Today we are talking sex and relationships with clinical sexologist Shan Boodram, aka Shan BOODY! Her new book, The Game of Desire, is all about finding your ideal relationship and building confidence in your love life. Shan found her calling by going back to her earliest interest as a child—human connection. After many disappointing relationships, and reading countless (but boring) books on sex, she committed to her purpose of creating fun and accessible information for the every day person.   Shan emphasizes the importance of being in the driver's seat of your dating life—taking action and engaging in purposeful conversation. Her website offers quizzes to help you gain clarity on the type of relationship and sex life you are seeking. We discuss the different apology languages, turn on triggers, and strategies for dating, so your search for love is fulfilling and sustainable. Our conversation gets into the structuring of dating apps, exploring sexuality, monogamy, polyamory, and everything in between. Ladies, get ready for some sex talk!   We also talk about: Actively working to build confidence Being open and vulnerable with content Educating yourself to be able to express yourself Breakdown of creating your dating app profile Exploring sexually solo & moving from shame Health benefits of orgasms   Find more to love at almost30podcast.com!   Resources: Learn more: shanboodram.com ; thegameofdesire.com Instagram: @shanboody Book: The Game of Desire YouTube: Shan BOODY   Upcoming Events: July 27th: San Francisco with Lacy Phillips August 17th: The Workshop by PodcastPro in Los Angeles with K + L September 12th: Los Angeles with Nicole Lapin September 17th: Chicago with Millana Snow   Sponsors: Four Sigmatic | Use code ALMOST30 for 15% off your order at foursigmatic.com/almost30 Queen V | Use code ALMOST30 for 30% off at queenvlife.com Chosen Foods | Use code ALMOST30 for 50% off at chosenfoods.com/almost30 Amour Vert | Use code ALMOST30 for 15% off at www.shopgreenlove.com/almost30 Skinny Dipped | Use code ALMOST30 for 20% off at skinnydipped.com Almost 30 is edited by Crate Media This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Chartable - https://chartable.com/privacy Chartable - https://chartable.com/privacy Podsights - https://podsights.com/privacy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices