Are you building healthy boundaries, or putting up restricting walls? With the former taking center stage amongst the collective, it’s an important question to ask. This episode was inspired by the journey Krista’s been on to have deep and real intimacy in her relationships – a growing desire to untangle defensive mechanisms that create negative static between people and move toward a more heart-centered exchange with the people in and around her life. The truth is that some forms of boundary building have evolved into a method for gaslighting ourselves, a means to create a cozy victimhood to hide away in, an excuse for closing ourselves off from things, situations, or people that may expand us.We also talk about: A different angle of boundary building  What boundaries are meant to be Honesty and open heartedness Building walls makes a victim  How to receive a boundary The need for control Wall building instance from Krista’s life Good friction between two people Bad examples from The Hills Leaning into love and connectedness Resources:Read: Conscious Loving by Gay and Katie Hendricks Join our community: almost30.com/membership facebook.com/Almost30podcast/groups Podcast disclaimer can be found by visiting: almost30.com/disclaimer. Find more to love at almost30.com!Almost 30 is edited by Crate Media.This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Chartable - https://chartable.com/privacy Chartable - https://chartable.com/privacy Podsights - https://podsights.com/privacy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices