Brit invites Eli Vasquez, a personal development and dating coach, to discuss the patterns of self-sabotage in relationships and how to break free from them. Eli shares his journey from being a self-proclaimed 'reformed fuckboy' to becoming a coach who helps individuals heal their inner child and establish healthy boundaries in love and dating. They delve into the dynamics of seeking validation, the differences between men and women in relationships, and the societal expectations that shape these behaviors. Eli offers practical advice on how to navigate the modern dating landscape, emphasizing the importance of self-reflection, setting boundaries, and holding space for emotional growth. The discussion also touches on generational shifts in emotional openness, the male loneliness epidemic, and the transformative power of facing one's vulnerabilities with compassion. — and follow him on Tiktok and Instagram (@itselivazquez). All episodes are available ad free on Patreon: https://patreon.com/BrittaniArd   Share your story with Brittani. Production of BDE Unlimited Sponsor information at https://brittaniard.com/sponsors  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices