According to professor and therapist Dr. Alexandra Solomon, engaging your partner in conversation about their past experiences is one of the best things you can do to keep your relationship sexy and exciting. Listen in to find out why! Who is Dr. Alexandra Solomon? [6:00] Alexandra Defines "Relational Self-Awareness" [8:00]  Are Some People Just More Interested In Self-Awareness? [10:00] How Gender Norms Encourage Defensiveness [13:00] Alexandra’s Theories About Why People Avoid Introspection [23:00] How To Start Investigating Your History [31:00]  Why It’s Never Okay To Use Stories From Their Past Against Them [37:00] Things Alexandra is Learning Her Own Marriage [40:00]  Why Self-Care It Vital To A Healthy Partnership [42:00] Relational Themes Dr. Solomon Is Seeing Working With Students [49:00 Getting Better At Relationship To Bring About Social Change [55:00] FREE WEB CLASS - Aug. 14th - CLICK HERE TO SIGN UP!  For the full Smart Couple Podcast webpage for this episode featuring Dr. Alexandra Solomon visit https://relationshipschool.net/podcast207