Thanks For Asking

Thanks For Asking

Feelings & Co.

A call-in show from author Nora McInerny that lets real people get real honest about how they're really doing. Operators(me) are standing by to take your calls. In case you didn't know, we're still making episodes that are available exclusively on Nora's Substack!

Ep. 4 -  I Hate My Friend’s Partner…What Do I Do About It?

Ep. 4 - I Hate My Friend’s Partner…What Do I Do About It?

Do you say something? Do you shut up? I’m just one woman with an opinion, so I took your calls and texts to answer this listener question: do you say something when your friend is in a relationship with someone you hate? This is a preview of Thanks for Asking, a call-in show about what matters to you. You can get the full episode on my Substack.Have something you want to talk about? You can call or text us any time at 612.568.4441 or email thanks@feelingsand.co Learn more about your ad choices.

Feb 25, • 28:14

Ep. 03.5 - Worrying, Fresh Retirement and Movie Extras

Ep. 03.5 - Worrying, Fresh Retirement and Movie Extras

If it’s Tuesday, the phone lines are open and operators (me) are standing by. Today we’re talk to callers from Honolulu to North Carolina about everything from worrying to working as an extra on Hallmark movies to existential crises. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Feb 18, • 1:06:18

Ep. 03- AI Wife

Ep. 03- AI Wife

As a widow, I get many emails from other widows. But this one – from a man who created an AI version of his dead wife – was definitely a first. And I knew I had to talk to him.For full episodes, the full back catalog and a listener community, you can join us here.Want to be on the show? Call or text 612.568.4441 or book a call here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Feb 11, • 31:51

Your Mama's Kitchen: John Legend

Your Mama's Kitchen: John Legend

Sharing a podcast we can’t get enough of: Your Mama’s Kitchen. It’s a show about cuisine and culture, ingredients and identities, and the meals and memories that make us who we are. Host Michele Norris talks to Michelle Obama, Glennon Doyle, José Andrés and so many other guests about the complexities of family life and how their earliest culinary experiences helped shape their personal and professional lives. And of course, each guest shares a recipe for a favorite dish from their youth so you c

Feb 4, • 51:26

Ep. 02 - Are You Lonely?

Ep. 02 - Are You Lonely?

Loneliness is, according to people who know about these things, an epidemic on par with smoking and obesity. It affects our physical and mental health…and it seems like it’s affecting everyone. Today’s callers are experiencing loneliness in many different ways and for many different reasons, and if you are also feeling lonely…you’re definitely not alone. Take a listen, then call someone (anyone!). Make a plan to hang out, and follow through. Let’s find and nurture connections wherever and howeve

Jan 28, • 35:12

The Kindness of Strangers

The Kindness of Strangers

THINGS ARE DEFINITELY NOT OK RIGHT NOW! We know it. You know it. Your dog knows it (who told her??). But even when things are terrible, there’s something out there — however small — that is at least okay. Today’s episode is an exercise in finding (and sharing) the ok, with stories of the ways strangers have shown up for us in our times of need. Thanks to everyone who called (or texted!) in.Call or text us at 612.568.4441 any time.If you’d like to support the show (and get more of it) join us he

Jan 23, • 38:27

Ep. 01 - Interdependence, Trump Flags, and Taylor Swift

Ep. 01 - Interdependence, Trump Flags, and Taylor Swift

The first episode of our new call-in show is here, and we have two callers who seemed to be totally unrelated: a new rancher in Texas, and a Swiftie with Cerebral Palsy in New York.But (get your red string and your tinfoil hat) everything is connected! Especially us. That’s easy to forget when we’re constantly pushed to see each other as the enemy, and something we need to remember now more than ever. For full episodes, the full back catalog and a listener community, you can join us here.Want to

Jan 14, • 30:46

The Year of Less: Vision Boards, Awards, What’s Next in 2025

The Year of Less: Vision Boards, Awards, What’s Next in 2025

It’s been awhile since we’ve been in your feed, probably because we took a hiatus in March of 2024. Nearly a year later, we have some clarity on what’s next (it’s exciting!).The new show will launch on January 14, but on Sunday I shared that 2025 is The Year of Less and at least 5 people said they were interested in hearing more about what that means and I couldn’t wait ANOTHER week because I simply don’t have the brain storage space.In this episode, we cover: What practices led me to this new i

Jan 10, • 1:01:37

You're Not Lazy, You're Overwhelmed (feat. Kendra Adachi, The Lazy Genius)

You're Not Lazy, You're Overwhelmed (feat. Kendra Adachi, The Lazy Genius)

In case you didn't know, we're still making episodes that are available exclusively on Nora's Substack! We wanted to give all of our listeners a little preview of our most recent episode! Consider joining Nora's Substack to listen to the rest of the episode, get additional bonus episodes, and ad-free episodes!_Most people I know are feeling overwhelmed, to put it lightly. Between the stuff you have to do (work, paying your bills, getting your kid new shoes, or vacuuming up the dog hair before y

Dec 26, 2024 • 25:54

I Will Do Better feat. Charles Bock

I Will Do Better feat. Charles Bock

In case you didn't know, we're still making episodes that are available exclusively on Nora's Substack! We wanted to give all of our listeners a little preview of our most recent episode! Consider joining Nora's Substack to listen to the rest of the episode, get additional bonus episodes, and ad-free episodes!_Charles Bock was not interested in parenthood. He moved to New York to be a writer, not to change diapers. But when he met his wife Diana, all she wanted was to be a mom. So he said yes,

Dec 19, 2024 • 25:49

Update: Behind The Scammer feat. Celisia Stanton

Update: Behind The Scammer feat. Celisia Stanton

In case you didn't know, we're still making episodes that are available exclusively on Nora's Substack! We wanted to give all of our listeners a little preview of our most recent episode! Consider joining Nora's Substack to listen to the rest of the episode, get additional bonus episodes, and ad-free episodes!_In June 2021, Isaiah Goodman, a financial adviser, was sentenced to 7 years in prison for defrauding clients out of $2.3 million dollars. One of the clients he stole from was Celisia Stan

Dec 17, 2024 • 27:51

Am I grieving right? With Dr. Katherine Shear

Am I grieving right? With Dr. Katherine Shear

In case you didn't know, we're still making two episodes a month for our Patreon and Apple Plus subscribers. We wanted to give all of our listeners a little preview of our most recent episode! Consider joining TTFA Premium on Apple to listen to the rest of the episode, get additional bonus episodes, and ad-free episodes!_In 2022, Prolonged Grief Disorder was added to the DSM-V. A new mental health disorder tied to grief ruffled a lot of feathers, including Nora’s. She talked about it on TTFA (

Nov 26, 2024 • 32:34

Happyish Holidays: The Worst Thanksgiving Ever?

Happyish Holidays: The Worst Thanksgiving Ever?

Subscribe to TTFA Anthologies here.Two days after Nora’s husband Aaron died, she celebrated Thanksgiving with her family. Well... maybe not “celebrated.” Every year, millions of people do the same thing during the holidays. In this episode, we talk with some of those folks, including Dr. Lucy Kalanithi and comedian Amber Tozer. We also spend some time with some of the women of the Hot Young Widows Club, talking about their hopes and dreams for the upcoming year. Plus, stories of some of the wors

Nov 14, 2024 • 1:00:45

AITA: Happyish Holidays Edition

AITA: Happyish Holidays Edition

Subscribe to TTFA Anthologies here.If the holidays make you want to tear your hair out or cry on the bathroom floor, YOU ARE NOT ALONE. It's a hard time for a lot of people, and still we have to force a smile and say through gritted teeth, "Happy Holidays!"But the holidays aren't always happy. Most of the time, all we can ask for is HappyISH Holidays. In this episode, Nora McInerny and producer Marcel Malekebu dive into AITA stories of holidays gone wrong. You can play judge, jury, and

Nov 14, 2024 • 1:03:00

“Seahorse Dad” from Refamulating

“Seahorse Dad” from Refamulating

In case you didn't know, we're still making two episodes a month for our Patreon and Apple Plus subscribers. We wanted to give all of our listeners a little preview of our most recent episode! Consider joining our Patreon to listen to the rest of the episode(or watch the episode!), get additional bonus episodes, ad-free episodes, and join a community of Terribles. (Or, if you’re an Apple Podcast listener, you can sign up for TTFA Premium right in the app!)_Refamulating, one of our other shows

Nov 12, 2024 • 52:42

You don’t talk about telescopes? And other questions to distract yourself from Election Day anxiety (with Kate Kennedy!)

You don’t talk about telescopes? And other questions to distract yourself from Election Day anxiety (with Kate Kennedy!)

Today is Election Day in the U.S. and for many of us that means…getting through the day is going to feel like watching water boil. So we have an idea: delete the news apps off your phone today, don’t check social media, and press play on this multi-hour, politics free chat between Nora and Kate Kennedy. When you finish this episode, don’t worry, THERE’S MORE. Head over to Kate Kennedy’s Patreon to get more of this conversation. And if you need MORE distractions, we got you:  Listen to o

Nov 5, 2024 • 1:16:31

Forces Of Nature: A Conversation On Childhood Trauma with Gina Demillo Wagner

Forces Of Nature: A Conversation On Childhood Trauma with Gina Demillo Wagner

In case you didn't know, we're still making two episodes a month for our Patreon and Apple Plus subscribers. We wanted to give all of our listeners a little preview of our most recent episode! Consider joining our Patreon to listen to the rest of the episode(or watch the episode!), get additional bonus episodes, ad-free episodes, and join a community of Terribles. (Or, if you’re an Apple Podcast listener, you can sign up for TTFA Premium right in the app!)_Three years ago we published

Oct 29, 2024 • 24:02

Interview: Making and keeping friends as a grown-up with Marisa Franco

Interview: Making and keeping friends as a grown-up with Marisa Franco

In case you didn't know, we're still making two episodes a month for our Patreon and Apple Plus subscribers. We wanted to give all of our listeners a little preview of our most recent episode! Consider joining our Patreon to listen to the rest of the episode(or watch the episode!), get additional bonus episodes, ad-free episodes, and join a community of Terribles. (Or, if you’re an Apple Podcast listener, you can sign up for TTFA Premium right in the app!)_Have you thought at some poi

Oct 15, 2024 • 28:36

More (More, More!) Obituaries

More (More, More!) Obituaries

In case you didn't know, we're still making two episodes a month for our Patreon and Apple Plus subscribers. We wanted to give all of our listeners a little preview of our most recent episode! Consider joining our Patreon to listen to the rest of the episode(or watch the episode!), get additional bonus episodes, ad-free episodes, and join a community of Terribles. (Or, if you’re an Apple Podcast listener, you can sign up for TTFA Premium right in the app!)_Earlier this year we did a bonus epis

Oct 1, 2024 • 24:55

TTFA Anthologies: Two Letters- A Widow Remembers Her Husband With Two Letters

TTFA Anthologies: Two Letters- A Widow Remembers Her Husband With Two Letters

Subscribe to TTFA Anthologies here.This is an episode about two letters. One of those is the letter Jim left for his wife, Annie, before he died by suicide. The second is the letter Annie wrote to Jim after his death — and as she dealt with her own mental health issues and suicidality in the wake of it. When someone dies by suicide, people want it to be someone’s fault, so they can (hopefully) feel less like it’s their fault. But the thing is … it’s never anyone’s fault. _Terrible, Than

Sep 3, 2024 • 57:22

TTFA Anthologies: Stories of Suicide & Loss

TTFA Anthologies: Stories of Suicide & Loss

Subscribe to TTFA Anthologies here.Terrible, Thanks for Asking tells the real stories of real people who have lived through the terrible things in life. TTFA Anthologies are a curated collection of some of our best stories; released in seasons that focus on a specific topic. You can find our entire episode catalog ad-free on Apple+ or Patreon. –Find Nora’s weekly newsletter here! Also, check out Nora on YouTube._The Feelings & Co. team is Nora McInerny, Claire McInerny, Marcel Malekebu and Grace

Sep 3, 2024 • 25:39

The Resilience Myth with Soraya Chemaly

The Resilience Myth with Soraya Chemaly

Years ago, when Nora was in the worst phase of her life (dead husband, dead dad, lost pregnancy) she heard a lot of people describe her as resilient. Those people meant it as a compliment, but to Nora it didn’t feel that way. She was tired, grieving, and lost so much in her life- the “resilience” people saw was often just…the privilege she had to survive it. So when Nora got the new book, The Resilience Myth by Soraya Chemaly, she devoured it. In this episode, Nora and Soraya talk about

Jun 18, 2024 • 1:15:12

Now

Now

When Nora was about to marry her first husband Aaron, they were in the thick of his cancer treatment. So the day before the wedding, she got a small tattoo to remind her to stay in the present moment.  This was an excerpt from Nora’s first book, It’s Okay To Laugh (Crying is cool, too) which is available here._If you have anxiety, depression or any sense of the world around you, you know that not *everything* is going to be okay. In fact, many things aren’t okay and never will be! But i

Jun 18, 2024 • 7:06

Becoming Fairy Godmother: Egg Donation and Creating A New Kind of Family

Becoming Fairy Godmother: Egg Donation and Creating A New Kind of Family

Two years ago Julia Winston was asked to help a gay couple start a family by donating her eggs. At the time, she was 38, single, and had no idea if she’d start her own family. Sometimes that made her feel insecure, so the opportunity to donate her eggs allowed her to help create a family, just not the one she imagined in her head. Since the donation, she’s gone through an emotional transformation that opened her eyes to all the different ways a family can look.  Julia is the host of Refamulating

Apr 2, 2024 • 50:03

Your Favorite Obituaries

Your Favorite Obituaries

As we prepare for our indefinite hiatus, we wanted to remind you that we will still be making TTFA episodes on our Patreon and Apple Premium feeds. If you aren't a premium member, we wanted to show you what kind of episodes we make over there by bringing one of our bonus episodes to the main feed. Recently, we asked listeners to send in obituaries about your dead people, and boy oh boy did you all deliver some gems that made us laugh, cry and reeeeeally want to double fist a Dr. Pepper with a Mi

Mar 25, 2024 • 43:53

More Than A Survivor: Rape, Activism and what comes next with Sarah Super

More Than A Survivor: Rape, Activism and what comes next with Sarah Super

In 2015, Sarah Super was raped by her ex-boyfriend Alex Neal. And she channeled that act of violence into a mission-driven organization that helped survivors of sexual violence feel seen and heard. 9 years after the night that changed her life, Sarah reflects on what it means to move forward with her life and to reclaim her identity as more than a survivor. Sarah was a guest on the first season of our podcast.To hear Sarah's original episode, Unbroken, click here. — Want more TTFA? Become a memb

Mar 19, 2024 • 45:41

Terrible, Thanks For Everything!!

Terrible, Thanks For Everything!!

We have a big update about the future of TTFA, and something a lot of you have been asking about since the last episode, where I mentioned *casually* in the credits that we were going to be taking an indefinite hiatus. I wanted to talk more about what that means going forward, and thank all of you for listening and supporting our show.  xo,Nora — You can read the transcript of this update here. — We’ll be creating *NEW* episodes on Patreon through August 2024. Consider joining us on Patreon

Mar 4, 2024 • 9:35

Time Capsule: The Silver Chain - Episode 1: The Silver Chain

Time Capsule: The Silver Chain - Episode 1: The Silver Chain

Newsletters from an abandoned safe deposit box set host Paul Ditty on an investigation to learn all he can about The Silver Chain – a suburban Minnesota swing club from the 1970s –  and its members.  Minnesota journalist Jack El-Hai paints a picture of what suburban life was like in the 1970s and how this sparked a delayed and secret sexual revolution among middle-aged couples.  Paul attempts to reach several of the club's members. No one will talk until finally he reaches Carol. She ha

Feb 29, 2024 • 45:58

The One That Got Away

The One That Got Away

For years, Nancy could picture her ideal partner. She wanted someone who would make her laugh, who would love her son, and who would make her feel confident and empowered. When she met Noa, he checked all the boxes. Everything she thought other people made up about love suddenly came true. But…this perfect love didn’t last forever.  Today we hear from both Nancy and Noa as they perform an autopsy of sorts on their relationship and why it didn’t work.  –  Listener support makes our independent

Feb 19, 2024 • 49:45

Time Capsule: The Silver Chain - Trailer

Time Capsule: The Silver Chain - Trailer

In the early 1990s, a cache of abandoned newsletters found its way from a safety deposit box in Minneapolis, Minnesota to the state’s historical society, where they were left to gather dust. The newsletters detailed the inner workings of a secret 1970s swingers society: The Silver Chain Social Club. Fifty years later, TV writer and host Paul Ditty tracks down the club’s surviving members to uncover the group’s mysterious history and the ties that connected its members long after the swi

Feb 15, 2024 • 7:22

Grudge Book is Back!

Grudge Book is Back!

Greetings, loved ones. We’re back with one of our time honored Terrible traditions: The Grudge Book. Sit back, get cozy, bring your petties, and enjoy this selection of listener grudges featuring the wisdom of Nora and Marcel.  THEE Bath and Body Works Peach Bellini Rant Video — Listener support makes our independent podcast possible. Consider joining our Patreon to get bonus episodes, ad-free episodes, and join a community of Terribles.  Our Substack is a great way to connect with us and other

Feb 6, 2024 • 42:45

The First Stone: Cheating, shame and a series of unfortunate men

The First Stone: Cheating, shame and a series of unfortunate men

Jenni was raised Mormon, and for the first part of her life, was a dutiful follower. She got married young, attended church, and was a loyal wife. But life got messy and complicated for Jenni, and she eventually made a choice that surprised her. A choice considered a sin in her culture, and a pretty hurtful thing to do by the rest of society: she cheated. For the last year, Jenni’s been grappling with the shame and guilt of this choice and how parts of her dating history led to this choice.  — W

Jan 23, 2024 • 53:04

“Why are drug dealers putting fentanyl in everything?” from Search Engine

“Why are drug dealers putting fentanyl in everything?” from Search Engine

Nora sits down with her friend and fellow podcaster PJ Vogt of Search Engine. They discuss what he found in his own interviews with a drug dealer who used fentanyl in his drug supply. That, plus the original Search Engine episode are included here.   If you have not yet listened to this week’s TTFA episode, “86 Sundays,” we suggest you go back and listen so you can see why we were inspired to share this Search Engine episode with you. — Original Search Engine episode description: We speak to Lui

Jan 11, 2024 • 1:15:15

86 Sundays

86 Sundays

Feliz lost her sister, Karina, in a horrifying way — in a way that’s quick to draw judgment and condemnation. Feliz has seen the worst of it all, but Karina deserves to be defined by her life, not her death. A warning that this episode includes discussions of drug use and poisoning. Resources: CDC guidelines on how to test drugs for fentanyl  Find fentanyl test strips here DrugsData.org provides a rolling update of what's in illicit drugs by geographical area. The data is sent in by strangers, a

Jan 9, 2024 • 56:35

The Christmas Curse (Happyish Holidays 2023)

The Christmas Curse (Happyish Holidays 2023)

If your holiday season is feeling less sparkly, less warm, less…happy, you’ve come to the right place! Every year we make an episode about the bad, terrible and subpar side of the holidays and this year’s Happyish Holidays episode is a real doozy. Brianna Liestman shares how every Christmas from 2007-2010, a different member of her family ruined Christmas. There are fires, hospital visits, crying at Kay Jewelers and a shopping spree at Hot Topic! The drama is bigger than Santa's sleigh and will

Dec 7, 2023 • 51:33

Loving into the Future

Loving into the Future

Kelly loved her dad, then she lost her dad. Kelly loved her grandpa, then she lost her grandpa. Now that Kelly’s a mom herself, she wants to ensure that her son knows he’s loved, no matter what comes.—We still have a few tickets left for our Happyish Holidays live show in Minneapolis Dec 7.Can't make it to Minneapolis? Buy a ticket to get access to the show's livestream! Tickets are $13 apiece, and FREE for our Patrons! (check your email for more information).If you're not a member of our Patreo

Nov 23, 2023 • 49:05

The Sheep in Wolf's Clothing

The Sheep in Wolf's Clothing

There are some stories so plainly horrifying, some crimes so gut wrenching, that it can be hard to imagine the perpetrator as anything other than a villain. A drunk driving accident that killed 6 people does not sound like the beginning of a redemption story. But this episode isn’t about redemption — it’s about learning to live alongside an unthinkable mistake. — Listener support makes our independent podcast possible. Consider joining our Patreon to get bonus episodes, ad-free episodes, and

Nov 14, 2023 • 51:45

Eat, Pray, Leave

Eat, Pray, Leave

When Christina met Thomas as a young adult, their relationship felt different, and right. As time goes on, cracks start to appear in their dynamic, but Christina doesn’t give up on the people she loves. But how many cracks does it take before a dam breaks?  — Listener support makes our independent podcast possible. Consider joining our Patreon to get bonus episodes, ad-free episodes, and join a community of Terribles. Our Substack is a great way to connect with us and other listeners (and ge

Oct 31, 2023 • 1:04:16

...Always

...Always

Greg was married to his best friend, Anna, for 6 years. He loved and respected her. So the night he told her he was gay was painful because he knew how much he was hurting her. In the ten months since then, Greg has looked hard at his depression and addiction, two things that held him back from admitting his sexuality. This is part 2 of a story about one couple’s divorce. Listen to part 1 of this episode, “Everything, All Of You…” If you need support for addiction, check out these resources: Be

Oct 17, 2023 • 59:25

Everything, All Of You...

Everything, All Of You...

When Anna was a 24 year-old hostess at a restaurant, she fell in love with the chef in the kitchen. Their relationship, and later marriage was filled with love. But Anna could always feel something was off between her and her husband. One night last December, she found out she was right.  — Nora’s new Happyish journal and affirmation deck based on her own journaling practices launches today! We have a special deal for you on these new items:  25% discount for the Em & Friends website. Coupon

Oct 3, 2023 • 58:15

The Trauma Sponge

The Trauma Sponge

In case you didn't know, we're still making episodes that are available exclusively on Nora's Substack! -Jeremy Norton has been a firefighter for over 20 years, a job that’s considered heroic and honorable…a job that sometimes means showing up to a false alarm…and sometimes means soaking up the trauma of the city around you. Jeremy has been a TTFA listener since day one. His first book — The Trauma Sponges: Dispatches From The Scarred Heart of Emergency Response — is out October 10, 202

Sep 19, 2023 • 1:02:49

Claire Has A Secret

Claire Has A Secret

When Claire was a teenager, she held a lot of big, difficult feelings, and for a while, she saw only one solution for them. Though Claire decides to not act on those feelings, her story gets shared anonymously online — and continues to appear when she needs it most.   Note: This episode is about suicide. If you are or someone you know is experiencing thoughts of suicide, there are free resources available to you:    Text HOME to 741-741 for a free, confidential conversation with a trained couns

Sep 5, 2023 • 50:58

The Teachers Are Not Alright

The Teachers Are Not Alright

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Aug 30, 2023 • 4:51

The Teachers Are Not Alright

The Teachers Are Not Alright

Like many teachers, when Kristen started her career at 22, she was hopeful and excited. She loved working with students with special needs, and loved learning how their brains worked. But over the years, the job became harder and harder because of the lack of support she received. Eventually, all of the small moments of feeling left out to dry led to a falling out with the career she loved.  __ Listener support makes our independent podcast possible. Consider joining our Patreon to get bonus epi

Aug 29, 2023 • 59:57

Still A Family

Still A Family

When Anaya and Dave Lee fell in love, they saw a whole future with each other. Part of that future included being parents. But when they started trying, they learned creating a family was going to be much more challenging than they expected. They eventually had to ask the question, if a baby doesn’t happen, what would our family look like?   Note: this episode talks about pregnancy loss. __ Listener support makes our independent podcast possible. Consider joining our Patreon to get bonus episode

Aug 15, 2023 • 1:05:34

Meet The Sharents

Meet The Sharents

Like everyone else in 2020, Grant Khanbalinov downloaded Tik Tok. He wasn't trying to learn dances or find a community- he wanted to learn the platform for his marketing job. To practice using the app, he made videos with his wife and kids. Then a video of his three-year-old daughter went viral, and Grant’s account blew up. He gained millions of followers and eventually made hundreds of thousands of dollars from his videos. It all felt like a dream, until…one night he realized there is a dark si

Aug 1, 2023 • 48:23

From the Archives: About Bob

From the Archives: About Bob

We are taking a break this summer (not a vacation!) to produce new stories, so we are sharing some of our favorite episodes while we’re working. This episode was first broadcast in 2018. Remember, our full episode archive, including the follow up to this episode "About Laura," is always available to TTFA Premium members! Join here! If you are a Premium subscriber, search "About Laura" or scroll back to June 14th 2022 in your TTFA feed to find the follow-up to this episode! — When Laura gets a ca

Jul 25, 2023 • 55:14

From The Archives: Nathan

From The Archives: Nathan

Warning: This episode contains discussions of suicide and suicidal ideation.Nathan always knew he was different growing up. He also knew the LDS church had certain expectations of him: He'd do his mission, find a girl, get married and settle down. Being gay? Not part of that plan.Nathan does everything he can to be straight, including sending himself to "conversion therapy." It, of course, doesn't work. Then ... he starts to uncover his true self. And his true self is beautiful.This epi

Jul 18, 2023 • 58:12

From The Archives: Ripped From the Headlines

From The Archives: Ripped From the Headlines

In case you didn't know, we're still making episodes that are available exclusively on Nora's Substack! -Jamie Hahn was 29 years old when she was murdered by Jonathan Broyhill — the guy who had been the best man in her wedding to her husband, Nation.The intrigue surrounding Jamie's death and her killer's subsequent murder trial created non-stop news fodder ... and the story quickly became about Broyhill — his lies, his deception, his crimes.Nation wanted to tell his and Jamie's story wi

Jul 11, 2023 • 53:44

Grief Affirmations (From "It's Going To Be OK")

Grief Affirmations (From "It's Going To Be OK")

Even if you’re grieving, we want to assure you that it’s going to be okay! To prove that point, we invited comedian and writer Jason Roeder (author of Griefstrike!) to share some of his favorite affirmations for a grieving brain. “It’s Going To Be OK” is a daily podcast from Feelings and Co. If you liked this episode, go follow "It's Going To Be OK" in your podcast app, so you never miss a single OK thing! “It’s Going To Be OK” is brought to you by The Hartford. The Hartford is a leading insuran

Jul 1, 2023 • 5:57

From the Archives: Witness

From the Archives: Witness

In case you didn't know, we're still making episodes that are available exclusively on Nora's Substack! —Religion often gives people a sense of belonging. It tells them who’s in and sometimes (depending on the faith, or depending on the microcosm of the faith they're raised in) who's out.That's how Patricia grew up — in a faith where leaving your religion meant leaving behind everyone you love. She is a former Jehovah’s Witness who left the church when she was in her mid-20s.This episod

Jun 27, 2023 • 46:43

Breakaway (From "It's Going To Be Ok")

Breakaway (From "It's Going To Be Ok")

We all know the adage that we can’t judge books by their covers. Still, Feelings & Co producer Jordan Turgeon couldn’t help but be surprised when a fellow coffee shop patron shared her affinity for a particular 2004 pop song. “It’s Going To Be OK” is a daily podcast from Feelings and Co. Each morning, we bring you a short story, essay, or interview about one thing that makes us (or our guests) feel like it might not all be so bad – even if some things are. If you liked this episode, go follow "I

Jun 24, 2023 • 7:36

From the Archives: If/Then

From the Archives: If/Then

We are taking a break this summer (not a vacation!) to produce new stories, so we are sharing some of our favorite episodes while we’re working. This episode was first broadcast in 2018. Remember, our full episode archive is always available to TTFA Premium members! Join here — Charlotte’s career is built on theoreticals. As an operating room nurse, she has a protocol for every tragedy — a “then” for every “if.” That all changes one night when, on her way home, Charlotte encounters a teenage gir

Jun 20, 2023 • 39:57

The Rhyme Crime (From "It's Going To Be OK")

The Rhyme Crime (From "It's Going To Be OK")

On a recent trip to the trampoline park, Nora met two little girls singing a song and clapping hands. It felt like a sweet moment. Turns out, it was a scam.“It’s Going To Be OK” is a daily podcast from Feelings and Co. Each morning, we bring you a short story, essay, or interview about one thing that makes us (or our guests) feel like it might not all be so bad – even if some things are. If you liked this episode, go follow "It's Going To Be OK" in your podcast app, so you never miss a single OK

Jun 17, 2023 • 7:29

From the Archives: The Broken Places

From the Archives: The Broken Places

We are taking a break this summer (not a vacation!) to produce new stories, so we are sharing some of our favorite episodes while we’re working. This episode was first broadcast in 2018 and is one of our all-time favorites. Remember, our full episode archive is always available to TTFA Premium members! Join here! The Achilli siblings would like you to know that if there was a Dead Parent Contest (there's not), they would win the gold medal. In 2008, their dad was murdered by a hitman in a disput

Jun 13, 2023 • 47:06

YGYSYDG (From "It's Going To Be OK")

YGYSYDG (From "It's Going To Be OK")

Nora’s son Ralph is here to share some bedtime wisdom with all of us. “It’s Going To Be OK” is a daily podcast from Feelings and Co, the company that brought you “Terrible, Thanks for Asking.” Each morning, we bring you a short story, essay, or interview about one thing that makes us (or our guests) feel like it might not all be so bad – even if some things are.If you liked this episode, go subscribe to "It's Going To Be OK" in your podcast app, so you never miss a single OK thing! Share your OK

Jun 9, 2023 • 5:52

Swole Lizards (From "It's Going To Be OK")

Swole Lizards (From "It's Going To Be OK")

Nora lives in the desert, where there are lots of little critters running around. And the lizards? They’re always trying to get swole. “It’s Going To Be OK” is a daily podcast from Feelings and Co, the company that brought you “Terrible, Thanks for Asking.” Each morning, we bring you a short story, essay, or interview about one thing that makes us (or our guests) feel like it might not all be so bad – even if some things are. If you liked this episode, go subscribe to "It's Going To Be OK" in yo

Jun 8, 2023 • 6:02

The Big Show (From "It's Going To Be OK")

The Big Show (From "It's Going To Be OK")

Nora goes to the hottest concert in Phoenix – no, not the opening weekend of Taylor Swift’s Eras Tour – and finds a little hope in the performers’ gusto.“It’s Going To Be OK” is a daily podcast from Feelings and Co, the company that brought you “Terrible, Thanks for Asking.” Each morning, we bring you a short story, essay, or interview about one thing that makes us (or our guests) feel like it might not all be so bad – even if some things are.If you liked this episode, go subscribe to "It's Goin

Jun 7, 2023 • 6:35

From the Archives: Not The Bummer Olympics

From the Archives: Not The Bummer Olympics

We are taking a break this summer (not a vacation!) to produce new stories, so we are sharing some of our favorite episodes while we’re working. This episode was first broadcast in 2017, the first year we started making this show!In case you didn't know, we're still making episodes that are available exclusively on Nora's Substack! —So many people start off their stories by saying their pain and suffering doesn’t compare to what happened to someone else. But this isn’t a game of Who Has

Jun 6, 2023 • 17:56

Don't Be Afraid, Just Feel The Pain (From "It's Going To Be OK")

Don't Be Afraid, Just Feel The Pain (From "It's Going To Be OK")

Sometimes, enduring the painful thing is the thing we need … even if we don’t want to feel it.“It’s Going To Be OK” is a daily podcast from Feelings and Co, the company that brought you “Terrible, Thanks for Asking.” Each morning, we bring you a short story, essay, or interview about one thing that makes us (or our guests) feel like it might not all be so bad – even if some things are.If you liked this episode, go subscribe to "It's Going To Be OK" in your podcast app, so you never miss a single

Jun 6, 2023 • 5:48

The Scorp Report (From "It's Going To Be OK")

The Scorp Report (From "It's Going To Be OK")

Something that inspires Nora is talking to someone who has a very specific and deep passion. For example, the excitement her son Ralph feels about scorpions. “It’s Going To Be OK” is a daily podcast from Feelings and Co, the company that brought you “Terrible, Thanks for Asking.” Each morning, we bring you a short story, essay, or interview about one thing that makes us (or our guests) feel like it might not all be so bad – even if some things are.If you liked this episode, go subscribe to "It's

Jun 5, 2023 • 7:35

Light a Candle, Talk About Them, Take the Kids to Hot Topic — TTFA Premium

Light a Candle, Talk About Them, Take the Kids to Hot Topic — TTFA Premium

Here is a preview of an episode that you can find in its entirety over on TTFA Premium.TTFA Premium is our paid subscription that gives members access to bonus content and regular episodes ad-free and earlier. Your support helps fund our independent production amidst a sea of big media companies. We couldn't do this without you.Subscribe to TTFA Premium at TTFA.org/Premium. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

May 23, 2023 • 14:37

Little Baby Quail (From "It's Going To Be OK")

Little Baby Quail (From "It's Going To Be OK")

Nora’s work day is often interrupted by her children (very rudely) entering her home office without knocking. But one day, the interruption led to a very sweet discovery in the backyard…“It’s Going To Be OK” is a daily podcast from Feelings and Co, the company that brought you “Terrible, Thanks for Asking.” Each morning, we bring you a short story, essay, or interview about one thing that makes us (or our guests) feel like it might not all be so bad – even if some things are.If you liked this ep

May 22, 2023 • 7:29

And Yet (From "It's Going To Be OK")

And Yet (From "It's Going To Be OK")

Kate Baer is a poet and friend of Nora McInerny. And she’s here to share with us, you guessed it, a favorite poem. You can find Kate’s work on her website. Her latest poetry collection And Yet is available wherever books are sold.“It’s Going To Be OK” is a daily podcast from Feelings and Co, the company that brought you “Terrible, Thanks for Asking.” Each morning, we bring you a short story, essay, or interview about one thing that makes us (or our guests) feel like it might not all be so bad –

May 19, 2023 • 7:52

The Awards Lunch (From "It's Going To Be OK")

The Awards Lunch (From "It's Going To Be OK")

Nora is a de-motivational speaker, in her own words. After a speaking engagement, she’s asked to stay and attend an awards luncheon. She’s not very familiar with the organization’s work, and that’s why she loves it.“It’s Going To Be OK” is a daily podcast from Feelings and Co, the company that brought you “Terrible, Thanks for Asking.” Each morning, we bring you a short story, essay, or interview about one thing that makes us (or our guests) feel like it might not all be so bad – even if some th

May 18, 2023 • 8:04

Go Team (From "It's Going To Be OK")

Go Team (From "It's Going To Be OK")

Nora’s not a natural joiner, but you know what always gets her? The power of strangers rallying together in small and unexpectedly heartwarming ways.“It’s Going To Be OK” is a daily podcast from Feelings and Co, the company that brought you “Terrible, Thanks for Asking.” Each morning, we bring you a short story, essay, or interview about one thing that makes us (or our guests) feel like it might not all be so bad – even if some things are.If you liked this episode, go subscribe to "It's Going To

May 17, 2023 • 5:49

Wide Open Spaces

Wide Open Spaces

Five years ago, on Mother’s Day, Katie was sitting in prison, far from her kids. She couldn’t hug them, she couldn’t kiss them. It was at that moment she decided she would completely change her life so she could be with them again. But changing her life required a lot of help that didn’t exist in prison. Then one day, she opened a book in the prison library and a brochure fell out. It was for a place called Benevolence Farm, and they could help her change her life.If you want to help Be

May 16, 2023 • 56:43

Simply The Beth (From "It's Going To Be OK")

Simply The Beth (From "It's Going To Be OK")

You’ve met a Beth before. You know them when you see them — they light up a room, they’re genuinely curious about how you’re doing, they love life. And Nora loves her Beth.“It’s Going To Be OK” is a daily podcast from Feelings and Co, the company that brought you “Terrible, Thanks for Asking.” Each morning, we bring you a short story, essay, or interview about one thing that makes us (or our guests) feel like it might not all be so bad – even if some things are.If you liked this episode, go subs

May 15, 2023 • 6:59

The Final Quince

The Final Quince

When Xiomara Medina was a teenage girl in Puerto Rico, a quinceañera was all she wanted when she turned 15. She dreamed of a big, sparkly dress and dancing the night away with her friends. But her family couldn’t afford it. So when she grew up and had four daughters, she wanted to give each of her children the party she never had. In this episode, her daughter, Jeyca Maldonado-Medina, brings us along as the family hosts its final quince for Jeyca’s youngest sister.—Listener support makes our ind

May 9, 2023 • 57:21

Ketchup (From "It's Going To Be OK")

Ketchup (From "It's Going To Be OK")

Kate Bowler is an author, podcaster and professor at Duke University, and Nora’s dear friend. And the thing that helps her remember it’s going to be okay is … ketchup.You can find Kate’s podcast, Everything Happens with Kate Bowler, wherever you listen to podcasts. Her most recent book, The Lives We Actually Have: 100 Blessings for Imperfect Days, is available wherever you get books. You can find information on Kate’s newsletter and other books on her website. Want to hear more from Kate? Listen

May 5, 2023 • 6:49

The Money Tree (From "It's Going To Be OK")

The Money Tree (From "It's Going To Be OK")

Sure you’ve seen trees, but have you ever seen a Money Tree?! In this episode, a couple of elementary school kids introduce us to this rare species.“It’s Going To Be OK” is a daily podcast from Feelings and Co, the company that brought you “Terrible, Thanks for Asking.” Each morning, we bring you a short story, essay, or interview about one thing that makes us (or our guests) feel like it might not all be so bad – even if some things are.If you liked this episode, go subscribe to "It's Going To

May 4, 2023 • 5:38

Post Secret (From "It's Going To Be OK")

Post Secret (From "It's Going To Be OK")

This is our first audience submission, and one we hold dear. Content warning for discussion of suicide.“It’s Going To Be OK” is a daily podcast from Feelings and Co, the company that brought you “Terrible, Thanks for Asking.” Each morning, we bring you a short story, essay, or interview about one thing that makes us (or our guests) feel like it might not all be so bad – even if some things are.If you liked this episode, go subscribe to "It's Going To Be OK" in your podcast app, so you never miss

May 3, 2023 • 4:46

Vacation Dog (From "It's Going To Be OK")

Vacation Dog (From "It's Going To Be OK")

On a recent beach vacation, Feelings & Co producer Jordan Turgeon got to see glorious sunsets, beautiful plants... and adorable vacation dogs. “It’s Going To Be OK” is a daily podcast from Feelings and Co. Each morning, we bring you a short story, essay, or interview about one thing that makes us (or our guests) feel like it might not all be so bad – even if some things are.Share your OK thing at 612.568.4441 or by emailing IGTBO@feelingsand.co.“It’s Going To Be OK” is brought to you by The Hart

May 2, 2023 • 7:55

The Plunge (From "It's Going To Be OK")

The Plunge (From "It's Going To Be OK")

One December afternoon, Nora got peer pressured into jumping in a 30-something degree pool. She’s not here to promote cold plunging, but sometimes being uncomfortable for a short period of time can change your perspective! “It’s Going To Be OK” is a daily podcast from Feelings and Co, the company that brought you “Terrible, Thanks for Asking.” Each morning, we bring you a short story, essay, or interview about one thing that makes us (or our guests) feel like it might not all be so bad – even if

May 1, 2023 • 6:16

Well, It's Going (From "It's Going To Be OK")

Well, It's Going (From "It's Going To Be OK")

Nora McInerny is an author, speaker and podcast host who has never claimed to be the brightest ray of sunshine. The world can be doomy and gloomy! But in the spirit of her late husband, Aaron, she’s made it a goal to find one okay thing – every day.“It’s Going To Be OK” is a daily podcast from Feelings and Co, the company that brought you “Terrible, Thanks for Asking.” Each morning, we bring you a short story, essay, or interview about one thing that makes us (or our guests) feel like it might n

Apr 30, 2023 • 8:21

Bury Me In A Camry

Bury Me In A Camry

Grieving is a lonely experience. Many of us who have been through it wish there was a handbook to lead us through the experience. When comedy writer Jason Roeder lost his mom, he decided to write the guidebook that he wanted to read. This episode of Terrible Reading Club is a chat with Jason about his book Griefstrike!, a humorous guide to grief.  Jason Roeder is comedy writer, and is the former senior writer and editor of The Onion. ----- Listener support helps make this show possible.  Since 2

Apr 25, 2023 • 37:28

The (Mis)Adventures of Nora and Marcel Part 1 — TTFA PREMIUM

The (Mis)Adventures of Nora and Marcel Part 1 — TTFA PREMIUM

If you liked what you heard and you want to hear more, consider supporting our independent production by going to TTFA.org/Premium. As a Premium subscriber, you can hear the rest of this episode, other bonus episodes, and our whole back catalogue ad-free. Thank you for your support! Our new show, It's Going to Be OK, launches on May 1st! Listen to the trailer here and subscribe wherever you listen to podcasts.  Our last leg of the Bad Vibes Only tour is hitting the road in a couple months! Cli

Apr 20, 2023 • 11:19

Courtney's Secret Garden

Courtney's Secret Garden

Courtney Maum is having a midlife crisis. Parenting is taking so much of her time. Her writing career is going well, but that means she’s overwhelmed by deadlines and book deals. Her marriage is in a rough patch, and when she starts asking herself “should I have an affair?” and “should I become an alcoholic?” she recognizes she needs a change in her life.  She dreams of finding an escape that brings her back to her childhood passion of being outside for hours, lost in her thoughts. In this episo

Apr 18, 2023 • 48:14

Objectively And Objectifiable-y Beautiful — TTFA Premium

Objectively And Objectifiable-y Beautiful — TTFA Premium

Like many women, Nora grew up being inundated by very specific ideas of what it meant to be beautiful. In this TTFA Premium episode preview, she talks with rapper Dessa about their complicated feelings surrounding beauty standards and aging. To get access to the rest of this hour-long conversation and the rest of our bonus episodes, subscribe to TTFA Premium! We’re an independent production and your support means the world to us. Our email subscribers get first dibs on ticket sales, new merch,

Apr 4, 2023 • 16:37

The Greener Grass — TTFA Premium

The Greener Grass — TTFA Premium

When Ashley went through puberty, she knew her body. Or at least, she felt like she knew it. As an adult, Ashley undergoes an unexpected and rapid physical change, and she struggles with accepting her new body and all that comes with it. If you love the show, consider supporting us by becoming a TTFA Premium member!  Since 2016, we’ve been making space for stories that matter. Not just sad stories, but human stories. Life stories.  Since 2022, we’ve been an independent production in a sea of b

Mar 30, 2023 • 11:08

Jamie The Good Times Gal

Jamie The Good Times Gal

In case you didn't know, we're still making episodes that are available exclusively on Nora's Substack! -There are a ton of money stories out there. Stories about people who are screwed financially through no fault of their own. People who did everything right and still cannot get a leg up. This episode is not one of those. It’s an excavation of a specific kind of debt, and a specific kind of shame. The kind that Jamie Feldman found herself in when she was 33 years old: credit card debt

Mar 28, 2023 • 38:32

The Trail

The Trail

In April 2022, Marlin Sill’s father died from a head injury caused by a cycling accident. A few weeks later, he embarked on a months-long hike through the Western United States. Throughout last summer, Marlin sent the TTFA team voice memos of himself processing his dad’s death while he hiked. In this episode we take you on the trail with Marlin as he grieves, and also throughout the rest of the first year without his dad.—Listener support makes our independent podcast possible. Consider

Mar 14, 2023 • 1:05:04

Gifted and Terrible

Gifted and Terrible

Enjoy this free TTFA Premium episode! And if you like it, consider signing up for future bonus content like this. Listener support makes our independent podcast possible. In case you didn't know, we're still making episodes that are available exclusively on Nora's Substack!  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Mar 9, 2023 • 39:19

Should I Have Kids?

Should I Have Kids?

TTFA producer Claire McInerny experienced an extreme weather event in 2021, a result of climate change, that left her worried about the future. She started channeling her anxiety about the future of our world into another important question she was asking herself: “Should I have kids?” In this episode, Claire tries to untangle her feelings around what the world will look like in the future with her desire to have a family of her own. — Listener support makes our independent podcast possible. Con

Feb 28, 2023 • 42:48

My Dad Died, And All Of My Friends Disappointed Me. Is This Normal? - TTFA Premium

My Dad Died, And All Of My Friends Disappointed Me. Is This Normal? - TTFA Premium

Here’s a sneak peek of what you’ll get when you join us on TTFA Premium. For $7.99 a month, you can support our show AND get ad-free episodes and bonus content. Sign up today at TTFA.org/Premium. When you shop our Bookshop.org store, you support the author, independent bookstores AND our show! Shop here. You can catch up with TTFA on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook using @ttfapodcast. Nora's Instagram is @noraborealis. Find tickets to spring tour cities below or at TTFA.org: Friday, March 3 | P

Feb 23, 2023 • 7:30

You Are A Person That Deserves Clean Dishes

You Are A Person That Deserves Clean Dishes

We’re back with another Terrible Reading Club episode! Think of it as our book club for truly terrible times. Haven’t read the book we’re discussing? Good news: In this reading club, that’s not a requirement. Today, we’re chatting with KC Davis, author of “How to Keep House While Drowning.” KC Davis used to feel terrible about the way her home looked all the time. But does having a clean space have to be a moral issue? ______ Support our new independent production (and get bonus content galore!

Feb 21, 2023 • 43:15

A Note From Nora

A Note From Nora

Team Terrible is going back on the road for the second leg of the Bad Vibes Only live show tour. Where are we going? What does a live show look like? Listen in and let Nora tell you herself! Find tickets to spring tour cities below or at TTFA.org: Friday, March 3 | Phoenix, AZ | Crescent Ballroom Saturday, March 4 | Austin, TX | Stateside at Paramount Theatre Sunday, March 5 | Atlanta, GA | Variety Playhouse Monday, March 6 | Durham, NC | Motorco Music Hall Friday, March 31 | Milwaukee, WI | Tu

Feb 17, 2023 • 5:51

Nora Needs a New Dad

Nora Needs a New Dad

Nora's dad died in 2014 from pretty much all of the cancers, leaving her mom Margaret without her life partner of almost 50 years ... and leaving Nora without a dad. Does a 40-year-old married woman with four children of her own need a father figure in her life? Nora thinks so! But what does Margaret have to say about dating in your 70s? — Listener support makes our independent podcast possible. Consider joining TTFA Premium to get ad-free episodes, bonus content, and more. Our TTFA Substack is

Feb 14, 2023 • 54:22

Debt, Lies, and Other Things Our Parents Leave Us

Debt, Lies, and Other Things Our Parents Leave Us

Identity theft is something many of us are familiar with, but we have a specific image of what this looks like – our data being stolen online, or someone getting a hold of our social security number. But almost a third of identity theft crimes are committed by a family member. This episode tells the story of two people who experienced financial abuse at the hands of their parents. — Listener support makes our independent podcast possible. Consider joining TTFA Premium to get ad-free episodes, bo

Feb 7, 2023 • 46:02

The Trick with Trich - TTFA Premium

The Trick with Trich - TTFA Premium

Here’s a sneak peek of what you’ll get when you join us on TTFA Premium. For $8 a month, you can support our show AND get ad-free episodes and bonus content — including mailbag episodes like this one. Sign up today at TTFA.org/Premium. You can catch up with TTFA on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook using @ttfapodcast. Nora's Instagram is @noraborealis. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jan 26, 2023 • 9:43

How To Lose Your Name

How To Lose Your Name

In case you didn't know, we're still making episodes that are available exclusively on Nora's Substack! -Cheval spent her entire life trying to be a wedding dress designer (she started sewing at 7 years old and studied fashion design in college). In her mid 20’s, she got her big break when a large fashion house hired her to design a wedding dress collection named after herself. But that dream only lasted eight years. She found herself in the middle of a legal battle that would take away

Jan 24, 2023 • 46:32

Imagine That

Imagine That

Brandie and Cathy are two strangers who have something unusual in common. They both suffer from a literal lack of imagination – a condition called aphantasia. In this episode, they talk with Nora and Marcel about what it means to grieve the loss of something they never had to begin with.This episode has been edited from the original version.—Support our new independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. We now offer tiers as low as $4.99 / month. Sign up.Our Subs

Jan 20, 2023 • 45:19

Into The Void

Into The Void

In case you didn't know, we're still making episodes that are available exclusively on Nora's Substack! -One thing we know about grief is that it needs a witness. That inside every griever is a nearly uncontrollable urge to make the people around us understand what we had and what we have now. In this episode, we are all David’s witnesses.—Listener support makes our independent podcast possible. You can read the episode transcript here.—We’re lucky to only work with sponsors and brands

Jan 10, 2023 • 31:49

This Is 40. - TTFA Premium

This Is 40. - TTFA Premium

It’s December 28, 2022. And Nora McInerny is 40 years old.  Here’s a sneak peek of what you’ll get when you join us on TTFA Premium. For $8 a month, you can support our show AND get ad-free episodes and bonus content — including mailbag episodes like this one. Sign up today at TTFA.org/Premium. You can catch up with TTFA on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook using @ttfapodcast. Nora's Instagram is @noraborealis. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dec 28, 2022 • 8:23

Your Happyish Holiday Traditions

Your Happyish Holiday Traditions

In case you didn't know, we're still making episodes that are available exclusively on Nora's Substack! -The happyish holiday season can be whatever the heck you want it to be, no matter what pressures you feel from family and friends and society. So, here’s to creating new traditions – and to the Terribles who shared theirs with us (and with you). Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dec 20, 2022 • 36:17

Happyish Holidays 2022

Happyish Holidays 2022

‘Tis the season! Our terrible holiday tradition is back, this time with more of your painful, sad, awkward holiday stories. Plus: boundary setting advice from Melissa Urban and a fiery Hanukkah story from Vanessa Zoltan.-In case you didn't know, we're still making episodes that are available exclusively on Nora's Substack! -You can find the episode transcript here.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Dec 13, 2022 • 48:08

Blocked and Reported

Blocked and Reported

When Natalie Weaver stepped into the media spotlight to advocate for her 8-year-old daughter Sophia’s right to health care, she expected some pushback. She didn’t expect the flood of online hate and death threats that came her way … or for images of Sophia to end up on the wrong, hurtful, abusive side of the Internet. —Learn more about Natalie’s work for families with medically fragile kids at Sophias-Voice.com.Support our new independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTF

Dec 7, 2022 • 44:21

When Surviving Is Enough (From "A Slight Change of Plans")

When Surviving Is Enough (From "A Slight Change of Plans")

If you’ve listened to our show, at all, ever, you know that grief has been a big part of Nora’s life since 2014 when she lost her husband Aaron. Since then, she’s built this show, her writing, and much of her life around helping others navigate their own grief. Despite all this, Nora never felt like she was doing enough, until the events of 2021 forced her to slow down and re-examine her grief once again. Nora recently appeared on the podcast "A Slight Change of Plans" with Dr. Maya Shankar, whe

Nov 22, 2022 • 48:33

Army Wife

Army Wife

In case you didn't know, we're still making episodes that are available exclusively on Nora's Substack! -Death by suicide has long been a problem within the U.S. military, and not just among veterans: In 2020, suicide rates among active duty service members hit a six-year high.On August 28th, 2015, Heather’s husband Tyler became one of those statistics.Theirs is a story of friendship, of love, of family, of service and duty … and of trauma, domestic abuse and mental illness.If you’re ex

Nov 15, 2022 • 49:57

Between Two Widows

Between Two Widows

Michael Allio was a fan favorite on Katie Thurston’s season of “The Bachelorette,” applauded for the vulnerability he showed as he talked about losing his wife, Laura, to cancer and raising his son James without his mom. Losing a partner to cancer? Raising a young son on your own? Sounds familiar!Michael came across Nora’s TED Talk shortly after Laura died, and when he reached out to the podcast, we knew we had to get these two on a call together. That call became a TTFA Premium episode. Now, if

Nov 8, 2022 • 1:22:12

After The Headlines

After The Headlines

In case you didn't know, we're still making episodes that are available exclusively on Nora's Substack! -In the early morning hours of June 24th, 2021, an apartment complex in Surfside, Florida collapsed out of nowhere, killing 98 people – including Patty’s mom, Maggie. It’s difficult enough to lose a loved one to an unthinkable tragedy. It’s exceptionally awful when you’re forced to watch them die over and over again on national television.—You can catch up with TTFA on Instagram, Twit

Oct 25, 2022 • 44:43

Bad Vibes Only

Bad Vibes Only

In case you didn't know, we're still making episodes that are available exclusively on Nora's Substack! -The vibes aren't good. They're not even decent. They're bad.Nora's new book, BAD VIBES ONLY, is available today wherever you buy books!—TTFA is on tour now! Come see Nora perform LIVE!Tuesday, October 11 - Los Angeles, CASaturday, October 15 - Philadelphia, PASunday, October 16 - Brooklyn, NYMonday, October 17 - Washington, DCTuesday, October 18 - Boston, MAWednesday, October 19 - To

Oct 11, 2022 • 35:40

Update: The Beautiful Ones

Update: The Beautiful Ones

In case you didn't know, we're still making episodes that are available exclusively on Nora's Substack! -Four years ago, Nora sat down with her friend Gigi to tell the story of … Gigi’s face. It was a story about confidence and beauty (and beauty standards) and chronic illness, and it has touched so many people since we first aired it. Today, you’ll hear that first conversation with Gigi, plus an important update on what’s going on with Gigi’s health … and with her face.Gigi runs a shop

Sep 27, 2022 • 54:29

Para-Mom

Para-Mom

In case you didn't know, we're still making episodes that are available exclusively on Nora's Substack! -When Leah Nixon woke up in the hospital after a construction accident and learned she was paralyzed from the chest down, she wondered how she’d go about starting a family someday. In this episode, she gives us a glimpse into her daily life as a “para-mom” to her 9-month-old daughter, Ellie. Leah’s company is called Tiny & Snail and they make adorable cards and stationery.Read the

Sep 20, 2022 • 44:22

Overthinking About You

Overthinking About You

In case you didn't know, we're still making episodes that are available exclusively on Nora's Substack! -Allison Raskin was just 4 years old the first time she told her parents she wanted to die. Within weeks, the preschooler was diagnosed with obsessive compulsive disorder and depression. In this episode, we talk with Allison and her mother Ruth about raising a child with severe mental illness and what Allison’s world looks like today as an adult living with OCD. You can buy Allison’s

Sep 13, 2022 • 44:58

Born Fat

Born Fat

Genna is fat. They are also queer and nonbinary. All of these things can make a person feel marginalized in a straight, cisgender, thin-obsessed society … but for Genna, it’s being fat that’s hardest. TTFA is coming to your city October 7th - 22nd with an all-new live show experience, and tickets are on sale now! Get yours here. For more information about The Hartford, click here. Support our new independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. Sign up. To read th

Sep 6, 2022 • 42:16

TTFA PREMIUM - Objectively and Objectifiable-y Beautiful with Dessa

TTFA PREMIUM - Objectively and Objectifiable-y Beautiful with Dessa

Like many people who identify as women, Nora grew up being inundated by very specific ideas of what it meant to be beautiful. In this TTFA Premium episode, she talks with rapper Dessa about their complicated feelings surrounding beauty standards and aging.

Aug 25, 2022 • 53:07

Anything Can Happen

Anything Can Happen

The thing about having your life fall apart is that there’s just so much to do, and there’s so much that you don’t know until it’s too late. In today’s episode: What helps when everything goes wrong.For more information about The Hartford, visit thehartford.com/employeebenefits. TTFA is coming to your city October 7th - 22nd with an all-new live show experience. Get your ticket here. Support our new independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. We now offer tier

Aug 23, 2022 • 39:34

Anything Can Happen

Anything Can Happen

The thing about having your life fall apart is that there’s just so much to do, and there’s so much that you don’t know until it’s too late. In today’s episode: What helps when everything goes wrong.For more information about The Hartford, visit thehartford.com/employeebenefits.TTFA is coming to your city October 7th - 22nd with an all-new live show experience. Get your ticket here.Support our new independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. We now offer tiers

Aug 23, 2022 • 44:11

TTFA Premium - Show Your Work

TTFA Premium - Show Your Work

In this mailbag episode, exclusive to TTFA Premium subscribers, Nora answers listener questions about failure and how to move forward in the face of it. Also, the Terribles say some kind things and ask thoughtful questions about TTFA becoming an independent production. We heart all of you.

Aug 11, 2022 • 37:43

TTFA PREMIUM - Gifted & Terrible

TTFA PREMIUM - Gifted & Terrible

A very long time ago (like … honestly maybe a year ago now?) we asked TTFA listeners how their school’s gifted and talented programs messed them up (or didn’t). In this bonus episode, Nora listens to your voicemail, reads your email, and responds to them. Thank you for being a Premium subscriber! We appreciate you!

Jul 28, 2022 • 35:59

How Long Should Grief Last? (Part 2)

How Long Should Grief Last? (Part 2)

This past spring, we did an episode titled, “How Long Should Grief Last?” about prolonged grief disorder, a relatively new diagnosis in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (say that five times fast). Nora had a lot of feelings and opinions about this new diagnosis, and she asked for your reactions. And you delivered, because you always do. This episode is available exclusively to TTFA Premium subscribers. Thank you for supporting our show – we appreciate you!

Jul 21, 2022 • 33:31

We're Going On Tour!

We're Going On Tour!

TTFA is going on tour! Get your tickets here!Want (sporadic) emails from Nora and Team TTFA? Sign up here.  Sign up today for TTFA Premium! For $7.99 a month, you get access to exclusive bonus content, ad-free episodes *and* the knowledge that you’re keeping our show afloat!Visit TTFA.org/Premium to get started. When you shop our Bookshop.org store, you support the author, independent bookstores AND our show! Shop here. You can purchase Nora’s books here. Shop for your favorite TTFA gear at TTFA

Jul 19, 2022 • 2:49

We're Going On Tour!

We're Going On Tour!

TTFA is coming to your city October 7th - 22nd with an all-new live show experience. Get your ticket here.Support our new independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. We now offer tiers as low as $4.99 / month. Sign up.Our email subscribers get first dibs on ticket sales, new merch, show announcements and more. Join our mailing list here.Did you know we’re on TikTok? Yep, it’s true. Follow Nora. You can catch up with TTFA on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook usin

Jul 19, 2022 • 2:49

Independence Days

Independence Days

We’re officially in our Taylor Swift era, and we can’t wait for what’s to come.Want (sporadic) emails from Nora and Team TTFA? Sign up here.  Sign up today for TTFA Premium! You get access to exclusive bonus content, ad-free episodes *and* the knowledge that you’re keeping our show afloat! Click here to get started. We now offer tiers as low as $4.99 a month. You can catch up with TTFA on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook using @ttfapodcast. Nora's Instagram is @noraborealis. We’ve got a cute new

Jul 5, 2022 • 15:48

Independence Days

Independence Days

We're officially in our Taylor Swift era, and we can't wait for what's to come.TTFA is coming to your city October 7th - 22nd with an all-new live show experience. Get your ticket here.Support our new independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. Sign up.You can catch up with TTFA on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook using @ttfapodcast. Nora's Instagram is @noraborealis.Read the transcript for this episode here.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Jul 5, 2022 • 17:03

The Missing Puzzle Piece

The Missing Puzzle Piece

Chelsea’s mom and unborn brother died in a car accident on Chelsea’s first birthday, leaving little Chelsea and her grief-stricken father behind to piece back together their shattered life. As a child, Chelsea longs for a mom – a living mom – and she’s thrilled when her dad remarries a wonderful woman named Shawna. But even when she’s surrounded by love, Chelsea still finds herself trying to fill a gaping hole in her heart.Want (sporadic) emails from Nora and Team TTFA? Sign up here.  Sign up to

Jun 28, 2022 • 48:59

The Missing Puzzle Piece

The Missing Puzzle Piece

Chelsea’s mom and unborn brother died in a car accident on Chelsea’s first birthday, leaving little Chelsea and her grief-stricken father behind to piece back together their shattered life. As a child, Chelsea longs for a mom – a living mom – and she’s thrilled when her dad remarries a wonderful woman named Shawna. But even when she’s surrounded by love, Chelsea still finds herself trying to fill a gaping hole in her heart.TTFA is coming to your city October 7th - 22nd with an all-new live show

Jun 28, 2022 • 52:14

Asking for a Friend

Asking for a Friend

When romantic relationships end, there’s usually a clean cut – a moment, a conversation, an argument that ends things for good. When friendships dissolve, the break is usually way less clear, if it’s clear at all. You can read Jennifer Senior’s article from The Atlantic here. — Want (sporadic) emails from Nora and Team TTFA? Sign up here.  Sign up today for TTFA Premium! For $7.99 a month, you get access to exclusive bonus content, ad-free episodes *and* the knowledge that you’re keeping our sho

Jun 21, 2022 • 42:33

Asking for a Friend

Asking for a Friend

When romantic relationships end, there’s usually a clean cut – a moment, a conversation, an argument that ends things for good. When friendships dissolve, the break is usually way less clear, if it’s clear at all.Support our new independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. Sign up.Our email subscribers get first dibs on ticket sales, new merch, show announcements and more. Join our mailing list here.You can catch up with TTFA on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook

Jun 21, 2022 • 45:48

Listen to This: "History is US"

Listen to This: "History is US"

Today, we’re bringing you something special: a new podcast by C13Originals Studios and Jon Meacham called “History is US.” History is US is a six-part series that journeys back to face the truths about race at the heart of the American story. From the aftermath of the Civil War, to the mid-twentieth century struggle for freedom, to the election of Barack Obama, to current day racial reckoning, “History is US” asks questions about who we are as a nation, what race might reveal about our current c

Jun 20, 2022 • 4:01

Listen to This: "History is US"

Listen to This: "History is US"

Today, we’re bringing you something special: a new podcast by C13Originals Studios and Jon Meacham called “History is US.” History is US is a six-part series that journeys back to face the truths about race at the heart of the American story. From the aftermath of the Civil War, to the mid-twentieth century struggle for freedom, to the election of Barack Obama, to current day racial reckoning, “History is US” asks questions about who we are as a nation, what race might reveal about our current c

Jun 20, 2022 • 4:01

I've Been Cursed by a Sea Witch with Drew Magary

I've Been Cursed by a Sea Witch with Drew Magary

We’re back with another Terrible Reading Club episode, sponsored by Betterhelp Online Therapy. Think of it as our book club for truly terrible times. Haven’t read the book we’re discussing? Good news: In this reading club, that’s not a requirement. Today, we’re chatting with Drew Magary, formerly of Deadspin and now of Defector, about his new memoir, “The Night The Lights Went Out: A Memoir of Life After Brain Damage.” There’s quite a bit of adult language in this episode, so you *might* not wa

Jun 16, 2022 • 52:12

I've Been Cursed By A Sea Witch

I've Been Cursed By A Sea Witch

We’re back with another Terrible Reading Club episode. Think of it as our book club for truly terrible times. Haven’t read the book we’re discussing? Good news: In this reading club, that’s not a requirement.Today, we’re chatting with Drew Magary, formerly of Deadspin and now of Defector, about his new memoir, “The Night The Lights Went Out: A Memoir of Life After Brain Damage.”There’s quite a bit of adult language in this episode, so you *might* not want to listen while driving around in the ca

Jun 16, 2022 • 54:27

About Laura

About Laura

Four years ago, we published a Father’s Day episode called “About Bob,” about a woman named Laura and her dad named – you guessed it – Bob. It ended with father and daughter trying to navigate their complex (but hopeful!) relationship.  In this episode, Nora sits back down with Laura to find out if things with her dad are still as complicated as they were back in 2018.Want (sporadic) emails from Nora and Team TTFA? Sign up here.  Sign up today for TTFA Premium! For $7.99 a month, you get access

Jun 14, 2022 • 52:45

About Laura

About Laura

Four years ago, we published a Father’s Day episode called “About Bob,” about a woman named Laura and her dad named – you guessed it – Bob. It ended with father and daughter trying to navigate their complex (but hopeful!) relationship. In this episode, Nora sits back down with Laura to find out if things with her dad are still as complicated as they were back in 2018.Support our new independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. We now offer tiers as low as $4.99

Jun 14, 2022 • 56:00

The Nemo Feeling w/ Mary Laura Philpott - TTFA Premium

The Nemo Feeling w/ Mary Laura Philpott - TTFA Premium

Here’s a sneak peek of what you’ll get when you join us on TTFA Premium. For $8 a month, you can support our show AND get ad-free episodes and bonus content — including mailbag episodes like this one. Sign up today at TTFA.org/Premium. Join the TTFA reading club: TTFA.org/readingclub Our twice-monthly newsletter features behind-the-scenes content, previews of upcoming episodes and more. Sign up. When you shop our Bookshop.org store, you support the author, independent bookstores AND our show! Sh

Jun 9, 2022 • 11:27

TTFA Premium - The Nemo Feeling w/ Mary Laura Philpott

TTFA Premium - The Nemo Feeling w/ Mary Laura Philpott

Nora gravitates toward people who are pretty happyish in general but also carry around a significant sense of impending doom – people whose personalities resemble a big ol’ brick tied to a brightly colored balloon. Author Mary Laura Philpott is one of those people. Her latest book, Bomb Shelter: Love, Time and Other Explosives, is available here or wherever you like to shop books.

Jun 9, 2022 • 33:56

Saved As Draft

Saved As Draft

Why do we hold on to things we no longer need? For many of us, it’s because they remind us of who we were and who we thought we might become. — Want (sporadic) emails from Nora and Team TTFA? Sign up here.  Sign up today for TTFA Premium! For $7.99 a month, you get access to exclusive bonus content, ad-free episodes *and* the knowledge that you’re keeping our show afloat! Visit TTFA.org/Premium to get started. When you shop our Bookshop.org store, you support the author, independent bookstores A

Jun 7, 2022 • 46:47

Saved As Draft

Saved As Draft

Why do we hold on to things we no longer need? For many of us, it’s because they remind us of who we were and who we thought we might become.Support our new independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. Sign up.You can catch up with TTFA on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook using @ttfapodcast. Nora's Instagram is @noraborealis.Read the episode transcript here.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Jun 7, 2022 • 50:02

Matchmaker, Make Me a Match

Matchmaker, Make Me a Match

Last year, we did a virtual live show on Valentine’s Day, and Nora — who considers herself a bit of a matchmaker — did some matchmaking. And while she was doing that, the live show comments section was popping off with other Terribles looking for love.  This gave Nora the harebrained idea to make … a matchmaking episode. Consider this the podcast version of that “Great Expectations” video dating service from the ‘90s.  If you are interested in reaching out to any of these people romantically, se

May 31, 2022 • 57:22

Matchmaker, Make Me a Match

Matchmaker, Make Me a Match

Last year, we did a virtual live show on Valentine’s Day, and Nora — who considers herself a bit of a matchmaker — did some matchmaking. And while she was doing that, the live show comments section was popping off with other Terribles looking for love. This gave Nora the harebrained idea to make … a matchmaking episode. Consider this the podcast version of that “Great Expectations” video dating service from the ‘90s.  We're no longer taking submissions for these daters, but we hope you enjoy the

May 31, 2022 • 1:00:37

Girlboss or Bust

Girlboss or Bust

Girlboss culture is now, as they say, cringe, but during the 2010s, SO MANY of us thought we were on the precipice of busting through that glass ceiling. We thought we could rise and grind, hustle our way to the life of our dreams, and as long as we loved what we did we wouldn’t work a day in our lives. Leigh Stein is also a recovering girlboss, who went into debt building an organization that supported women but left her burned all the way out.Support our new independent production (an

May 24, 2022 • 57:29

Girlboss or Bust

Girlboss or Bust

Girlboss culture is now, as they say, cringe, but during the 2010s, SO MANY of us thought we were on the precipice of busting through that glass ceiling. We thought we could rise and grind, hustle our way to the life of our dreams, and as long as we loved what we did we wouldn’t work a day in our lives. Leigh Stein is also a recovering girlboss, who went into debt building an organization that supported women but left her burned all the way out. —Read Leigh’s LitHub article (and see her work di

May 24, 2022 • 54:14

We Want To Feel Seen with Kathleen Glasgow

We Want To Feel Seen with Kathleen Glasgow

We’re back with another Terrible Reading Club episode, sponsored by Betterhelp Online Therapy. Think of it as our book club for truly terrible times. Haven’t read the book we’re discussing? Good news: In this reading club, that’s not a requirement.  Today, we’re chatting with Kathleen Glasgow about her YA novel “You’d Be Home Now,” which tackles substance abuse and the opioid crisis. Note that we also talk about self-harm in this episode. Buy the book here or wherever you shop books. You can als

May 19, 2022 • 55:32

We Want To Feel Seen

We Want To Feel Seen

We’re back with another Terrible Reading Club episode, sponsored by BetterHelp Online Therapy. Think of it as our book club for truly terrible times. Haven’t read the book we’re discussing? Good news: In this reading club, that’s not a requirement.Today, we’re chatting with Kathleen Glasgow about her YA novel “You’d Be Home Now,” which tackles substance abuse and the opioid crisis. Note that we also talk about self-harm in this episode.Support our new independent production (and get bonus conten

May 19, 2022 • 59:47

How Long Should Grief Last?

How Long Should Grief Last?

In March, a New York Times article made the rounds titled, “How Long Should It Take to Grieve? Psychiatry Has Come Up With an Answer.” And if that sentence alone makes you roll your eyes and want to punch an inanimate object, you’ve come to the right place.  Nora read the article (twice) and had … some thoughts. So did her friend — and former TTFA guest — Brittany Freeman Jean-Louis. Note: In this episode, Nora refers to a previous TTFA episode called “Untying Knots.” Here, she refers to it as “

May 17, 2022 • 48:02

How Long Should Grief Last?

How Long Should Grief Last?

In March, a New York Times article made the rounds titled, “How Long Should It Take to Grieve? Psychiatry Has Come Up With an Answer.” And if that sentence alone makes you roll your eyes and want to punch an inanimate object, you’ve come to the right place.Nora read the article (twice) and had … some thoughts. So did her friend — and former TTFA guest — Brittany Freeman Jean-Louis.Support our new independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. Sign up.You can catc

May 17, 2022 • 51:17

My Dad Died, and All of My Friends Disappointed Me. Is This Normal? - TTFA PREMIUM

My Dad Died, and All of My Friends Disappointed Me. Is This Normal? - TTFA PREMIUM

Here’s a sneak peek of what you’ll get when you join us on TTFA Premium. For $7.99 a month, you keep our show going *and* get ad-free episodes and bonus content. Sign up today at TTFA.org/Premium. — Want (sporadic) emails from Nora and Team TTFA? Sign up here.  When you shop our Bookshop.org store, you support the author, independent bookstores AND our show! Shop here. You can purchase Nora’s books here. Shop for your favorite TTFA gear at TTFAmerch.com. Read the transcript for this episode here

May 12, 2022 • 13:12

TTFA PREMIUM - My Dad Died, and All of My Friends Disappointed Me. Is This Normal?

TTFA PREMIUM - My Dad Died, and All of My Friends Disappointed Me. Is This Normal?

It can be hard to know how to support someone when they’re in the throes of grief. In this episode — exclusive to TTFA Premium subscribers — Nora chats with Rebeca Soffer, author of The Modern Loss Handbook. Yes, she literally wrote the book on grief. Rebecca also helps answer a grief-y question from a Terrible listener.

May 12, 2022 • 38:41

Brettina Has BPD

Brettina Has BPD

Our language surrounding mental illness has evolved a lot over the past couple of decades … to a point. There are still some mental illnesses that exist outside of the bounds of most people’s understanding and compassion, that are not so easily accepted and are really scary to people who don’t have them. Illnesses that make the person seem “crazy,” where people might not want to associate themselves with you. Today’s guest -- Brettina -- has one of those. — Resources: “Why Borderline Personality

May 10, 2022 • 41:15

Brettina Has BPD

Brettina Has BPD

Our language surrounding mental illness has evolved a lot over the past couple of decades … to a point. There are still some mental illnesses that exist outside of the bounds of most people’s understanding and compassion, that are not so easily accepted and are really scary to people who don’t have them. Illnesses that make the person seem “crazy,” where people might not want to associate themselves with you. Today’s guest -- Brettina -- has one of those.Resources:“Why Borderline Personality Dis

May 10, 2022 • 41:15

Brettina Has BPD

Brettina Has BPD

Our language surrounding mental illness has evolved a lot over the past couple of decades … to a point. There are still some mental illnesses that exist outside of the bounds of most people’s understanding and compassion, that are not so easily accepted and are really scary to people who don’t have them. Illnesses that make the person seem “crazy,” where people might not want to associate themselves with you. Today’s guest -- Brettina -- has one of those.Resources: “Why Borderline Personality Di

May 10, 2022 • 44:30

Motherless Day

Motherless Day

Some holidays are just more loaded than others, depending on our individual experiences. When you’re grieving the loss of your mother — either because they’ve died or because you don’t have a relationship with them — what the heck are you supposed to do with a holiday like Mother’s Day?  When a listener reached out to Nora after their mom died to ask for advice on moving forward, Nora decided to tap into the Terrible Rolodex of accidental grief experts … past TTFA guests and listeners and friend

May 3, 2022 • 56:22

Motherless Day

Motherless Day

Some holidays are just more loaded than others, depending on our individual experiences. When you’re grieving the loss of your mother — either because they’ve died or because you don’t have a relationship with them — what the heck are you supposed to do with a holiday like Mother’s Day?  When a listener reached out to Nora after their mom died to ask for advice on moving forward, Nora decided to tap into the Terrible Rolodex of accidental grief experts … past TTFA guests and listeners and friend

May 3, 2022 • 53:07

Friendship Is the Guiding Force With Christine Pride

Friendship Is the Guiding Force With Christine Pride

We’re back with another Terrible Reading Club episode, sponsored by Betterhelp Online Therapy. Think of it as our book club for truly terrible times. Haven’t read the book we’re discussing? Good news: In this reading club, that’s not a requirement. Today, we’re chatting with Christine Pride about her book co-authored with Jo Piazza, “We Are Not Like Them.” Buy the book here or wherever you shop books. And check out our sponsor this week: BetterHelp — betterhelp.com/ttfa — Sign up today for TTFA

Apr 21, 2022 • 43:26

Friendship Is the Guiding Force

Friendship Is the Guiding Force

We’re back with another Terrible Reading Club episode, sponsored by BetterHelp Online Therapy. Think of it as our book club for truly terrible times. Haven’t read the book we’re discussing? Good news: In this reading club, that’s not a requirement. Today, we’re chatting with Christine Pride about her book co-authored with Jo Piazza, “We Are Not Like Them.”Support our new independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. We now offer tiers as low as $4.99 / month. Si

Apr 21, 2022 • 45:41

The Gal Pals - TTFA Premium

The Gal Pals - TTFA Premium

Here’s a sneak peek of what you’ll get when you join us on TTFA Premium. For $7.99 a month, you keep our show going *and* get ad-free episodes and bonus content. Sign up today at TTFA.org/Premium. — Want (sporadic) emails from Nora and Team TTFA? Sign up here.  When you shop our Bookshop.org store, you support the author, independent bookstores AND our show! Shop here. You can purchase Nora’s books here. Shop for your favorite TTFA gear at TTFAmerch.com. Read the transcript for this episode here

Apr 14, 2022 • 19:35

The Gal Pals - TTFA Premium

The Gal Pals - TTFA Premium

Here’s a sneak peek of what you’ll get when you join us on TTFA Premium. For $8 a month, you can support our show AND get ad-free episodes and bonus content. Sign up today at TTFA.org/Premium. Join the TTFA reading club: TTFA.org/readingclub Our twice-monthly newsletter features behind-the-scenes content, previews of upcoming episodes and more. Sign up. When you shop our Bookshop.org store, you support the author, independent bookstores AND our show! Shop here. Shop for your favorite TTFA gear a

Apr 14, 2022 • 20:50

Between Two Widows with Michael Allio - TTFA Premium

Between Two Widows with Michael Allio - TTFA Premium

Michael Allio was a fan favorite on Katie Thurston’s recent season of “The Bachelorette,” applauded for the vulnerability he showed the literal world as he talked about losing his wife, Laura, to cancer and raising his son James without his mom.  Losing a partner to cancer? Raising a young son on your own? Sounds familiar … Michael came across Nora’s TED Talk shortly after Laura died, and when he reached out to the podcast, we knew we had to get these two on a call together.  — To listen to Nora

Mar 31, 2022 • 26:02

TTFA Premium - Between Two Widows with Michael Allio

TTFA Premium - Between Two Widows with Michael Allio

Michael Allio was a fan favorite on Katie Thurston’s recent season of “The Bachelorette,” applauded for the vulnerability he showed the literal world as he talked about losing his wife, Laura, to cancer and raising his son James without his mom. Losing a partner to cancer? Raising a young son on your own? Sounds familiar … Michael came across Nora’s TED Talk shortly after Laura died, and when he reached out to the podcast, we knew we had to get these two on a call together. For information

Mar 31, 2022 • 1:15:09

Widowed*

Widowed*

Grief comes with so much judgment. Everybody is sure that there's a right way to do it, and only for a certain length of time. If our grief doesn’t neatly fit into a category, we worry that it’s illegitimate. Erin knows this judgment very well. She’s a widow … or is she? — Sign up today for TTFA Premium! For $7.99 a month, you get access to exclusive bonus content, ad-free episodes *and* the knowledge that you’re keeping our show afloat! Visit TTFA.org/Premium to get started. Want (sporadic) ema

Mar 29, 2022 • 44:48

Widowed*

Widowed*

Grief comes with so much judgment. Everybody is sure that there's a right way to do it, and only for a certain length of time. If our grief doesn’t neatly fit into a category, we worry that it’s illegitimate. Erin knows this judgment very well. She’s a widow … or is she?Support our new independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. Sign up.Did you know we’re on TikTok? Yep, it’s true. Follow Nora. You can catch up with TTFA on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook usin

Mar 29, 2022 • 48:03

Empathy Is Not Endorsement with Dylan Marron

Empathy Is Not Endorsement with Dylan Marron

We’re back with another Terrible Reading Club episode, sponsored by Betterhelp Online Therapy. Think of it as our book club for truly terrible times. Haven’t read the book we’re discussing? Good news: In this reading club, that’s not a requirement. Today, we’re chatting with Dylan Marron about his soon-to-be-released book, “Conversations With People Who Hate Me.” You can pre-order/buy Dylan’s book here and at bookstores everywhere.  And check out our sponsor this week: BetterHelp — betterhelp.c

Mar 24, 2022 • 48:00

Empathy Is Not Endorsement

Empathy Is Not Endorsement

We’re back with another Terrible Reading Club episode, sponsored by Betterhelp Online Therapy. Think of it as our book club for truly terrible times. Haven’t read the book we’re discussing? Good news: In this reading club, that’s not a requirement.Today, we’re chatting with Dylan Marron about his soon-to-be-released book, “Conversations With People Who Hate Me.”Support our new independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. We now offer tiers as low as $4.99 / mon

Mar 24, 2022 • 52:15

How’s It Going In There? 2022 Edition

How’s It Going In There? 2022 Edition

In 2020, we asked how it was going in there … wherever it was you were isolating, quarantining, social distancing. Somehow, it’s been *checks watch* TWO YEARS of COVID and so much more, so we thought it was time for another check-in. How *is* it going in there, Terribles?Support our new independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. Sign up.Did you know we’re on TikTok? Yep, it’s true. Follow Nora. You can catch up with TTFA on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook usi

Mar 22, 2022 • 50:50

How’s It Going In There? 2022 Edition

How’s It Going In There? 2022 Edition

In 2020, we asked how it was going in there … wherever it was you were isolating, quarantining, social distancing. Somehow, it’s been *checks watch* TWO YEARS of COVID and so much more, so we thought it was time for another check-in. How *is* it going in there, Terribles? — Sign up today for TTFA Premium! For $7.99 a month, you get access to exclusive bonus content, ad-free episodes *and* the knowledge that you’re keeping our show afloat! Visit TTFA.org/Premium to get started. Want (sporadic) em

Mar 22, 2022 • 47:35

The Della Diaries

The Della Diaries

Danielle’s daughter Della was a quintessential “good baby.” She slept through the night almost from the get go. She rarely cried! But when Danielle started weaning her, little Della would just … not eat. Could not eat. Her tiny body rebelled against her with every food she tried. When your baby lives with a chronic illness that wants to kill her, each day brings more anxiety. And it’s especially tough when you’re Della. Support our new independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by jo

Mar 15, 2022 • 48:49

The Della Diaries

The Della Diaries

Danielle’s daughter Della was a quintessential “good baby.” She slept through the night almost from the get go. She rarely cried! But when Danielle started weaning her, little Della would just … not eat. Could not eat. Her tiny body rebelled against her with every food she tried. When your baby lives with a chronic illness that wants to kill her, each day brings more anxiety. And it’s especially tough when you’re Della. Della’s GoFundMe is here — Sign up today for TTFA Premium! For $7.99 a mont

Mar 15, 2022 • 45:34

More Grudges! - TTFA Premium

More Grudges! - TTFA Premium

Here’s a sneak peek of what you’ll get when you join us on TTFA Premium. For $7.99 a month, you keep our show going *and* get ad-free episodes and bonus content. Sign up today at TTFA.org/Premium. — Want (sporadic) emails from Nora and Team TTFA? Sign up here.  When you shop our Bookshop.org store, you support the author, independent bookstores AND our show! Shop here. You can purchase Nora’s books here. Shop for your favorite TTFA gear at TTFAmerch.com. Read the transcript for this episode here

Mar 10, 2022 • 10:41

TTFA PREMIUM: More Grudges!

TTFA PREMIUM: More Grudges!

You loved our first two Grudge Book episodes. In fact, you loved them so much, you kept sending us your grudges long after we stopped taking submissions. What’s a production team to do? Well, we decided to make ANOTHER episode featuring your grudges. Some are petty. Some are pretty damn serious. All of them are worthy.

Mar 10, 2022 • 35:57

Lacuna

Lacuna

Growing up, Dani Shapiro never felt like she truly belonged to the orthodox Jewish community she lived in. All around her were kids who dressed and prayed and looked alike … and then, there was Dani — a fair-skinned, fair-haired, blue-eyed little Jewish girl.Dani spent much of her early writing career authoring fictional stories about secrets within families, not knowing that she would soon learn her own family had a big secret: Dani herself.Support our new independent production (and get bonus

Mar 8, 2022 • 1:03:37

Lacuna

Lacuna

Growing up, Dani Shapiro never felt like she truly belonged to the orthodox Jewish community she lived in. All around her were kids who dressed and prayed and looked alike … and then, there was Dani — a fair-skinned, fair-haired, blue-eyed little Jewish girl.  Dani spent much of her early writing career authoring fictional stories about secrets within families, not knowing that she would soon learn her own family had a big secret: Dani herself. You can find all of Dani’s books, including Inherit

Mar 8, 2022 • 1:00:22

Listen to This: “Love Thy Neighbor”

Listen to This: “Love Thy Neighbor”

Today, we’re bringing you something special: a new podcast produced by Pineapple Street Studios called “Love Thy Neighbor.” It’s a story about immigration, white flight, the downfall of New York City’s first Black mayor, and the rise of Rudolph Giuliani. It’s also a story about the host’s own journey as a Black, Jewish New Yorker … and what it means to be a neighbor. Give this preview a listen and, if you want more, find the full episode wherever you get your podcasts. We’ll be listening right

Mar 3, 2022 • 4:26

Listen to This: Love Thy Neighbor

Listen to This: Love Thy Neighbor

Thirty years ago, in the Brooklyn neighborhood of Crown Heights, a car accident set off four days of unrest. Two people died. Dozens were injured. Hundreds were arrested. In this Pineapple Street Studios series, journalist Collier Meyerson explores what came to be known as the “Crown Heights Riot.” It’s a story about immigration, New York City’s first Black mayor, the rise of Rudy Giuliani, and the Lubavitch Jewish and Caribbean-American communities sitting at the center of it all. To Meyerson,

Mar 3, 2022 • 5:41

Tell Me About Them

Tell Me About Them

When someone we love dies, we become the vessels responsible for carrying their memory forward. The people we love stay alive in the big things, of course … but in the little things, too. When a listener shared an inside joke with the Terrible community about her late husband, we knew it was the beginning of an episode. Today, we share your stories, your inside jokes, your memories about your people. Support our new independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium.

Mar 1, 2022 • 38:50

Tell Me About Them

Tell Me About Them

When someone we love dies, we become the vessels responsible for carrying their memory forward. The people we love stay alive in the big things, of course … but in the little things, too. When a listener shared an inside joke with the Terrible community about her late husband, we knew it was the beginning of an episode. Today, we share your stories, your inside jokes, your memories about your people. — Sign up today for TTFA Premium! For $7.99 a month, you get access to exclusive bonus content,

Mar 1, 2022 • 35:35

Liam and the Letters

Liam and the Letters

Liam was raised as a girl, but from a very young age he knew that just … didn’t make sense. When he comes out to his evangelical Christian parents as a young adult — first as a lesbian, then as a trans man — it unfortunately goes exactly how he expected it to. This episode includes anecdotes and language that disparages the LGBTQIA+ community and trans experience. We include them with Liam’s explicit permission, as they play a role in his story as a trans man. We also refer to Liam by his birth

Feb 22, 2022 • 50:33

Liam and the Letters

Liam and the Letters

Liam was raised as a girl, but from a very young age he knew that just … didn’t make sense. When he comes out to his evangelical Christian parents as a young adult — first as a lesbian, then as a trans man — it unfortunately goes exactly how he expected it to. This episode includes anecdotes and language that disparages the LGBTQIA+ community and trans experience. We include them with Liam’s explicit permission, as they play a role in his story as a trans man. We also refer to Liam by his birth

Feb 22, 2022 • 47:18

The Scammer Speaks

The Scammer Speaks

In our “Behind The Scammer” episode, you met Celisia Stanton and Rev. Gonzales, two people who had their life savings stolen from them by their financial adviser, a man named Isaiah Goodman. We intentionally focused that episode on the scammed – on the victims. But we do have a duty to reach out to the subject of any story and say “Hey, do you want to comment on this?” So we did. And Isaiah agreed to an interview, from inside federal prison. Celisia’s podcast is called “Truer Crime,” and you can

Feb 15, 2022 • 1:08:44

The Scammer Speaks

The Scammer Speaks

In our “Behind The Scammer” episode, you met Celisia Stanton and Rev. Gonzales, two people who had their life savings stolen from them by their financial advisor, a man named Isaiah Goodman. We intentionally focused that episode on the scammed – on the victims. But we do have a duty to reach out to the subject of any story and say “Hey, do you want to comment on this?” So we did. And Isaiah agreed to an interview, from inside federal prison.Celisia’s podcast is called “Truer Crime,” and you can

Feb 15, 2022 • 1:05:29

The One Where Nora Plays Matchmaker

The One Where Nora Plays Matchmaker

Fun fact: Nora is a matchmaker — an aspiring one, at least. So we are making … a dating show? We’re gonna try, anyway.  If you’re a human looking for love, first listen to this mini episode. (That’s important.) Then, send us a voice memo. Here’s how: Find a quiet place! Hold your phone like you’re a Real Housewife taking a phone call on speaker … hold the phone to the side of your mouth, like a slice of pizza.  Tell us a little bit about yourself. What is important to you? What ended your last

Feb 11, 2022 • 3:12

Mailbag #3 - TTFA PREMIUM

Mailbag #3 - TTFA PREMIUM

Here’s a sneak peek of what you’ll get when you join us on TTFA Premium. For $7.99 a month, you keep our show going *and* get ad-free episodes and bonus content. Sign up today at TTFA.org/Premium. — Want (sporadic) emails from Nora and Team TTFA? Sign up here.  When you shop our Bookshop.org store, you support the author, independent bookstores AND our show! Shop here. You can purchase Nora’s books here. Shop for your favorite TTFA gear at TTFAmerch.com. Read the transcript for this episode here

Feb 10, 2022 • 13:49

Self-Portrait of My Own Misery

Self-Portrait of My Own Misery

We are all just products of the people who raise us. And they are products of those who raised them. Vanessa Zoltan knows that better than most. She is the grandchild of four Holocaust survivors, and for her, nihilism and depression kind of run in the family.Support our new independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. We now offer tiers as low as $4.99 / month. Sign up.Our email subscribers get first dibs on ticket sales, new merch, show announcements and more.

Feb 9, 2022 • 45:56

Self-Portrait of My Own Misery

Self-Portrait of My Own Misery

We are all just products of the people who raise us. And they are products of those who raised them. Vanessa Zoltan knows that better than most. She is the grandchild of four Holocaust survivors, and for her, nihilism and depression kind of run in the family.  — Sign up today for TTFA Premium! For $7.99 a month, you get access to exclusive bonus content, ad-free episodes *and* the knowledge that you’re keeping our show afloat! Visit TTFA.org/Premium to get started. Want (sporadic) emails from No

Feb 8, 2022 • 42:41

26 Pages

26 Pages

Many people who have autism are diagnosed at a young age. But today’s guest, Grace, wasn’t diagnosed with autism until she was 27 years old. In the months since the diagnosis, Grace has spent a lot of time reflecting on her childhood and young adulthood to understand why this wasn’t caught sooner — and in the process, she’s come to better understand herself and who she’s always been.Support our new independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. Sign up.D

Feb 2, 2022 • 47:14

26 Pages

26 Pages

Many people who have autism are diagnosed at a young age. But today’s guest, Grace, wasn’t diagnosed with autism until she was 27 years old.  In the months since the diagnosis, Grace has spent a lot of time reflecting on her childhood and young adulthood to understand why this wasn’t caught sooner — and in the process, she’s come to better understand herself and who she’s always been. —Sign up today for TTFA Premium! For $7.99 a month, you get access to exclusive bonus content, ad-free episodes

Feb 1, 2022 • 43:59

These Are Your Confessions

These Are Your Confessions

We recently made an episode called “The Grudge Book” filled with your grudges, and the feedback was SO strong. People felt validated. They laughed. They connected. So Nora got to thinking … did we need an episode that also gave you a place to share the other things that are hard to say? Your regrets? Your almosts? We decided the answer was yes, and this episode is loaded with them.Support our new independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. Sign up.Did you know

Jan 26, 2022 • 1:04:59

These Are Your Confessions

These Are Your Confessions

We recently made an episode called “The Grudge Book” filled with your grudges, and the feedback was SO strong. People felt validated. They laughed. They connected. So Nora got to thinking … did we need an episode that also gave you a place to share the other things that are hard to say? Your regrets? Your almosts? We decided the answer was yes, and this episode is loaded with them. — Sign up today for TTFA Premium! For $7.99 a month, you get access to exclusive bonus content, ad-free episodes *

Jan 25, 2022 • 1:01:44

In Absentia

In Absentia

Olivia is 7 years old when her dad moves out of state to take a new job … and is never heard from again. In high school, a manilla envelope appears in Olivia’s mailbox letting her know the reason she never heard from him is because he died by suicide. But when Olivia learns as a young journalist that her father might have faked his own death all those years ago, she decides to investigate.Support our new independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. We now offer

Jan 18, 2022 • 51:46

In Absentia

In Absentia

Olivia is 7 years old when her dad moves out of state to take a new job … and is never heard from again. In high school, a manilla envelope appears in Olivia’s mailbox letting her know the reason she never heard from him is because he died by suicide. But when Olivia learns as a young journalist that her father might have faked his own death all those years ago, she decides to investigate. — Sign up today for TTFA Premium! For $7.99 a month, you get access to exclusive bonus content, ad-free epi

Jan 18, 2022 • 48:31

TTFA PREMIUM - Team Terrible: Jeyca

TTFA PREMIUM - Team Terrible: Jeyca

On our show, you hear from Nora a lot – which makes sense because she’s, ya know, our host with the most. But there are a bunch of people on Team Terrible (okay, “a bunch” might be an exaggeration; it’s more like “a few”) and for years you’ve been telling us that you want to learn more about the folks who work on this show behind the scenes. So we’re starting 2022 off by introducing you to the one, the only … Jeyca Maldonado-Medina. She’s our elder Gen Z producer with Narcissa Malfoy hair, and i

Jan 13, 2022 • 36:14

Team Terrible: Jeyca - TTFA PREMIUM

Team Terrible: Jeyca - TTFA PREMIUM

Here’s a sneak peek of what you’ll get when you join us on TTFA Premium. For $7.99 a month, you keep our show going *and* get ad-free episodes and bonus content. Sign up today at TTFA.org/Premium. —Want (sporadic) emails from Nora and Team TTFA? Sign up here.  When you shop our Bookshop.org store, you support the author, independent bookstores AND our show! Shop here. You can purchase Nora’s books here. Shop for your favorite TTFA gear at TTFAmerch.com. Read the transcript for this episode here.

Jan 13, 2022 • 9:32

We’re Supposed to Be Four

We’re Supposed to Be Four

It’s the stuff of romantic comedies: Man meets woman as they’re boarding a flight. The two quickly discover they share many similarities and go on to chat for hours. There’s an instant connection. The big difference here is the woman is Nora, and the man is a TTFA listener. And what she and Jose spend hours talking about, what they instantly connect on ... is their grief. Because like Nora, Jose recently lost the love of his life. Support our new independent production (and get bonus content gal

Jan 12, 2022 • 57:28

We’re Supposed to Be Four

We’re Supposed to Be Four

It’s the stuff of romantic comedies: Man meets woman as they’re boarding a flight. The two quickly discover they share many similarities and go on to chat for hours. There’s an instant connection.  The big difference here is the woman is Nora, and the man is a TTFA listener. And what she and Jose spend hours talking about, what they instantly connect on ... is their grief. Because like Nora, Jose recently lost the love of his life.  —Sign up today for TTFA Premium! For $7.99 a month, you get acc

Jan 11, 2022 • 54:13

October 8, 1988

October 8, 1988

Suffering can feel like such a singular experience -- like there’s no one else in the world who understands what we’re going through. But sometimes, if we look hard enough, we find that our singular experience intersects with another.This is the story of two young girls whose stories intertwined during a tragic accident on October 8, 1988 … though they wouldn’t meet for decades to come.Support our new independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. Sign up.Did you

Jan 4, 2022 • 53:08

October 8, 1988

October 8, 1988

Suffering can feel like such a singular experience -- like there’s no one else in the world who understands what we’re going through. But sometimes, if we look hard enough, we find that our singular experience intersects with another. This is the story of two young girls whose stories intertwined during a tragic accident on October 8, 1988 … though they wouldn’t meet for decades to come. — Sign up today for TTFA Premium! For $7.99 a month, you get access to exclusive bonus content, ad-free epis

Jan 4, 2022 • 49:53

TTFA PREMIUM - A Very Nora New Year

TTFA PREMIUM - A Very Nora New Year

As a society, we have such. high. expectations. whenever January 1st rolls around. But what if you just … set the bar really low this time? Or didn’t even set it at all? In this TTFA Premium episode, Nora pushes back on New Year’s resolutions.

Dec 30, 2021 • 25:28

A Very Nora New Year - TTFA PREMIUM

A Very Nora New Year - TTFA PREMIUM

Here’s a sneak peek of what you’ll get when you join us on TTFA Premium. For $7.99 a month, you keep our show going *and* get ad-free episodes and bonus content. Sign up today at TTFA.org/Premium. — Want (sporadic) emails from Nora and Team TTFA? Sign up here.  When you shop our Bookshop.org store, you support the author, independent bookstores AND our show! Shop here. You can purchase Nora’s books here. Shop for your favorite TTFA gear at TTFAmerch.com. Read the transcript for this episode here

Dec 30, 2021 • 7:51

Listen to This: “Truer Crime”

Listen to This: “Truer Crime”

In our “Behind the Scammer” episode, you met Celisia Stanton. Being the victim of a crime really makes you think through the way that you consume true crime entertainment, and Celisia wanted to approach the genre from a different angle — not just on the crime that occurred, but on the systems that surround every crime. She started her own (amazing) podcast called “Truer Crime” – give it a listen here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dec 23, 2021 • 50:01

Listen to This: “Truer Crime”

Listen to This: “Truer Crime”

In our “Behind the Scammer” episode, you met Celisia Stanton. Being the victim of a crime really makes you think through the way that you consume true crime entertainment, and Celisia wanted to approach the genre from a different angle — not just on the crime that occurred, but on the systems that surround every crime. She started her own (amazing) podcast called “Truer Crime” – give it a listen here! Can’t get enough TTFA? Sign up for TTFA Premium for $7.99 a month. You’ll get access to exclusi

Dec 23, 2021 • 49:01

TTFA Premium - It Was Rare, We Were There

TTFA Premium - It Was Rare, We Were There

It’s been seven years since Nora’s husband Aaron died, and this time of year is always brutally difficult. (Did the re-release of “Red,” aka the Taylor Swift album that Nora and Aaron obsessively listened to during long autumn drives, help the situation? Not really!) One night in November, while Nora was not-sleeping-but-definitely-trying-to in a Washington, D.C. hotel, she picked up her phone and started recording a voice memo. That voice memo is now this TTFA Premium episode. It’s raw, it’s

Dec 9, 2021 • 28:10

It Was Rare, We Were There - TTFA PREMIUM

It Was Rare, We Were There - TTFA PREMIUM

Here’s a sneak peek of what you’ll get when you join us on TTFA Premium. For $7.99 a month, you keep our show going *and* get ad-free episodes and bonus content. Sign up today at TTFA.org/Premium. — Want (sporadic) emails from Nora and Team TTFA? Sign up here.  When you shop our Bookshop.org store, you support the author, independent bookstores AND our show! Shop here. You can purchase Nora’s books here. Shop for your favorite TTFA gear at TTFAmerch.com. Read the transcript for this episode here

Dec 9, 2021 • 26:55

Behind The Scammer

Behind The Scammer

We’re culturally obsessed with scammers, con artists and fraudsters. People like Elizabeth Holmes and Bernie Madoff dominate headlines and then get films made and books written documenting what they did and how they did it. But behind the scammers are the victims: individuals who are struggling to recover their sense of safety, their identity … and their money.In July 2021, Isaiah Goodman was sentenced to 7 years in prison for defrauding clients out of more than $2.3 million dollars. He spent th

Dec 7, 2021 • 1:08:27

Behind The Scammer

Behind The Scammer

We’re culturally obsessed with scammers, con artists and fraudsters. People like Elizabeth Holmes and Bernie Madoff dominate headlines and then get films made and books written documenting what they did and how they did it. But behind the scammers are the victims: individuals who are struggling to recover their sense of safety, their identity … and their money. In June 2021, Isaiah Goodman was sentenced to 7 years in prison for defrauding clients out of $2.3 million dollars. He spent the money o

Dec 7, 2021 • 1:04:12

Meet Amanda

Meet Amanda

When you introduce yourself to someone for the first time, you start by telling them your name and (maybe!) a few facts about you. The other person takes the information at face value. There’s no judgment, no opinion formed … just two people meeting each other.Amanda has no idea what that feels like. In 2007, she made international news headlines through no fault of her own. Now, more than a decade later, strangers decide their opinion of her as soon as they hear her name. But what many people c

Dec 1, 2021 • 49:35

Meet Amanda

Meet Amanda

When you introduce yourself to someone for the first time, you start by telling them your name and (maybe!) a few facts about you. The other person takes the information at face value. There’s no judgment, no opinion formed … just two people meeting each other. Amanda has no idea what that feels like. In 2007, she made international news headlines through no fault of her own. Now, more than a decade later, strangers decide their opinion of her as soon as they hear her name. But what many people

Nov 30, 2021 • 45:20

(Romy and Michele and) Nora’s High School Reunion - TTFA Premium

(Romy and Michele and) Nora’s High School Reunion - TTFA Premium

Here’s a sneak peek of what you’ll get when you join us on TTFA Premium. For $7.99 a month, you keep our show going *and* get ad-free episodes and bonus content. Sign up today at TTFA.org/Premium. Want (sporadic) emails from Nora and Team TTFA? Sign up here.  When you shop our Bookshop.org store, you support the author, independent bookstores AND our show! Shop here. You can purchase Nora’s books here. Shop for your favorite TTFA gear at TTFAmerch.com. Read the transcript for this episode here.

Nov 26, 2021 • 8:38

Becoming Jolie

Becoming Jolie

The internet and social media are a huge way for us to be seen as individuals. We share our lives online because it gives us connection … and because it gives us attention. But that attention isn’t always positive. Jolie knows this all too well, because in 2019, she found herself on the wrong side of the Internet Rage Machine.Support our new independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. We now offer tiers as low as $4.99 / month. Sign up.Our email subscribers ge

Nov 23, 2021 • 54:17

Becoming Jolie

Becoming Jolie

The internet and social media are a huge way for us to be seen as individuals. We share our lives online because it gives us connection … and because it gives us attention. But that attention isn’t always positive. Jolie knows this all too well, because in 2019, she found herself on the wrong side of the Internet Rage Machine. Resources: Laura McKowen blog, “Quitting the Bouncy House of Social Media” Shame Nation book by Sue Scheff Various research by Danielle Keats Citron So You’ve Been Public

Nov 23, 2021 • 50:02

Her Best Wasn’t Good Enough With Danielle Henderson

Her Best Wasn’t Good Enough With Danielle Henderson

We’re back with another Terrible Reading Club episode, sponsored by BetterHelp Online Therapy. Think of it as our book club for truly terrible times. Haven’t read the book we’re discussing? Good news: In this reading club, that’s not a requirement.Today, we’re chatting with Danielle Henderson about her memoir, “The Ugly Cry.”Support our new independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. We now offer tiers as low as $4.99 / month. Sign up.Our email subscribers get

Nov 18, 2021 • 1:10:22

Her Best Wasn’t Good Enough with Danielle Henderson

Her Best Wasn’t Good Enough with Danielle Henderson

We’re back with another Terrible Reading Club episode, sponsored by Betterhelp Online Therapy. Think of it as our book club for truly terrible times. Haven’t read the book we’re discussing? Good news: In this reading club, that’s not a requirement. Today, we’re chatting with Danielle Henderson about her memoir, “The Ugly Cry.” You can buy Danielle’s book here and at bookstores everywhere.  And check out our sponsor this week:  BetterHelp: betterhelp.com/ttfa — Sign up today for TTFA Premium! Fo

Nov 18, 2021 • 1:06:07

Jeff

Jeff

Angela and Jeff have an awesome marriage. They share the same life goals, the same ideologies. Their life together is peaceful and easy, and they love their two kids. But just after their tenth anniversary, Angela starts to feel that something is ... off.And it's not Jeff — he's as steadfast as ever. It's her.Support our new independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. We now offer tiers as low as $4.99 / month. Sign up.Our email subscribers get first dibs on t

Nov 16, 2021 • 51:08

Jeff

Jeff

Angela and Jeff have an awesome marriage. They share the same life goals, the same ideologies. Their life together is peaceful and easy, and they love their two kids. But just after their tenth anniversary, Angela starts to feel that something is ... off. And it's not Jeff — he's as steadfast as ever. It's her. — Sign up today for TTFA Premium! For $7.99 a month, you get access to exclusive bonus content, ad-free episodes *and* the knowledge that you’re keeping our show afloat! Visit TTFA.org/P

Nov 16, 2021 • 46:53

War Stories

War Stories

When one of the people in a relationship is dead, the relationship becomes a bit one-sided. Your version of who that person is and was is obscured by all of your own biases, your commitment to your version of the truth, to your side of the story. Nora’s dad — Vietnam veteran, father of four, advertising copywriter — died seven years ago. And in this episode, the McInerny siblings reflect on who Stephen J. McInerny was … as a young boy sent to war, as a husband, and as their father. About how the

Nov 9, 2021 • 1:01:28

War Stories

War Stories

When one of the people in a relationship is dead, the relationship becomes a bit one-sided. Your version of who that person is and was is obscured by all of your own biases, your commitment to your version of the truth, to your side of the story. Nora’s dad — Vietnam veteran, father of four, advertising copywriter — died seven years ago. And in this episode, the McInerny siblings reflect on who Stephen J. McInerny was … as a young boy sent to war, as a husband, and as their father. About how th

Nov 9, 2021 • 57:13

Independent Woman

Independent Woman

Grief doesn’t always mean the loss of a person. It can also mean the loss of who you used to be. The loss of the life you thought you were going to have. Gina is 43 years old. She’s single without kids. She’s a producer and world traveler (25 countries so far).Her independent nature — and her love of solo travel — is a major part of Gina’s identity … and it’s being challenged by an undiagnosed autoimmune disorder.Gina wrote a book about her pal Rafael appropriately titled, “Blowing Up” (IYKYK).

Nov 2, 2021 • 47:48

Independent Woman

Independent Woman

Grief doesn’t always mean the loss of a person. It can also mean the loss of who you used to be. The loss of the life you thought you were going to have. Gina is 43 years old. She’s single without kids. She’s a producer and world traveler (25 countries so far). Her independent nature — and her love of solo travel — is a major part of Gina’s identity … and it’s being challenged by an undiagnosed autoimmune disorder.Gina wrote a book about her pal Rafael appropriately titled, “Blowing Up” (IYKYK).

Nov 2, 2021 • 43:33

Rogue - TTFA Premium

Rogue - TTFA Premium

Here’s a sneak peek of what you’ll get when you join us on TTFA Premium. For $8 a month, you can support our show AND get ad-free episodes and bonus content — including mailbag episodes like this one.Sign up today at TTFA.org/Premium.

Oct 29, 2021 • 10:37

A Dog Named Rogue - TTFA Premium

A Dog Named Rogue - TTFA Premium

Here’s a sneak peek of what you’ll get when you join us on TTFA Premium. For $7.99 a month, you keep our show going *and* get ad-free episodes and bonus content. Sign up today at TTFA.org/Premium. — Want (sporadic) emails from Nora and Team TTFA? Sign up here.  When you shop our Bookshop.org store, you support the author, independent bookstores AND our show! Shop here. You can purchase Nora’s books here. Shop for your favorite TTFA gear at TTFAmerch.com. Read the transcript for this episode here

Oct 29, 2021 • 9:22

Toothless Little Wonders

Toothless Little Wonders

Sometimes the humans we need love and support from the most just aren’t able to give it to us. When that happens, who do you have? If you’re Adrienne, you have Luke, a giant German Shepherd.Support our new independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. We now offer tiers as low as $4.99 / month. Sign up.Our email subscribers get first dibs on ticket sales, new merch, show announcements and more. Join our mailing list here.Did you know we’re on TikTok? Yep, it’s t

Oct 26, 2021 • 56:31

Toothless Little Wonders

Toothless Little Wonders

Sometimes the humans we need love and support from the most just aren’t able to give it to us. When that happens, who do you have? If you’re Adrienne, you have Luke, a giant German Shepherd.  The Luke Legacy Fund is a stand-alone program in partnership with the Twin Cities Animal Rehab Clinic. For more information, contact Adrienne at vanz0037@umn.edu.Can’t get enough TTFA? Sign up for TTFA Premium for $7.99 a month. You’ll get access to exclusive bonus content, ad-free episodes, extended guest

Oct 26, 2021 • 52:16

A Life Interrupted With Suleika Jaouad

A Life Interrupted With Suleika Jaouad

Welcome to the Terrible Reading Club, sponsored by BetterHelp Online Therapy. Think of it as our book club for truly terrible times. Haven’t read the book we’re discussing? Good news: In this reading club, that’s not a requirement.Today, we’re chatting with Suleika Jaouad about her memoir, Between Two Kingdoms, in which she writes about the aftermath of recovering from an illness she was not expected to survive.Support our new independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTF

Oct 22, 2021 • 1:10:26

A Life Interrupted with Suleika Jaouad

A Life Interrupted with Suleika Jaouad

Welcome to the Terrible Reading Club, sponsored by Betterhelp Online Therapy. Think of it as our book club for truly terrible times. Haven’t read the book we’re discussing? Good news: In this reading club, that’s not a requirement. Today, we’re chatting with Suleika Jaouad about her memoir, Between Two Kingdoms, in which she writes about the aftermath of recovering from an illness she was not expected to survive. Check out The Isolation Journals for weekly journaling prompts. — Sign up today for

Oct 21, 2021 • 1:06:11

Why Are You Up?

Why Are You Up?

Sleep experts the world over seem to have countless tips and tricks for getting those eight hours of Zzzs each night. But sometimes our brains just … can’t shut down, no matter what we do. Nora recently asked you, the TTFA community, what’s been keeping you up at night these days, and you answered.Support our new independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. We now offer tiers as low as $4.99 / month. Sign up.Did you know we’re on TikTok? Yep, it’s true. Follow

Oct 19, 2021 • 46:53

Why Are You Up?

Why Are You Up?

Sleep experts the world over seem to have countless tips and tricks for getting those eight hours of Zzzs each night. But sometimes our brains just … can’t shut down, no matter what we do. Nora recently asked you, the TTFA community, what’s been keeping you up at night these days, and you answered.  — Sign up today for TTFA Premium! For $7.99 a month, you get access to exclusive bonus content, ad-free episodes *and* the knowledge that you’re keeping our show afloat! Visit TTFA.org/Premium to get

Oct 19, 2021 • 42:38

“No Cure for Being Human” With Kate Bowler - TTFA Premium

“No Cure for Being Human” With Kate Bowler - TTFA Premium

Here’s a sneak peek of what you’ll get when you join us on TTFA Premium. For $8 a month, you can support our show AND get ad-free episodes and bonus content — including mailbag episodes like this one. Sign up today at TTFA.org/Premium.

Oct 14, 2021 • 15:05

“No Cure for Being Human” With Kate Bowler - TTFA Premium

“No Cure for Being Human” With Kate Bowler - TTFA Premium

Here’s a sneak peek of what you’ll get when you join us on TTFA Premium. For $8 a month, you can support our show AND get ad-free episodes and bonus content — including mailbag episodes like this one. Sign up today at TTFA.org/Premium.Join the TTFA reading club: TTFA.org/readingclubOur twice-monthly newsletter features behind-the-scenes content, previews of upcoming episodes and more. Sign up.When you shop our Bookshop.org store, you support the author, independent bookstores AND our show! Shop

Oct 14, 2021 • 13:50

Saving Us

Saving Us

If you’re sent into an anxiety spiral every time you hear the words “climate change,” you’re not alone. Everything we read these days tells us that the clock is ticking down, and there is nothing we as individuals can do about it. But we talked to climate scientist Katharine Hayhoe recently, and she told us that yeah, things are bad … but it’s not hopeless!Support our new independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. We now offer tiers as low as $4.99 / month. S

Oct 12, 2021 • 56:16

Saving Us

Saving Us

If you’re sent into an anxiety spiral every time you hear the words “climate change,” you’re not alone. Everything we read these days tells us that the clock is ticking down, and there is nothing we as individuals can do about it. But we talked to climate scientist Katharine Hayhoe recently, and she told us that yeah, things are bad … but it’s not hopeless! You can shop Katharine’s new book, “Saving Us: A Climate Scientist's Case for Hope and Healing in a Divided World,” from our Bookshop.org st

Oct 12, 2021 • 52:01

So Beautiful and Awful

So Beautiful and Awful

Lynda and her daughter, Sophia, have a busy day ahead of them. First, a bike ride to train for an upcoming sprint triathlon. That evening, a dinner party. In between, a funeral to honor a friend. When Lynda wakes up in the emergency room and learns Sophia and she were in an accident during their morning ride, their busy day — and the rest of Lynda’s life — is forever changed.Support our new independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. We now offer tiers as low

Oct 5, 2021 • 56:03

So Beautiful and Awful

So Beautiful and Awful

Lynda and her daughter, Sophia, have a busy day ahead of them. First, a bike ride to train for an upcoming sprint triathlon. That evening, a dinner party. In between, a funeral to honor a friend. When Lynda wakes up in the emergency room and learns Sophia and she were in an accident during their morning ride, their busy day — and the rest of Lynda’s life — is forever changed. — Sign up today for TTFA Premium! For $7.99 a month, you get access to exclusive bonus content, ad-free episodes *and* th

Oct 5, 2021 • 51:48

Kari (Part 2): Sloan

Kari (Part 2): Sloan

You learn to expect the unexpected when you’re a new parent — and for Kari and Aaron, the list of unexpected things is long when it comes to their daughter, Sloan. Sloan is a beautiful and medically complex baby girl who requires constant care. And when a beloved family member dies unexpectedly months after Sloan’s birth, Kari and Aaron find themselves overwrought with grief.Support our new independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. We now offer tiers as low

Sep 28, 2021 • 54:36

Kari (Part 2): Sloan

Kari (Part 2): Sloan

You learn to expect the unexpected when you’re a new parent — and for Kari and Aaron, the list of unexpected things is long when it comes to their daughter, Sloan. Sloan is a beautiful and medically complex baby girl who requires constant care. And when a beloved family member dies unexpectedly months after Sloan’s birth, Kari and Aaron find themselves overwrought with grief.  Resources: Why a New Mother’s Biggest Asset Is Often Her Own Mom Men, Who Needs Them? — Sign up today for TTFA Premium

Sep 28, 2021 • 50:21

5/5 Stars With John Green

5/5 Stars With John Green

We’re back with another Terrible Reading Club episode, sponsored by BetterHelp Online Therapy. Think of it as our book club for truly terrible times. Haven’t read the book we’re discussing? Good news: In this reading club, that’s not a requirement.Today, we’re chatting with John Green about his latest book, The Anthropocene Reviewed. You can buy John’s book from our Bookshop.org storefront or wherever you get books.Support our new independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining

Sep 23, 2021 • 1:07:59

5/5 Stars with John Green

5/5 Stars with John Green

We’re back with another Terrible Reading Club episode, sponsored by Betterhelp Online Therapy. Think of it as our book club for truly terrible times. Haven’t read the book we’re discussing? Good news: In this reading club, that’s not a requirement. Today, we’re chatting with John Green about his latest book, “The Anthropocene Reviewed.” — Sign up today for TTFA Premium! For $7.99 a month, you get access to exclusive bonus content, ad-free episodes *and* the knowledge that you’re keeping our show

Sep 23, 2021 • 1:03:44

Kari (Part 1): Aaron

Kari (Part 1): Aaron

Kari and Aaron had vastly different childhoods. Kari’s was filled with adventures, laughter and silliness. Aaron grew up in a complicated religious household. When the two high school sweethearts start dating, Aaron becomes part of Kari’s family -- the son that her parents never had. And when the two get married and begin planning for a baby, unexpected news has Kari and Aaron leaning on their family more than ever before.Support our new independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by

Sep 21, 2021 • 51:46

Kari (Part 1): Aaron

Kari (Part 1): Aaron

Kari and Aaron had vastly different childhoods. Kari’s was filled with adventures, laughter and silliness. Aaron grew up in a complicated religious household. When the two high school sweethearts start dating, Aaron becomes part of Kari’s family -- the son that her parents never had. And when the two get married and begin planning for a baby, unexpected news has Kari and Aaron leaning on their family more than ever before. — Sign up today for TTFA Premium! For $7.99 a month, you get access to ex

Sep 21, 2021 • 47:31

The Grudge Book Continued - TTFA PREMIUM

The Grudge Book Continued - TTFA PREMIUM

Here’s a sneak peek of what you’ll get when you join us on TTFA Premium. For $8 a month, you can support our show AND get ad-free episodes and bonus content — including mailbag episodes like this one. Sign up today at TTFA.org/Premium.Join the TTFA reading club: TTFA.org/readingclubOur twice-monthly newsletter features behind-the-scenes content, previews of upcoming episodes and more. Sign up.When you shop our Bookshop.org store, you support the author, independent bookstores AND our show! Shop

Sep 16, 2021 • 9:42

The Grudge Book

The Grudge Book

About six years ago, Nora took a notebook and wrote down all of the grudges she was holding against people ... and then, she left that notebook in a seat-back pocket on a plane and never saw it again. We wanted to know what you, our listeners, would put in your own Grudge Book if you had one, and in this episode, we share your responses.Support our new independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. We now offer tiers as low as $4.99 / month. Sign up.Our

Sep 14, 2021 • 1:01:55

The Grudge Book

The Grudge Book

About six years ago, Nora took a notebook and wrote down all of the grudges she was holding against people ... and then, she left that notebook in a seatback pocket on a plane and never saw it again. We wanted to know what you, our listeners, would put in your own Grudge Book if you had one, and in this episode, we share your responses. — Sign up today for TTFA Premium! For $7.99 a month, you get access to exclusive bonus content, ad-free episodes *and* the knowledge that you’re keeping our show

Sep 14, 2021 • 58:40

Ghost Kingdom

Ghost Kingdom

High school is a miserable time for Hannah for all of the usual reasons that our teen years are awful … but also for an extra reason. Hannah is disabled, and she’s living in a world that doesn’t seem to want her to be a part of it. Follow Hannah on Instagram @hannahthewildflower. Sign Hannah’s petition for a disabled Disney princess. Read Amanda LeDuc’s book, “Disfigured: On Fairy Tales, Disability, and Making Space.” — Sign up today for TTFA Premium! For $7.99 a month, you get access to exclus

Sep 7, 2021 • 48:51

Ghost Kingdom

Ghost Kingdom

High school is a miserable time for Hannah for all of the usual reasons that our teen years are awful … but also for an extra reason. Hannah is disabled, and she’s living in a world that doesn’t seem to want her to be a part of it.Support our new independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. We now offer tiers as low as $4.99 / month. Sign up.Our email subscribers get first dibs on ticket sales, new merch, show announcements and more. Join our mailing list here.

Sep 7, 2021 • 53:06

Her Name Was Heather

Her Name Was Heather

Melissa is the epitome of responsible. She loves following rules and has spent her whole life trying to be the best person possible. But accidents happen, and one winter morning, a split second changes everything she thought she knew about herself. Support our new independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. Sign up. Did you know we’re on TikTok? Yep, it’s true. Follow Nora. You can catch up with TTFA on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook using @ttfapodcast. Nora'

Aug 31, 2021 • 1:12:38

Her Name Was Heather

Her Name Was Heather

Melissa is the epitome of responsible. She loves following rules and has spent her whole life trying to be the best person possible. But accidents happen, and one winter morning, a split second changes everything she thought she knew about herself. — Sign up today for TTFA Premium! For $7.99 a month, you get access to exclusive bonus content, ad-free episodes *and* the knowledge that you’re keeping our show afloat! Visit TTFA.org/Premium to get started. Want (sporadic) emails from Nora and Team

Aug 31, 2021 • 1:09:23

Friends to the End

Friends to the End

It’s rare to have a friendship that actually lasts forever, but that’s what Josie and Miles have. When Miles’s cancer comes back after years of remission, Josie is there for him every step of the way … until there are no more steps to take.Support our new independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. We now offer tiers as low as $4.99 / month. Sign up.Our email subscribers get first dibs on ticket sales, new merch, show announcements and more. Join our mailing l

Aug 24, 2021 • 52:57

Friends To The End

Friends To The End

It’s rare to have a friendship that actually lasts forever, but that’s what Josie and Miles have. When Miles’s cancer comes back after years of remission, Josie is there for him every step of the way … until there are no more steps to take. — Sign up today for TTFA Premium! For $7.99 a month, you get access to exclusive bonus content, ad-free episodes *and* the knowledge that you’re keeping our show afloat! Visit TTFA.org/Premium to get started. Want (sporadic) emails from Nora and Team TTFA? Si

Aug 24, 2021 • 48:42

Sh*tty First Drafts With Anne Lamott

Sh*tty First Drafts With Anne Lamott

Welcome to the Terrible Reading Club, sponsored by BetterHelp Online Therapy. Think of it as our book club for truly terrible times. Haven’t read the book we’re discussing? Good news: In this reading club, that’s not a requirement.Today, we’re chatting with Anne Lamott about her latest book, Dusk, Night, Dawn, which explores how we see ourselves in the context of seriously dark moments.Support our new independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. We now offer ti

Aug 19, 2021 • 52:55

Sh*tty First Drafts with Anne Lamott

Sh*tty First Drafts with Anne Lamott

Welcome to the Terrible Reading Club, sponsored by Betterhelp Online Therapy. Think of it as our book club for truly terrible times. Haven’t read the book we’re discussing? Good news: In this reading club, that’s not a requirement.Today, we’re chatting with Anne Lamott about her latest book, Dusk, Night, Dawn, which explores how we see ourselves in the context of seriously dark moments. You can buy Anne’s book from our Bookshop.org storefront or wherever you get books.Can’t get enough TTFA? Sign

Aug 19, 2021 • 48:40

Motherland

Motherland

Children are often taught to respect and honor their parents. For Elissa Altman, this is complicated by the fact that her mother has narcissistic personality disorder and borderline personality disorder. Elissa couldn’t escape her mother’s emotional and verbal abuse when she was a child. Now, as an adult, she must learn how to untangle herself from her aging mother’s web and still provide the care she needs.Support our new independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Pr

Aug 17, 2021 • 52:18

Motherland

Motherland

Children are often taught to respect and honor their parents. For Elissa, this is complicated by the fact that her mother has narcissistic personality disorder.  Elissa couldn’t escape her mother’s emotional and verbal abuse when she was a child. Now, as an adult, she must learn how to untangle herself from her aging mother’s web and still provide the care she needs. — Sign up today for TTFA Premium! For $7.99 a month, you get access to exclusive bonus content, ad-free episodes *and* the knowled

Aug 17, 2021 • 48:03

Thenedra

Thenedra

Adoption is often viewed as a happy ending, and sometimes it is! But for Thenedra, her experiences as a child in the foster care system and later as a trans-racial adoptee were — and still are — much more complicated than that. This is an episode about what can happen when trans-racial foster and adoptive parents are not just unprepared to raise traumatized children, but also unprepared to raise Black children in a predominantly white society.Support our new independent production (and get bonus

Aug 10, 2021 • 1:01:21

Thenedra

Thenedra

Adoption is often viewed as a happy ending, and sometimes it is! But for Thenedra, her experiences as a child in the foster care system and later as a trans-racial adoptee were — and still are — much more complicated than that. This is an episode about what can happen when trans-racial foster and adoptive parents are not just unprepared to raise traumatized children, but also unprepared to raise Black children in a predominantly white society.References:  The National Association of Black Soci

Aug 10, 2021 • 57:06

"An Ordinary Age" With Rainesford Stauffer - TTFA PREMIUM

"An Ordinary Age" With Rainesford Stauffer - TTFA PREMIUM

Our weekly TTFA episodes are and always will be free to all listeners. For folks who want *even more* Terrible in their lives, we created TTFA Premium. A $7.99 / month subscription gets you access to bonus content, exclusive interviews and more! Here is a sneak preview of what you’ll get when you join us on TTFA Premium. Sign up at TTFA.org/Premium. Can’t swing the membership fee? No worries! You’ll always be able to listen to our regular episodes at no cost to you.Read the transcript for this e

Aug 6, 2021 • 9:10

TTFA Premium - Mailbag #2 (Teaser)

TTFA Premium - Mailbag #2 (Teaser)

Here’s a sneak peek of what you’ll get when you join us on TTFA Premium. For $8 a month, you can support our show AND get ad-free episodes and bonus content — including mailbag episodes like this one. Sign up today at TTFA.org/Premium.

Jul 13, 2021 • 10:33

Mailbag #2 - TTFA PREMIUM

Mailbag #2 - TTFA PREMIUM

Our weekly TTFA episodes are and always will be free to all listeners. For folks who want *even more* Terrible in their lives, we created TTFA Premium. A $7.99 / month subscription gets you access to bonus content, exclusive interviews and more! Here is a sneak preview of what you’ll get when you join us on TTFA Premium. Sign up at TTFA.org/Premium. Can’t swing the membership fee? No worries! You’ll always be able to listen to our regular episodes at no cost to you.Read the transcript for this e

Jul 13, 2021 • 9:18

Therapy 101 With Dr. Anna Roth - TTFA PREMIUM

Therapy 101 With Dr. Anna Roth - TTFA PREMIUM

Here’s a sneak peek of what you’ll get when you join us on TTFA Premium. For $8 a month, you can support our show AND get ad-free episodes and bonus content — including mailbag episodes like this one. Sign up today at TTFA.org/Premium. Join the TTFA reading club: TTFA.org/readingclub Our twice-monthly newsletter features behind-the-scenes content, previews of upcoming episodes and more. Sign up. When you shop our Bookshop.org store, you support the author, independent bookstores AND our show!

Jun 22, 2021 • 10:20

Therapy 101 With Dr. Anna Roth - TTFA PREMIUM

Therapy 101 With Dr. Anna Roth - TTFA PREMIUM

Here’s a sneak peek of what you’ll get when you join us on TTFA Premium. For $8 a month, you can support our show AND get ad-free episodes and bonus content — including mailbag episodes like this one. Sign up today at TTFA.org/Premium. Join the TTFA reading club: TTFA.org/readingclub Our twice-monthly newsletter features behind-the-scenes content, previews of upcoming episodes and more. Sign up. When you shop our Bookshop.org store, you support the author, independent bookstores AND our show! Sh

Jun 22, 2021 • 9:05

From The Edge

From The Edge

If you know what it feels like to be on the brink of an emotional meltdown, you’re not alone. Many of us feel like we’re at the end of a rapidly fraying rope … like we’re falling behind in life and it’s solely our fault … like the reason for our problems is our inability to make lemonade out of climate change and racial injustice and a global pandemic.Nora recently asked folks to share what it’s like to be standing at the edge of an existential crisis, and you responded with your stories.Support

Jun 8, 2021 • 55:50

From The Edge

From The Edge

If you know what it feels like to be on the brink of an emotional meltdown, you’re not alone. Many of us feel like we’re at the end of a rapidly fraying rope … like we’re falling behind in life and it’s solely our fault … like the reason for our problems is our inability to make lemonade out of climate change and racial injustice and a global pandemic. Nora recently asked folks to share what it’s like to be standing at the edge of an existential crisis, and you responded with your stories.That A

Jun 8, 2021 • 51:35

Bread, Sweat, and Tears

Bread, Sweat, and Tears

At the beginning of the COVID-19 pandemic, a lot of folks got really into bread baking. Banana bread! Biscuits! Sourdough! (So much sourdough.) Ashley got into bread baking too, but for an entirely different reason. A week before quarantine began, Ashley’s wife died of a heart attack after years of living with cerebral palsy. Ashley wasn’t just lonely … she was ALONE. So she turned to baking as a way to heal.Support our new independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA P

Jun 1, 2021 • 54:55

Bread, Sweat and Tears

Bread, Sweat and Tears

At the beginning of the COVID-19 pandemic, a lot of folks got really into bread baking. Banana bread! Biscuits! Sourdough! (So much sourdough.) Ashley got into bread baking too, but for an entirely different reason. A week before quarantine began, Ashley’s wife died of a heart attack after years of living with cerebral palsy. Ashley wasn’t just lonely … she was ALONE. So she turned to baking as a way to heal. — Sign up today for TTFA Premium! For $7.99 a month, you get access to exclusive bonus

Jun 1, 2021 • 50:40

Name It

Name It

Ryan’s life often feels like a Venn diagram. Ryan the person loves listening to metal and The Grateful Dead. Ryan the person is a sneakerhead who reads Punisher comic books at night. Ryan the person is also queer — bisexual — and a recovered alcoholic.Brother Ryan, on the other hand, is a man who has taken strict religious vows. Brother Ryan is a man who believes in the beauty of communal living. Brother Ryan spends his life dedicated to service through education.These two versions of Ryan must

May 25, 2021 • 50:52

Mailbag #1 - TTFA PREMIUM

Mailbag #1 - TTFA PREMIUM

Our weekly TTFA episodes are and always will be free to all listeners.For folks who want *even more* Terrible in their lives, we created TTFA Premium. A $7.99 / month subscription gets you access to bonus content, exclusive interviews and more! Here is a sneak preview of what you’ll get when you join us on TTFA Premium.Sign up at TTFA.org/Premium. Can’t swing the membership fee? No worries! You’ll always be able to listen to our regular episodes at no cost to you.Read the transcript for this epi

May 25, 2021 • 11:16

Name It

Name It

Ryan’s life often feels like a Venn diagram. Ryan the person loves listening to metal and The Grateful Dead. Ryan the person is a sneakerhead who reads Punisher comic books at night. Ryan the person is also queer — bisexual — and a recovered alcoholic. Brother Ryan, on the other hand, is a man who has taken strict religious vows. Brother Ryan is a man who believes in the beauty of communal living. Brother Ryan spends his life dedicated to service through education.These two versions of Ryan must

May 25, 2021 • 46:37

Mailbag #1 (Teaser)

Mailbag #1 (Teaser)

Here’s a sneak peek of what you’ll get when you join us on TTFA Premium. For $8 a month, you can support our show AND get ad-free episodes and bonus content — including mailbag episodes like this one. Sign up today at TTFA.org/Premium.

May 24, 2021 • 12:31

Leticia & Anthony (Part 2)

Leticia & Anthony (Part 2)

In our last episode, you met Leticia and her son Anthony. At the end of part one, things were finally looking good for both mother and son: Anthony had just welcomed his own daughter into the world; Leticia had married a wonderful man and was settling into life in the suburbs. But mental illness is a vicious beast, and in this episode, Leticia revisits 2017 — the last year of Anthony’s life.Support our independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. We now offer

May 18, 2021 • 55:29

Leticia & Anthony (Part 2)

Leticia & Anthony (Part 2)

In our last episode, you met Leticia and her son Anthony. At the end of part one, things were finally looking good for both mother and son: Anthony had just welcomed his own daughter into the world; Leticia had married a wonderful man and was settling into life in the suburbs. But mental illness is a vicious beast, and in this episode, Leticia revisits 2017 — the last year of Anthony’s life.  — Sign up today for TTFA Premium! For $7.99 a month, you get access to exclusive bonus content, ad-free

May 18, 2021 • 51:14

Leticia & Anthony (Part 1)

Leticia & Anthony (Part 1)

Leticia was 16 years old when she got pregnant with her son, Anthony. As you might imagine, raising a child more or less on your own when you’re only 16 is really, really hard. It’s even harder when you’re dealing with your own childhood and generational trauma. This is part one of Leticia and Anthony’s story.Support our independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. We now offer tiers as low as $4.99 / month. Sign up.Our email subscribers get first dibs on tick

May 11, 2021 • 53:33

Leticia & Anthony (Part 1)

Leticia & Anthony (Part 1)

Leticia was 16 years old when she got pregnant with her son, Anthony. As you might imagine, raising a child more or less on your own when you’re only 16 is really, really hard. It’s even harder when you’re dealing with your own childhood and generational trauma. This is part one of Leticia and Anthony’s story. Part two coming next week. — Sign up today for TTFA Premium! For $7.99 a month, you get access to exclusive bonus content, ad-free episodes *and* the knowledge that you’re keeping our show

May 11, 2021 • 49:18

Don't Ask Nora

Don't Ask Nora

Nora loves giving advice, especially when the questions are really easy and really low stakes. In this episode, she answers a few of your frequently asked questions and later teams up with comedian Tig Notaro to dole out some wisdom about grief, friendships and her everlasting love for skater boys.Book recs mentioned in this episode include Bird by Bird by Anne Lamott and On Writing by Stephen King. Another one Nora loves is Before and After the Book Deal by Courtney Maum.Support our independent

May 4, 2021 • 1:00:49

Don't Ask Nora

Don't Ask Nora

Nora loves giving advice, especially when the questions are really easy and really low stakes. In this episode, she answers a few of your frequently asked questions and later teams up with comedian Tig Notaro to dole out some wisdom about grief, friendships and her everlasting love for skater boys. Book recs mentioned in this episode include Bird by Bird by Anne Lamott and On Writing by Stephen King. Another one Nora loves is Before and After the Book Deal by Courtney Maum. You can listen to Don

May 4, 2021 • 56:34

A Good Death

A Good Death

We all want a good death — a death where we’re surrounded by the people we love and don’t feel any fear or pain. A good death is what Ron Deprez wanted when his body became ravaged by ALS … and thanks to his daughter, Esmé, and Maine’s death with dignity legislation, that’s exactly what he got. In this episode, Esmé Deprez shares her father’s story with us.Read Esmé's article here.Support our independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. We now offer tiers as l

Apr 27, 2021 • 44:52

A Good Death

A Good Death

We all want a good death — a death where we’re surrounded by the people we love and don’t feel any fear or pain. A good death is what Ron Deprez wanted when his body became ravaged by ALS… and thanks to his daughter, Esmé, and Maine’s death with dignity legislation, that’s exactly what he got. In this episode, Esmé Deprez shares her father’s story with us. Esmé is a very talented writer and journalist. You can read her Bloomberg article about her dad here. — Sign up today for TTFA Premium! For $

Apr 27, 2021 • 40:37

Checky Listy

Checky Listy

Maggie has always been a planner. The kind of person who enjoys planning a thing almost as much as she loves doing the thing. The kind of person who adds something they’ve already completed to a checklist just for the satisfaction of crossing it off.Getting divorced wasn’t on Maggie’s life plan, or on her checklist. When you’re a planner and life throws you a big, rusty wrench, how do you live in the aftermath?Support our independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Pr

Apr 20, 2021 • 52:22

Checky Listy

Checky Listy

Maggie has always been a planner. The kind of person who enjoys planning a thing almost as much as she loves doing the thing. The kind of person who adds something they’ve already completed to a checklist just for the satisfaction of crossing it off. Getting divorced wasn’t on Maggie’s life plan, or on her checklist. When you’re a planner and life throws you a big, rusty wrench, how do you live in the aftermath? — Sign up today for TTFA Premium! For $7.99 a month, you get access to exclusive bo

Apr 20, 2021 • 48:07

The Gift

The Gift

Edith Eger was 16 years old when the Nazis invaded Hungary during World War II. She was imprisoned at Auschwitz concentration camp with her family.Today, Dr. Edith Eger is a 93-year-old clinician, speaker and author who is so full of wisdom and light, we could’ve done ten episodes with her. This is her story.Support our independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. We now offer tiers as low as $4.99 / month. Sign up.Nora also writes sad & funny books! You ca

Apr 13, 2021 • 57:35

The Gift

The Gift

Edith Eger was 16 years old when the Nazis invaded Hungary during World War II. She was imprisoned at Auschwitz concentration camp with her family. Today, Dr. Edith Eger is a 93-year-old clinician, speaker and author who is so full of wisdom and light, we could’ve done ten episodes with her. This is her story. — Sign up today for TTFA Premium! For $7.99 a month, you get access to exclusive bonus content, ad-free episodes *and* the knowledge that you’re keeping our show afloat! Visit TTFA.org/Pr

Apr 13, 2021 • 53:20

That's So Chad

That's So Chad

Many of us have been forced to adopt a new way of grieving over the past year. The COVID-19 pandemic has affected our ability to properly mourn the way we need to when a loved one dies. We can’t safely gather by the dozens and sit in pain with one another for days on end.Stacy Cooper’s husband, Chad, died last fall, so she knows this all too well. But her grieving process actually started long before the pandemic hit.Support our independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining T

Apr 6, 2021 • 52:14

That's So Chad

That's So Chad

Many of us have been forced to adopt a new way of grieving over the past year. The COVID-19 pandemic has affected our ability to properly mourn the way we need to when a loved one dies. We can’t safely gather by the dozens and sit in pain with one another for days on end. Stacy Cooper’s husband, Chad, died last fall, so she knows this all too well. But her grieving process started long before the pandemic hit. — Sign up today for TTFA Premium! For $7.99 a month, you get access to exclusive bonu

Apr 6, 2021 • 47:59

Big Comfort

Big Comfort

Gaby Dunn is a podcaster, a YouTuber, a writer, an actor and a bi-con. She’s bi-sexual and bi-polar, and in this episode, she talks to us about all of it.Support our independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. We now offer tiers as low as $4.99 / month. Sign up.Our email subscribers get first dibs on ticket sales, new merch, show announcements and more. Join our mailing list here.Nora also writes sad & funny books! You can buy them here.Did you know we’re on

Mar 30, 2021 • 46:26

Big Comfort

Big Comfort

Gaby Dunn is a podcaster, a YouTuber, a writer, an actor and a bi-con. She’s bi-sexual and bi-polar, and in this episode, she talks to us about all of it. — Sign up today for TTFA Premium! For $7.99 a month, you get access to exclusive bonus content, ad-free episodes *and* the knowledge that you’re keeping our show afloat! Visit TTFA.org/Premium to get started. Want (sporadic) emails from Nora and Team TTFA? Sign up here.  When you shop our Bookshop.org store, you support the author, independent

Mar 30, 2021 • 42:11

Cynthia

Cynthia

Cynthia is a Latina adult woman living with autism. In this episode, she lets us in on her world, what her life was like growing up, and what she experiences today as an autistic adult.Cynthia made a Spotify playlist for all of us! You can listen to it here.Support our independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. We now offer tiers as low as $4.99 / month. Sign up.Nora also writes sad & funny books! You can buy them here.Did you know we’re on TikTok? Yep, i

Mar 23, 2021 • 40:40

Cynthia

Cynthia

Cynthia is a Latina adult woman living with autism. In this episode, she lets us in on her world, what her life was like growing up, and what she experiences today as an autistic adult.Oh! Also, Cynthia made a Spotify playlist just for you, dear listener. You can find it here.— Sign up today for TTFA Premium! For $7.99 a month, you get access to exclusive bonus content, ad-free episodes *and* the knowledge that you’re keeping our show afloat! Visit TTFA.org/Premium to get started. Want (sporadic

Mar 23, 2021 • 36:25

Data Points

Data Points

Teresa fantasized about falling in love as much as any other teenager growing up. But because Teresa never saw people like her on TV or in movies — people living with disabilities — she could never really SEE herself having that kind of romantic relationship. That all changes when Teresa heads off to college.Support our independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. We now offer tiers as low as $4.99 / month. Sign up.Our email subscribers get first dibs on ticke

Mar 16, 2021 • 57:13

Data Points

Data Points

Teresa fantasized about falling in love as much as any other teenager growing up. But because Teresa never saw people like her on TV or in movies — people living with disabilities — she could never really SEE herself having that kind of romantic relationship. That all changes when Teresa heads off to college. — Sign up today for TTFA Premium! For $7.99 a month, you get access to exclusive bonus content, ad-free episodes *and* the knowledge that you’re keeping our show afloat! Visit TTFA.org/Prem

Mar 16, 2021 • 52:58

Tiny & Snail

Tiny & Snail

Leah loves to make things. Growing up, she loved to draw and paint. In college, she started her own comic. As an adult, she’s built tiny homes from scratch. And after an unexpected accident, she’s tasked with finding new ways to be the maker she’s always been.Support our independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. We now offer tiers as low as $4.99 / month. Sign up.Our email subscribers get first dibs on ticket sales, new merch, show announcements and more. J

Mar 9, 2021 • 50:20

Tiny & Snail

Tiny & Snail

Leah loves to make things. Growing up, she loved to draw and paint. In college, she started her own comic. As an adult, she’s built tiny homes from scratch. And after an unexpected accident, she’s tasked with finding new ways to be the maker she’s always been. You can support Leah’s greeting card business at tinyandsnail.com.  — Sign up today for TTFA Premium! For $7.99 a month, you get access to exclusive bonus content, ad-free episodes *and* the knowledge that you’re keeping our show afloat! V

Mar 9, 2021 • 46:05

Don’t You Want Somebody to Take Care of You?

Don’t You Want Somebody to Take Care of You?

Gina loves her big brother, Alan. She took care of him for most of their childhood, and as an adult, she wants to make sure he’s okay no matter what. But she also knows she can't be around to help make that happen.This episode is about being a child of divorce. It's about having one absent parent and another who lives with severe depression. It's about loving a sibling whose genetic disorder causes him to inflict physical harm. And it's about putting your own health above all of it.Support our i

Mar 2, 2021 • 1:06:12

Don't You Want Somebody to Take Care of You?

Don't You Want Somebody to Take Care of You?

Gina became a caregiver at a young age. By age 6, she was emotionally responsible for her mother, her brothers and herself, and she learned to mute her own needs for the sake of others. As an adult, she’s still shaking off the long-term effects of being parentified and learning to attend to her own human needs.Information about Prader-Willi syndrome & additional resources:https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/32877518/https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/2360065/https://www.pwsausa.org/https://www.fpwr.org

Mar 2, 2021 • 1:01:57

For All the Caregivers

For All the Caregivers

Caregiving has always been hard work … and heart work. It has always been challenging, rewarding, grueling and life-giving. It has always been work worth doing, and work whose worth is challenged or hard to quantify. And adding COVID to the mix didn’t help.This episode is filled with stories from caregivers — people who were thrust into this role by COVID or found the role further complicated by COVID. It is a reminder that you are not alone, even when you are bone-achingly lonely. It’s a piece

Feb 23, 2021 • 46:50

For All the Caregivers

For All the Caregivers

Caregiving has always been hard work … and heart work. It has always been challenging, rewarding, grueling and life-giving. It has always been work worth doing, and work whose worth is challenged or hard to quantify. And adding COVID to the mix didn’t help. This episode is filled with stories from caregivers — people who were thrust into this role by COVID or found the role further complicated by COVID. It is a reminder that you are not alone, even when you are bone-achingly lonely. It’s a piec

Feb 23, 2021 • 42:35

When You Care for a Living, Who Cares for You?

When You Care for a Living, Who Cares for You?

Care connects all of us. In this episode, we talk to Jonny, a domestic worker, and Ai-jen Poo of the National Domestic Workers Alliance about the people who take care of our homes, our families and our communities — the people whose work makes the rest of our work possible.Support our independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. We now offer tiers as low as $4.99 / month. Sign up.Our email subscribers get first dibs on ticket sales, new merch, show announcemen

Feb 16, 2021 • 46:56

When You Care for a Living, Who Cares for You?

When You Care for a Living, Who Cares for You?

Care connects all of us. In this episode, we talk to Jonny, a domestic worker, and Ai-jen Poo of the National Domestic Workers Alliance about the people who take care of our homes, our families and our communities — the people whose work makes the rest of our work possible. Learn more about NDWA’s new Care is Essential campaign, which argues that government investment in a comprehensive care infrastructure is an investment in a strong and equitable caring economy. — Sign up today for TTFA Premiu

Feb 16, 2021 • 42:41

That Good Night

That Good Night

It’s not just dying that is hard. It's not just the prospect of death. It's the recognition of it. It’s the conversation around it ... which is often no conversation at all. In this episode, we talk with Dr. Sunita Puri about care at the end of life — and why we need to start having those tough conversations.Support our independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. We now offer tiers as low as $4.99 / month. Sign up.Our email subscribers get first dibs on ticke

Feb 9, 2021 • 54:15

That Good Night

That Good Night

It’s not just dying that is hard. It's not just the prospect of death. It's the recognition of it. It’s the conversation around it... which is often no conversation at all. In this episode, we talk with Dr. Sunita Puri about care at the end of life — and why we need to start having those tough conversations. Our twice-monthly newsletter features behind-the-scenes content, previews of upcoming episodes and more. Sign up.When you shop our Bookshop.org store, you support the author, independent boo

Feb 9, 2021 • 50:00

Fairplay at Home

Fairplay at Home

America is in a care crisis. Women, especially mothers, are leaving the workforce in staggering numbers in this pandemic era. They're buckling under the pressure of managing the responsibilities of their households and their families on top of their work.In this episode, we talk with Eve Rodsky about the straw that broke her back and re-examine what it means to value care and time in your own household.Support our independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. W

Feb 2, 2021 • 44:53

Fairplay at Home

Fairplay at Home

America is in a care crisis. Women, especially mothers, are leaving the workforce in staggering numbers in this pandemic era. They're buckling under the pressure of managing the responsibilities of their households and their families on top of their work. In this episode, we talk with Eve Rodsky about the straw that broke her back and re-examine what it means to value care and time in your own household. More about Eve and Fairplay: https://www.fairplaylife.com/ — Sign up today for TTFA Premium!

Feb 2, 2021 • 40:38

A Simple Choice (Part 2)

A Simple Choice (Part 2)

Mark has remarried after the death of his first wife, and the couple give birth during COVID-19 to a perfect little girl. But this podcast has “Terrible” in its title for a reason, and Mark and Melissa must face yet another Worst Case Scenario.Support our independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. We now offer tiers as low as $4.99 / month. Sign up.Our email subscribers get first dibs on ticket sales, new merch, show announcements and more. Join our mailing

Jan 26, 2021 • 37:09

A Simple Choice (Part 2)

A Simple Choice (Part 2)

After losing his mother and his first wife Karen, Mark found new love with Melissa, one of the nurses who took care of Karen in her final days. They’re working together to overcome Mark’s fear of more loss, more death. And now, they’re ready to have children.  Update 1/26: Correction: The original version did not include context about Melissa and Mark’s decision to not go through with chemotherapy. Even with chemotherapy, Isla only had a 1-2% chance of survival. Isla was 10 weeks old and was bl

Jan 26, 2021 • 32:54

A Simple Choice (Part 1)

A Simple Choice (Part 1)

Mark’s mom died of cancer when he was fresh out of high school. Years later, when Mark’s wife Karen is also diagnosed with cancer, he’s faced with losing another loved one way too soon.Support our independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. We now offer tiers as low as $4.99 / month. Sign up.Our email subscribers get first dibs on ticket sales, new merch, show announcements and more. Join our mailing list here.Nora also writes sad & funny books! You can buy th

Jan 19, 2021 • 37:13

A Simple Choice (Part 1)

A Simple Choice (Part 1)

There are (many) crossroads in a relationship, but Mark is at a big one: his girlfriend Melissa wants kids, and he doesn’t. In part 1 of this story, we explore how a difficult choice becomes a simple one, and what it means to embrace life in the face of loss. — Sign up today for TTFA Premium! For $7.99 a month, you get access to exclusive bonus content, ad-free episodes *and* the knowledge that you’re keeping our show afloat! Visit TTFA.org/Premium to get started. Want (sporadic) emails from Nor

Jan 19, 2021 • 32:58

Update With Chelsea From "Forever Alone?"

Update With Chelsea From "Forever Alone?"

Way back in 2017, we did two episodes with Nora’s friend Chelsea, who was suer she was going to be alone FOREVER … until she met Brian.Chelsea and Brian’s relationship was complicated by Brian’s relationship with alcohol, and their story ended on a question mark. For years, people have been asking us what happened. In this episode, you finally get the answers.Support our independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. We now offer tiers as low as $4.99 / month. S

Jan 12, 2021 • 41:21

Update: Chelsea from Forever Alone?

Update: Chelsea from Forever Alone?

Way back in 2017, we did two episodes with Nora’s friend Chelsea, who was sure she was going to be alone FOREVER...and then met Brian. Their relationship was complicated by Brian’s relationship to alcohol and for years, people have been asking what happened. In this episode, you’ll find out. Our twice-monthly newsletter features behind-the-scenes content, previews of upcoming episodes and more. Sign up.When you shop our Bookshop.org store, you support the author, independent bookstores AND our s

Jan 12, 2021 • 37:06

Just Like Us

Just Like Us

Busy Philipps is weird. She knows it, and actually, she considers it her superpower — a superpower she used in her early acting days to wield revenge against the people who told her she'd never make it.But then, a weird thing happens: Busy does find success. She builds a family! But none of it feels the way she thought it would.Stars. They really are just like us, with their own struggles and problems that look just like ours.Support our independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by

Jan 5, 2021 • 44:53

Just Like Us

Just Like Us

Are stars just like us? After a conversation with Busy Philipps… you will 100% think so. Hers is a story of finding and owning your weirdness, using revenge as a fuel source to drive you to success, and what to do when you get what you want and it doesn’t feel the way you thought it would. After we recorded and mixed this episode, Busy announced on her podcast that her child Birdie uses they/them pronouns.Update 1/5: Speaking of how we’re all just doing our best… we had an oops this episode. The

Jan 5, 2021 • 40:38

The Milkman's Baby

The Milkman's Baby

Your sense of self when you’re young is tied to who you belong to and where you live. Morgan is Black and Pentecostal. She's the daughter of Sybil and Jon. She's their only child and has her father’s eyes. She’s from New Jersey! Her nickname — the milkman's baby — is a joke about her fairer skin.But as Morgan gets older, she realizes she actually doesn't know much about her family's history. This is a story of finding your roots, your ancestors and a new sense of self.Support our independent pr

Dec 8, 2020 • 38:25

The Milkman's Baby

The Milkman's Baby

Morgan Jerkins spent many months piecing together the patchwork of her own family history, and many weeks literally wandering in the lands they had been rooted to so many years before. Hers is a story about the privilege of documentation, the search for self and what it means to redefine yourself through your ancestors. You can purchase Morgan’s books at Morgan-Jerkins.com. — Can’t get enough TTFA? Sign up for TTFA Premium for $7.99 a month. You’ll get access to exclusive bonus content, ad-free

Dec 8, 2020 • 34:10

What's Negative About Positivity?

What's Negative About Positivity?

Good vibes only? Not on this podcast. And not when psychologist Susan David is in the room (figuratively speaking, of course, because pandemic).For years, Susan has been leading the conversation about the value of *all our feelings* and how no emotion is bad or good. This episode is your antidote to toxic positivity.Support our independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. We now offer tiers as low as $4.99 / month. Sign up.Our email subscribers get first dibs o

Dec 1, 2020 • 49:59

What's Negative About Positivity?

What's Negative About Positivity?

Good vibes only? Not on this podcast, and not when Susan David is in the room. For years, Susan has been leading the conversation about the value of *all our feelings* and how no emotion is bad or good. Here is the antidote to Toxic Positivity. — Can’t get enough TTFA? Sign up for TTFA Premium for $7.99 a month. You’ll get access to exclusive bonus content, ad-free episodes, extended guest interviews and more! Visit TTFA.org/Premium to get started. Shop for your favorite TTFA gear at TTFAmerch.c

Dec 1, 2020 • 45:44

Happyish Holidays 2020

Happyish Holidays 2020

This episode features conversations with people doing the best they can in difficult circumstances. Like Dr. Lucy Kalanithi, whose husband Dr. Paul Kalanithi was a notable and rising brain surgeon who wrote When Breath Becomes Air, a bestselling memoir about his fatal battle with cancer. And comedian Amber Tozer, who tells a funny and poignant story about walking in on her mother’s wedding… on Christmas Day. We will also talk with some of the women of the Hot Young Widows Club on their hopes and

Nov 24, 2020 • 54:28

Happyish Holidays 2020

Happyish Holidays 2020

This episode features conversations with people doing the best they can in difficult circumstances. Like Dr. Lucy Kalanithi, whose husband Dr. Paul Kalanithi was a notable and rising brain surgeon who wrote When Breath Becomes Air, a bestselling memoir about his fatal battle with cancer. And comedian Amber Tozer, who tells a funny and poignant story about walking in on her mother’s wedding… on Christmas Day. We will also talk with some of the women of the Hot Young Widows Club on their hopes and

Nov 24, 2020 • 50:13

Sanctuary

Sanctuary

We all have to find our way to our adult selves. As an author, filmmaker and co-founder of a mass movement — the Women’s March — Paola’s adult self is very impressive! But even the most impressive among us can struggle with belonging, especially in the systems that are set up to reject us. Support our independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. We now offer tiers as low as $4.99 / month. Sign up.Our email subscribers get first dibs on ticket sales, new merch,

Nov 17, 2020 • 47:22

Sanctuary

Sanctuary

We all have to find our way to our adult selves. As an author, filmmaker and co-founder of a mass movement --  the Women’s March -- Paola’s adult self is … very impressive! But even the most impressive among us can struggle with belonging, especially in the systems that are set up to reject us.  — Can’t get enough TTFA? Sign up for TTFA Premium for $7.99 a month. You’ll get access to exclusive bonus content, ad-free episodes, extended guest interviews and more! Visit TTFA.org/Premium to get star

Nov 17, 2020 • 43:07

Rebecca Black is Back

Rebecca Black is Back

Ten years ago, Rebecca Black was a 13-year-old girl who made a music video with her friends honoring everyone's favorite day of the week (you know the one).The music video wasn't great. But it also wasn’t great that the video quickly went viral on YouTube — and that being cruel to a teenage girl suddenly became a professional sport.A decade after the release of "Friday," Rebecca Black is back to remind everyone that her story doesn't boil down to just one thing she did when she was a teen.Suppo

Nov 10, 2020 • 45:15

Rebecca Black Is Back

Rebecca Black Is Back

Ten years ago, Rebecca Black was a 13-year-old girl who made a music video with her friends honoring everyone's favorite day of the week (you know the one). The music video wasn't great. But it also wasn’t great that the video quickly went viral on YouTube — and that being cruel to a teenage girl suddenly became a professional sport. A decade after the release of "Friday," Rebecca Black is back to remind everyone that her story doesn't boil down to just one thing she did when she was a teen. —

Nov 10, 2020 • 41:00

Deep Dive with Kate Kennedy of "Be There In Five"

Deep Dive with Kate Kennedy of "Be There In Five"

Something to get your mind off of the stress of this 2020 Election Day!Support our independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. We now offer tiers as low as $4.99 / month. Sign up.Our email subscribers get first dibs on ticket sales, new merch, show announcements and more. Join our mailing list here.Nora also writes sad & funny books! You can buy them here.Did you know we’re on TikTok? Yep, it’s true. Follow Nora. You can catch up with TTFA on Instagram, Twitte

Nov 3, 2020 • 2:06:37

Deep Dive w/ Kate Kennedy

Deep Dive w/ Kate Kennedy

Something to get your mind off of the craziness of this 2020 Election Day, featuring friend of the pod Kate Kennedy, host of “Be There in Five.” — Sign up today for TTFA Premium! For $7.99 a month, you get access to exclusive bonus content, ad-free episodes *and* the knowledge that you’re keeping our show afloat! Visit TTFA.org/Premium to get started. Want (sporadic) emails from Nora and Team TTFA? Sign up here.  When you shop our Bookshop.org store, you support the author, independent bookstore

Nov 3, 2020 • 2:02:22

Miss North Dakota

Miss North Dakota

In 2012, Rosie became the first Black woman to win the Miss North Dakota pageant. She got to do what she loves most — play music and perform! — and she won scholarship money to pay down her student loab debt. It was thrilling. It was exciting!But winning Miss North Dakota means more than just wearing a gorgeous gown on a stage in front of a bunch of people. For the next year, Rosie represents the state like a sort of ambassador, touring the region and sharing her diversity platform with folks …

Oct 27, 2020 • 55:52

Miss North Dakota

Miss North Dakota

In 2012, Rosie became the first Black woman to win the Miss North Dakota pageant. She got to do what she loves most — play music and perform! — and she won scholarship money to pay down her student loab debt. It was thrilling. It was exciting! But winning Miss North Dakota means more than just wearing a gorgeous gown on a stage in front of a bunch of people. For the next year, Rosie represents the state like a sort of ambassador, touring the region and sharing her diversity platform with folks

Oct 27, 2020 • 51:37

What About Your Friends?

What About Your Friends?

We know that romantic and familial relationships are work, and we respect the time it takes to maintain healthy relationships with our partners and families. But in a culture that prizes romantic love above all else, how do we make sure to maintain and protect our friendships?Aminatou Sow and Ann Friedman *literally* wrote the book about friendship and give us an assist with this episode. (Thanks, pals.)Support our independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium.

Oct 20, 2020 • 46:25

What About Your Friends?

What About Your Friends?

We know that romantic and familial relationships are work, and we respect the time it takes to maintain healthy relationships with our partners and families. But in a culture that prizes romantic love above all else, how do we make sure to maintain and protect our friendships? Aminatou Sow and Ann Friedman *literally* wrote the book about friendship and give us an assist with this episode. (Thanks, pals.) — Can’t get enough TTFA? Sign up for TTFA Premium for $7.99 a month. You’ll get access to e

Oct 20, 2020 • 42:10

Addiction, Language and Education

Addiction, Language and Education

How do we talk about addiction in more productive ways? How do we hold empathy and boundaries together? What does it mean to "recover"?Nora has no idea, so Dr. Nzinga Harrison is here to educate, comfort and reassure all of us.Support our independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. We now offer tiers as low as $4.99 / month. Sign up.Our email subscribers get first dibs on ticket sales, new merch, show announcements and more. Join our mailing list here.Nora als

Oct 13, 2020 • 51:42

Addiction, Language and Education

Addiction, Language and Education

How do we talk about addiction in more productive ways? How do we hold empathy and boundaries together? What does it mean to "recover"? Nora has no idea, so Dr. Nzinga Harrison is here to educate, comfort and reassure all of us. — Can’t get enough TTFA? Sign up for TTFA Premium for $7.99 a month. You’ll get access to exclusive bonus content, ad-free episodes, extended guest interviews and more! Visit TTFA.org/Premium to get started. Shop for your favorite TTFA gear at TTFAmerch.com. When you sho

Oct 13, 2020 • 47:27

Fine, I Guess?

Fine, I Guess?

A typical arc for stories on this podcast is that things are bad, very bad. And then, they’re ... not great, but are at least a little better. For author and comedian Samantha Irby, life is all good and all bad all at the same time. Because there are SO MANY things to laugh about when life is awful and your body is turning on you. There are also things to complain about when you’re deeply in love with a person who treats you like an angel.Support our independent production (and get bonus conten

Oct 6, 2020 • 49:30

Fine, I Guess?

Fine, I Guess?

A typical arc for stories on this podcast is that things are bad, very bad. And then, they’re ... not great, but are at least a little better. For author and comedian Samantha Irby, life is all good and all bad all at the same time. Because there are SO MANY things to laugh about when life is awful and your body is turning on you. There are also things to complain about when you’re deeply in love with a person who treats you like an angel. — Can’t get enough TTFA? Sign up for TTFA Premium for $7

Oct 6, 2020 • 45:15

Are You Tenants of This Building?

Are You Tenants of This Building?

In May 2020, a viral video filmed by two young men pushed them to the top of everyone’s news feed. Suddenly, it seemed the whole world knew what had happened to Abdi and Salman while they were working out in the gym of the Minneapolis office building they leased for their growing business.In this episode, we get past the story of what happened to Abdi and Salman and dive into the bigger story: who they are.Support our independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premiu

Sep 29, 2020 • 44:15

Are You Tenants Of This Building?

Are You Tenants Of This Building?

In May 2020, a viral video filmed by two young men pushed them to the top of everyone’s news feed. Suddenly, it seemed the whole world knew what had happened to Abdi and Salman while they were working out in the gym of the Minneapolis office building they leased for their growing business. In this episode, we get past the story of what happened to Abdi and Salman and dive into the bigger story: who they are. Correction: In the episode, we refer to Firefox as being made by Microsoft. Firefox is

Sep 29, 2020 • 40:00

Jenell

Jenell

Jennell's home life was difficult growing up, and the Pentecostal church she attended was the only place she truly felt safe. A talented vocalist, Jennell quickly became the church's rising star.When a church leader 15 years her senior takes advantage of teenage Jennell's mental health issues and begins a sexual relationship with her, she initially feels loved and cared for. Eventually, the relationship is revealed to the rest of the church. And when Jennell is cast as the villain in the story,

Sep 22, 2020 • 1:04:11

Jenell

Jenell

Jennell's home life was difficult growing up, and the Pentecostal church she attended was the only place she truly felt safe. A talented vocalist, Jennell quickly became the church's rising star. When a church leader 15 years her senior takes advantage of teenage Jennell's mental health issues and begins a sexual relationship with her, she initially feels loved and cared for. Eventually, the relationship is revealed to the rest of the church. And when Jennell is cast as the villain in the story

Sep 22, 2020 • 59:56

Black Widow

Black Widow

Leslie is a Black widow. No, not the spider — a Black human woman whose husband died. Because eventually, when she least expected it, she DID finally find a guy (whom she had already found once before).This episode is about that guy. His name is Scott. But it’s also about another guy: a baby boy named Brooks.Support our independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. We now offer tiers as low as $4.99 / month. Sign up.Our email subscribers get first dibs on ticket

Sep 15, 2020 • 45:10

Black Widow

Black Widow

Leslie is a Black widow. No, not the spider — a Black human woman whose husband died. Because eventually, when she least expected it, she DID finally find a guy (whom she had already found once before). This episode is about that guy. His name is Scott. But it’s also about another guy: a baby boy named Brooks. Her very, very good book is available here. — Sign up today for TTFA Premium! For $7.99 a month, you get access to exclusive bonus content, ad-free episodes *and* the knowledge that you’re

Sep 15, 2020 • 40:55

Come Meet Drayden

Come Meet Drayden

Drayden is a Black boy with Autism Spectrum Disorder. His mother, Dana, has been consistently fighting and pushing to get him the diagnosis and services he deserves (and needs!) since he was just a few months old.This episode is one about racism within the medical field. It's about a mother who must protect her son from the people who are supposed to protect him in a world where innocent, sweet, adorable Black boys grow up to be perceived by many as dangerous Black men.Support our independent p

Sep 8, 2020 • 46:15

Come Meet Drayden

Come Meet Drayden

Drayden is a Black boy with Autism Spectrum Disorder. His mother, Dana, has been consistently fighting and pushing to get him the diagnosis and services he deserves (and needs!) since he was just a few months old. This episode is one about racism within the medical field. It's about a mother who must protect her son from the people who are supposed to protect him in a world where innocent, sweet, adorable Black boys grow up to be perceived by many as dangerous Black men. Dana and her children w

Sep 8, 2020 • 42:00

Ride Through It

Ride Through It

Lyndsey and her mother have a shared love of horses. They both compete in dressage (Google it). They ride together after their daily farm chores are finished. But Lyndsey is more naturally gifted in the saddle than her mother, and this creates tension and envy.After a riding accident leaves her mother with severe physical injuries, Lyndsey isn't sure her mom will ever ride again. As her mom's body slowly heals, and as Lyndsey reteaches her mother how to ride, the two begin mending their relation

Sep 1, 2020 • 42:47

Ride Through It

Ride Through It

Lyndsey and her mother have a shared love of horses. They both compete in dressage (Google it). They ride together after their daily farm chores are finished. But Lyndsey is more naturally gifted in the saddle than her mother, and this creates tension and envy. After a riding accident leaves her mother with severe physical injuries, Lyndsey isn't sure her mom will ever ride again. As her mom's body slowly heals, and as Lyndsey reteaches her mother how to ride, the two begin mending their relati

Sep 1, 2020 • 38:32

David’s Excellently Sad Adventure

David’s Excellently Sad Adventure

Here's the thing: We do not like describing grief as a "journey." But when your grief involves a literal road trip across the country, what other choice do we have? And when your friend loses his wife and decides to go on that road trip to clear his mind, what do you do? If you're David's friend, you fly out to meet him, open up the maps app on your phone and buckle up.Support our independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. We now offer tiers as low as $4.99

Aug 25, 2020 • 47:51

David’s Excellently Sad Adventure

David’s Excellently Sad Adventure

Here's the thing: We do not like describing grief as a "journey." But when your grief involves a literal road trip across the country, what other choice do we have? And when your friend loses his wife and decides to go on that road trip to clear his mind, what do you do? If you're David's friend, you fly out to meet him, open up the maps app on your phone and buckle up. — Sign up today for TTFA Premium! For $7.99 a month, you get access to exclusive bonus content, ad-free episodes *and* the know

Aug 25, 2020 • 43:36

What's Gonna Happen To Me?

What's Gonna Happen To Me?

In our last episode, you met Brittany. (If you haven't listened to that one yet, we recommend scrolling back and checking it out.)When we left Britt, she finally had a good relationship with her biological dad for the first time in 33 years. She has her own solid family unit with her husband, Sonny. Her mom's health has improved, and so has Britt’s relationship with her. Things are good. They’re really, really good!And because this podcast isn't called, "Really, Really Good, Glad You Asked!” tha

Aug 18, 2020 • 44:24

What's Gonna Happen To Me?

What's Gonna Happen To Me?

When we left Britt, she finally had a good relationship with her biological dad for the first time in 33 years. She has her own solid family unit with her husband, Sonny. Her mom's health has improved, and so has Britt’s relationship with her. Things are good. They’re really, really good! And because this podcast isn't called, "Really, Really Good, Glad You Asked!” that means it's time for Britt's world to start unraveling. — Sign up today for TTFA Premium! For $7.99 a month, you get access to

Aug 18, 2020 • 40:09

Untying Knots

Untying Knots

Sometimes our parental relationships are a little tangly. We’re wrapped up in big, old knots from strings that were already jumbled up before we were even born.This is a story about the knotted threads of one family, as seen through the eyes of a girl named Brittany, who is busy grieving the recent death of her dad when she learns that he ... wasn’t actually her dad.Support our independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. We now offer tiers as low as $4.99 / mo

Jun 23, 2020 • 54:56

Untying Knots

Untying Knots

Sometimes our parental relationships are a little tangly. We’re wrapped up in big, old knots from strings that were already jumbled up before we were even born. This is a story about the knotted threads of one family, as seen through the eyes of a girl named Brittany, who is busy grieving the recent death of her dad when she learns that he ... wasn’t actually her dad. Learn more about Britt at brittanyjeanlouis.com. — Sign up today for TTFA Premium! For $7.99 a month, you get access to exclusive

Jun 23, 2020 • 50:41

Salome’s Choice

Salome’s Choice

Salome and Isaiah can't wait to become parents to Isaac and Joy, children they've come to love after multiple visits to Isaiah's home country of Nigeria. The children's birth mother has been unable to care for them, and Isaiah's brother has been helping the children's grandparents financially.Isaac and Joy's mother agrees to the international adoption. But after the papers are finalized, the children are kidnapped ... and Salome and Isaiah are thrust into a system in which no one ever wins.To le

Jun 16, 2020 • 45:56

Salome's Choice

Salome's Choice

Salome and Isaiah can't wait to become parents to Isaac and Joy, children they've come to love after multiple visits to Isaiah's home country of Nigeria. The children's birth mother has been unable to care for them, and Isaiah's brother has been helping the children's grandparents financially. Isaac and Joy's mother agrees to the international adoption. But after the papers are finalized, the children are kidnapped ... and Salome and Isaiah are thrust into a system in which no one ever wins. To

Jun 16, 2020 • 41:41

Policing and Racial Trauma with Angela Davis

Policing and Racial Trauma with Angela Davis

Thanks to our Minnesota Public Radio colleagues and the team at Call to Mind for recording (and sharing) this conversation.You can find the panelists here:https://www.resmaa.com/about https://mn.gov/cmah/about-us/staff/terrell.jsp http://drbrittanylewis.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jun 9, 2020 • 59:52

Policing and Racial Trauma with Angela Davis

Policing and Racial Trauma with Angela Davis

For many people, the killing of George Floyd in Minneapolis was the latest graphic instance of a Black American being killed by the police -- and his homicide the most recent national example of historic, institutional discrimination against people of color and indigenous groups. Our colleagues at Call to Mind -- an APM / MPR initiative to inform and mobilize new conversations about mental health -- recently put a spotlight on the trauma of Black Americans and how it intersects with policing. To

Jun 9, 2020 • 55:37

The Other Side Of Belonging

The Other Side Of Belonging

Jen Hatmaker was a perfect prototype of evangelical woman subculture. She followed the rules close enough to not be problematic but had just the right amount of edge to be successful in the Christian blogger space.In 2016, Jen finds herself ostracized from the community that once supported her after she voices love and support for LGBTQ individuals. She's sure she's lost it all — her friends, her income, everything — until Jen discovers a whole other segment of the evangelical community ready to

May 26, 2020 • 46:19

The Other Side Of Belonging

The Other Side Of Belonging

Jen was a perfect prototype of evangelical woman subculture. She followed the rules close enough to not be problematic but had just the right amount of edge to be successful in the Christian blogger space. In 2016, Jen finds herself ostracized from the community that once supported her after she voices love and support for LGBTQ individuals. She's sure she's lost it all — her friends, her income, everything — until Jen discovers a whole other segment of the evangelical community ready to welcom

May 26, 2020 • 42:04

Unemployed

Unemployed

Layoffs. Redundancies. Furloughs. Right-sizing. There are so many ways to say, “Whoops, sorry, you don’t have a job here anymore,” and Sarah Hagi has already lived through a few of them.If you’ve ever been told some nonsense during a job interview about how the company in question is “like a family,” and the reason for the low salary offer is because there's free lunch and booze in the kitchen, this episode is for you.Support our independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining

May 19, 2020 • 52:19

Unemployed

Unemployed

Layoffs. Redundancies. Furloughs. Right-sizing. There are so many ways to say, “Whoops, sorry, you don’t have a job here anymore,” and Sarah Hagi has already lived through a few of them. If you’ve ever been told some nonsense during a job interview about how the company in question is “like a family,” and the reason for the low salary offer is because there's free lunch and booze in the kitchen, this episode is for you. Sign up today for TTFA Premium! For $7.99 a month, you get access to exclus

May 19, 2020 • 48:04

100?

100?

This isn’t *technically* our 100th episode but rather the episode we made as soon as we’d learned that we’d already well surpassed 100 episodes. It’s an episode about milestones and anniversaries, and why humans care so much about them. It’s a chance for us to look back and reflect on our body of work.Support our independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. We now offer tiers as low as $4.99 / month. Sign up.Our email subscribers get first dibs on ticket sales,

May 12, 2020 • 28:37

100?

100?

This isn’t *technically* our 100th episode but rather the episode we made as soon as we’d learned that we’d already well surpassed 100 episodes (thanks, Jon in fundraising)! It’s an episodes about milestones and anniversaries, and why humans care so much about them. It’s a chance for us to look back and reflect on our body of work. — Sign up today for TTFA Premium! For $7.99 a month, you get access to exclusive bonus content, ad-free episodes *and* the knowledge that you’re keeping our show aflo

May 12, 2020 • 24:22

Life After Certainty

Life After Certainty

Kate Bowler grew up in a Mennonite church and has spent her academic career studying the prosperity gospel, aka the belief that God wants you to do well in life. Ever heard the phrase, "Everything happens for a reason"? Yep, that's based in prosperity gospel!When Kate is told she has Stage 4 cancer, the diagnosis rocks her professional and personal world. Her illness is totally out of line with what she expected from faith, and it makes her begin to question her life's work.It’s easy to believe

May 5, 2020 • 53:47

Life After Certainty

Life After Certainty

Kate Bowler grew up in a Mennonite church and has spent her academic career studying the prosperity gospel, aka the belief that God wants you to do well in life. Ever heard the phrase, "Everything happens for a reason"? Yep, that's based in prosperity gospel! When Kate is told she has Stage 4 cancer, the diagnosis rocks her professional and personal world. Her illness is totally out of line with what she expected from faith, and it makes her begin to question her life's work. It’s easy to beli

May 5, 2020 • 49:32

Bad Moms

Bad Moms

Do you need to laugh? Do you need to laugh REALLY HARD? Well, good. Because Nora turned the hilarious movie "Bad Moms" into a novel. It’s fun and funny and a perfect escape for right now, and you get the first three chapters right here.Support our independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. We now offer tiers as low as $4.99 / month. Sign up.Our email subscribers get first dibs on ticket sales, new merch, show announcements and more. Join our mailing list her

Apr 28, 2020 • 55:00

Bad Moms

Bad Moms

Do you need to laugh? Do you need to laugh REALLY HARD? Well, good. Because Nora turned the hilarious movie Bad Moms into a novel. It’s fun and funny and a perfect escape for right now, and you get the first three chapters right here. It’s never been more important to order local. Our favorite bookstore has a bunch of signed copies of this book just WAITING for you to order. You can pre-order Bad Moms here. You can catch up with TTFA on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook using @ttfapodcast. Nora's

Apr 28, 2020 • 50:45

How's It Going In There?

How's It Going In There?

It can be hard to be honest with ourselves, especially when something terrible is happening EVERYWHERE and to EVERYONE and we don’t want to call too much attention to ourselves because … it could be worse, ya know? As the world locks down due to COVID-19, and as the lives as we knew them screech to a halt, we decided to ask you: “How’s it going in there?”These are your stories from the era of isolation.Support our independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. W

Apr 21, 2020 • 41:17

How's It Going In There?

How's It Going In There?

It can be hard to be honest with ourselves, especially when something terrible is happening EVERYWHERE and to EVERYONE and we don’t want to call too much attention to ourselves because … it could be worse, ya know? As the world locks down due to COVID-19, and as the lives as we knew them screech to a halt, we decided to ask you: “How’s it going in there?” These are your stories from the era of isolation. Do us all a favor and check in with yourself with the questions we included in the episode:

Apr 21, 2020 • 37:02

Welcome to The Club

Welcome to The Club

Stuff is hard right now. Like, really hard. If you feel like you're hanging onto a rapidly fraying rope? You are not alone. Not by a long shot.The bad news about the Terrible Club? Your membership is non-negotiable. Something happens and boom! You're in the club!The good news about the Terrible Club? You're not alone. We promise.Support our independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. We now offer tiers as low as $4.99 / month. Sign up.Our email subscribers ge

Apr 14, 2020 • 23:15

Welcome To The Club

Welcome To The Club

Stuff is hard right now. Like, really hard. If you feel like you're hanging onto a rapidly fraying rope? You are not alone. Not by a long shot. The bad news about the Terrible Club? Your membership is non-negotiable. Something happens and boom! You're in the club! The good news about the Terrible Club? You're not alone. We promise. — Sign up today for TTFA Premium! For $7.99 a month, you get access to exclusive bonus content, ad-free episodes *and* the knowledge that you’re keeping our show afl

Apr 14, 2020 • 19:00

Emily and Chanel

Emily and Chanel

In 2015, a young woman was sexually assaulted on the Stanford University campus. The crime (and specifically, the man who committed it) dominated news headlines throughout the trial.For years, the woman who'd been assaulted was known as Emily Doe. In 2019, Chanel Miller gave up her anonymity with the publication of her powerful memoir, "Know My Name."In this episode, Chanel talks about the time she spent living with two identities — one anonymous but constantly talked about, the other trying to

Mar 31, 2020 • 1:08:46

Emily and Chanel

Emily and Chanel

In 2015, a young woman was sexually assaulted on the Stanford University campus. The crime (and specifically, the man who committed it) dominated news headlines throughout the trial. For years, the woman who'd been assaulted was known as Emily Doe. In 2019, Chanel Miller gave up her anonymity with the publication of her powerful memoir, "Know My Name." In this episode, Chanel talks about the time she spent living with two identities — one anonymous but constantly talked about, the other trying t

Mar 31, 2020 • 1:04:31

Emily and Chanel

Emily and Chanel

In 2015, a young woman was sexually assaulted on the Stanford University campus. The crime (and specifically, the man who committed it) dominated news headlines throughout the trial. For years, the woman who'd been assaulted was known as Emily Doe. In 2019, Chanel Miller gave up her anonymity with the publication of her powerful memoir, "Know My Name." In this episode, Chanel talks about the time she spent living with two identities — one anonymous but constantly talked about, the other trying

Mar 31, 2020 • 1:04:31

For The Next Ten Minutes

For The Next Ten Minutes

When you believe that love will never, could never happen to you, it feels like a miracle when it finally does. This is the story of a young man named Oliver, whose religious upbringing has convinced him that love isn’t in the cards for him. And it’s a story about a young man named Jamie, who shows Oliver that yes, miracles do happen.Support our independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. Sign up.Nora also writes sad & funny books! You can buy them here.Yo

Mar 24, 2020 • 56:04

For The Next Ten Minutes

For The Next Ten Minutes

When you believe that love will never, could never happen to you, it feels like a miracle when it finally does. This is the story of a young man named Oliver, whose religious upbringing has convinced him that love isn’t in the cards for him. And it’s a story about a young man named Jamie, who shows Oliver that yes, miracles do happen. Sign up today for TTFA Premium! For $7.99 a month, you get access to exclusive bonus content, ad-free episodes *and* the knowledge that you’re keeping our show afl

Mar 24, 2020 • 51:49

9 Things

9 Things

Laura McKowen is sober. Drinking used to be her "thing," and what she's learned in sobriety is that we all have a thing — something we'd be better off without that we just ... keep doing. Maybe that's scrolling your phone or Googling your ex (no judgment). Maybe it's alcohol or drugs or sugar or watching Netflix until 3 in the morning. This episode is filled with hope and help for whatever your "thing" is.Support our independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium

Mar 17, 2020 • 47:08

9 Things

9 Things

Laura McKowen is sober. Drinking used to be her "thing," and what she's learned in sobriety is that we all have a thing — something we'd be better off without that we just ... keep doing. Maybe that's scrolling your phone or Googling your ex (no judgment). Maybe it's alcohol or drugs or sugar or watching Netflix until 3 in the morning. This episode is filled with hope and help for whatever your "thing" is. — Sign up today for TTFA Premium! For $7.99 a month, you get access to exclusive bonus con

Mar 17, 2020 • 42:53

Man's Best Friend

Man's Best Friend

Dan and Darren have been friends for decades. They hit all of their major adult milestones together — jobs, marriage, kids. They planned on becoming old men together...... and then Darren dies of brain cancer.Everyone experiences grief, but the resources for grieving men are virtually nonexistent. We know that only about .03% of our listeners identify as male, so you might need to forward this one to any grieving guy you know.Support our independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by

Mar 10, 2020 • 43:53

Man’s Best Friend

Man’s Best Friend

Dan and Darren have been friends for decades. They hit all of their major adult milestones together — jobs, marriage, kids. They planned on becoming old men together ... ... and then Darren dies of brain cancer. Everyone experiences grief, but the resources for grieving men are virtually nonexistent. We know that only about .03% of our listeners identify as male, so you might need to forward this one to any grieving guy you know. — Sign up today for TTFA Premium! For $7.99 a month, you get acc

Mar 10, 2020 • 39:38

It Hurts

It Hurts

Jessica’s sobriety story is like a lot of other sobriety stories you’ve heard. She put in the work and did what she had to do to stop doing the thing that was going to kill her. At the same time, Jessica’s sobriety story is also different, because hers is complicated by the debilitating pain of an incurable reproductive disease that nobody understands.Support our independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. We now offer tiers as low as $4.99 / month. Sign up.Ou

Mar 3, 2020 • 48:04

It Hurts

It Hurts

Jessica’s sobriety story is like a lot of other sobriety stories you’ve heard. She put in the work and did what she had to do to stop doing the thing that was going to kill her. At the same time, Jessica’s sobriety story is also different, because hers is complicated by the debilitating pain of an incurable reproductive disease that nobody understands. — Sign up today for TTFA Premium! For $7.99 a month, you get access to exclusive bonus content, ad-free episodes *and* the knowledge that you’re

Mar 2, 2020 • 43:49

I See Big Things For You

I See Big Things For You

Pam and Steve have just gotten married and are getting ready to celebrate with friends and family at their upcoming wedding reception in just a few days … but first, they gotta head to the north woods of Minnesota to tackle some chores at their lake cabin. When a tragic accident up at the lake has Pam planning Steve’s memorial service instead of celebrating their nuptials, she realizes the life she planned for her and Steve will never even have a chance to get started. — Sign up today for TTFA

Feb 25, 2020 • 43:10

I See Big Things For You

I See Big Things For You

Pam and Steve have just gotten married and are getting ready to celebrate with friends and family at their upcoming wedding reception in just a few days … but first, they gotta head to the north woods of Minnesota to tackle some chores at their lake cabin.When a tragic accident up at the lake has Pam planning Steve’s memorial service instead of celebrating their nuptials, she realizes the life she planned for her and Steve will never even have a chance to get started.Support our independent prod

Feb 25, 2020 • 47:25

The Happiness Equation

The Happiness Equation

Neil Pasricha’s life is falling apart. His marriage, which gave him a sense of purpose and value, is over. His best friend has died by suicide. Therapy helps, but he still struggles with all of the negativity swirling in his head.So Neil does what a lot of people did in the mid-aughts: He starts a blog — a blog about awesome things that make him happy.Right now, a lot of us rely on the internet and social media for connection and instead find the exact opposite. If that's you (and it probably is

Feb 18, 2020 • 49:01

The Happiness Equation

The Happiness Equation

Neil Pasricha’s life is falling apart. His marriage, which gave him a sense of purpose and value, is over. His best friend has died by suicide. Therapy helps, but he still struggles with all of the negativity swirling in his head. So Neil does what a lot of people did in the mid-aughts: He starts a blog — a blog about awesome things that make him happy. Right now, a lot of us rely on the internet and social media for connection and instead find the exact opposite. If that's you (and it probably

Feb 18, 2020 • 44:46

Listen to This: Tremendous Upside

Listen to This: Tremendous Upside

What happens when an athlete’s body is in peak condition but the mind is throwing flags? On Tremendous Upside, Women's Basketball Hall of Famer Chamique Holdsclaw interviews some of the most fascinating stars in sports who, like Holdsclaw herself, have faced real mental health issues. In this episode, Chamique talks with her childhood friend, NBA All-Star Metta World Peace, formerly known as Ron Artest, about anger, meditation and that infamous night in Detroit. Produced by American Public Media

Feb 6, 2020 • 33:12

Listen to This: Tremendous Upside

Listen to This: Tremendous Upside

What happens when an athlete’s body is in peak condition but the mind is throwing flags? On Tremendous Upside, Women's Basketball Hall of Famer Chamique Holdsclaw interviews some of the most fascinating stars in sports who, like Holdsclaw herself, have faced real mental health issues. In this episode, Chamique talks with her childhood friend, NBA All-Star Metta World Peace, formerly known as Ron Artest, about anger, meditation and that infamous night in Detroit. Produced by American Public Medi

Feb 6, 2020 • 34:27

Ch-ch-ch-changes!

Ch-ch-ch-changes!

In life, the only thing that remains constant is change. As TTFA goes through our own major changes, we explore what change really means to us.Support our independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. We now offer tiers as low as $4.99 / month. Sign up.Our email subscribers get first dibs on ticket sales, new merch, show announcements and more. Join our mailing list here.Nora also writes sad & funny books! You can buy them here.Did you know we’re on TikTok? Yep

Dec 23, 2019 • 31:47

Ch-ch-ch-changes!

Ch-ch-ch-changes!

In life, the only thing that remains constant is change. As TTFA goes through our own major changes, we explore what change really means to us.You can catch up with TTFA on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook using @ttfapodcast. Nora's Instagram is @noraborealis. TTFA is public media. Which means we are supported by you. You can join us with a contribution at ttfa.org/donate.

Dec 23, 2019 • 30:32

Listen to This: Fading Minds

Listen to This: Fading Minds

It’s something we all dread. It’s also something most of us probably don’t understand too well: Alzheimer’s Disease. Drug companies have spent billions, so why isn’t there a cure? Our colleagues at APM Reports dug into this question. Listen to what they found, and learn more at https://www.apmreports.org/story/2019/10/15/senility-alzheimers-amyloid-plaques

Dec 11, 2019 • 58:03

Listen to This: Fading Minds

Listen to This: Fading Minds

It's something we all dread. It's also something most of us probably don't understand too well: Alzheimer's Disease. Drug companies have spent billions, so why isn't there a cure? Our colleagues at APM Reports dug into this question. Listen to what they found, and learn more at: https://www.apmreports.org/story/2019/10/15/senility-alzheimers-amyloid-plaques

Dec 11, 2019 • 54:48

Happy Podiversary (We’re 3!)

Happy Podiversary (We’re 3!)

If you’ve listened to this podcast since the beginning, or since the middle, or even if you’ve only listened to a few episodes, we want to say thank you. As of this episode, TTFA is three years old … which is basically the same age as the baby Nora told you about in Episode 0. And in this episode, Nora reflects on the past few years and what’s to come for the show. Can’t get enough TTFA? Sign up for TTFA Premium for $7.99 a month. You’ll get access to exclusive bonus content, ad-free episodes, e

Nov 26, 2019 • 26:50

Happy Podiversary (We're 3!)

Happy Podiversary (We're 3!)

If you’ve listened to this podcast since the beginning, or since the middle, or even if you’ve only listened to a few episodes, we want to say thank you. As of this episode, TTFA is three years old … which is basically the same age as the baby Nora told you about in Episode 0. And in this episode, Nora reflects on the past few years and what’s to come for the show.Also, book recommendations for grievers: The Body Keeps The Score by Bessel van der Kolk, M.D. Mindsight by Daniel J. Siegel, M.D. Wh

Nov 26, 2019 • 28:05

What Happened to You? (Part 3)

What Happened to You? (Part 3)

In our third and final episode in our series on childhood trauma, we take a look at the bigger picture — as in, what the heck are we supposed to do with the knowledge that what happened to us as kids can affect our health in adulthood? How can we help heal our own childhood traumas? Buckle up, folks, because this train makes stops in Rantville, Can You Believe This Burg and OMGtown. This episode was produced in partnership with Call to Mind, American Public Media's initiative to foster new conve

Nov 19, 2019 • 49:02

What Happened to You? (Part 3)

What Happened to You? (Part 3)

In our third and final episode in our series on childhood trauma, we take a look at the bigger picture — as in, what the heck are we supposed to do with the knowledge that what happened to us as kids can affect our health in adulthood? How can we help heal our own childhood traumas? Buckle up, folks, because this train makes stops in Rantville, Can You Believe This Burg and OMGtown.This episode was produced in partnership with: Call to Mind, American Public Media's initiative to foster new conve

Nov 19, 2019 • 53:17

What Happened to You? (Part 2)

What Happened to You? (Part 2)

If the terrible things that happened to you during childhood can affect your physical health later in life, how do you NOT live out the worst possibilities for yourself? Is that even possible? In this second episode of our series about childhood trauma, we look at protective factors and resilience. And once again, we're joined by Britt. This episode was produced in partnership with Call to Mind, American Public Media's initiative to foster new conversations about mental health; And St. David's C

Nov 12, 2019 • 51:16

What Happened to You? (Part 2)

What Happened to You? (Part 2)

If the terrible things that happened to you during childhood can affect your physical health later in life, how do you NOT live out the worst possibilities for yourself? Is that even possible? In this second episode of our series about childhood trauma, we look at protective factors and resilience. And once again, we're joined by Britt.This episode was produced in partnership with: Call to Mind, American Public Media's initiative to foster new conversations about mental health; St. David's Cente

Nov 12, 2019 • 55:31

What Happened to You? (Part 1)

What Happened to You? (Part 1)

We all kind of understand that what happens to us as a child affects us as an adult, but there is recent evidence that the way our childhoods affect us is so much deeper and more surprising than we thought. So where do we start when we’re talking about how childhood adversity affects us? We start by looking at a childhood. One childhood, from a few different angles. And this child's name is Britt. This episode was produced in partnership with Call to Mind, American Public Media's initiative to f

Nov 5, 2019 • 45:36

What Happened to You? (Part 1)

What Happened to You? (Part 1)

We all kind of understand that what happens to us as a child affects us as an adult, but there is recent evidence that the way our childhoods affect us is so much deeper and more surprising than we thought. So where do we start when we’re talking about how childhood adversity affects us? We start by looking at a childhood. One childhood, from a few different angles. And this child's name is Britt. This episode was produced in partnership with Call to Mind, American Public Media's initiat

Nov 5, 2019 • 45:36

What Happened to You? (Part 1)

What Happened to You? (Part 1)

We all kind of understand that what happens to us as a child affects us as an adult, but there is recent evidence that the way our childhoods affect us is so much deeper and more surprising than we thought. So where do we start when we’re talking about how childhood adversity affects us? We start by looking at a childhood. One childhood, from a few different angles. And this child's name is Britt.This episode was produced in partnership with: Call to Mind, American Public Media's initiative to f

Nov 5, 2019 • 49:51

God's Plan

God's Plan

Caleb Campbell knew growing up that God’s plan for his life was sports. And when you believe that God himself is responsible for your football career, you feel a LOT of pressure to succeed.By the time he makes it to the NFL, Caleb is suffering from severe depression and anxiety. He's having regular panic attacks. He feels like he's disappointed everyone, including God. He turns to drugs and alcohol to cope with his self-hate.When Caleb leaves sports behind and finds himself working as a church j

Oct 29, 2019 • 57:16

God's Plan

God's Plan

Caleb Campbell knew growing up that God’s plan for his life was sports. And when you believe that God himself is responsible for your football career, you feel a LOT of pressure to succeed. By the time he makes it to the NFL, Caleb is suffering from severe depression and anxiety. He's having regular panic attacks. He feels like he's disappointed everyone, including God. He turns to drugs and alcohol to cope with his self-hate. When Caleb leaves sports behind and finds himself working as a chur

Oct 29, 2019 • 53:01

Our Parents' Debts

Our Parents' Debts

When Cortney's dad dies, her mother grieves the way a lot of people do: by buying things to fill the void, sometimes things she can't afford.By age 15, Cortney is helping her mom pay the bills. By her 20s, when her mom is diagnosed with cancer, Cortney is working 60-hour weeks just to keep her mother's lights on.This is an episode about what money means — when you have it, when you don't — and how a lack of it can strain family ties.Support our independent production (and get bonus content galor

Oct 22, 2019 • 51:28

Our Parents' Debts

Our Parents' Debts

When Cortney's dad dies, her mother grieves the way a lot of people do: by buying things to fill the void, sometimes things she can't afford. By age 15, Cortney is helping her mom pay the bills. By her 20s, when her mom is diagnosed with cancer, Cortney is working 60-hour weeks just to keep her mother's lights on. This is an episode about what money means — when you have it, when you don't — and how a lack of it can strain family ties. Can’t get enough TTFA? Sign up for TTFA Premium for $7.99 a

Oct 22, 2019 • 47:13

The Gift of Time

The Gift of Time

Karen grew up with two sick parents — two sick but incredibly loving parents. Her mom died when Karen was just 10 years old, and her dad has dealt with medical and kidney issues her whole life.Karen is 22 years old and living in Spain when she learns her dad’s health is deteriorating again. He needs a new kidney. And thankfully, Karen has one of those to spare.Support our independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. We now offer tiers as low as $4.99 / month. S

Oct 15, 2019 • 58:26

The Gift of Time

The Gift of Time

Karen grew up with two sick parents — two sick but incredibly loving parents. Her mom died when Karen was just 10 years old, and her dad has dealt with medical and kidney issues her whole life. Karen is 22 years old and living in Spain when she learns her dad’s health is deteriorating again. He needs a new kidney. And thankfully, Karen has one of those to spare. Can’t get enough TTFA? Sign up for TTFA Premium for $7.99 a month. You’ll get access to exclusive bonus content, ad-free episodes, exte

Oct 15, 2019 • 54:11

Emily + Brian

Emily + Brian

Emily and Brian, like many couples, have had both ups and downs during their relationship. About a week before their third wedding anniversary, Emily gets the sense that things are down again.It’s just a feeling. Nothing concrete. No proof of anything. But when Brian dies in a tragic accident a few days later, Emily learns that her husband has been having relationships with people who are … not Emily.This is an episode about multiple truths — about how you can love someone and grieve their death

Oct 8, 2019 • 57:20

Emily + Brian

Emily + Brian

Emily and Brian, like many couples, have had both ups and downs during their relationship. About a week before their third wedding anniversary, Emily gets the sense that things are down again. It’s just a feeling. Nothing concrete. No proof of anything. But when Brian dies in a tragic accident a few days later, Emily learns that her husband has been having relationships with people who are … not Emily. This is an episode about multiple truths — about how you can love someone and grieve their d

Oct 8, 2019 • 53:05

The Americans

The Americans

Siblings Syeda and Syed are 16 and 17 years old when their father tells them that more than half of their little American family unit are undocumented immigrants; Mom and Dad fled Pakistan when Syed was just a baby to escape violence in their home country. Syeda and her younger brother are U.S. citizens, but Syed and their parents are not. They must return to Pakistan — a place they haven’t considered “home” for almost two decades. A place Syed doesn’t even remember.This is an episode about an A

Oct 1, 2019 • 55:35

The Americans

The Americans

Siblings Syeda and Syed are 16 and 17 years old when their father tells them that more than half of their little American family unit are undocumented immigrants; Mom and Dad fled Pakistan when Syed was just a baby to escape violence in their home country. Syeda and her younger brother are U.S. citizens, but Syed and their parents are not. They must return to Pakistan — a place they haven’t considered “home” for almost two decades. A place Syed doesn’t even remember. This is an episode about a

Oct 1, 2019 • 51:20

Former Life

Former Life

Kelsey and Louie’s life is blessedly boring in the best kind of way. They have good jobs. They live in the suburbs. They have a kid.When Kelsey gets pregnant again, everything changes. Not just because they’re about to go from one kid to two, but because Kelsey isn’t feeling well. She’s diagnosed with Guillain-Barre syndrome.Some changes you anticipate. They are eagerly awaited — like a pregnancy. And some changes just jump out at you and turn everything upside down.Support our independent produ

Sep 24, 2019 • 54:26

Former Life

Former Life

Kelsey and Louie’s life is blessedly boring in the best kind of way. They have good jobs. They live in the suburbs. They have a kid. When Kelsey gets pregnant again, everything changes. Not just because they’re about to go from one kid to two, but because Kelsey isn’t feeling well. She’s diagnosed with Guillain-Barre syndrome. Some changes you anticipate. They are eagerly awaited — like a pregnancy. And some changes just jump out at you and turn everything upside down. Can’t get enough TTFA? S

Sep 24, 2019 • 50:11

Update on "Horrible and Wonderful and Figuring It Out"

Update on "Horrible and Wonderful and Figuring It Out"

We have an update on a past episode! Harris Wittels was the executive producer of "Parks and Recreation," the coiner of the word "humblebrag," a Phish enthusiast, and the funniest person in any room he walked into. He died of a heroin overdose in 2015, leaving behind his mother, his sister, and a lifetime of talent and potential.Support our independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. We now offer tiers as low as $4.99 / month. Sign up.Our email subscribers get

Sep 17, 2019 • 1:02:51

An Update on Horrible and Wonderful and Figuring It Out

An Update on Horrible and Wonderful and Figuring It Out

Harris Wittels was the executive producer of "Parks and Recreation," the coiner of the word "humblebrag," a Phish enthusiast, and the funniest person in any room he walked into. He died of a heroin overdose in 2015, leaving behind his mother, his sister, and a lifetime of talent and potential. — Sign up today for TTFA Premium! For $7.99 a month, you get access to exclusive bonus content, ad-free episodes *and* the knowledge that you’re keeping our show afloat! Visit TTFA.org/Premium to get star

Sep 17, 2019 • 58:36

Love, Babs

Love, Babs

Maynard travels a lot for his job. His wife, Barbara, often goes with him so they can make a mini vacation out of it. If she can’t tag along, they keep in touch via phone calls and little love notes.When Maynard heads to New York for work, it feels like just another business trip. Except it’s not. Not at all. Because when Barbara last talks to Maynard on the phone, he’s heading into the World Trade Center for his first meeting of the day on September 11th, 2001.This is an episode about what happ

Sep 10, 2019 • 46:10

Love, Babs

Love, Babs

Maynard travels a lot for his job. His wife, Barbara, often goes with him so they can make a mini vacation out of it. If she can’t tag along, they keep in touch via phone calls and little love notes. When Maynard heads to New York for work, it feels like just another business trip. Except it’s not. Not at all. Because when Barbara last talks to Maynard on the phone, he’s heading into the World Trade Center for his first meeting of the day on September 11th, 2001. This is an episode about what

Sep 10, 2019 • 41:55

Ryan + Tiffany

Ryan + Tiffany

In high school and college, Ryan was … kind of a jerk. He didn’t treat his girlfriends well and had warped ideas of what it meant to “be a man.”As he gets older, his definition of masculinity greatly expands. He and his wife, Tiffany, take each other’s last names and hyphenate them. He learns to embrace his love of art and poetry. He commits to fighting the patriarchy!But when Ryan and Tiffany learn that the reason they haven’t been able to get pregnant is because of Ryan, he finds himself once

Sep 3, 2019 • 52:56

Ryan + Tiffany

Ryan + Tiffany

In high school and college, Ryan was … kind of a jerk. He didn’t treat his girlfriends well and had warped ideas of what it meant to “be a man.” As he gets older, his definition of masculinity greatly expands. He and his wife, Tiffany, take each other’s last names and hyphenate them. He learns to embrace his love of art and poetry. He commits to fighting the patriarchy! But when Ryan and Tiffany learn that the reason they haven’t been able to get pregnant is because of Ryan, he finds himself onc

Sep 3, 2019 • 48:41

It Just Happens

It Just Happens

In 2015, Jayson and Stacy's 2-year-old daughter, Greta, was killed while she was sitting on a bench in New York City. A loose brick from the building above her fell from the windowsill and fell eight stories before hitting the toddler on her head.Some things, like the death of a child, are unimaginable. In fact, we'd prefer to NOT imagine them, ever. But for Jayson and Stacy, the loss of Greta to this random tragedy is their reality.Support our new independent production (and get bonus content g

Aug 27, 2019 • 52:26

It Just Happens

It Just Happens

In 2015, Jayson and Stacy's 2-year-old daughter, Greta, was killed while she was sitting on a bench in New York City. A loose brick from the building above her fell from the windowsill and fell eight stories before hitting the toddler on her head. Some things, like the death of a child, are unimaginable. In fact, we'd prefer to NOT imagine them, ever. But for Jayson and Stacy, the loss of Greta to this random tragedy is their reality. Can’t get enough TTFA? Sign up for TTFA Premium for $7.99 a m

Aug 27, 2019 • 48:11

Listen to This: Brains On!

Listen to This: Brains On!

Feelings! We all have them! So what are they and where do they come from? The amazing show Brains On! has a new series that explores the science of feelings. We love this and want you to listen, so we're giving you a little taste. We will be back with new TTFA episodes in 2 weeks. For now, go listen to all of Brains On! at brainson.org.

Aug 13, 2019 • 32:06

Listen to This: Brains On!

Listen to This: Brains On!

Feelings! We all have them! So what are they and where do they come from? The amazing show Brains On! has a new series that explores the science of feelings. We love this and want you to listen, so we're giving you a little taste. We will be back with new TTFA episodes in 2 weeks. For now, go listen to all of Brains On! at brainson.org.

Aug 13, 2019 • 30:51

A Face In The Crowd

A Face In The Crowd

In August 2017, members of the Ku Klux Klan and other white nationalist groups descended on Charlottesville, VA to protest the removal of a statue of Robert E. Lee as part of the Unite the Right rally. Constance was also at that rally — as a counter-protestor trained in de-escalation techniques. She expected to be just a face in the crowd amongst thousands of others. But when the worst moment of her life becomes *content,* Constance has to take back control of her own story. Can’t get enough TTF

Jun 25, 2019 • 53:22

A Face In The Crowd

A Face In The Crowd

In August 2017, members of the Ku Klux Klan and other white nationalist groups descended on Charlottesville, VA to protest the removal of a statue of Robert E. Lee as part of the Unite the Right rally.Constance was also at that rally — as a counter-protestor trained in de-escalation techniques. She expected to be just a face in the crowd amongst thousands of others. But when the worst moment of her life becomes *content,* Constance has to take back control of her own story.Support our new indepe

Jun 25, 2019 • 57:37

ARFID

ARFID

When most people meet Aiko, they think she’s just a really picky eater. But it’s much more complicated than that. Aiko has avoidant restrictive food intake disorder, or ARFID. She gets extremely anxious and panicked if she has to eat foods outside of a very small list of “safe” items. In this episode, we talk to Aiko as well as an eating disorder expert about what it’s like to live in fear of food.Support our new independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. We

Jun 18, 2019 • 55:12

ARFID

ARFID

When most people meet Aiko, they think she’s just a really picky eater. But it’s much more complicated than that. Aiko has avoidant restrictive food intake disorder, or ARFID. She gets extremely anxious and panicked if she has to eat foods outside of a very small list of “safe” items. In this episode, we talk to Aiko as well as an eating disorder expert about what it’s like to live in fear of food. — Sign up today for TTFA Premium! For $7.99 a month, you get access to exclusive bonus content, ad

Jun 18, 2019 • 50:57

FAQ&A

FAQ&A

In the very first episode of TTFA, you met Nora’s friend Moe. Nora and Moe are both widows, and in the summer of 2019 they went on a mini road trip to promote Nora’s newest book about widowhood and grief. At each stop along the tour, folks had questions — lots of questions. About how to move forward. About why they're STILL so sad. About how to talk to their kid about their dead parent. And in this episode, Nora answers those questions for all of us.Support our new independent production (and g

Jun 11, 2019 • 44:06

FAQ&A

FAQ&A

In the very first episode of TTFA, you met Nora’s friend Moe. Nora and Moe are both widows, and in the summer of 2019 they went on a mini road trip to promote Nora’s newest book about widowhood and grief. At each stop along the tour, folks had questions — lots of questions. About how to move forward. About why they're STILL so sad. About how to talk to their kid about their dead parent. And in this episode, Nora answers those questions for all of us. Can’t get enough TTFA? Sign up for TTFA Premi

Jun 11, 2019 • 39:51

Tell Me About Yourself

Tell Me About Yourself

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Jun 4, 2019 • 49:48

Tell Me About Yourself

Tell Me About Yourself

Nicole is 21 years old and has an alien growing inside her chest.No, not really. But it IS an extremely large tumor growing inside of her that very much feels like an alien — an alien that doctors have told her multiple times is just weight gain.This is a story about physical pain, and how women are often dismissed and suffer through things they shouldn't have to. But it's about another kind of pain, too: the pain of wondering what could’ve been.Support our new independent production (and get bo

Jun 4, 2019 • 54:03

Home?

Home?

Cane Roberts has lived in a number of places, but which places can he actually call home? You can catch up with TTFA on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook using @ttfapodcast. Nora's Instagram is @noraborealis. You can order Nora's new book -- No Happy Endings -- from her website at noraborealis.com/book. TTFA is public media. Which means we are supported by you. You can join us with a contribution at ttfa.org/donate And check out our sponsors this week: Rothy's - rothys.com/terrible. Talkspace - t

May 28, 2019 • 45:14

Home?

Home?

For many of us, homelessness is something that happens to other people. People who had bad luck, or who made bad choices, or who are bad people … or some combination of all that. But the fact is, the average age of someone in the U.S. experiencing homelessness is 9 years old. And one in three people experiencing homelessness are homeless with their family.In this episode, we talk to individuals who have experienced various degrees of homelessness at some point during their youth.Support our new

May 28, 2019 • 49:29

Maybe You Should Talk To Someone

Maybe You Should Talk To Someone

As a new psychotherapist, Lori Gottlieb has a lot of ideas about what a therapist is supposed to be and how a therapist is supposed to act. Therapists are here to help us, of course, but they aren’t supposed to become our friends.When Lori’s patient Julie comes to her after a year and a half of therapy and tells Lori that she’s dying of cancer, Lori is heartbroken. And when Julie asks Lori to stay with her as her therapist until the day she dies, Lori says yes.This is an episode about what it me

May 21, 2019 • 53:29

Maybe You Should Talk To Someone

Maybe You Should Talk To Someone

As a new psychotherapist, Lori Gottlieb has a lot of ideas about what a therapist is supposed to be and how a therapist is supposed to act. Therapists are here to help us, of course, but they aren’t supposed to become our friends. When Lori’s patient Julie comes to her after a year and a half of therapy and tells Lori that she’s dying of cancer, Lori is heartbroken. And when Julie asks Lori to stay with her as her therapist until the day she dies, Lori says yes. This is an episode about what i

May 21, 2019 • 49:14

Happy Friggin' Mother's Day

Happy Friggin' Mother's Day

It's that special time of year when we look long and hard at our own mothers and at ourselves as mothers. So, how do we all measure up?In this TTFA listener-submitted episode, we hear from you, the Terrible community, about your motherhood experiences.Support our new independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. We now offer tiers as low as $4.99 / month. Sign up.Our email subscribers get first dibs on ticket sales, new merch, show announcements and more. Join o

May 7, 2019 • 58:26

Happy Friggin’ Mother’s Day

Happy Friggin’ Mother’s Day

It's that special time of year when we look long and hard at our own mothers and at ourselves as mothers. So, how do we all measure up? In this TTFA listener-submitted episode, we hear from you, the Terrible community, about your motherhood experiences. Can’t get enough TTFA? Sign up for TTFA Premium for $7.99 a month. You’ll get access to exclusive bonus content, ad-free episodes, extended guest interviews and more! Visit TTFA.org/Premium to get started. Shop for your favorite TTFA gear at TTFA

May 7, 2019 • 54:11

Listen to This: Hope Chest

Listen to This: Hope Chest

We love this podcast, and we want you to hear it. Hope Chest is a personal essay audio series written, produced, edited, and sound-designed by Stacia Brown. It tackles motherhood, single- and co-parenting, raising a Black daughter in America, and the impact of cultural and political happenings on the experience of parenting. We will be back with a new TTFA episode next week.

Apr 30, 2019 • 23:55

Listen to This: Hope Chest

Listen to This: Hope Chest

We love this podcast, and we want you to hear it. Hope Chest is a personal essay audio series written, produced, edited, and sound-designed by Stacia Brown. It tackles motherhood, single- and co-parenting, raising a Black daughter in America, and the impact of cultural and political happenings on the experience of parenting. We will be back with a new TTFA episode next week.

Apr 30, 2019 • 22:40

Listen To This: "TED Talks Daily" with Nora McInerny

Listen To This: "TED Talks Daily" with Nora McInerny

That's right! Nora did a TED Talk, and it's on "TED Talks Daily" and we want to make sure you got to hear it.Support our new independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. We now offer tiers as low as $4.99 / month. Sign up.Our email subscribers get first dibs on ticket sales, new merch, show announcements and more. Join our mailing list here.Nora also writes sad & funny books! You can buy them here.Did you know we’re on TikTok? Yep, it’s true. Follow Nora. You c

Apr 16, 2019 • 19:16

Listen To This: TED Talks Daily

Listen To This: TED Talks Daily

While we are away for a few weeks we want to make sure you are listening to what we're listening to. And what we're doing. So today, an episode of the podcast TED Talks Daily, where hear a new TED talk every day. And this one... is Nora's. TED Talk. That's right! Nora did a TED Talk and it's on TED Talks Daily and we want to make sure you get to hear it. We will be back with new TTFA episodes in mid-May.

Apr 16, 2019 • 18:01

A Way of Seeing The World

A Way of Seeing The World

"Stronger Than Hate" is what everyone said in response to the mass shooting at the Tree of Life synagogue in 2018. But what ... does that mean, exactly?In this third and final episode in our series from Pittsburgh, we talk to all types of people about who and what is stronger than hate.Support our new independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. We now offer tiers as low as $4.99 / month. Sign up.Our email subscribers get first dibs on ticket sales, new merch,

Apr 2, 2019 • 1:00:27

A Way of Seeing The World

A Way of Seeing The World

"Stronger Than Hate" is what everyone said in response to the mass shooting at the Tree of Life synagogue. But what does that mean? In this third and final episode in our series from Pittsburgh, we talk to all types of people about who and what is Stronger Than Hate. You can catch up with TTFA on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook using @ttfapodcast. Nora's Instagram is @noraborealis. You can order Nora's new book -- No Happy Endings -- from her website at noraborealis.com/book. TTFA is public med

Apr 2, 2019 • 56:12

Their Day

Their Day

October 27, 2018 was a big day for a lot of people in Pittsburgh for a lot of different reasons. For Nate, it was the day of his bar mitzvah. For Matthew and Adam, it was the day of the naming ceremony for their two little girls. For many others, it was the day a mass shooter changed their lives forever.This is our second of three episodes from Pittsburgh, PA.Support our new independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. We now offer tiers as low as $4.99 / month

Mar 26, 2019 • 58:56

Their Day

Their Day

October 27, 2018 was a big day for a lot of people in Pittsburgh for a lot of different reasons. For Nate, it was the day of his bar mitzvah. For Matthew and Adam, it was the day of the naming ceremony for their two little girls. For many others, it was the day a mass shooter changed their lives forever. This is our second of three episodes from Pittsburgh, PA. — Sign up today for TTFA Premium! For $7.99 a month, you get access to exclusive bonus content, ad-free episodes *and* the knowledge tha

Mar 26, 2019 • 54:41

Concentric Circles

Concentric Circles

Six weeks after 11 people were murdered by a mass shooter at the Tree of Life mass shooting in Pittsburgh, we traveled to Pennsylvania to hear from folks in the community. In the first of three episodes from Pittsburgh, we talk with three women about how the ripple effects from a shared public tragedy have affected their lives.Support our new independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. We now offer tiers as low as $4.99 / month. Sign up.Our email subscribers

Mar 19, 2019 • 54:05

Concentric Circles

Concentric Circles

Six weeks after 11 people were murdered by a mass shooter at the Tree of Life mass shooting in Pittsburgh, we traveled to Pennsylvania to hear from folks in the community. In the first of three episodes from Pittsburgh, we talk with three women about how the ripple effects from a shared public tragedy have affected their lives. Can’t get enough TTFA? Sign up for TTFA Premium for $7.99 a month. You’ll get access to exclusive bonus content, ad-free episodes, extended guest interviews and more! Vis

Mar 19, 2019 • 49:50

Sad and Lucky

Sad and Lucky

If you've ever been in therapy, something your therapist might've told you about is both/and thinking. It means two things can be true at once. And in this episode, which features an essay from Nora's book No Happy Endings, she's both sad and lucky.Support our new independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. We now offer tiers as low as $4.99 / month. Sign up.Our email subscribers get first dibs on ticket sales, new merch, show announcements and more. Join our

Mar 12, 2019 • 48:48

Sad and Lucky

Sad and Lucky

Sad! And Lucky! Those are things you can be! Includes an essay from Nora's book, No Happy Endings, available where books are sold except like, Walgreeens. But always at noraborealis.com/book. You can catch up with TTFA on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook using @ttfapodcast. Nora's Instagram is @noraborealis. TTFA is public media. Which means we are supported by you. You can join us with a contribution at ttfa.org/donate And check out our sponsors this week: Talkspace -- talkspace.com with code T

Mar 12, 2019 • 44:33

WWJD?

WWJD?

Jenny and Michelle are the kind of twin sisters you see in movies. They’ve got the twin telepathy. They’ve done the switching places shenanigans.The sisters are so connected, so in sync, that Michelle feels like she should’ve seen it coming. On what should’ve been the best day ever, Michelle loses a sister, Pat loses a wife, and a brand new baby named Teddy loses his mom.Support our new independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. We now offer tiers as low as

Mar 5, 2019 • 53:08

WWJD?

WWJD?

Jenny and Michelle are the kind of twin sisters you see in movies. They’ve got the twin telepathy. They’ve done the switching places shenanigans. The sisters are so connected, so in sync, that Michelle feels like she should’ve seen it coming. On what should’ve been the best day ever, Michelle loses a sister, Pat loses a wife, and a brand new baby named Teddy loses his mom. — Can’t get enough TTFA? Sign up for TTFA Premium for $7.99 a month. You’ll get access to exclusive bonus content, ad-free

Mar 5, 2019 • 48:53

The Intended Outcome

The Intended Outcome

After fertility treatments fail, Deya and Sandra decide to adopt a child through the foster system. They have a lot of love to give. They also know the intended outcome of foster care is for the child to reunite with their birth family.When Deya and Sandra begin fostering a baby girl, they try to not get too attached ... but it's SO hard. And as the baby's birth mother works toward reunification, the women are torn. They want the young mother to succeed. They believe in reunification! They also

Feb 26, 2019 • 48:49

The Intended Outcome

The Intended Outcome

After fertility treatments fail, Deya and Sandra decide to adopt a child through the foster system. They have a lot of love to give. They also know the intended outcome of foster care is for the child to reunite with their birth family. When Deya and Sandra begin fostering a baby girl, they try to not get too attached ... but it's SO hard. And as the baby's birth mother works toward reunification, the women are torn. They want the young mother to succeed. They believe in reunification! They als

Feb 26, 2019 • 44:33

The Bride Price

The Bride Price

In case you didn't know, we're still making episodes that are available exclusively on Nora's Substack! -All weddings have some family drama, and all families have their own generational tension. It's no different for Mai Neng Moua and her mother, Yer Vu.Yer Vu was once a different kind of bride in a different country. She has expectations for her daughter's wedding. Mai Neng knows this ... but she has her own expectations, too.This episode is about two equally strong women and how grow

Feb 19, 2019 • 1:02:15

The Bride Price

The Bride Price

Every wedding has a at least a little bit of drama. For Mai Neng Moua and her mother, Yer Vu, their mother/daughter wedding drama was about who they were, and who they wanted to be. You can catch up with TTFA on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook using @ttfapodcast. Nora's Instagram is @noraborealis. You can pre-order Nora's new book - No Happy Endings - from her website at noraborealis.com/book TTFA is public media. Which means we are supported by you. You can join us with a contribution at ttfa.

Feb 19, 2019 • 59:00

A Bailey Moment

A Bailey Moment

Parenting is never what we expect it to be. But most of us don’t expect to be afraid of our 9-year-old child … or to have to hide from him to protect ourselves from abuse.This is Maiya’s reality. Her son, Bailey, has autism and also deals with anxiety and depression. He’s smart! He loves to cook. He can be so, so sweet and loving. He also loses his temper often — and when he does, it gets very violent.This is an episode about a family navigating life as best they can, with the knowledge that the

Feb 12, 2019 • 47:00

A Bailey Moment

A Bailey Moment

Parenting is never what we expect it to be. But most of us don’t expect to be afraid of our 9-year-old child … or to have to hide from him to protect ourselves from abuse. This is Maiya’s reality. Her son, Bailey, has autism and also deals with anxiety and depression. He’s smart! He loves to cook. He can be so, so sweet and loving. He also loses his temper often — and when he does, it gets very violent. This is an episode about a family navigating life as best they can, with the knowledge that

Feb 12, 2019 • 42:45

The Treatment

The Treatment

Rachel Haines is really good at gymnastics. And when you're really good at a really demanding sport, you eventually deal with injuries. At age 12, Rachel hurts her hamstring. At age 15, she fractures her spine.Both times, Rachel is immediately taken to the team physician, a man named Larry Nassar.Yes, that Larry Nassar.Rachel's story is one of strength and survival — and, despite everything, a continued love of gymnastics. You can buy Rachel's book here. Support our new independent production (a

Feb 5, 2019 • 54:50

The Treatment

The Treatment

Rachel Haines is really good at gymnastics. And when you're really good at a really demanding sport, you eventually deal with injuries. At age 12, Rachel hurts her hamstring. At age 15, she fractures her spine. Both times, Rachel is immediately taken to the team physician, a man named Larry Nassar. Yes, that Larry Nassar. Rachel's story is one of strength and survival — and, despite everything, a continued love of gymnastics. Can’t get enough TTFA? Sign up for TTFA Premium for $7.99 a month. Y

Feb 5, 2019 • 50:35

Where Are They Now?

Where Are They Now?

Warning: Spoilers ahead for previous TTFA episodes! Listen at your own risk!Our episodes end, obviously, but the lives of the people whose stories we tell continue on.In this episode, we touch base with some TTFA guests so they can share what they’ve been up to since you last heard from them.Support our new independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. We now offer tiers as low as $4.99 / month. Sign up.Our email subscribers get first dibs on ticket sales, new m

Jan 29, 2019 • 1:00:37

Where Are They Now?

Where Are They Now?

Our episodes end. Obviously. But the lives whose stories we tell… they keep going. So today we are going to get back in touch with some old friends and see what has happened and what they’ve been up to since we first got to know them. WARNING – spoilers ahead for some past episodes of TTFA. You can catch up with TTFA on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook using @ttfapodcast. Nora's Instagram is @noraborealis. You can preorder Nora's new book - No Happy Endings - from her website at noraborealis.com

Jan 29, 2019 • 56:22

Listen to This: The Slowdown

Listen to This: The Slowdown

Need a slight daily readjustment of your point of view? A moment to focus and meditate on something besides your to-do list? We want to introduce you to The Slowdown. It's a podcast we love where every weekday, U.S. Poet Laureate Tracy K. Smith delivers a different way to see the world -- through poetry. It is produced in partnership with the Library of Congress and the Poetry Foundation, and is very very good. Nora takes a few minutes to talk with Tracy K. Smith and to share with you a couple

Jan 23, 2019 • 18:22

Listen to This: The Slowdown

Listen to This: The Slowdown

Need a slight daily readjustment of your point of view? A moment to focus and meditate on something besides your to-do list? We want to introduce you to The Slowdown. It's a podcast we love where every weekday, U.S. Poet Laureate Tracy K. Smith delivers a different way to see the world -- through poetry. It is produced in partnership with the Library of Congress and the Poetry Foundation, and is very very good. Nora takes a few minutes to talk with Tracy K. Smith and to share with you a couple o

Jan 23, 2019 • 17:07

Happyish Holidays 2018

Happyish Holidays 2018

We're back with our third annual Happyish Holidays episode! This year, comedian Alyssa Limperis shares with us the holiday letter she wrote the year her dad died from brain cancer. We talk with Jay Mathews, a 48-year-old father and son who, with stage IV cancer, is probably experiencing his last holidays with his family. And we ask listeners what they took away from 2018, what they're looking forward to in 2019, and what it is about hoping for something that can be so scary.Support our

Nov 27, 2018 • 54:15

Happy(ish) Holidays III

Happy(ish) Holidays III

In our final episode of the season we are talking about... The Holidays. Which are a time of reflection and anticipation. Of looking back at what we did... and what was done to us. We will hear from comedian and writer Alyssa Limperis and the shine-it-up Holiday letter she wrote the year her dad died from brain cancer. We will talk with Jay Mathews, a 48-year-old father and son who, with stage IV cancer, is probably experiencing his last Holidays with his family. And we will ask listeners what t

Nov 27, 2018 • 51:00

Don't Should Yourself

Don't Should Yourself

Two things that grief brings you: Kleenex and hotdish. Two other things? Anger and people telling you what you should or shouldn't do.Grandma Ruth (rest in peace) once gave our producer Hans a piece of wisdom that has since become a core belief of Team TTFA: "Don’t you let anyone should on you. And don’t you should on anyone else."In this episode, grandmotherly wisdom, stories about anger, and a whole lot of shoulding on ourselves.Support our new independent production (and get bonus content ga

Nov 20, 2018 • 44:49

Don’t Should Yourself

Don’t Should Yourself

Two things that grief brings you: Kleenex and hotdish. Two other things? Anger and people telling you what you should or shouldn't do. Grandma Ruth (rest in peace) once gave our producer Hans a piece of wisdom that has since become a core belief of Team TTFA: "Don’t you let anyone should on you. And don’t you should on anyone else." In this episode: grandmotherly wisdom, stories about anger, and a whole lot of shoulding on ourselves. — Sign up today for TTFA Premium! For $7.99 a month, you get

Nov 20, 2018 • 40:34

Birthright

Birthright

Sheridan's dad died by suicide when she was 6 years old. Growing up, she feared suicide was her legacy. This fear worsened as she got older and began dealing with her own mental health struggles and suicidal ideation.When Sheridan purchases a take-home DNA kit as an adult and learns that her dad who died when she was just a kid WASN’T actually her father, she finds a new family … and a new, complicated and wonderful birthright.Support our new independent production (and get bonus content galore!

Nov 13, 2018 • 51:31

Birthright

Birthright

Sheridan's dad died by suicide when she was 6 years old. Growing up, she feared suicide was her legacy. This fear worsened as she got older and began dealing with her own mental health struggles and suicidal ideation. When Sheridan purchases a take-home DNA kit as an adult and learns that her dad who died when she was just a kid WASN’T actually her father, she finds a new family … and a new, complicated and wonderful birthright. — Sign up today for TTFA Premium! For $7.99 a month, you get acces

Nov 13, 2018 • 47:16

T-T-T-Today, Junior!

T-T-T-Today, Junior!

“I’m sorry, did I stutter?” No, you didn’t. But Erin did. Erin does. And in this episode, she tells us what it’s like to live with a speech impediment that people still use as a comeback and make jokes about.Support our new independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. We now offer tiers as low as $4.99 / month. Sign up.Our email subscribers get first dibs on ticket sales, new merch, show announcements and more. Join our mailing list here.Did you know we’re on T

Nov 6, 2018 • 47:07

T-T-T-Today, Junior!

T-T-T-Today, Junior!

“I’m sorry, did I stutter?” No, you didn’t. But Erin did. Erin does. And in this episode, she tells us what it’s like to live with a speech impediment that people still use as a comeback and make jokes about. — Want (sporadic) emails from Nora and Team TTFA? Sign up here.  Sign up today for TTFA Premium! For $7.99 a month, you get access to exclusive bonus content, ad-free episodes *and* the knowledge that you’re keeping our show afloat! Visit TTFA.org/Premium to get started. When you shop our B

Nov 6, 2018 • 42:52

The Skydiving Belle and the Butterfly

The Skydiving Belle and the Butterfly

People say there are nine circles of hell. If so, Ashley's been to at least six of them. When she wakes up in an Intensive Care Unit, Ashley learns that she was in a house fire. She learns that her boyfriend was also in that house fire. And he’s dead.Ashley is not dead, but she’s suffered full-thickness burns on more than a third of her body. And just like that, Ashley’s plans for her life take a hard left turn.Support our new independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TT

Oct 30, 2018 • 49:26

The Skydiving Belle And The Butterfly

The Skydiving Belle And The Butterfly

People say there are nine circles of hell. If so, Ashley's been to at least six of them. When she wakes up in an Intensive Care Unit, Ashley learns that she was in a house fire. She learns that her boyfriend was also in that house fire. And he’s dead. Ashley is not dead, but she’s suffered full-thickness burns on more than a third of her body. And just like that, Ashley’s plans for her life take a hard left turn. — Sign up today for TTFA Premium! For $7.99 a month, you get access to exclusive b

Oct 30, 2018 • 45:11

The Beautiful Ones

The Beautiful Ones

If we're lucky, we can learn to love ourselves. But if we love the way we look? People tend to frown upon that ... because gosh forbid we come off as self-centered.Gigi doesn't care about any of that. Gigi unabashedly loves herself. She embraces every single part of who she is. And she especially loves how she looks.This is an episode about, what else? Self-love. So much self-love.Support our new independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. We now offer tiers a

Oct 23, 2018 • 43:31

The Beautiful Ones

The Beautiful Ones

If we're lucky, we can learn to love ourselves. But if we love the way we look? Well, people tend to look down on that. But not Gigi. Gigi loves herself. And how she looks. And you know what? YOU SHOULD, TOO. You can catch up with TTFA on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook using @ttfapodcast. Nora's Instagram is @noraborealis. Check out our sponsors this week: Talkspace -- talkspace.com/ttfa Calm - calm.com/thanks Stitch Fix -- stitchfix.com/ttfa Red Wing Shoes -- redwing.com

Oct 23, 2018 • 39:16

Heather

Heather

Heather grew up in Kansas, but she hasn’t been back there for years … not since the moment she was old enough to leave. When her mother dies, Heather heads home for the services, and an already difficult situation becomes even harder — because Heather and her sisters must, for the first time in 13 years, come face to face with the man who sexually abused them throughout their childhood: their father.Support our new independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. S

Oct 17, 2018 • 51:08

An Update on Our "Nebach" Episode

An Update on Our "Nebach" Episode

A quick update and clarification on our recent episode titled, "Nebach." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Oct 17, 2018 • 6:27

Heather

Heather

It's winter in Kansas, and Heather is back in her hometown, facing her abuser for the first time. You can catch up with TTFA on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook using @ttfapodcast. Nora's Instagram is @noraborealis. Check out our sponsors this week: Talkspace -- talkspace.com/ttfa Blue Apron -- blueapron.com/thanks Third Love -- thirdlove.com/terrible Red Wing Shoes - redwing.com

Oct 17, 2018 • 46:53

Update on Nebach

Update on Nebach

A quick update and clarification on our recent “Nebach” episode.

Oct 17, 2018 • 5:12

Nebach

Nebach

Talia grew up in a small Orthodox Jewish community with lots of rules and expectations, many of them surrounding dating and courtship. If you aren’t married by the time you turn 22, you’re labeled as “nebach," a word that means sad, misfortunate, pitiable.Talia doesn’t want to be “nebach,” and when she finds the perfect man for her, she thinks she’s headed for marraige ... until the man she loves confesses to having pedophiliac thoughts.There are a lot of true crime podcasts out there about peop

Oct 9, 2018 • 54:30

Nebach

Nebach

Talia grew up in a small Orthodox Jewish community with lots of rules and expectations, many of them surrounding dating and courtship. If you aren’t married by the time you turn 22, you’re labeled as “nebach," a word that means sad, misfortunate, pitiable. Talia doesn’t want to be “nebach,” and when she finds the perfect man for her, she thinks she’s headed for marraige ... until the man she loves confesses to having pedophiliac thoughts. There are a lot of true crime podcasts out there about

Oct 9, 2018 • 50:15

Soooo OCD

Soooo OCD

OCD is one of those acronyms we use when what we really mean to say is, "I organize my spice drawer alphabetically,” or “I always forget if I’ve locked the door or not, so I have to double check.”Those things are … not OCD. So what does it mean to actually live with obsessive compulsive disorder every day? We asked you, the Terrible community, to share your stories.Support our new independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. Sign up.Did you know we’re on TikTok

Oct 2, 2018 • 1:01:36

Soooo OCD

Soooo OCD

OCD is one of those acronyms we use to say, "I'm a little quirky" or "I like my room to be VERY clean." But what does it mean to actually live with OCD? I have no idea, so we asked people who do. You can catch up with TTFA on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook using @ttfapodcast. Nora's Instagram is @noraborealis. Check out our sponsors this week: Talkspace -- talkspace.com/ttfa Blue Apron -- blueapron.com/thanks Stitch Fix -- stitchfix.com/ttfa

Oct 2, 2018 • 57:21

What Do You Say About Suicide? (Part 2)

What Do You Say About Suicide? (Part 2)

In the last episode, we heard from people who had ideated and/or survived their own suicide attempts, as well as people who had survived a loved one’s suicide. They told us about all the unhelpful and hurtful things that people had said or done.But there ARE things that people can do and say that ARE helpful, and in this episode, we dive into it.--If you're looking for resources on suicide, here are some good places to start:Be The One To - https://www.bethe1to.comNational Alliance on Mental Ill

Sep 25, 2018 • 44:16

What Do You Say About Suicide? (Part 2)

What Do You Say About Suicide? (Part 2)

We're *still* not done talking about suicide. And neither are you. If you're looking for resources on suicide, here are some good places to start: Be The One To - https://www.bethe1to.com National Alliance on Mental Illness - https://www.nami.org National Suicide Prevention Lifeline - https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org The American Foundation for Suicide Prevention - afsp.org/about-suicide/suicide-statistics Center for Disease Control - https://www.cdc.gov/vitalsigns/suicide You can catch up

Sep 25, 2018 • 40:01

What Do You Say About Suicide? (Part 1)

What Do You Say About Suicide? (Part 1)

You know what people hate talking about? Dreams. Politics. Religion. Also: suicide. But it's important that we talk about the hard stuff (and it's kinda what we do here), so we asked you to talk to us about your experiences with suicidal ideation and suicide loss.For resources on suicide and mental health, nami.org has a wealth of information. Text NAMI to 741741 for immediate support.Support our new independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. We now offer tie

Sep 18, 2018 • 50:06

What Do You Say About Suicide? (Part 1)

What Do You Say About Suicide? (Part 1)

You know what people hate talking about? Dreams. Politics. Religion. Also: suicide. But it's important that we talk about the hard stuff (and it's kinda what we do here), so we asked you to talk to us about your experiences with suicidal ideation and suicide loss. For resources on suicide and mental health, nami.org has a wealth of great mental health resources. Text NAMI to 741741 for immediate support. — Sign up today for TTFA Premium! For $7.99 a month, you get access to exclusive bonus conte

Sep 18, 2018 • 45:51

Nathan

Nathan

Nathan always knew he was different growing up. He also knew the LDS church had certain expectations of him: He'd do his mission, find a girl, get married and settle down. Being gay? Not part of that plan.Nathan does everything he can to be straight, including sending himself to "conversion therapy" that, of course, doesn't work and only destroys his mental health. And then ... he starts to uncover his true self. And his true self is beautiful.Support our new independent production (and get bon

Sep 11, 2018 • 57:59

Nathan

Nathan

Nathan grew up knowing he was different. And what scared him more than who he is, was the idea that who he is was at odds with God, and his family, and the world he belonged to. thetrevorproject.org provides crises intervention for LGBTQ+ youth. Text TREVOR to 1.202.304.1200 for support. You can catch up with TTFA on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook using @ttfapodcast. Check out our sponsors this week: Talkspace - talkspace.com/ttfa Be The Match - join.bethematch.org/nora Brooklinen - brooklinen

Sep 11, 2018 • 53:44

Two Letters

Two Letters

This is an episode about two letters. One of those is the letter Jim left for his wife, Annie, before he died by suicide. The second is the letter Annie wrote to Jim after his death — and as she dealt with her own mental health issues and suicidality in the wake of it. When someone dies by suicide, people want it to be someone’s fault, so they can (hopefully) feel less like it’s their fault. But the thing is … it’s never anyone’s fault. Support our new independent production (and get bonus conte

Sep 4, 2018 • 53:07

Two Letters

Two Letters

Annie's husband Jim died by suicide. After his death, she got into a bad space of her own. Then came the letters. You can catch up with TTFA on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook using @ttfapodcast. Check out our sponsors this week: Talkspace - talkspace.com/ttfa Blue Apron - blueapron.com/thanks Casper - casper.com/asking

Sep 4, 2018 • 49:52

How Are You?

How Are You?

How are you? No, like, really. We ask this question of all of our guests, and we recently asked all of you, too. And you answered! This episode features you, the Terrible community, and oh goodness, you’re a hot mess. (Which is okay, because so are we.)Support our new independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. We now offer tiers as low as $4.99 / month. Sign up.Our email subscribers get first dibs on ticket sales, new merch, show announcements and more. Join

Aug 28, 2018 • 36:06

How Are You?

How Are You?

No, like, really. We ask this question of all of our guests, but we asked you, too. And you answered! You're...all over the place. And that's okay. PS-- please help Nora make #fansofhans happen. You can catch up with TTFA on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook using @ttfapodcast. Check out our sponsors this week: Talkspace -- talkspace.com/ttfa Third Love -- thirdlove.com/terrible The Great Courses Plus -- thegreatcoursesplus.com/thanks

Aug 28, 2018 • 31:51

Ripped From the Headlines

Ripped From the Headlines

Jamie Hahn was 29 years old when she was murdered by Jonathan Broyhill — the guy who had been the best man in her wedding to her husband, Nation.The intrigue surrounding Jamie's death and her killer's subsequent murder trial created non-stop news fodder ... and the story quickly became about Broyhill — his lies, his deception, his crimes.Nation wanted to tell his and Jamie's story without putting her murderer at the center of it. And in this episode, he does exactly that.Support our new independ

Aug 21, 2018 • 53:20

Ripped From The Headlines

Ripped From The Headlines

Jamie Hahn was 29 years old when she was murdered by Jonathan Broyhill — the guy who had been the best man in her wedding to her husband, Nation. The intrigue surrounding Jamie's death and her killer's subsequent murder trial created non-stop news fodder ... and the story quickly became about Broyhill — his lies, his deception, his crimes. Nation wanted to tell his and Jamie's story without putting her murderer at the center of it. And in this episode, he does exactly that. Can’t get enough TT

Aug 21, 2018 • 49:05

So Many Things at Once

So Many Things at Once

Cancer is rude. We know this. And it’s been very rude to Rachel. Every time her life and career are going in the direction she wants them to … BAM. The cancer’s back.When you’re a young woman, and when your life plans are completely upended by cancer for the third time, what do you do? If you’re Rachel, you turn to Tinder.Support our new independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. We now offer tiers as low as $4.99 / month. Sign up.Our email subscribers get fi

Aug 14, 2018 • 44:45

So Many Things At Once

So Many Things At Once

Cancer is rude. We know this. And it’s been very rude to Rachel. Every time her life and career are going in the direction she wants them to … BAM. The cancer’s back. When you’re a young woman, and when your life plans are completely upended by cancer for the third time, what do you do? If you’re Rachel, you turn to Tinder. Can’t get enough TTFA? Sign up for TTFA Premium for $7.99 a month. You’ll get access to exclusive bonus content, ad-free episodes, extended guest interviews and more! Visit

Aug 14, 2018 • 40:30

YOLO?

YOLO?

You only live once … unless you're Leilani, because Leilani has died five times. FIVE! She was diagnosed with hypertrophic cardiomyopathy when she was 13 years old after experiencing sudden cardiac death.Hearts don’t last forever. Leilani’s heart was only prepared to last about 24 years. So Leilani got a new one. And that new heart? Well, it didn’t work so well either.Support our new independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. We now offer tiers as low as $4.9

Aug 7, 2018 • 49:17

YOLO?

YOLO?

You only live once … unless you're Leilani, because Leilani has died five times. FIVE! She was diagnosed with hypertrophic cardiomyopathy when she was 13 years old after experiencing sudden cardiac death. Hearts don’t last forever. Leilani’s heart was only prepared to last about 24 years. So Leilani got a new one. And that new heart? Well, it didn’t work so well either. Can’t get enough TTFA? Sign up for TTFA Premium for $7.99 a month. You’ll get access to exclusive bonus content, ad-free episod

Aug 7, 2018 • 45:02

Listen to This: "TBTL" with Nora McInerny

Listen to This: "TBTL" with Nora McInerny

"Too Beautiful to Live" (aka TBTL) is a delightful daily show about life, current events, pop culture, puttering, laser baldness helmets, and tonight pants. While regular co-host Andrew Walsh is out of town, Nora McInerny and other co-host Luke Burbank discuss sheds, consumer culture, parenting, and -- because it's Nora -- officiating the funeral of a man who married a stranger at the Mall of America.Support our independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. We n

Aug 1, 2018 • 1:33:30

Listen to This: TBTL — What The Hell Is An Orange Julius?

Listen to This: TBTL — What The Hell Is An Orange Julius?

Nora steps in to guest host the podcast that just might be Too Beautiful To Live -- a delightful daily show about life, current events, pop culture, puttering, laser baldness helmets, and tonight pants. While regular co-host Andrew Walsh is out of town, Nora and other co-host Luke Burbank discuss sheds, consumer culture, parenting, and because it's Nora, officiating the funeral of a man who married a stranger at the Mall of America.

Aug 1, 2018 • 1:32:15

Listen to This: TBTL — What The Hell Is An Orange Julius?

Listen to This: TBTL — What The Hell Is An Orange Julius?

Nora steps in to guest host the podcast that just might be Too Beautiful To Live -- a delightful daily show about life, current events, pop culture, puttering, laser baldness helmets, and tonight pants. While regular co-host Andrew Walsh is out of town, Nora and other co-host Luke Burbank discuss sheds, consumer culture, parenting, and because it's Nora, officiating the funeral of a man who married a stranger at the Mall of America.

Aug 1, 2018 • 1:32:15

Listen to This: Borrowed Interest -- Difficult Women

Listen to This: Borrowed Interest -- Difficult Women

Borrowed Interest is a podcast hosted by three ad-women of color -- Leeya Jackson, Shareina Chandler, and Amalia Nicholson - kicking it in the advertising business and working it all out with thoughtful discussions, screams and laughter. They're your workplace wokebaes with something to say, so listen up. In this episode, they get into the ups and downs of being labeled a difficult woman aka an angry black woman aka a woman. They chat with Black Twitter queen/PR powerhouse Alexis Wilson about

Jul 26, 2018 • 1:17:24

Listen to This: Borrowed Interest — Difficult Women

Listen to This: Borrowed Interest — Difficult Women

Borrowed Interest is a podcast hosted by three ad-women of color -- Leeya Jackson, Shareina Chandler, and Amalia Nicholson - kicking it in the advertising business and working it all out with thoughtful discussions, screams and laughter. They're your workplace wokebaes with something to say, so listen up. In this episode, they get into the ups and downs of being labeled a difficult woman aka an angry black woman aka a woman. They chat with Black Twitter queen/PR powerhouse Alexis Wilson about wh

Jul 26, 2018 • 1:16:08

Listen to This: "Forever35" with Nora McInerny

Listen to This: "Forever35" with Nora McInerny

On "Forever35." Kate Spencer and Doree Shafrir talk about self-care and how to get some in their (and your) lives. On this episode, they also talk to an up-and-comer named Nora McInerny, who you've maybe heard of.In this episode, Nora talks about dealing with tragedy, how to actually help people who are grieving, and the many joys of drugstore makeup.You can find Forever35 at forever35podcast.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jul 18, 2018 • 1:05:27

Listen to This: Forever35 – Just Say No with Nora McInerny

Listen to This: Forever35 – Just Say No with Nora McInerny

This week Nora wants you to listen to an amazing podcast called Forever35. Kate Spencer and Doree Shafrir talk about self-care and how to get some in their (and your) lives. On this episode, they also talk to an up-and-comer named Nora McInerny. Nora talks about dealing with tragedy, how to actually help people who are grieving, and the many joys of drugstore makeup. You can find Forever35 at forever35podcast.com.

Jul 18, 2018 • 1:04:12

Listen to This: Reply All -- An Ad for the Worst Day of Your Life

Listen to This: Reply All -- An Ad for the Worst Day of Your Life

Matt's wife died a decade ago. Now, everywhere he goes on the internet, he can't escape advertisements for clickbait sites with her picture on it. This week, Super Tech Support tries to help out. Further reading: Matt's non-profit: The Liz Logelin Foundation

Jul 10, 2018 • 35:10

Listen to This: Reply All — An Ad for the Worst Day of Your Life

Listen to This: Reply All — An Ad for the Worst Day of Your Life

Matt's wife died a decade ago. Now, everywhere he goes on the internet, he can't escape advertisements for clickbait sites with her picture on it. This week, Super Tech Support tries to help out. Further reading: Matt's non-profit: The Liz Logelin Foundation

Jul 10, 2018 • 33:55

The Stories We Tell

The Stories We Tell

The stories we hear about our parents and grandparents are often an intergenerational game of telephone. Even the ones we think we know by heart, fact for fact, evolve as they're told and retold.Ka came to us with her father's incredible story of heroics and bravery. And his version of events IS incredible and heroic and brave. It's just ... not the story that Ka remembers. And this makes her start to question everything.Support our new independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by

Jun 26, 2018 • 46:37

The Stories We Tell

The Stories We Tell

The stories we hear about our parents and grandparents are often an intergenerational game of telephone. Even the ones we think we know by heart, fact for fact, evolve as they're told and retold. Ka came to us with her father's incredible story of heroics and bravery. And his version of events IS incredible and heroic and brave. It's just ... not the story that Ka remembers. And this makes her start to question everything. Can’t get enough TTFA? Sign up for TTFA Premium for $7.99 a month. You’l

Jun 26, 2018 • 42:22

Expect Good Things

Expect Good Things

Justin is living in a sort of limbo that’s hard for us to really try to imagine. He’s 27 years old. He’s a handsome dude. He’s married. And he’s got genetic stage IV lung cancer.More than a year ago, we gave Justin a recording kit and asked him to document what it’s like to live with terminal cancer — the ups and downs, the clinical trials and the mini vacations. This is his story.Support our new independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. We now offer tiers a

Jun 19, 2018 • 48:49

Expect Good Things

Expect Good Things

Justin is living in a sort of limbo that’s hard for us to really try to imagine. He’s 27 years old. He’s a handsome dude. He’s married. And he’s got genetic stage IV lung cancer. More than a year ago, we gave Justin a recording kit and asked him to document what it’s like to live with terminal cancer — the ups and downs, the clinical trials and the mini vacations. This is his story. Can’t get enough TTFA? Sign up for TTFA Premium for $7.99 a month. You’ll get access to exclusive bonus content,

Jun 19, 2018 • 44:34

Natalie

Natalie

The world is a hard place when you’re a Black woman. It’s even harder when you are a Black woman who has survived domestic violence. It’s even harder still when you’re a Black woman charged with the murder of your abusive ex-boyfriend while you’re eight weeks pregnant with his child.And Natalie is. She’s eight weeks pregnant when she’s charged with second degree murder in her ex's death.This is an episode about how the punishment is supposed to fit the crime but often doesn’t. It’s about how som

Jun 12, 2018 • 47:21

Natalie

Natalie

The world is a hard place when you’re a Black woman. It’s even harder when you are a Black woman who has survived domestic violence. It’s even harder still when you’re a Black woman charged with the murder of your abusive ex-boyfriend while you’re eight weeks pregnant with his child. And Natalie is. She’s eight weeks pregnant when she’s charged with second degree murder in her ex's death. This is an episode about how the punishment is supposed to fit the crime but often doesn’t. It’s about how

Jun 12, 2018 • 43:06

About Bob

About Bob

When Laura gets a call from the hospital telling her that her dad has severe frostbite and could die, Laura is shocked. Not because of the whole frostbite part ... but because her dad is alive. She hasn't seen or talked to him in years and honestly assumed he was long dead.This is a story about what happens when we realize our parents are, in fact, real people — and that real people mess up and make mistakes.Support our new independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA P

Jun 5, 2018 • 55:45

About Bob

About Bob

When Laura gets a call from the hospital telling her that her dad has severe frostbite and could die, Laura is shocked. Not because of the whole frostbite part ... but because her dad is alive. She hasn't seen or talked to him in years and honestly assumed he was long dead. This is a story about what happens when we realize our parents are, in fact, real people — and that real people mess up and make mistakes. Can’t get enough TTFA? Sign up for TTFA Premium for $7.99 a month. You’ll get access

Jun 5, 2018 • 51:30

Fairy Dust

Fairy Dust

Lesly is a mother of three and a three-time cancer haver living on borrowed time. All of her treatment options have been exhausted, and the only thing that might save her is a bone marrow transplant ... which she can't afford.What do you do when you have just two months left to live? When you have a small child, just 6 years old, and your oldest daughter is newly married and a mother herself? How do you say goodbye to your family?If you're Lesly, you go to Disney World.Support our new independen

May 29, 2018 • 44:32

Fairy Dust

Fairy Dust

Lesly is a mother of three and a three-time cancer haver living on borrowed time. All of her treatment options have been exhausted, and the only thing that might save her is a bone marrow transplant ... which she can't afford. What do you do when you have just two months left to live? When you have a small child, just 6 years old, and your oldest daughter is newly married and a mother herself? How do you say goodbye to your family? If you're Lesly, you go to Disney World. Can’t get enough TTFA?

May 29, 2018 • 40:17

Rose Tulip

Rose Tulip

The difference between a love story and a military love story is just one word, but that word represents a huge scheduling issue: the military. Matthew and Rose are both in the Air Force, and when they get together, they know they’re signing up for a long-distance romance.Rose and Matthew are in the middle of their longest time apart yet, and they’ve planned a big Meet The Families road trip for when Matthew gets back from Afghanistan. But when unexpected guests come to visit Rose in the middle

May 22, 2018 • 48:49

Rose Tulip

Rose Tulip

The difference between a love story and a military love story is just one word, but that word represents a huge scheduling issue: the military. Matthew and Rose are both in the Air Force, and when they get together, they know they’re signing up for a long-distance romance. Rose and Matthew are in the middle of their longest time apart yet, and they’ve planned a big Meet The Families road trip for when Matthew gets back from Afghanistan. But when unexpected guests come to visit Rose in the middl

May 22, 2018 • 44:34

The Gold and the Broken Bits

The Gold and the Broken Bits

Chris was born with cerebral palsy. Growing up, his parents taught him he can be anything he wants to be. They raised Chris to stay positive — to get on with it no matter what.But “getting on with it” isn't always so easy when others won't make room for you to be a full person. As Chris gets older and becomes his own person, he learns that his disability means he can’t necessarily be everything he wants to be, do everything he wants to do. He learns that there will always be people in the world

May 15, 2018 • 42:00

The Gold And The Broken Bits

The Gold And The Broken Bits

Chris was born with cerebral palsy. Growing up, his parents taught him he can be anything he wants to be. They raised Chris to stay positive — to get on with it no matter what. But “getting on with it” isn't always so easy when others won't make room for you to be a full person. As Chris gets older and becomes his own person, he learns that his disability means he can’t necessarily be everything he wants to be, do everything he wants to do. He learns that there will always be people in the worl

May 15, 2018 • 37:45

Karen

Karen

Karen tried for years to get pregnant before she and her husband Dave decided to give up on the idea. When Karen goes go the doctor to have a small lump checked out, she learns that — surprise! — she’s three months pregnant … and she also has incurable cancer.That pregnancy became Mandi, whose mom Karen died when she was just 15 months old. And her dad, Dave? He had NO idea what he was doing. He was a new widow and a new father, and he was a mess.In this episode, father and daughter come togethe

May 8, 2018 • 52:19

Karen

Karen

Karen tried for years to get pregnant before she and her husband Dave decided to give up on the idea. When Karen goes go the doctor to have a small lump checked out, she learns that — surprise! — she’s three months pregnant … and she also has incurable cancer. That pregnancy became Mandi, whose mom Karen died when she was just 15 months old. And her dad, Dave? He had NO idea what he was doing. He was a new widow and a new father, and he was a mess. In this episode, father and daughter come tog

May 8, 2018 • 48:04

Witness

Witness

Religion often gives people a sense of belonging. It tells them who’s in and sometimes (depending on the faith, or depending on the microcosm of the faith they're raised in) who's out.That's how Patricia grew up — in a faith where leaving your religion meant leaving behind everyone you love. She is a former Jehovah’s Witness who left the church when she was in her mid-20s.This episode looks at what's worse: keeping the people you love at a distance, or showing them your true colors and losing th

May 1, 2018 • 47:55

Witness

Witness

Religion often gives people a sense of belonging. It tells them who’s in and sometimes (depending on the faith, or depending on the microcosm of the faith they're raised in) who's out. That's how Patricia grew up — in a faith where leaving your religion meant leaving behind everyone you love. She is a former Jehovah’s Witness who left the church when she was in her mid-20s. This episode looks at what's worse: keeping the people you love at a distance, or showing them your true colors and losin

May 1, 2018 • 43:40

Bryson's Purpose

Bryson's Purpose

Chelsey and Kevin's 3-month-old son, Bryson, was in his second week of daycare when he died of Sudden Infant Death Syndrome, or SIDS.When a baby dies of SIDS, it's almost like saying there's no cause of death. It's horrifying to think about, but sometimes babies just ... die. For no reason.This is an episode about grieving parents trying to make sense of the absolutely senseless.Support our new independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. We now offer tiers as

Mar 27, 2018 • 48:58

Bryson’s Purpose

Bryson’s Purpose

Chelsey and Kevin's 3-month-old son, Bryson, was in his second week of daycare when he died of Sudden Infant Death Syndrome, or SIDS. When a baby dies of SIDS, it's almost like saying there's no cause of death. It's horrifying to think about, but sometimes babies just ... die. For no reason. This is an episode about grieving parents trying to make sense of the absolutely senseless. Can’t get enough TTFA? Sign up for TTFA Premium for $7.99 a month. You’ll get access to exclusive bonus content,

Mar 27, 2018 • 44:43

Transformation

Transformation

Sometimes change happens organically, by an external driving force or through no choice of our own. And some transformations happen as a matter of choice. We make resolutions and promises. We sign up for 5Ks. We read self-help books.For Carter and Mimi, the transformation that brought them together was weight loss — followed by transformations in marital status, immigration and gender identity. Theirs is one of our favorite love stories.Support our new independent production (and get bonus cont

Mar 20, 2018 • 48:26

Transformation

Transformation

Sometimes change happens organically, by an external driving force or through no choice of our own. And some transformations happen as a matter of choice. We make resolutions and promises. We sign up for 5Ks. We read self-help books. For Carter and Mimi, the transformation that brought them together was weight loss — followed by transformations in marital status, immigration and gender identity. Theirs is one of our favorite love stories. Can’t get enough TTFA? Sign up for TTFA Premium for $7.9

Mar 20, 2018 • 44:11

Route 91

Route 91

On the eve of Kelli's 25th birthday in 2017, she and her boyfriend find themselves running for their lives in a dystopian nightmare.They'd planned to spend the weekend in Las Vegas at the Route 91 country music festival to celebrate the dawn of a new phase of Kelli's life. Instead, they witnessed the deadliest mass shooting (so far) in U.S. history.This episode is a story about terror ... and what happens after you've survived the unsurvivable.Support our new independent production (and get bonu

Mar 13, 2018 • 51:05

Route 91

Route 91

On the eve of Kelli's 25th birthday in 2017, she and her boyfriend find themselves running for their lives in a dystopian nightmare. They'd planned to spend the weekend in Las Vegas at the Route 91 country music festival to celebrate the dawn of a new phase of Kelli's life. Instead, they witnessed the deadliest mass shooting (so far) in U.S. history. This episode is a story about terror... and what happens after you've survived the unsurvivable. Can’t get enough TTFA? Sign up for TTFA Premium

Mar 13, 2018 • 46:50

If/Then

If/Then

Charlotte’s career is built on theoreticals. As an operating room nurse, she has a protocol for every tragedy — a “then” for every “if.” That all changes one night when, on her way home, Charlotte encounters a teenage girl on the wrong side of a guardrail on an overpass above a highway.Charlotte wasn’t this girl’s mother, or sister, or best friend. She didn’t even know her. But Charlotte was the last person who spoke to the girl before she died. She was THERE. And now, she doesn't know how to ge

Mar 6, 2018 • 40:49

If/Then

If/Then

Charlotte’s career is built on theoreticals. As an operating room nurse, she has a protocol for every tragedy — a “then” for every “if.” That all changes one night when, on her way home, Charlotte encounters a teenage girl on the wrong side of a guardrail on an overpass above a highway. Charlotte wasn’t this girl’s mother, or sister, or best friend. She didn’t even know her. But Charlotte was the last person who spoke to the girl before she died. She was THERE. And now, she doesn't know how to

Mar 6, 2018 • 36:34

Revenge of the Porn

Revenge of the Porn

Stacy made a decision when she was 17 years old that felt crappy at the time but also like the right thing to do. She didn't know then that sending her boyfriend a nude photo would haunt her for years. (Heck, this was 2005; the internet was barely even a thing!)This episode is about betrayal and shame — and moving forward in the face of both.Support our new independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. We now offer tiers as low as $4.99 / month. Sign up.Our ema

Feb 27, 2018 • 48:29

Revenge of the Porn

Revenge of the Porn

Stacy made a decision when she was 17 years old that felt crappy at the time but also like the right thing to do. She didn't know then that sending her boyfriend a nude photo would haunt her for years. (Heck, this was 2005; the internet was barely even a thing!) This episode is about betrayal and shame — and moving forward in the face of both. Can’t get enough TTFA? Sign up for TTFA Premium for $7.99 a month. You’ll get access to exclusive bonus content, ad-free episodes, extended guest intervie

Feb 27, 2018 • 44:14

The Use of These Memories

The Use of These Memories

When Taz’s mother dies, Taz begins to give a long, hard look at her religious and spiritual beliefs. Many of us believe that there’s a thin space between life and death, and that this veil is lifted when we are near death. In this episode, Taz and her aging, ailing grandfather try to peek behind that veil so mother and daughter can reconnect.Support our new independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. We now offer tiers as low as $4.99 / month. Sign up.Our emai

Feb 20, 2018 • 40:03

The Use of These Memories

The Use of These Memories

When Taz’s mother dies, Taz begins to give a long, hard look at her religious and spiritual beliefs. Many of us believe that there’s a thin space between life and death, and that this veil is lifted when we are near death. In this episode, Taz and her aging, ailing grandfather try to peek behind that veil so mother and daughter can reconnect. Can’t get enough TTFA? Sign up for TTFA Premium for $7.99 a month. You’ll get access to exclusive bonus content, ad-free episodes, extended guest interview

Feb 20, 2018 • 35:48

Perfectly

Perfectly

Megan and Clark have a good life with a lot of perfect moments. They’re also both medical professionals — Clark a radiologist, Megan a physician. So when Clark tells Megan he thinks he needs to go to the ER after coming down with a stomach bug, she knows something is very wrong.This is an episode about how things can fall perfectly into place to create the best days of your life… or the absolute worst.Support our new independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium

Feb 13, 2018 • 49:05

Perfectly

Perfectly

Megan and Clark have a good life with a lot of perfect moments. They’re also both medical professionals — Clark a radiologist, Megan a physician. So when Clark tells Megan he thinks he needs to go to the ER after coming down with a stomach bug, she knows something is very wrong. Can’t get enough TTFA? Sign up for TTFA Premium for $7.99 a month. You’ll get access to exclusive bonus content, ad-free episodes, extended guest interviews and more! Visit TTFA.org/Premium to get started. Shop for your

Feb 13, 2018 • 44:50

The Broken Places

The Broken Places

The Achilli siblings would like you to know that if there was a Dead Parent Contest (there's not), they would win the gold medal.In 2008, their dad was murdered by a hitman in a dispute over a girlfriend. Four years after their father's killers are tried and convicted, their mom dies after driving her car off a cliff.This is a story about being orphaned as young adults and the family ties that keep siblings together.Support our new independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joinin

Feb 6, 2018 • 50:10

The Broken Places

The Broken Places

The Achilli siblings would like you to know that if there was a Dead Parent Contest (there's not), they would win the gold medal. In 2008, their dad was murdered by a hitman in a dispute over a girlfriend. Four years after their father's killers are tried and convicted, their mom dies after driving her car off a cliff. This is a story about being orphaned as young adults and the family ties that keep siblings together. Can’t get enough TTFA? Sign up for TTFA Premium for $7.99 a month. You’ll ge

Feb 6, 2018 • 45:55

Incompatible With Life

Incompatible With Life

When Cat is 32 weeks pregnant, she and her husband Jim learn their unborn son has Trisomy 18 syndrome, a very rare chromosomal condition. Their doctors tell them that their baby will likely not survive to be born. If he does, he'll likely die within his first month of life.Cat and Jim find themselves planning for their son’s death while hoping for his birth ... and that includes making arrangements for their unborn baby boy's funeral.Support our independent production (and get bonus content galo

Dec 12, 2017 • 39:58

Incompatible With Life

Incompatible With Life

At 32 weeks pregnant, Cat and Jim find themselves planning for their son’s death while hoping for his birth. This is a story of a life and a death, extraordinary in every way.

Dec 12, 2017 • 35:43

23: Live with Dessa, Alyssa Limperis and Geoffrey Wilson

23: Live with Dessa, Alyssa Limperis and Geoffrey Wilson

TTFA is live from the historic Fitzgerald Theater in downtown St. Paul, MN! Featuring conversation with writer/rapper/entrepreneur Dessa, who took to science to overcome a bad love. And with comedian Alyssa Limperis, whose father died of glioblastoma. So funny! Plus, music from the amazing composer of our theme song, Geoffrey Wilson.

Dec 5, 2017 • 55:31

Live with Dessa, Alyssa Limperis and Geoffrey Wilson

Live with Dessa, Alyssa Limperis and Geoffrey Wilson

TTFA is live from the historic Fitzgerald Theater in downtown St. Paul, MN! Featuring conversation with writer/rapper/entrepreneur Dessa, who took to science to overcome a bad love. And with comedian Alyssa Limperis, whose father died of glioblastoma. So funny! Plus, music from the amazing composer of our theme song, Geoffrey Wilson.

Dec 5, 2017 • 52:16

Happyish Holidays 2017

Happyish Holidays 2017

Lauren’s brother died at Thanksgiving. Her mother died at Christmas. So … this time of year is not exactly joyous for her. And it’s not all that fun for a lot of other people, too. The holidays can really suck! We’re back with our second annual Happyish Holidays episode, in which we share your holiday stories of humor and loss.Support our independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. Sign up.Nora also writes sad & funny books! You can buy them here.You can c

Nov 28, 2017 • 56:46

Happy(ish) Holidays II

Happy(ish) Holidays II

Lauren’s brother died at Thanksgiving. And her mother at Christmas. So… this time of year it’s not all Ho Ho Ho for her. Or for a lot of other people. Because the Holidays can really and truly suck for some. So we’re back with our second annual Holiday radio extravaganza that will once again bedazzle this difficult time of year with humor, stories, and the very real realness of reality. We will hear Lauren’s story, talk with memoirist Augusten Burroughs about a childhood Holiday gone wrong, and

Nov 28, 2017 • 52:31

Introducing Childhood

Introducing Childhood

Malena is 10 years old, and she worries a lot. She worries about her grades. She worries about failing. And she worries about her dad — especially about her dad. Because her dad deals with substance abuse issues, and he’s also an undocumented immigrant living in the U.S. In this episode, we talk to Malena about her worries.Support our independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. We now offer tiers as low as $4.99 / month. Sign up.Our email subscribers get first

Nov 21, 2017 • 33:13

Introducing Childhood

Introducing Childhood

Malena is 10 years old, and she worries a lot. About her grades. About her procrastination. About her dad. Especially about her dad. Kids are the best. They’re smart and funny and deeply empathetic. And they – and their thoughts and feelings – deserve to be taken seriously. Why are we saying this? Because we had an idea for a new show, and we want you to take a listen. Let us know what you think at https://www.apmpodcasts.org/ttfa/.

Nov 21, 2017 • 28:58

The Truth We Live

The Truth We Live

Amee's dad is the life of the party. He's whacky! He makes up fun games!He's also a very heavy drinker. And extremely violent toward Amee's mom. He lives with severe mental illness. And he's a sexual abuser.And now, he says he doesn't remember any of it.This is an episode about finding closure and learning to live with your version of the truth.Support our independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. We now offer tiers as low as $4.99 / month. Sign up.Our email

Nov 14, 2017 • 41:03

The Truth We Live

The Truth We Live

Amee doesn’t have a dad. But she used to. He was the best. He was the worst. And he claims that he doesn’t remember any of it.

Nov 14, 2017 • 36:48

What Does All This Loss Mean?

What Does All This Loss Mean?

Jaamil’s sister died when he was just 12 years old. His grandmother and great grandmother died when he was 13. His mother died when he was 15. His brother was murdered when Jaamil was 22 ... and a week after that, his father died.Yeah. It’s A LOT. But Jaamil’s story isn’t just about loss. It’s an episode about what loss can teach us.Support our independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. Sign up.Nora also writes sad & funny books! You can buy them here.You

Nov 7, 2017 • 52:45

What Does All This Loss Mean?

What Does All This Loss Mean?

Dead sister. Dead grandma. Dead grandpa. Dead uncle. Dead mom. Dead dad. Dead brother. The list of loss goes on and on for Jaamil, and so does his list of professional accolades and accomplishments as he moves from trauma to post-traumatic enlightenment.

Nov 7, 2017 • 48:30

Chapter 2

Chapter 2

Nora’s husband, Aaron, and Casey’s wife, Hope, died on the exactly same day in 2014. Aaron and Hope both left behind spouses, children, and all of the love their small families had created. Nearly three years later, they’ve started moving forward … but don’t you dare say they’ve moved “on.”Support our independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. Sign up.Nora also writes sad & funny books! You can buy them here.You can catch up with TTFA on Instagra

Oct 31, 2017 • 38:19

Chapter 2

Chapter 2

Hope and Aaron died on the exact same day. Each leaving behind their spouse, their child, and all the love their small families had created. Nearly three years later, their spouses have remarried. But don't you dare say they've moved on.

Oct 31, 2017 • 35:03

7: Unbroken (#metoo)

7: Unbroken (#metoo)

Sexual violence thrives in silence, and it's hard to talk about... so we don't. But rape survivor Sarah Super refuses to be quiet, and has dedicated her life to helping other survivors Break the Silence. If you or someone you know has experienced sexual assault, you can contact the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1-800-656-4673.

Oct 24, 2017 • 51:12

Unbroken (#metoo)

Unbroken (#metoo)

Sexual violence thrives in silence, and it's hard to talk about... so we don't. But rape survivor Sarah Super refuses to be quiet, and has dedicated her life to helping other survivors Break the Silence. If you or someone you know has experienced sexual assault, you can contact the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1-800-656-4673.

Oct 24, 2017 • 47:57

Nora McInerny & Esther Perel Live at Now Hear This Festival

Nora McInerny & Esther Perel Live at Now Hear This Festival

If you are or ever plan to be in a relationship, you need to know Esther Perel, The Patron Saint of Relationships. Known for her TED Talks, her brilliant book, Mating in Captivity (and her captivating podcast, "Where Should We Begin?") Esther believes that the quality of our relationships determines the quality of our lives.Your life is about to get better, because Esther joined us live on stage at the Now Hear This podcast festival to hand out sparkling gems of relationship wisdom to real TTFA

Oct 17, 2017 • 54:13

Esther Perel Live at Now Hear This Festival

Esther Perel Live at Now Hear This Festival

If you are or ever plan to be in a relationship, you need to know Esther Perel, The Patron Saint of Relationships. Known for her TED Talks, her brilliant book, Mating in Captivity, and her captivating podcast, Where Should We Begin?, Esther believes that the quality of our relationships determines the quality of our lives. Your life is about to get better, because Esther joined us live on stage at the Now Hear This! podcast festival to hand out sparkling gems of relationship wisdom to real TTFA

Oct 17, 2017 • 50:58

Forever Alone? (Part 2)

Forever Alone? (Part 2)

In part one of "Forever Alone?" we met chronically single Chelsea, who was looking for love in all the same places we all look for love ... and coming up empty-handed.In this episode, we meet Chelsea's new boyfriend and explore what happens when the love we find isn't what we expected.Support our new independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. Sign up.You can catch up with TTFA on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook using @ttfapodcast. Nora's Instagram is @norabor

Oct 10, 2017 • 43:51

Forever Alone? (Part 2)

Forever Alone? (Part 2)

In our last episode, we met chronically single Chelsea, who was looking for love in all the same places we all look for love ... and coming up empty-handed. Now, we meet Chelsea's new boyfriend (!!!!) and explore what happens when the love we find isn't what we expected. — Want (sporadic) emails from Nora and Team TTFA? Sign up here.  When you shop our Bookshop.org store, you support the author, independent bookstores AND our show! Shop here. You can purchase Nora’s books here. Shop for your fav

Oct 10, 2017 • 39:36

Forever Alone? (Part 1)

Forever Alone? (Part 1)

As the saying goes, "There’s a lid for every pot." There’s someone for everyone. Chelsea has been looking for her lid — her someone — since high school.Nearly 15 years after her only real relationship ended, Chelsea still hasn’t found her person. It’s not like she hasn’t been trying, and it’s not like her life is totally miserable … but in case you haven’t had to date lately? It’s exhausting. And sometimes demoralizing.Support our new independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joi

Oct 3, 2017 • 40:14

Forever Alone? (Part 1)

Forever Alone? (Part 1)

As the saying goes, "There’s a lid for every pot." There’s someone for everyone. Chelsea has been looking for her lid — her someone — since high school. Nearly 15 years after her only real relationship ended, Chelsea still hasn’t found her person. It’s not like she hasn’t been trying, and it’s not like her life is totally miserable … but in case you haven’t had to date lately? It’s exhausting. And sometimes demoralizing. — Sign up today for TTFA Premium! For $7.99 a month, you get access to exc

Oct 3, 2017 • 35:59

Best Friends Forever

Best Friends Forever

America has a garbage attitude toward grief — we know this. Bereavement leave generally means you get 2-3 business days to mourn a partner, a child, a parent, a sibling. But what about when your very best friend in the world dies? What then? When the funeral is over and the casseroles have been eaten, how do you reckon with an irreplaceable friendship? These are some of the questions Janya is forced to ask herself after the death of her very best friend, Michele. Support our independent producti

Sep 25, 2017 • 36:27

Best Friends Forever

Best Friends Forever

America has a garbage attitude toward grief — we know this. Bereavement leave generally means you get 2-3 business days to mourn a partner, a child, a parent, a sibling. But what about when your very best friend in the world dies? What then? When the funeral is over and the casseroles have been eaten, how do you reckon with an irreplaceable friendship? These are some of the questions Janya is forced to ask herself after the death of her very best friend, Michele. — Sign up today for TTFA Premi

Sep 25, 2017 • 33:12

Baby Huey

Baby Huey

Courtney and Jay are parents to 9-year-old Bruce, who they affectionately call Baby Huey. Bruce has never had a friend. Never had a playdate. Never been invited to a birthday party. He has fragile X syndrome, and that diagnosis makes his young, little life a complicated one.There are lots of people who get to be parents but not the kind of parents they imagined being. This is one of those stories.Support our independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. We now o

Sep 20, 2017 • 39:53

Baby Huey

Baby Huey

Courtney and Jay are parents to 9-year-old Bruce, who they affectionately call Baby Huey. Bruce has never had a friend. Never had a playdate. Never been invited to a birthday party. He has fragile X syndrome, and that diagnosis makes his young, little life a complicated one. There are lots of people who get to be parents but not the kind of parents they imagined being. This is one of those stories. — Sign up today for TTFA Premium! For $7.99 a month, you get access to exclusive bonus content, a

Sep 20, 2017 • 35:38

LIVE SHOW ANNOUNCEMENT: The Honeymoon's Over

LIVE SHOW ANNOUNCEMENT: The Honeymoon's Over

Nora is back from her honeymoon with a special announcement: TTFA is doing a live show! (Plus, this week's episode will be out on Wednesday - so stay tuned!) TTFA LIVE! In person!! Hear us perform an episode right in front of your face! November 17, 2017 at the Historic Fitzgerald Theater in St. Paul, MN. With musician and writer Dessa, comedian Alyssa Limperis, and Geoffrey Wilson -- the amazing writer of the TTFA theme song! Find out more info and get tickets (starting Tuesday, September 19) a

Sep 18, 2017 • 7:50

LIVE SHOW ANNOUNCEMENT: The Honeymoon’s Over

LIVE SHOW ANNOUNCEMENT: The Honeymoon’s Over

Nora is back from her honeymoon with a special announcement – TTFA is doing a live show!! (Plus this week's episode will be out on Wednesday – so stay tuned!) TTFA LIVE!!! In person!! Hear us perform an episode right in front of your face! November 17, 2017 at the historic Fitzgerald Theater in St. Paul, MN. With musician and writer Dessa, comedian Alyssa Limperis, and Geoffrey Wilson -- the amazing writer of the TTFA theme song! Find out more info and get tickets (starting Tuesday, September 19

Sep 18, 2017 • 6:35

Horrible and Wonderful and Figuring It Out

Horrible and Wonderful and Figuring It Out

Harris Wittels was the executive producer of "Parks and Recreation," the coiner of the word "humblebrag," a Phish enthusiast, and the funniest person in any room he walked into. He died of a heroin overdose in 2015, leaving behind his mother, his sister, and a lifetime of talent and potential.In this episode, we talk to Harris' sister, Stephanie Wittels Wachs, about her brother and what it means when addiction is part of your legacy.Support our independent production (and get bonus content galor

Sep 11, 2017 • 50:02

Horrible and Wonderful and Figuring it Out

Horrible and Wonderful and Figuring it Out

Harris Wittels was the executive producer of "Parks and Recreation," the coiner of the word "humblebrag," a Phish enthusiast, and the funniest person in any room he walked into. He died of a heroin overdose in 2015, leaving behind his mother, his sister, and a lifetime of talent and potential. — Sign up today for TTFA Premium! For $7.99 a month, you get access to exclusive bonus content, ad-free episodes *and* the knowledge that you’re keeping our show afloat! Visit TTFA.org/Premium to get start

Sep 11, 2017 • 45:47

The Ending Matters

The Ending Matters

In 2014, Brittany Maynard exercised her right to an assisted death under Oregon's Death With Dignity Act. She'd been diagnosed with terminal brain cancer less than a year earlier. Her death at age 29 — and her advocacy work for the legalization of assisted death — made headlines.Nora's husband also died in 2014, also from brain cancer. But his and Brittany's deaths were very different.In this episode, Nora and Dan, Brittany's late husband, reflect on their partners' decisions about how to spend

Sep 6, 2017 • 47:53

The Ending Matters

The Ending Matters

In 2014, Brittany Maynard exercised her right to an assisted death under Oregon's Death With Dignity Act. She'd been diagnosed with terminal brain cancer less than a year earlier. Her death at age 29 — and her advocacy work for the legalization of assisted death — made headlines. Nora's husband also died in 2014, also from brain cancer. But his and Brittany's deaths were very different. In this episode, Nora and Dan, Brittany's late husband, reflect on their partners' decisions about how to sp

Sep 6, 2017 • 43:38

The Ending Matters

The Ending Matters

In 2014, Brittany Maynard exercised her right to an assisted death under Oregon's Death With Dignity Act. She'd been diagnosed with terminal brain cancer less than a year earlier. Her death at age 29 — and her advocacy work for the legalization of assisted death — made headlines. Nora's husband also died in 2014, also from brain cancer. But his and Brittany's deaths were very different. In this episode, Nora and Dan, Brittany's late husband, reflect on their partners' d

Sep 6, 2017 • 43:38

Mini-Season Ep 9: Love Hurts

Mini-Season Ep 9: Love Hurts

When Lea Thau's fiance left her, she felt all the feelings. Then she had their baby, and decided to start dating again. But, despite going out, nothing seemed to be clicking. Over and over. And eventually, she wanted to know why. Why didn't men want to keep dating her? So she asked them. And recorded the answer. From the amazing podcast Strangers comes the episode "Love Hurts."

Jul 19, 2017 • 42:19

Love Hurts

Love Hurts

When Lea Thau’s fiancé left her, she felt all the feelings. Then she had their baby, and decided to start dating again. But, despite going out, nothing seemed to be clicking. Over and over. And eventually, she wanted to know why. Why didn’t men want to keep dating her? So she asked them. And recorded the answer. From the amazing podcast Strangers comes the episode "Love Hurts."

Jul 19, 2017 • 41:04

Dear Grown-ups

Dear Grown-ups

Do you remember being a child? We sure do. Mostly, we remember being filled with piping hot feelings. And now, as adults, we worry … are saying the right things to our kids? Are we being the right kind of grownups? We asked the Terrible community what they wish their grownups would’ve said to them when they were young and going through hard stuff. This is what they said. — Sign up today for TTFA Premium! For $7.99 a month, you get access to exclusive bonus content, ad-free episodes *and* the kno

Jun 13, 2017 • 37:07

Dear Grown-ups

Dear Grown-ups

Do you remember being a child? We sure do. Mostly, we remember being filled with piping hot feelings. And now, as adults, we worry … are saying the right things to our kids? Are we being the right kind of grown-ups?We asked the Terrible community what they wish their grown-ups would’ve said to them when they were young and going through hard stuff. This is what they said.Support our independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. We now offer tiers as low as $4.99

Jun 13, 2017 • 38:27

Naomi + Khaleel

Naomi + Khaleel

Khaleel Thompson is an 18-year-old who loves music, reading, and his cat, Domino. Naomi is his mother, asking why four police officers fired more than 12 rounds at her son in a public park two weeks ago, leaving him in critical condition. The two of them are the humans behind a news headline — caught in a story that is just unfolding.Support our independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. We now offer tiers as low as $4.99 / month. Sign up.Our email subscriber

Jun 7, 2017 • 30:23

Naomi + Khaleel

Naomi + Khaleel

Khaleel Thompson is an 18-year-old who loves music, reading, and his cat, Domino. Naomi is his mother, asking why four police officers fired more than 12 rounds at her son in a public park two weeks ago, leaving him in critical condition. The two of them are the humans behind a news headline – caught in a story that is just unfolding. — Sign up today for TTFA Premium! For $7.99 a month, you get access to exclusive bonus content, ad-free episodes *and* the knowledge that you’re keeping our show a

Jun 7, 2017 • 27:04

19 Hours Ago

19 Hours Ago

Grief is always fresh for someone. Right now, somewhere, someone is losing a friend. A partner. A parent. And they are entering a new role — a new relationship to their loved one and to the world.Holly feels that grief. And she came in to share it with us. Fresh and undiluted … just 19 hours into her first day as a widow.Support our independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. We now offer tiers as low as $4.99 / month. Sign up.Our email subscribers get first d

Apr 25, 2017 • 45:14

19 Hours Ago

19 Hours Ago

Grief is always fresh for someone, somewhere. Right now, someone is losing a friend. A partner. A parent. And they are entering a new role, a new relationship to their loved one, and to the world. Holly felt that grief. And she came in to share it with us. Fresh and undiluted. Just hours into her first day as a widow. And then again with a follow-up 8 months later.

Apr 25, 2017 • 40:54

To Michael

To Michael

When someone dies, you're supposed to say something. Someone is supposed to say something. Someone is supposed to summarize this person, prove that they existed, that they mattered. But what do you say when a complicated person dies after a complicated life?Support our independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. We now offer tiers as low as $4.99 / month. Sign up.Our email subscribers get first dibs on ticket sales, new merch, show announcements and more. Join

Apr 17, 2017 • 20:42

To Michael

To Michael

When someone dies, you're supposed to say something. SOMEONE is supposed to say something. Someone is supposed to summarize this person, prove that they existed, that they mattered. But what do you say when a complicated person dies after a complicated life? Nora’s brother-in-law struggled for years with severe mental illness that made being alive difficult. When he dies suddenly at the age of 42, she finds herself asking these kinds of questions. — Sign up today for TTFA Premium! For $7.99 a mo

Apr 17, 2017 • 19:24

Is It OK?

Is It OK?

Alysha-Aubrey sent us a story about both her parents falling seriously ill at the same time, and the toll it took on her as a teenager. And she ended her story with a question about whether or not it’s OK that she doesn’t feel OK … even though her family has recovered from trauma and is doing OK. We thought that the best way to answer Alysha-Aubrey’s question was to ask it of you, the audience. And you had so much to say to her.Support our independent production (and get bonus content galore!) b

Apr 10, 2017 • 25:39

Is It OK?

Is It OK?

Alysha-Aubrey sent us a story about both her parents falling seriously ill at the same time, and the toll it took on her as a teenager. And she ended her story with a question about whether or not it’s OK that she doesn’t feel OK … even though her family has recovered from trauma and is doing OK. We thought that the best way to answer Alysha-Aubrey’s question was to ask it of you, the audience. And you had so much to say to her. — Sign up today for TTFA Premium! For $7.99 a month, you get access

Apr 10, 2017 • 21:21

Mini-Season Ep 3: #trypod with The Hilarious World of Depression

Mini-Season Ep 3: #trypod with The Hilarious World of Depression

March is #trypod month, where everyone should force their loved ones to listen to podcasts. Not sure which one to subscribe every family member to? Well, we have one for you. It's called The Hilarious World of Depression, and it features open, honest conversations about depression. But funny. Because the guests are professional comedians and sometimes you just have to laugh at the darkness. Today you are going to hear an episode of The Hilarious World of Depression with guest Maria Bamford. She'

Mar 27, 2017 • 49:10

#trypod with The Hilarious World of Depression

#trypod with The Hilarious World of Depression

March is #trypod month, where everyone should force their loved ones to listen to podcasts. Not sure which one to subscribe every family member to? Well, we have one for you. It’s called the The Hilarious World of Depression, and it features open, honest conversations about depression. But funny. Because the guests are professional comedians and sometimes you just have to laugh at the darkness. Today you are going to hear an episode of The Hilarious World of Depression with guest Maria Bamford.

Mar 27, 2017 • 45:49

Are You Up?

Are You Up?

It’s 12:00. No, 1:00. No, 4:45 in the morning. You should be sleeping — we all should be — but you’re not. You’re laying there as the minutes tick away, thinking about … what, exactly?One sleepless night, Nora took to Twitter to see what was keeping you up. And you answered. This is an episode made by you (and Hans — okay, mostly Hans), about what keeps you up at night.Support our independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. We now offer tiers as low as $4.99 /

Mar 14, 2017 • 48:42

Are You Up?

Are You Up?

It’s 12:00. No, 1:00. No, 4:45 in the morning. You should be sleeping — we all should be — but you’re not. You’re laying there as the minutes tick away, thinking about…what, exactly? One sleepless night, Nora took to Twitter to see what was keeping you up. And you answered. This is an episode made by you (and Hans. Okay, mostly Hans), about what keeps you up at night. — Sign up today for TTFA Premium! For $7.99 a month, you get access to exclusive bonus content, ad-free episodes *and* the knowl

Mar 14, 2017 • 44:21

Not The Bummer Olympics

Not The Bummer Olympics

So many people start off their stories by saying that it doesn’t compare to what happened to someone else. But this isn’t a game of Who Has It Worse, so why do we act like there is some sort of imaginary yardstick for struggling?Support our independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. We now offer tiers as low as $4.99 / month. Sign up.Our email subscribers get first dibs on ticket sales, new merch, show announcements and more. Join our mailing list here.Nora

Mar 6, 2017 • 19:18

Not The Bummer Olympics

Not The Bummer Olympics

So many people start off their stories by saying that it doesn’t compare to what happened to someone else. But this isn’t a game of Who Has It Worse, so why do we act like there is some sort of imaginary yardstick for struggling? — Sign up today for TTFA Premium! For $7.99 a month, you get access to exclusive bonus content, ad-free episodes *and* the knowledge that you’re keeping our show afloat! Visit TTFA.org/Premium to get started. Want (sporadic) emails from Nora and Team TTFA? Sign up here.

Mar 6, 2017 • 15:01

Semper Fi

Semper Fi

When Nora McInerny's dad died, she lost his stories — the ones that she’s not sure she can quite remember right, and the ones she never knew ... like the stories from his time as a Recon Marine in Vietnam.Nora decides to look up some of the men he served with. What unfolds is Nora discovering a story about a single day — September 20, 1968 — and the patrol where two men were killed. Nora’s father was on that patrol. It was one of his first.As Nora learns about those men and that day, sh

Jan 30, 2017 • 40:02

Semper Fi

Semper Fi

When Nora's dad died, she lost his stories — the ones that she’s not sure she can quite remember right, and the ones she never knew ... like the stories from his time as a Recon Marine in Vietnam. Nora decides to look up some of the men he served with. What unfolds is Nora discovering a story about a single day — September 20, 1968 — and the patrol where two men were killed. Nora’s father was on that patrol. It was one of his first. As Nora learns about those men and that day, she discovers tha

Jan 30, 2017 • 36:42

Under a Cloud of Loss

Under a Cloud of Loss

Damon’s grandparents were murdered 18 months before he was born. He never knew them, but their deaths — and the trial for their killer — defined much of his childhood.For nearly three decades, Damon’s mother has attended every parole hearing to deliver a victim impact statement. When we meet Damon, there is another such hearing coming up, but his mother is unable to attend.For the first time in his life, Damon prepares to see his grandparents’ murderer face to face. Support our independent produ

Jan 23, 2017 • 51:45

Under a Cloud of Loss

Under a Cloud of Loss

Damon’s grandparents were murdered 18 months before he was born. He never knew them, but their deaths — and the trial for their killer — defined much of his childhood. For nearly three decades, Damon’s mother has attended every parole hearing to deliver a victim impact statement. When we meet Damon, there is another such hearing coming up, but his mother is unable to attend. For the first time in his life, Damon prepares to see his grandparents’ murderer face to face.  — Sign up today for TTFA

Jan 23, 2017 • 47:23

The Middle Place

The Middle Place

For many of us, death is scary and mysterious. This episode is about the in-between, the middle place between life and death — and the people who are there to witness it. We talk with Heather, a hospice nurse, and Sarah, a woman with the gift of intuition.Support our independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. We now offer tiers as low as $4.99 / month. Sign up.Our email subscribers get first dibs on ticket sales, new merch, show announcements and more. Join o

Jan 16, 2017 • 38:30

The Middle Place

The Middle Place

For many of us, death is scary and mysterious. This episode is about the in-between, the middle place between life and death — and the people who are there to witness it. We talk with Heather, a hospice nurse, and Sarah, a woman with the gift of intuition. — Sign up today for TTFA Premium! For $7.99 a month, you get access to exclusive bonus content, ad-free episodes *and* the knowledge that you’re keeping our show afloat! Visit TTFA.org/Premium to get started. Want (sporadic) emails from Nora a

Jan 16, 2017 • 34:10

Unbroken

Unbroken

Sarah Super is not broken. Sarah Super is a woman who is absolutely, 100% living up to her name. She’s is a rape survivor — a very outspoken rape survivor.In this episode, Sarah talks about the things that nobody wants to talk about, the things that grow and survive in silence … including what happened after her ex-boyfriend raped her in 2014.Support our independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. We now offer tiers as low as $4.99 / month. Sign up.Our email s

Jan 9, 2017 • 49:41

Unbroken

Unbroken

Sarah Super is not broken. Sarah Super is a woman who is absolutely, 100% living up to her name. She’s is a rape survivor — a very outspoken rape survivor. In this episode, Sarah talks about the things that nobody wants to talk about, the things that grow and survive in silence … including what happened after her ex-boyfriend raped her in 2014. Can’t get enough TTFA? Sign up for TTFA Premium for $7.99 a month. You’ll get access to exclusive bonus content, ad-free episodes, extended guest intervi

Jan 9, 2017 • 45:19

A Henry Sky

A Henry Sky

Colleen is a pediatrician, a wife, and a mother to a beautiful son named Henry, who was stillborn.After Henry's stillbirth, Colleen and her husband continue trying to build their family, but they're faced with secondary infertility and a series of miscarriages.This is Colleen's story, but the episode is for the thousands and thousands of people just like her, who continue to keep trying ... even if that means breaking their hearts over and over.Support our independent production (and get bonus c

Jan 2, 2017 • 45:16

A Henry Sky

A Henry Sky

Colleen is a pediatrician, a wife, and a mother to a beautiful son named Henry, who was stillborn. After Henry's stillbirth, Colleen and her husband continue trying to build their family, but they're faced with secondary infertility and a series of miscarriages. This is Colleen's story, but the episode is for the thousands and thousands of people just like her, who continue to keep trying ... even if that means breaking their hearts over and over. — Sign up today for TTFA Premium! For $7.99 a

Jan 2, 2017 • 40:56

Help Me Remember

Help Me Remember

Dawn is a nurse. In June of 2015, she was injured on the job by one of her patients and suffered a traumatic brain injury.Dawn’s husband and their kids have been in deep, deep grief since that day in 2015. Not because Dawn died — she’s very much alive, thank goodness. But because Dawn isn’t the same person she used to be.Support our independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. Sign up.Nora also writes sad & funny books! You can buy them here.You ca

Dec 26, 2016 • 44:41

Help Me Remember

Help Me Remember

Dawn is a nurse. In June of 2015, she was injured on the job by one of her patients and suffered a traumatic brain injury. Dawn’s husband and their kids have been in deep, deep grief since that day in 2015. Not because Dawn died — she’s very much alive, thank goodness. But because Dawn isn’t the same person she used to be.

Dec 26, 2016 • 41:20

Me, Too

Me, Too

Danni Starr had everything she wanted: a successful radio career, a husband and a new baby.But off the air, motherhood wasn't all that great. In fact, it was awful. Nothing had prepared her for the postpartum depression and anxiety that quickly consumed her brain … or for the double life she’d be living as she juxtaposed that postpartum depression and anxiety with her very public job and image.This episode is about what happens when you’ve taken all the classes, read all the books, bought all th

Dec 19, 2016 • 44:17

Me, Too

Me, Too

Danni Starr had everything she wanted: a successful radio career, a husband and a new baby. But off the air, motherhood wasn't all that great. In fact, it was awful. Nothing had prepared her for the postpartum depression and anxiety that quickly consumed her brain … or for the double life she’d be living as she juxtaposed that postpartum depression and anxiety with her very public job and image.

Dec 19, 2016 • 39:57

Happyish Holidays

Happyish Holidays

In case you didn't know, we're still making episodes that are available exclusively on Nora's Substack! -Two days after Nora’s husband Aaron died, she celebrated Thanksgiving with her family. Well... maybe not “celebrated.”Every year, millions of people do the same thing during the holidays. In this episode, we talk with some of those folks, including Dr. Lucy Kalanithi and comedian Amber Tozer. We also spend some time with some of the women of the Hot Young Widows Club, talking about t

Dec 12, 2016 • 56:30

Happy(ish) Holidays

Happy(ish) Holidays

Two days after Nora’s husband Aaron died, she celebrated Thanksgiving with her family. Well... maybe not “celebrated.” Every year, millions of people do the same thing during the holidays. In this episode, we talk with some of those folks, including Dr. Lucy Kalanithi and comedian Amber Tozer. We also spend some time with some of the women of the Hot Young Widows Club, talking about their hopes and dreams for the upcoming year. Plus, stories of some of the worst holidays ever.

Dec 12, 2016 • 53:07

I've Made a Huge Mistake

I've Made a Huge Mistake

Eva Hagberg is young, ambitious and about to get her Big Break — a byline in the New York Times! And then, she publishes an error. A big factual error. In the New York freaking Times.Cue the breakdown.If you've ever laid in bed replaying your missteps, this episode is for you.Support our independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. We now offer tiers as low as $4.99 / month. Sign up.Our email subscribers get first dibs on ticket sales, new merch, show announcem

Dec 5, 2016 • 51:33

I’ve Made a Huge Mistake

I’ve Made a Huge Mistake

Eva Hagberg is young, ambitious and about to get her Big Break — a byline in the New York Times! And then, she publishes an error. A big factual error. In the New York freaking Times! Cue the breakdown. If you've ever laid in bed replaying your missteps, this episode is for you.

Dec 5, 2016 • 47:12

In Love and Memory

In Love and Memory

Toddlers Ralphie and Bronson have lived most of their young lives with dead fathers. Their mothers — Nora and Moe — struggle to understand how to help their boys remember the dads they won’t know directly. As they worry about what long-term effect the losses will have on the kids, Nora seeks perspective from Ambra Markos, whose mother died when Ambra was just 2 years old. Support our independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. Sign up. You can catch up with TT

Nov 28, 2016 • 42:27

In Love and Memory

In Love and Memory

Toddlers Ralphie and Bronson have lived most of their young lives with dead fathers. Their mothers — Nora and Moe — struggle to understand how to help their boys remember the dads they won’t know directly. As they worry about what long-term effect the losses will have on the kids, Nora seeks perspective from Ambra Markos, whose mother died when Ambra was just 2.

Nov 28, 2016 • 38:07

Sad Nora and the Secret Baby

Sad Nora and the Secret Baby

Nora McInerny is in love with two men. With one man (who died two years ago this week), she has a child. And just last week, she had a child with the other. She didn’t tell many people about the new baby. Or her pregnancy, for that matter. And in the first-ever episode of “Terrible, Thanks for Asking,” she explains why.

Nov 21, 2016 • 20:15

Sad Nora and the Secret Baby

Sad Nora and the Secret Baby

Nora McInerny is in love with two men. With one man (who died two years ago this week), she has a child. And just last week, she had a child with the other.She didn’t tell many people about the new baby. Or her pregnancy, for that matter. And in the first-ever episode of “Terrible, Thanks for Asking,” she explains why.Support our new independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. Sign up.You can catch up with TTFA on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook using

Nov 20, 2016 • 22:33

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