On this episode of Impact Theory, Tom Bilyeu is joined by Psychotherapist, New York Times Bestselling Author, and host of the emotionally raw and tell-all podcasts ’How’s Work?’ and ‘Where Should We Begin?’ Esther Perelto discuss such matters and more as they explore the pitfalls you need to be on the lookout for that might be killing your relationships, connections, or marriage. They discuss the downfalls you need to be on the lookout for that pose a threat to your relationships, what complacency looks like, why so many couples get it wrong when trying to solve their differences, the power of words and the meaning behind them, how culture comes into play in your relationship, how to understand other’s perspectives, and the tools you need to have a healthy and thriving relationship with anyone in your life. SHOW NOTES: Downfalls | Esther reveals the things that kill relationships. [0:17]Complacency | Esther reveals the step-by-step process of how complacency creeps in. [2:36]Blind | Esther reveals why so many people in a relationship fail to see their mistakes. [6:14]Combativeness | Esther reveals the many dynamics of how couples blame each other. [7:33]Words | Esther reveals the power of your words and how you frame your problems. [10:03]Culture | Esther reveals how culture comes into play with relationships. [12:56]Contextualize Yourself | Esther reveals how we can value things differently. [13:58]Meaning | Esther discusses the importance of the meaning behind what you say. [17:47]Business | Esther reveals why so many business relationships fail. [19:54]Perspectives | Esther discusses how you can begin to see other’s perspectives. [21:47]Tea | Tom shares a story where he and his wife, Lisa, argued over a cup of tea. [26:06]Fighting | Esther reveals how we fight over lack of respect and recognition. [28:18]Roles | Esther discusses roles, expectations, and flexibility in a relationship. [30:27]Tools | Esther reveals the key tools you can use to get the most out of your relationship. [31:28]Connect | Esther shares how you can engage with her and continue to learn from her. [33:28] FOLLOW ESTHER: Twitter: twitter.com/estherperelFacebook: facebook.com/esther.perelInstagram: instagram.com/estherperelofficial YouTube:...Check out our SponsorsCaveday: Try a FREE 3 hour cave at caveday.org with promo code IMPACTSkillshare: Explore your creativity at skillshare.com/impacttheory for a free trial of Premium Membership.Indeed: Get a FREE $75 CREDIT to upgrade your job post at indeed.com/IMPACTAre You Ready for EXTRA Impact?If you’re ready to find true fulfillment, strengthen your focus, and ignite your true potential, the Impact Theory subscription was created just for you.This is not for the faint of heart. This is for those who dare to learn obsessively, every day, day after day.Subscription Benefits: Unlock the gates to a treasure trove of wisdom from inspiring guests like Andrew Huberman, Mel Robbins, Hal Elrod, Matthew McConaughey, and many, many, more New episodes delivered ad-free Exclusive access to Tom’s AMAs, keynote speeches, and suggestions from his personal reading list You’ll also get access to an 5 additional podcasts with hundreds of archived Impact Theory episodes, meticulously curated into themed playlists covering health, mindset, business, relationships, and more: Legendary Mindset: Mindset & Self-Improvement Money Mindset: Business & Finance Relationship Theory: Relationships Health Theory: Mental & Physical Health Power Ups: Weekly Doses of Short Motivational Quotes  Subscribe on Apple Podcasts: https://apple.co/3PCvJazSubscribe on all other platforms (Google Podcasts, Spotify, Castro, Downcast, Overcast, Pocket Casts, Podcast Addict, Podcast Republic, Podkicker, and more) : https://impacttheorynetwork.supercast.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices