Betrayal Recovery Radio: The Official Podcast of APSATS

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Betrayal is traumatic, and those who have been betrayed by partners living secret lives of sexual addiction deserve to be empowered and supported with knowledge and resources to allow them to move from shock through grief and into growth. On Betrayal Recovery Radio, our host, Dr. Jake Porter, lays out important topics for both sex addicts and their betrayed partners through conversations leading to hope and healing. Betrayal Recovery Radio is the official podcast of The Association of Partners of Sex Addict Trauma Specialists (apsats.org). Dr. Jake Porter can be reached at drjakeporter.com.

When He Won't Do The Work | with Pam Blizzard & Steph Farnsworth (Part 1)

In this two-part episode of Betrayal Recovery Radio, Dr. Jake Porter is joined by Pam Blizzard and Steph Farnsworth to tackle one of the most frustrating challenges for betrayed partners: when the betraying partner isn’t doing the work. Together, they explore the emotional urgency of healing, the disconnect between partners' expectations, and the deeper psychological dynamics at play. They discuss why some betraying partners seem stuck, how betrayed partners can navigate the frustration, and wha

Feb 28, • 33:46

Building True Intimacy | with Dan Drake and The Raabsmith's (Part 2)

Welcome to Betrayal Recovery Radio. I’m Dr. Jake Porter, and today, I’m thrilled to be joined by the authors of Building True Intimacy, a powerful book that lays out a roadmap for restoring relationships after betrayal. In this episode, we dive into the journey of moving from devastation to a thriving partnership, and how to develop the "Intimacy Pyramid" as a practical tool for healing. We’ll explore the essential role of honesty, vulnerability, and intentional connection in rebuilding trust an

Jan 30, • 41:56

Building True Intimacy | with Dan Drake and The Raabsmith's (Part 1)

Welcome to Betrayal Recovery Radio. I’m Dr. Jake Porter, and today, I’m thrilled to be joined by the authors of Building True Intimacy, a powerful book that lays out a roadmap for restoring relationships after betrayal. In this episode, we dive into the journey of moving from devastation to a thriving partnership, and how to develop the "Intimacy Pyramid" as a practical tool for healing. We’ll explore the essential role of honesty, vulnerability, and intentional connection in rebuilding trust an

Jan 25, • 54:02

She Needs a Relapse Plan, Too with Lyschel Burket

No one wants to prepare for a storm or consider the necessary steps to get to safety. Yet most would say they have a fire escape plan in their home for such an emergency. Most couples solely rely on the betraying partner’s relapse plan to find stabilization and repair. In the interview with Lyschel Burket, she invites betrayed partners to consider a plan for themselves in the aftermath of a slip or relapse. A plan allows the betrayed partner to find personal strength apart from the betraying par

Jan 10, • 51:13

Navigating Consent After Betrayal with Alana Gordon

In this conversation, Jake Porter and Alana Gordon delve into the complex topic of consent, particularly in the context of betrayal trauma and sexual addiction. They explore the foundational aspects of consent, its importance in healthy relationships, and the challenges faced by individuals in understanding and practicing it. The discussion emphasizes the need for clear communication, enthusiastic participation, and the right to withdraw consent at any time. They also highlight the necessity of

Jan 3, • 49:32

Betrayal Happens to Men Too: with Adam Nisenson

Adam Nisenson, known as the Betrayal Shrink, combines his extensive clinical skills with a deeply empathetic heart in his role as a Betrayal Trauma Coach. Licensed as a Marriage and Family Therapist and Certified Sex Addiction Therapist, Adam is dedicated to guiding men through the complex emotions and challenges of betrayal trauma. His methodology is deeply influenced by his intimate grasp of the trials faced by men confronting a partner’s infidelity. Leveraging his extensive clinical backgroun

Dec 19, 2024 • 45:47

Rediscovering Hope, with Andrea Rogers

Healing a relationship that is impacting by addiction, adultery, and betrayal requires hope. Many couples find themselves feeling hopeless after discovery and struggle to imagining having hope again. Hope is an anchor that keeps us grounded in our values and reality. This empowering discussion will offer tools on how to cultivate hope and build strength amidst the recovery journey. Andrea Rogers is a board certified life coach and a certified partner coach with APSATS. Andrea is the founder of

Dec 6, 2024 • 52:14

Finding my true identity after betrayal | with Cat Etherington

Cat Etherington is the Director of Recovery for Naked Truth Project, an international ministry opening eyes and freeing lives from the damaging impacts of pornography and other problematic sexual behaviors. Cat is a certified professional life coach and integrative therapist, working with individuals and couples impacted by problematic sexual behavior and betrayal. The first ever European practitioner to be certified by the Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists (APSATS) Cat n

Nov 25, 2024 • 53:52

Double Abuse: Understanding the Hidden Pain of Relational Betrayal | Part 2 of 2

In this episode of *Betrayal Recovery Radio*, Dr. Jake Porter hosts a discussion with Pam Blizzard and Steph Farnsworth, exploring the complex layers of relational abuse within the context of betrayal trauma. They define relational abuse as a covert, disempowering experience, highlighting how behaviors like gaslighting and manipulation compound the pain of betrayal, creating a "double abuse" effect. Together, they discuss the challenges betrayed partners face in reclaiming their sense of reality

Nov 7, 2024 • 39:10

Double Abuse: Understanding the Hidden Pain of Relational Betrayal | Part 1 of 2

In this episode of *Betrayal Recovery Radio*, Dr. Jake Porter hosts a discussion with Pam Blizzard and Steph Farnsworth, exploring the complex layers of relational abuse within the context of betrayal trauma. They define relational abuse as a covert, disempowering experience, highlighting how behaviors like gaslighting and manipulation compound the pain of betrayal, creating a "double abuse" effect. Together, they discuss the challenges betrayed partners face in reclaiming their sense of reality

Nov 1, 2024 • 38:00

Intensive Treatment for Betrayal Trauma with Aarti Chidambaram

In recent years, the demand for "intensive treatment" has increased, as more and more betrayed partners seem methods of accelerating their healing process. Though relatively new to the field of professional counseling and coaching, intensives have become keystone elements of some individuals' recovery journeys. In this episode, Dr. Jake is joined by APSATS Board Member Aarti Chidambaram to discuss what intensives are and how they can benefit betrayed partners. Links: http://apsats.org http://

Oct 25, 2024 • 47:35

Healing the Traumatized Brain with Laura Childers

Advances in neurotherapy now allow specialized clinicians to take much of the guesswork out of understanding and working toward healing for those affected by trauma. APSATS Certified Clinical Partner Specialist Laura Childers is just such an expert, using cutting edge technologies to look into the brains of betrayed partners and recovering addicts in order to better diagnose and device treatments for deep change. Join this fascinating conversation between Dr. Jake and Laura as they discuss how n

Oct 18, 2024 • 57:10

Navigating the Holiday Season in the Midst of Betrayal with Rebecca Ray

In today's episode of Betrayal Recovery Radio, we delve into the complexities of the holiday season, a time filled with joy but often marred by the challenges of betrayal trauma. Joined by Rebecca Ray, we'll navigate the delicate dynamics faced by those affected by betrayal, whether as the betrayed or the betrayer. Rebecca Ray is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, licensed in Texas, Colorado, Missouri, and Florida and owner/founder of Ray Family Therapy in Houston, Texas. Rebecca

Dec 15, 2023 • 45:49

The Prevalence of Domestic Violence in the Lives of Partners of Sex Addicts | With Lisa Taylor

In this interview I share the results of my Masters thesis which show that rates of domestic violence are considerably higher in the lives of partners of sex addicts than in the general population. This is significant because women are arriving daily on therapists’ doorsteps seeking help for betrayal trauma, but with their experiences of DV under recognized and under disclosed. Moreover the study looked into what factors were associated with more frequent violence and damaging types of violence

Oct 26, 2023 • 50:29

Navigating Betrayal: Answering the Hard Questions with Conversations Podcast

Welcome to another thought-provoking episode of Betrayal Recovery Radio, hosted by Dr. Jake Porter. In this engaging installment titled "Navigating Betrayal: Answering the Hard Questions with Conversations Podcast," we delve deep into the complex landscape of betrayal within relationships. Joining Dr. Jake in this enlightening discussion are esteemed colleagues: Wendy Conquest, Dan Drake, Jeanne Vattuone, and Tim Stein. These experts are not only colleagues but also close friends who

Oct 5, 2023 • 56:00

Considering the Impact for Neurodiverse Couples with Autism and Asperger Traits | with Shawna Meek

Often when doing couples recovery work, the approach is from a neurotypical lens following betrayal trauma and sex addition. This may work for many couples, but what about when these approaches aren’t working for the long term healing of the relationship? Many couples share that it can be frustrating and discouraging especially when both partners in the couple ship desires growth and change. We are going to be talking about another lens and perspective to consider when one or both partners are

Aug 31, 2023 • 51:50

Betrayal Trauma Religious Leader Training, with Aviva Kohl and Barbara Steffens

In this podcast episode, we explore the Betrayal Trauma Religious Leader Training (BTRL), a customized program designed for professionals within religious and faith-based communities. Our interview with Aviva Kohl and Barbara Steffens uncovers the core of BTRL, focusing on the APSATS Multidimensional Partner Trauma Model (MPTM). Attendees learn to provide response, assessment, and support to those experiencing betrayal trauma, incorporating faith into their approach. The four-day training, suppl

Aug 18, 2023 • 59:12

Peak Parenting in the Midst of Betrayal & Addiction

Sex addiction and betrayal doesn't have to take your parenting to new lows. In fact, by focusing on your core values you can realign your efforts to breathe new life into your parenting. People wonder what to tell the children and how to become a "family in recovery." It is possible to achieve peak parenting by recognizing your weak spots and using tools to combat the things that are pulling you into defeat. Join us as we discuss how to navigate the road of recovery while reaching new, more mean

Aug 10, 2023 • 53:05

Recognizing and Responding to Destructive Relationship patterns in your relationship | With Kimberly Day

When your partner has a sexual addiction, acting out comes with the territory. Dealing with it is hard, even learning about it can be traumatic. But what about the behaviors INSIDE the relationship? How do you recognize and respond to inappropriate treatment from a partner? How do you become personally and relationally healthier when at least some of the trauma you find yourself experiencing is due to your partner's behavior inside the relationship? Whether overt or covert, whether emotio

Aug 5, 2023 • 47:20

Unraveling Cognitive Distortions: Navigating Healing Post Betrayal, with Pam Blizzard and Dr. Jake Porter | Part 2

In this episode, the Dr. Jake and Pam Blizzard delve into the realm of cognitive distortions often experienced by partners post-betrayal. They explore how trust erosion affects perception, leading to misconceptions such as overgeneralization, emotional reasoning, and catastrophizing. Real-life stories illustrate these distortions, while expert Jake and Pam offer practical advice for overcoming them. The discussion provides insight into how such distortions can sabotage relationship recovery and

Jul 27, 2023 • 31:46

Unraveling Cognitive Distortions: Navigating Healing Post Betrayal, with Pam Blizzard and Dr. Jake Porter | Part 1

In this episode, the Dr. Jake and Pam Blizzard delve into the realm of cognitive distortions often experienced by partners post-betrayal. They explore how trust erosion affects perception, leading to misconceptions such as overgeneralization, emotional reasoning, and catastrophizing. Real-life stories illustrate these distortions, while expert Jake and Pam offer practical advice for overcoming them. The discussion provides insight into how such distortions can sabotage relationship recovery and

Jul 21, 2023 • 30:40

Adult Children of Sex Addicts: Hidden Effects on Those in the Periphery - Part 2

The field of Sex Addiction has grown and expanded immensely over the last two decades, and as a result the field has a much greater understanding of not only the betraying partner but the betrayed. However, those who were in early childhood, perhaps teens, two decades ago have since grown into adulthood. As a result the sex addiction field is rapidly picking up pace in gaining an understanding of what the effects were on the children of these addicts. In this interview we hope to address hard qu

Jul 13, 2023 • 26:57

Adult Children of Sex Addicts: Hidden Effects on Those in the Periphery - Part 1

The field of Sex Addiction has grown and expanded immensely over the last two decades, and as a result the field has a much greater understanding of not only the betraying partner but the betrayed. However, those who were in early childhood, perhaps teens, two decades ago have since grown into adulthood. As a result the sex addiction field is rapidly picking up pace in gaining an understanding of what the effects were on the children of these addicts. In this interview we hope to address hard qu

Jul 6, 2023 • 28:16

From Crisis to Purpose and Passion with Fran Hopwood | Part 2

In the second part of this moving interview, Dr. Jake asks Fran Hopwood to reflect on the healing and recovery journey that she and her late husband Richard followed over the last nine years. The focus will be on Richard and his story of transformation and growth as an individual and as part of a coupleship. Richard's early problematic sexual behaviour re-emerged with the advent of broadband internet. After Fran's D-Day in 2013, Richard started his journey of recovery. Early on he rea

Jun 29, 2023 • 25:25

From Crisis to Purpose and Passion with Fran Hopwood | Part 1

In this moving interview, Dr. Jake asks Fran Hopwood to reflect on the healing and recovery journey that she and her late husband Richard followed over the last nine years. The focus will be on Richard and his story of transformation and growth as an individual and as part of a coupleship. Richard's early problematic sexual behaviour re-emerged with the advent of broadband internet. After Fran's D-Day in 2013, Richard started his journey of recovery. Early on he realised this was more

Jun 22, 2023 • 29:43

Taking on the Hard Questions, with Lyschel Burkett, Bonnie Burns, Pam Blizzard, and Dr. Jake Porter

"What if my husband won't see a therapist?" "When should we start having sex again?" "Why is he sober but still not connecting?" In this episode, Dr. Jake interviews the hostesses of the Hope for Wives podcast — Lyschel Burkett, Bonnie Burns, and Pam Blizzard. The three women are able to balance a plain-spoken, no-nonsense telling of the truth with compassion, support, and wisdom. Drawing from both their personal experience and professional expertise, Lyschel, Bonnie, and Pam take on hard ques

Jun 8, 2023 • 47:39

Returning to You™: A Conversation on Betrayal Trauma with Stacey Sadler, Cheryl Rogers, Kathy Reynolds, and Dr. Jake Porter

Over the last two decades, the way mental health professionals understand and treat the experience of betrayal has radically shifted from an emphasis on co-addiction and codependency to an embrace of the traumatic nature of intimate betrayal. In this conversation with Stacey Sadler, Cheryl Rogers, and Kathy Reynolds, they reflect both personally and professionally on this evolution and discuss how neglecting the treatment of betrayal trauma has consequences not only for the betrayed partner, but

May 4, 2023 • 53:07

Grief and Mourning as a Collective Experience, with Cat Etherington and Dr. Jake Porter

Grief: The sticky middle piece of the betrayal recovery experience and the place many partners and couples get stuck. It seems that many in Western culture have lost the intuitive communal mourning processes that are still so common in other cultures. We have individualized and privatized our grief and mourning into a strictly personal affair. But there is so much value in the shared and collective experience of mourning, the knowing and being known of letting it be seen. Join Cat and Jake as th

Mar 23, 2023 • 52:03

Help. Her. Heal. with Carol "the Coach" Juergensen Sheets and Dr. Jake Porter

Carol the Coach returns to Betrayal Recovery Radio to share more about how to heal from betrayal. In this conversation with Dr. Jake, she focuses on the stages of healing from betrayal trauma and also goes deep into the topic of posttraumatic growth. Carol also gives a sneak peak into her upcoming keynote at the Restoring Hearts Conference. Links in this episode: http://apsats.org http://drjakeporter.com http://chooseconnectionsummit.com http://RestoringHeartsConference.org http://sexhelpwithcar

Mar 16, 2023 • 42:41

Connection: Brain-Based Healing, Empathy, and Authentic Living - with Dr. Windell Gill, PSAP, and Laura Childers, LPC, CCPS

We are inherently social beings. Our brains are wired to connect, and when we feel disconnected, we struggle. If we feel isolated, our chances of having some type of psychiatric diagnosis increases. In the brain, the mirror neuron network helps us to understand subtleties in social, emotional and linguistic interchanges. The extended mirror neuron network helps us to interpret these subtleties. If our mirror neuron system is dysregulated, we struggle with being able to connect

Mar 9, 2023 • 57:49

The Unexpected Gift of Betrayal: Friendship, with Lyschel Burket and Dr. Jake Porter

The aftermath of betrayal can put all of our relationships into question. Secrecy, confusion, fear of judgement, and shame can lead to the loss of long time relationships as a woman sorts through her pain and tries to make sense of her reality. Join us as we talk with Lyschel Burket, Lead Hope Caster for Hope Redefined and podcast co-host for Hope For Wives.  She will talk about the unexpected gift that comes when we are able to find community that can walk in the mud with us in this particular

Mar 2, 2023 • 50:14

Emotional Abuse and Sex Addiction Recovery, with Tamara Lichfield and Dr. Jake Porter

In marriages and intimate relationships affected by sexual addiction, it is not uncommon for emotional abuse be present. Sometimes the abusive behaviors can increase with more intensity when the one struggling with the addiction becomes "sober" but is not fully committed to recovery. These behaviors are often maladaptive coping mechanisms fueled by shame and stemming from unhealed trauma. Many do not realize they are engaging in these unhealthy coping skills. Also, their intent is not to h

Feb 23, 2023 • 44:19

"That's Gaslighting!" (Or Is It?) with Sarah Morales and Dr. Jake Porter

While GASLIGHTING is now a pop-culture buzz word, AND Merriam-Webster's word of the year, a lot of what is out there is either misinformation, or incomplete information. The result? A LOT of people are incorrectly slapping the label of gaslighting on to situations that are actually NOT a gaslighting experience. The overuse of the word has left most of us with MORE questions than answers. Let's take a few situations and look at whether or not gaslighting is occurring, and if not — why not!

Feb 16, 2023 • 57:17

How to Understand Your Partner's Sexual Fantasies - with Dr. Jake Porter and Drew Boa

TRIGGER WARNING: This episode contains content that could be upsetting or painful to individuals at particular points in their journey to healing from trauma. Please honor your intuition about whether this is the right time for you to engage this episode. Discovering the specifics of your partner's sexual fantasies or behaviors can be devastating and disturbing. However, fantasies don't have to be scary. Sexual fantasies lose much of their power when you can understand the story behind them. We'

Jan 26, 2023 • 57:11

Unlocking Family of Origin Issues - Part 2, with Dr. Jake Porter

(Part 2 of 2) "Family of Origin" is the term used in counseling work to refer to the relational systems into which we were born and raised. Our families of origin leave lasting impacts on us all. They are the source of so many of our most basic ways of thinking, feeling, and behaving. A crucial step in healing for all people is to gain an awareness of our families of origin. This awareness takes us outside our biased perspective as participants and gives us the view of an outside, unbiased obser

Dec 8, 2022 • 51:03

Unlocking Family of Origin Issues - Part 1, with Dr. Jake Porter

(Part 1 of 2) "Family of Origin" is the term used in counseling work to refer to the relational systems into which we were born and raised. Our families of origin leave lasting impacts on us all. They are the source of so many of our most basic ways of thinking, feeling, and behaving. A crucial step in healing for all people is to gain an awareness of our families of origin. This awareness takes us outside our biased perspective as participants and gives us the view of an outside, unbi

Dec 1, 2022 • 38:58

Sexual Intimacy in the Betrayal Healing Process, with Dr. Jake Porter & Dr. Crystal Hollenbeck

Everything about your sexual health is impacted when you are betrayed by someone you love and trust. Dr. Crystal Hollenbeck is a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist, an ASSECT Certified Sex Therapist, and an APSATS Certified Clinical Partner Specialist. She helps betrayed partners move from unhealthy to healthy sexuality in the healing process after betrayal. Dr. Hollenbeck understands the traumatic impact on you as an individual and as a sexual partner and she offers hope for pa

Nov 10, 2022 • 55:04

Being Sober Is Not Enough, with Dr. Jake Porter and Dr. Eddie Capparucci

Sex addiction is often an intimacy disorder. For many, its roots take hold during the early stages of childhood development when we should be given the instruction and nurturing needed to emotionally bond with others. When this does not happen, we struggle to feel love, or for that matter, feel any emotions. We are emotionally undeveloped. This leaves us lacking the skills and resources needed to emotionally connect on a deeper level. So even if one becomes sexually-sober, if one does not learn

