In relationships, it's normal to want the best for each other, and to want to improve things, but most people would say it's not okay to ask your partner to change. Jaemin Frazer, author of Leverage, thinks that 'Don't change the people you love' is the worst advice ever given. Jaemin joins Cam and Ali in the bathroom to unpack this idea, and how we can facilitate better relationships in our lives. LINKS  Buy Jaemin's book Leverage https://jaeminfrazer.com/leverage. Find out more about Jaemin on his website https://jaeminfrazer.com/. Follow Jaemin Frazer on Instagram @jaeminfrazer. Follow Cam on Instagram @camerondaddo.  Follow Ali on Instagram @alidaddo.  Follow Nova Podcasts @novapodcastsofficial.  Got a question for Cam & Ali? You can email them at separatebathrooms@novapodcasts.com.au.  CREDITS  Hosts: Cameron Daddo and Alison Brahe-Daddo. Guest: Jaemin FrazerManaging Producer: Elle Beattie. Producer and Editor: Amy Kimball.  Find more great podcasts like this at novapodcasts.com.au.  Separate Bathrooms would like to acknowledge the Gadigal people of the Eora nation, the First Peoples of the land on which we work. We acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded, and recognise their enduring connections to country, knowledge and stories. We pay our respects to Elders past and present, and extend that respect to all First Nations people listening. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.