What does it mean to find “the lid to your pot?” Bela Gandhi, founder of Smart Dating Academy, shares her journey from business school to unlocking her gift for igniting meaningful connections. From her work with countless clients, Bela delivers insights on love, attachment, and embracing the best version of ourselves on the journey to finding lasting happiness.Bela takes the reins as your love life's personal trainer in this transformational conversation with Erin. They delve deep into relationships, from the evolutionary roots of our romantic preferences, to the impact of family dynamics on dating patterns, and so much more, including:Unmasking the truth behind relationship failuresWhy someone “good on paper” is not always worth the paper it’s written onThe fascinating role of DNA in our dating preferences, including the allure of tall menUnderstanding the difference between what we think we want vs. what we truly need for lasting loveDiscovering your "elevator people" and aligning happiness with potential partnersBreaking free from destructive relationship cycles fueled by family of origin dynamicsDebunking misconceptions about attraction and chemistryWhy we’re acculturated to want the wrong things in a relationshipWhy Bela has her clients wait 15+ dates before exploring physical intimacy (WHAT?!) and the importance of standing in your emotional strengthRedefining relationships as fundamentally contractual and knowing when to renegotiate those contractsOUR GUEST: Bela Gandhi is a born cupid with a gift for helping people find love. Her matchmaking journey began in college when she had a lightning bolt moment, predicting a perfect match for her roommate who eventually got married and had beautiful kids. While getting degrees in Finance and German and working in Mergers & Acquisitions, Bela's passion for matchmaking persisted. After her family business was acquired, she founded Smart Dating Academy in 2009, incorporating online dating into her proven process. Now, with a life she adores, a fantastic husband, and two amazing kids, Bela is dedicated to spreading love and helping others find their perfect match.Want more Bela? Find her online at http://www.smartdatingacademy.com/ and follow her on:Smart Dating Academy Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/smart-dating-academy-the-podcast/id1583496218?uo=4YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCyIAVW4NhaLg7TbTJSVZlewInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/smartdatingacademy/Twitter: https://twitter.com/BelaGandhiLoveFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/smartdatingacademyWant more Hotter Than Ever? Find us online at www.hotterthaneverpod.com and sign up for our mailing list! Follow us on:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hotterthaneverpod/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@hotterthaneverpodYoutube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UChwbEXbAVqoNYd_g5ok7VPgFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100090728330453Mentioned in this episode:Broad CollectiveLearn more about Broad Collective and our membership network for midlife women entrepreneurs at broadcollective.com. Apply to join Broad Collective at https://broad-collective-co.mn.co/landing