Oct 20, 2022 • 53:09

Is Betrayal Trauma Real? Part 2 - with Dr. Jake Porter

Betrayal Trauma is a reality. It’s not weakness of character, lack of forgiveness, or a sign of resentment. The discovery of secret betrayal has a literal, physical affect on the brain and its ability to process and act upon the data we take in as we move through life. In this episode, you’ll hear the second half of Dr. Jake Porter’s keynote presentation on Betrayal Trauma at the XPOSED conference from earlier this year in Portland, Oregon. In it, he discusses what Betrayal Trauma is, how it aff

Oct 6, 2022 • 30:44

Is Betrayal Trauma Real? Part 1 - with Dr. Jake Porter

Betrayal Trauma is a reality. It’s not weakness of character, lack of forgiveness, or a sign of resentment. The discovery of secret betrayal has a literal, physical affect on the brain and its ability to process and act upon the data we take in as we move through life. In this episode, you’ll hear the first half of Dr. Jake Porter’s keynote presentation on Betrayal Trauma at the XPOSED conference from earlier this year in Portland, Oregon. In it, he discusses what Betrayal Trauma is, how it affe

Sep 29, 2022 • 26:07

When Addicts Don't Want the Help They Need, with Tiffany Comiskey and Dr. Jake Porter

Betrayed partners are usually so traumatized by the discovery of their partners' addiction or betrayal that they are trying to just put together the reality of what life is and has truly been. The first phase of healing from betrayal trauma is safety and stabilization. One of the first things that needs to happen is to find out what the betrayed partner needs to feel safe, and that usually means involving the betrayer. But what happens if the ones who did the betraying discard their partners' sa

Sep 8, 2022 • 55:49

Divorce Prevention 101, with Kim Hansen Petroni, CPC and Dr. Jake Porter

Divorce might seem like the obvious answer when betrayal occurs, but there are ways to save a marriage or relationship if the betrayer and partner are willing to step into healing. In this conversation between Dr. Jake and APSATS Certified Partner Coach Kim Hansen Petroni, they discuss the topic of divorce after the betrayal from several angles. Links from the show: http://apsats.org http://drjakeporter.com http://go.boundariessummit.com http://www.coachinghope4u.com http://sex

Sep 1, 2022 • 40:32

What About the Kids? Disclosing Sex Addiction to Children, with Carley Pool and Dr. Jake Porter

One of the trickiest scenarios recovering addicts and betrayed partners must navigate involves disclosure to children. How much do you tell? When do you share? Who should do it? While there's no one-size-fits-all approach to answer these questions, some principles are generally helpful to those who are facing this reality. In this episode, APSATS-trained Carley Pool, LPC Associate discusses these matters with Dr. Jake. Links from show: http://apsats.org http://drjakeporter.com http://boundariess

Aug 25, 2022 • 49:21

Core Values for Couples (Part 2), with Dr. Jake Porter

(This is the second part of a two-part series on core values. If you've not yet heard part one, go listen to that first!) Everyone has values. Some people choose their values on purpose. Others fall into valuing things that lead them away from the life they want most. Core values act as guides, pointing us in the direction of our dreams, hope, and expectations. This is true for individuals, but it can be true for couples, as well. Discover the power of shared values in relationships throu

Aug 18, 2022 • 49:42

Core Values for Couples, Part One, with Dr. Jake Porter

Everyone has values. Some people choose their values on purpose. Others fall into valuing things that lead them away from the life they want most. Core values act as guides, pointing us in the direction of our dreams, hope, and expectations. This is true for individuals, but it can be true for couples, as well. Discover the power of shared values in relationships through this episode with Dr. Jake Porter! http://apsats.org http://drjakeporter.com

Aug 11, 2022 • 43:58

Empathy Heals Relationships

In this conversation on the needs of couples after the discovery of sexual addiction, Dr. Jake is joined by Carol the Coach discuss her ERCEM model, the Early Recovery Couples Empathy Model. Jake and Carol talk about the three phases of healing for betrayal trauma, and how the betraying partner can help to heal the relationship, despite being the cause of pain. They discuss what true empathy is, and how it can transform the dynamic of the relationship and open the way to true healing. http://www

Aug 4, 2022 • 46:02

Adding Attunement to Empathy, with Julie St.Onge, CPC

In Julie's interview, she will discuss why attunement is important, how it can be developed, the three C's of Non-Verbal Communication: context, cluster, congruency. Albert Mehrabian's 55%, 38%, 7% Rule states that only 7% of what we communicate is with words, and yet we focus so many tools on this aspect. The rest of what we say is through signals, micro-expressions, facial reflexes, breathing patterns, and noises. Developing attunement to your partner's distress signals prior to the need for t

Jul 21, 2022 • 41:30

Surviving Sexual Betrayal, with Dr. Barbara Steffens and Kathy Reynolds

Betrayal can be devastating to your partner and your relationship, but many couples still love one another and are committed to mending their relationships. In order to do this, it is important for the unfaithful party to understand the traumatic nature of betrayal, and understand how to respond sensitively to their partner's pain. It is also critical they adopt a stance of honesty, transparency and commitment in their relationships. This often includes participating in a facilitated disclosure

