Finding Fifty

Finding Fifty

Mette Ivie Harrison and Candice Clark Stevens

Mette and Candice, friends for more than thirty years, both found themselves divorced during the pandemic. They have very different perspectives on the challenge of finding themselves in the midst of an entirely new life.

Episode Fifty

Episode Fifty

Candice and Mette talk about what the podcast has meant to them.

Sep 28, 2023 • 25:05

Safety

Safety

We talk about what makes us feel safe and what doesn't.

Sep 21, 2023 • 25:41

Perfectionism

Perfectionism

Two recovering perfectionists talk about the contining temptation.

Sep 14, 2023 • 23:35

Being Fun

Being Fun

Can you become more fun and if so, how?

Sep 7, 2023 • 27:04

Why Do I Keep Doing Too Much?

Why Do I Keep Doing Too Much?

When you know you shouldn't do too much, why do you keep doing it anyway? What are you winning? What are you avoiding?

Aug 31, 2023 • 28:03

What Do I Keep?

What Do I Keep?

What do you keep, literally and metaphorically, after a major life change?

Jul 20, 2023 • 27:06

Advice

Advice

Do you give advice? Why or why not?

Jul 6, 2023 • 27:20

My Body Is Falling Apart

My Body Is Falling Apart

If no one has ever told you before, it sucks getting old.

Jun 15, 2023 • 28:30

We Can Do It!

We Can Do It!

All the things we've learned to do since our divorces.

May 12, 2023 • 26:33

Regret

Regret

What do you regret? How do you let go of regret? What regret is it useful to hold onto, if any?

May 4, 2023 • 30:48

Self-Sabotage

Self-Sabotage

Taking a good hard look at how we self-sabotage

Apr 20, 2023 • 27:57

Taking Feedback

Taking Feedback

How good are you at taking feedback? Should you always?

Apr 13, 2023 • 27:12

Strength vs. Fexibility

Strength vs. Fexibility

Yes, we're talking literally and metaphorically here

Mar 30, 2023 • 25:44

Dreams

Dreams

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Mar 9, 2023 • 27:28

The Value of Subtraction

The Value of Subtraction

What can I take out of my life that will add to my life?

Mar 2, 2023 • 25:32

Getting What You Want

Getting What You Want

Are you allowed to get what you want? That's the first step in getting it. Other thoughts on the same.

Feb 23, 2023 • 23:11

Independence and Asking for Help

Independence and Asking for Help

How do you learn to ask for help and not give up your sense of independence?

Feb 16, 2023 • 33:19

Hitting the Wall

Hitting the Wall

When you have nothing left, you hit the wall. Sometimes that can be a very good thing.

Feb 9, 2023 • 30:41

All or Nothing

All or Nothing

We talk about avoiding the binary of this type of thinking.

Feb 2, 2023 • 31:21

There's Plenty of Time

There's Plenty of Time

Sometimes you worry if there will be enough time, but there is.

Jan 19, 2023 • 22:39

Self-Care

Self-Care

Is self-care bath bombs and chocolate or is it more than that?

Jan 12, 2023 • 20:13

Money

Money

What is money for? How do you use money properly? How do you feel less guilty about money? How do you use money for happiness?

Jan 5, 2023 • 28:44

Annniversaries

Annniversaries

What do you do when anniversaries about things you're still processing come up?

Dec 30, 2022 • 26:47

27. Because I Want To

27. Because I Want To

What if "because I want to?" is not a selfish thing to say, but actually the only reason any of us do anything?

Dec 21, 2022 • 26:59

25. Stop Feeling Bad About Your Divorce

25. Stop Feeling Bad About Your Divorce

Why divorce isn't the worst thing in the world. If you're up for that discussion.

Dec 14, 2022 • 28:11

24. Anger

24. Anger

It's time for us to own our anger.

Dec 1, 2022 • 16:40

24. Solving All the Problems

24. Solving All the Problems

Do you think we can solve all the problems? Because we definitely do.

Nov 24, 2022 • 24:04

23. Pain vs. Suffering

23. Pain vs. Suffering

Can you experience pain without suffering. Your two hosts argue charmingly about this.

Nov 17, 2022 • 32:51

20. Being Invisible

20. Being Invisible

Women and mothers are often invisible. We would like to stop being invisible, please.

Nov 10, 2022 • 24:46

22. Do People Change?

22. Do People Change?

People might change, but it doesn't seem to happen very often, or at least not on a character level.

Nov 10, 2022 • 29:49

21. Love Languages

21. Love Languages

Do you hate the love language paradigm? Is it useful at all?

Oct 20, 2022 • 26:46

20 Being Invisible

20 Being Invisible

Women and mothers are often invisible and we would like to stop being invisible now please.

Oct 13, 2022 • 24:46

19. Their Opinion is None of My Business

19. Their Opinion is None of My Business

Everyone says this, but how can you really learn how to not care about their business and believe it's really what you think about yourself that matters?

Sep 28, 2022 • 30:21

18. If It's Going to Get Done . . .

18. If It's Going to Get Done . . .

If it's going to get done, it has to be by me. Ever feel like this? We do.

Sep 15, 2022 • 19:30

17. Optimism

17. Optimism

We take a little quiz to see how optimistic we are. We are both surprised (though you may not be).

Sep 8, 2022 • 28:36

16. Forgiveness

16. Forgiveness

What is forgiveness? Is it letting things go or is it something more?

Aug 25, 2022 • 24:44

15. Religion After 50

15. Religion After 50

We have both been through changes in our religious beliefs, but have also ended in very different places.

Aug 18, 2022 • 29:25

14. Birthdays

14. Birthdays

Some people hate birthdays. Some people love birthdays. Guess which of us is which?

Aug 11, 2022 • 22:33

13: Physical Appearance

13: Physical Appearance

How do you feel about your changing physical appearance after age 50? Wrinkles, gray hair, sagging--um, other parts. We chat frankly about these issues.

Aug 4, 2022 • 30:40

12: Being Happy

12: Being Happy

What is happy? How is happy? Is happy?

Jul 21, 2022 • 31:45

11: Trusting Yourself

11: Trusting Yourself

How do yout rust yourself when you are the one who has always minimized and betrayed you?

Jul 15, 2022 • 37:19

10: Past, Present, Future Selves

10: Past, Present, Future Selves

Trying to figure out how to reconcile the different versions of ourselves, offering them all grace.

Jul 7, 2022 • 24:26

9: Putting Yourself On Hold

9: Putting Yourself On Hold

Women tend to put their own needs on hold. We talk about how to not do that anymore.

Jul 1, 2022 • 30:20

8: Losing People

8: Losing People

Mette and Candice talk about the pain of losing people as your life changes, and the choice to lose people, as well.

Jun 23, 2022 • 30:37

7: Depression

7: Depression

Depression is scary and lonely. It isn’t something I would wish on my worst enemy. But it is something that I’ve ended up helping dearest friends through. Sometimes I’m even grateful for  my depression because it has allowed me to understand something I never understood before and to help articulate the thoughts that depression whispers to you.

Jun 16, 2022 • 29:21

6: Mettice

6: Mettice

In high school, one teacher who only ever saw us when we were together called us "Mettice," Candice and Mette. Here is our origin story, even though it took us a decade to remember the first time we truly met.

Mar 23, 2022 • 34:46

5: Brooms of Joy

5: Brooms of Joy

Do you think brooms are not things of joy? Well, listen to us discuss why they can be.

Mar 15, 2022 • 31:19

4: Being Alone

4: Being Alone

There are wonderful things about being alone. Here are some of them.

Mar 2, 2022 • 37:30

3: Loving Yourself

3: Loving Yourself

How do you love yourself? What if you hate yourself? Why does it matter?

Feb 23, 2022 • 33:52

2: The Rules

2: The Rules

We all seem to enter into relationships with the idea that there are certain rules, but when other people don't follow the same rules, we're angry. And discover that they never had the same rules in the first place. How could they not?

Feb 14, 2022 • 30:12

1: Owning Your Choices

1: Owning Your Choices

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Jan 30, 2022 • 37:21

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