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13. How to Stay Calm and Communicate Clearly in Tough Conversations | Ally McLean, NP

Drama Free Teams | Trauma-Informed Leadership for High-Performing Teams
Drama Free Teams | Trauma-Informed Leadership for High-Performing Teams
Episode • Apr 9 • 13m

You know that moment—when your body tenses up before a hard conversation, and suddenly the words don’t come out right... or don’t come out at all?

In this episode, I’m sharing a simple, powerful technique to overcome that.

It's called the 90-Second Reset—and you’ll hear from my client Ally, a nurse practitioner who used it to shift her relationships at work from conflict and tension to confident, clear connection.

We're busting the biggest misconception about effective communication, and showing how to calm your nervous system before a tough conversation, so you can shift out of survival mode and communicate with clarity—without changing your personality.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

  • Why your internal state matters more than your words in high-stakes conversations
  • How the 90-Second Reset helps calm your nervous system so you can respond instead of react
  • A real-life story from Ally, a nurse practitioner who used this tool to rebuild difficult workplace relationships
  • Simple phrases that support emotional safety and connection
  • How to apply this practice with coworkers, partners, kids—or anyone you care about

Other Episodes You'll Enjoy:

  • The Secret to Feedback That Turns Conflict into Connection
  • Q+A | How to Stop Fear-Based Decisions: 3 Steps to Clarity & Confidence

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