Jul 7, 2022 • 50:21

Recognizing and Healing from Childhood Neglect, with Enod Gray and Dr. Jake Porter

Many people initially seek therapy for problems in their intimate relationships unaware that attachment patterns established in childhood directly affect behavior in their adult relationships. It is important to dismantle and become mindful of survival strategies unconsciously created in childhood that cause dysfunction in adult life. Neglect and our reaction to it is one of the most subtle and unrecognized of those problems which interferes with our ability to love and be loved. We are naturall

Jun 30, 2022 • 43:06

Life Integrity, with Michelle Dyett-Welcome and Dr. Jake Porter

After the discovery of sexual betrayal, betrayed partners need much more than "mere sobriety" for trust to be rebuilt. In this episode, Dr. Jake interview APSATS Certified Partner Coach Michelle Dyett-Welcome on the topic of life integrity. By focusing on issues of character and the necessity of core values living, those who have committed betrayal can experience deep healing for themselves, and make a space for the healing of their partners and relationships. Links mentioned in the show:

Jun 23, 2022 • 45:09

What I've Learned So Far: Essential Reflections on Working with Addiction and Betrayal, with Dr. Jake Porter

In this episode, Dr. Jake reflects on some of the things he's learned over the years he's worked with sex addicts and betrayed partners. He discusses why these lessons are important for both professionals in the field but also those individuals seeking to recovery from the consequences of addiction and betrayal. Dr. Jake expands on these eight lessons: Betrayal is an issue of justice. Disclosures can be healing rather than traumatic. Co-occurring disorders must be assessed, diagnosed, and tr

Jun 9, 2022 • 56:53

Disclosing Truth After Betrayal, with Dan Drake, Janice Caudill, and Dr. Jake Porter

Discovery of sexual betrayal erodes safety, trust and intimacy in relationships. This brings devastation to the partner and the relationship. So how do we start the process of healing after sexual betrayal? One major way to begin healing is through a formal disclosure process, facilitated by a professional. In this episode, we’ll explore what a formal disclosure is, as well as the benefits and risks of doing a disclosure. We’ll address best practices in the full disclosure process, including exp

Jun 9, 2022 • 54:58

Disclosing Truth after Betrayal with Dan Drake, Janice Caudill & Dr. Jake Porter

Discovery of sexual betrayal erodes safety, trust and intimacy in relationships. This brings devastation to the partner and the relationship. So how do we start the process of healing after sexual betrayal? One major way to begin healing is through a formal disclosure process, facilitated by a professional. In this episode, we’ll explore what a formal disclosure is, as well as the benefits and risks of doing a disclosure. We’ll address best practices in the full disclosure process, including exp

Jun 2, 2022 • 55:00

Resiliency in the Wake of Trauma, with Sara Schulting-Kranz and Dr. Jake Porter

Our difficult life experiences and traumas, including those we have collectively experienced in the last few years, have created an opening for personal growth, healing, and an opportunity to connect within our community in a way that we were never offered in the past. Through her own experience of walking through personal devastation and loss while healing in nature, Sara shares the principles she’s developed and uses to guide men and women on healing retreats in the Grand Canyon and Alaska. To

May 26, 2022 • 54:01

Putting Together the "Plan" After Betrayal w/ Tiffany Comiskey & Dr. Jake Porter

When someone is suffering from Betrayal Trauma, they are typically frightened, angry, confused, sometimes frozen in a state of shock wanting to just feel safe. So safety and stabilization is the immediate mission with a betrayed partner. Throughout the healing process the partner will constantly be pointed back to the issue of safety because that is the root to being able to trust again. Regardless of how long she has been on her journey, she can have a plan, which will be formable as she moves

May 5, 2022 • 47:57

How Intimacy Clarifies Grief and Empowers Growth

Both the addict and the partner suffer from the loss of time, meaning, and clarity. Connecting together through pain, shame, and helplessness (vulnerability) enables them to recreate a shared story of suffering and recovering together. Learning to grieve one's own losses is critical for individual recovery; learning to grieve shared losses is critical to relational recovery. When the addict, in particular, learns to walk through the partner's experience there is an empathic exchange that recrea

Apr 21, 2022 • 49:11

Understanding Grief After the Discovery of Betrayal, with Dr. Jake Porter

Grief is an inevitable part of the healing processes for those who have been impacted by the discovery of betrayal, as well as for those who have done the betraying. Grief and mourning, the second phase of APSATS Multidimensional Partner Trauma Model, is where those who have experienced loss begin to create a new meaning that leads to healing and the ability to move forward. In this episode, Dr. Jake discusses grief as it relates to betrayal trauma. Discovery insights from clinical theories of g

Apr 14, 2022 • 59:34

When Self-Help Hurts, with Dr. Jake Porter and Jessica Guillory

Recovery is meant to be a journey, not a destination. Healing is not an end unto itself, but a process needed to make another way of living possible, without the weight of trauma and addiction. In this conversation between Dr. Jake and Jessica Guillory, an APSATS-trained LPC, they discuss how people can begin to see signs that efforts for recovery might be getting in the way of post-traumatic growth.

Apr 7, 2022 • 49:36

Addiction & Betrayal Q&A, with Dr. Jake Porter and Andrea Rogers, CPC

The twin processes of recovery from sex addiction and healing from betrayal trauma can be complicated. The complexity of the wounds, both individually and relationally, can leave people feeling disoriented and lost. In the Q&A session, Dr. Jake Porter and APSATS Certified Partner Coach Andrea Rogers take on those questions from actually folks in the trenches of the recovery process. Links mentioned during the show: http://APSATS.org https://www.fullyalivecoachingllc.com http://drjakeporter.c

Mar 31, 2022 • 1:00:23

Couples Heal with Empathy, with Carol the Coach and Dr. Jake Porter

Couples who have suffered the consequences of sexual addiction and betrayal have quite the journey ahead. While traditional models of recovery focus on parallel processes of recovery for the addicted and betrayed partners, Carol the Coach's new model — ERCEM — helps couples begin healing together through the power of empathy. Links mentioned in the show: APSATS.org ChooseConnectionSummit.com https://sexhelpwithcarolthecoach.com/ DrJakePorter.com

Mar 24, 2022 • 57:00

Tell the Truth: Using Polygraphs Effectively w/ Stephen Cabler & Dr. Jake Porter

The use of polygraphs in sexual addiction recovery has been a long-debated subject, but one with increasing use by many clinicians and coaches. Many disclosure processes now take advantage of polygraph technology as a tool to increase effectiveness. In this conversation with polygraph examiner Stephen Cabler, Dr. Jake draws out some basics about how to use polygraphs effectively in the recovery process.

Mar 17, 2022 • 57:02

Effective Advocacy After Spiritual Trauma w/ Stacey Sadler and Dr. Jake Porter

A sadly common experience of betrayed partners is finding additional trauma rather than support when they go to leaders of their faith communities. Though they often mean well, religious leaders sometimes end up furthering the damage done to coming to them in crisis after the discovery. Betrayed partners need to understand the dynamics of spiritual trauma in order to process and heal from the harm they've received.  In this episode, Dr. Jake interviews APSATS Certified Clinical Partner Speciali

Mar 10, 2022 • 50:15

HONORING CAROL THE COACH: A CELEBRATION OF SERVICE w/ Dr. Jake Porter

With 175 episodes and more than 200,000 listens, Carol Juergensen Sheets started APSATS' Betrayal Recovery Radio podcast and built it into an established and trusted source of information, comfort, hope, and help to individuals and couples suffering from the effects of sex addiction and betrayal trauma. After three years of service, Carol the Coach is stepping down as the show's host, passing the reins to Dr. Jake Porter. In this episode, Dr. Jake will host a time of celebration honoring Carol t

Feb 3, 2022 • 56:54

HONORING CAROL THE COACH: A CELEBRATION OF SERVICE with Dr. Jake Porter

With 175 episodes and more than 200,000 listens, Carol Juergensen Sheets started APSATS' Betrayal Recovery Radio podcast and built it into an established and trusted source of information, comfort, hope, and help to individuals and couples suffering from the effects of sex addiction and betrayal trauma. After three years of service, Carol the Coach is stepping down as the show's host, passing the reins to Dr. Jake Porter. In this episode, Dr. Jake will host a time of celebration honoring Carol t

Jan 30, 2022 • 58:00

Thinking Outside of the Box with Carol the Coach

No one should do “this” alone..  And with GFY Coaching, is going to describe their mission to ensure you don’t have to. Carol will be interviewing both Gail and Judy who have shifted their vision from establishing and growing our business to what some would call, a grandiose proposition, where we work to reach ALL partners who want and need help overcoming the pain and devastation caused by sexual betrayal. There are so many women out there who desperately need the help, but are unaware of it…

Dec 10, 2021 • 40:20

Find Your Post Traumatic Growth

In today's podcast, Carol the Coach reminds partners that they can get to PTG!

Dec 5, 2021 • 25:52

A Couple Finds Their Purpose with Carol the Coach

Carol the Coach is talking with Mathew and Joanna Raabsmith who work together helping couples and individuals find healing and transformation when sexual betrayal occurs. Today, they will share their own story of healing and restoration from the damage of addiction and betrayal in their marriage. They seek to use their training and experience to empower other couples to find healing and wholeness in their own unique journey.

Nov 6, 2021 • 1:00:00

What Can He Do to Understand Your Problem with Carol the Coach

During phase two of APSATS trauma model, the SA, and often times the partner herself may ask “Why can’t I/she get over it” or “why are we stuck and not moving forward”? When working with couples it is essential that the SA learn As much information as he can about betrayal trauma. And part of that information is not only about the timing and the patience that the SA needs to have but also how he needs to have the tools to help his partner move towards forgiveness. The partner never will “get ove

Oct 27, 2021 • 45:13

Is It Possible to Renew Your Sexuality Again with Carol the Coach

Carol the Coach is interviewing Bonny Burns and her mission is to help couples re-engage in sexual intimacy after sexual addiction. It is easy for couples to feel defeated. Usually couples experience sexuality at different levels, Listen as Bonny gives some tips to restore the trust and communication that a couple needs to build safety.

