On this episode of Women of Impact, host Lisa Bilyeu and her husband Tom Bilyeu discuss the tactics, strategies and rules of engagement they have used to keep their relationship strong and growing for 19 years and counting. They discuss how to avoid letting the small things frustrate you, how to lift each other up, and how to hopefully find a way to make this surprise quarantine fun and empowering. SHOW NOTES: How do you avoid getting annoyed with each other over small things? [3:39] How to view everything that happens as practice, and then make it fun [5:50] Don’t tell me I’ve done something wrong after I’ve done it [9:06] Why you have to take responsibility for yourself instead of matching negative energy [10:23] It’s OK to match your partner’s righteous indignation, but not their anxiety [12:42] Do not tell someone they are being irrational. Wait for emotional sobriety [16:31] How do you make space for yourself in a situation that seems impossible? [17:37] How do you deal with a partner who isn’t willing to do the work in a relationship? [21:26] Lisa talks about writing her “quarantine script” in real time [23:38] What would need to be true for this experience to be positive? [25:08] Why you shouldn’t let “dust settle” [27:06] You have to know exactly why things are bothering you [28:38] How to talk to someone who is agitated without getting them even more angry [31:55] What is one thing couples can do right now to get stronger? [34:35] Why you absolutely must take selfish time [37:13] Tom and Lisa used to do relationship theory, which you can still find on YouTube [39:21] FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW FOLLOW TOM: WEBSITE: impacttheory.com INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/33XrFYV FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/2xDM4Xa TWITTER: https://bit.ly/39slhdy Are You Ready for EXTRA Impact?If you’re ready to find true fulfillment, strengthen your focus, and ignite your true potential, the Impact Theory subscription was created just for you.Want to transform your health, sharpen your mindset, improve your relationship, or conquer the business world? This is your epicenter of greatness. This is not for the faint of heart. This is for those who dare to learn obsessively, every day, day after day.Subscription Benefits: Unlock the gates to a treasure trove of wisdom from inspiring guests like Andrew Huberman, Mel Robbins, Hal Elrod, Matthew McConaughey, and many, many, more New episodes delivered ad-free Exclusive access to Tom’s AMAs, keynote speeches, and suggestions from his personal reading list You’ll also get access to an 5 additional podcasts with hundreds of archived Impact Theory episodes, meticulously curated into themed playlists covering health, mindset, business, relationships, and more: Legendary Mindset: Mindset & Self-Improvement Money Mindset: Business & Finance Relationship Theory: Relationships Health Theory: Mental & Physical Health Power Ups: Weekly Doses of Short Motivational Quotes  Subscribe on Apple Podcasts: https://apple.co/3PCvJazSubscribe on all other platforms (Google Podcasts, Spotify, Castro, Downcast, Overcast, Pocket Casts, Podcast Addict, Podcast Republic, Podkicker, and more) : https://impacttheorynetwork.supercast.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices