I also offer listeners advice on how to grieve without guilt while celebrating your own life.RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challengeMy debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8hCONNECT WITH US:Join in on my intimate writin

Sep 8, 2019 • 21:32

4. Are You a Kind Person...To Yourself?

4. Are You a Kind Person...To Yourself?

In this episode, I celebrate "Be Kind to Humankind" week by asking, are you a kind person...to yourself? I help you unpack what being kind actually feels like and give you three approachable tips on how you can be kinder to yourself.RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challengeMy debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https

Aug 27, 2019 • 14:28

3. Live From the #SelfCareIRL Retreat In Mexico

3. Live From the #SelfCareIRL Retreat In Mexico

I hosted Self Care IRL's inaugural retreat in Mexico. I sat down for an intimate conversation with super-creative and web series creator, Tracie Mae. We chat about what it's like to be a motherless child, things we would have done differently, and how to cope if you're in the storm now.RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challengeMy debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My M

Jun 13, 2019 • 39:47

2. Listen to This if You Suck at Protecting Your Energy

2. Listen to This if You Suck at Protecting Your Energy

In this episode, I gets super intimate about how I friend and really break down how I protect my own energy in any situation. I also give you four gems that will help you keep your energy fresh and clean (without "saging" people to death!).RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challengeMy debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere

Feb 2, 2019 • 25:50

1. How to Maintain Your Sanity Despite Your Negative Self-talk

1. How to Maintain Your Sanity Despite Your Negative Self-talk

In the first episode, I unpack what it looks like for me to maintain my sanity despite the mental abuse (aka negative self-talk) we all subject ourselves to, habitually! The true story is, we are all the queens of self-sabotaging.RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challengeMy debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://

Jan 10, 2019 • 18:42

Coming Soon: Self Care IRL, a Podcast by Ty Alexander

Coming Soon: Self Care IRL, a Podcast by Ty Alexander

Join best selling author, DJ, OG influencer Ty Alexander as she explores strategies and ideas for becoming your best self. This podcast will inspire you to take life by the horns and enjoy the ride despite your traumas or circumstances. Sharing the most intimate parts of herself with you...this is Self Care IRL, a podcast by Ty Alexander.RESOURCES:Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-cha

Jan 3, 2019 • 2:51

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