Oct 21, 2021 • 50:58

ERCEM--New Couples Recovery Model with Carol the Coach

Carol the Coach is announcing her new model that she is teaching clinicians and coaches to Help Them Heal. ERCEM teaches the addict how to help them heal.

Oct 15, 2021 • 20:55

The Queen of Trigger Busters with Carol the Coach

One of the greatest casualties to sexual addiction is when a partner has to deal with triggers. Dorit Reichental  has developed a Trigger Busters technique that sex addicts can use with their partners to assist in managing the triggers. Listen as she and Carol the Coach dialogue about how a husband can be the support she needs to quiet the triggers!

Oct 9, 2021 • 59:43

The Difference Between Sexual Sobriety and Recovery with Carol the Coach

Carol the Coach will be interviewing Dan and Angie Andrew who want the community to understand the difference between sobriety and true recovery. They believe that the coupleship with thrive when both people do their work and support each other's recovery. They will discuss the tools for recovery  that keep the lines of communication open and promote good self care.

Oct 3, 2021 • 1:00:00

Attachment Styles of the Betrayed with Carol the Coach

Today Carol the Coach will be interviewing James Annear of Core Relationship Recovery who has researched the attachment styles of betrayed partners and has found extreme wounding that effects deep trust and intimacy. Today, he will be talking about the 4 attachment styles and how they are effected when "heart wounding" occurs.

Sep 26, 2021 • 1:00:26

You Deserve to Know the Truth with Carol the Coach

Carol the Coach will be interviewing Dan Drake and Janice Caudill on their new book, Full Disclosure: How To Share The Truth After Sexual Betrayal.  They recognize that doing a full disclosure can be both daunting and difficult, so they will be talking about their step by step approach they have created in their new workbooks. They have participated in hundreds of disclosures and have years of experience and are committed to helping you navigate a complicated yet vital part of healing after sexu

Sep 17, 2021 • 1:00:19

Does Your Partner Have An Intimacy Disorder with Carol the Coach

Carol the Coach will be interviewing Marie Kriebs an expert in intimacy disorders, partner betrayal and vulnerability. As an APSATS trained therapist, she believes it is important to educate betrayed partners about healthy intimacy and the importance of personal growth and self awareness. She will be sharing some of the myths about vulnerability and helping our listeners to identify how and when they can be more vulnerable.

Sep 9, 2021 • 59:18

Educating the Church About "The P Word"with Carol the Coach

Listen as Carol the Coach interviews Catherine Etherington who is a part of the Naked Truth Project about some new programing that is coming out that will help you and the church know how to support addicts, partners and families all over the world! They have set up a P Word Conference to stream critical information to help set up programming to keep our communities safe. This conference will have experts from all over the world who will start the conversation to find hope and strength in the re

Sep 2, 2021 • 26:57

Is Sex Addiction a Crime with Carol the Coach

Sex addicts who knowingly have sex with their spouses while having unprotected sex with others are violating their spouses by undermining her self-determination over her body.  When the partner of the SA has no idea she's been "having sex" with her spouse's sex workers, a crime has been committed. Listen as Carol the Coach interviews Alex Katehakis, Ph.D, Clinical Director of Center for Healthy Sex, who believes that sex in a relationship where intimate deception is taking place is a non-consen

Aug 26, 2021 • 56:10

Healing Broken Hearts with Carol the Coach

Today, Carol the Coach is interviewing Laura Jenkins and Sherri Payne, who have supported the APSATS team to help women who are hurting and alone. They would like to share their story of the betrayal they experienced in their marriages over many years, how Ithey  said “no more”, and overcame their fears to rebuild a life that was shattered. You may have experienced this, or know a woman close to you who struggles in her married relationship. Laura Jenkins says, "Our struggles are held very clos

Aug 19, 2021 • 36:46

How To Work Through Partner Betrayal with Carol the Coach

Partner betrayal is devestating and you need the skills to get through it. Listen as Carol the Coach gives you tips on how to work through the pain! Today, Joanna Raabsmith is going to be talking about how she empowerw partners as their spouses struggle with sex addiction, infedelity and betrayal. When partners find out about the discovery, they typically feel disempowered and the imbalance can make them feel even more unsafe and insecure. As they become more empowered, they have more control an

Aug 12, 2021 • 42:25

Why Grief is Vital to Healing

Grief is a step that many many betrayed partners miss in the aftermath of Discovery day. However, it's vital in the healing process. It is in the 2nd phase of the Multidimensional Partner Trauma Model. It matters. Today, Lyschel Burket is going to talk about why grief is so important to the mind, body and spirit and how to effectively work through it to get to restoration of self.

Aug 5, 2021 • 45:06

A Community Filled with Rich Resources with Carol the Coach

Today Carol will be talking with Melissa and Rebecca who are coordinating a community for women who have been through partner betrayal. They describe WeTonglen as a safe community for partners and ex-partners of , sex, and love addicts to share their stories of healing and hope, and find comfort and resources to aid on the journey of mending our broken hearts. We believe sex addiction is a deep-seated intimacy disorder created by early life attachment wounds in the addict. We support partners an

Jul 29, 2021 • 43:00

How Can You Create Your Own Transformative Experience with Carol the Coach

Today, Carol the Coach is talking with trauma specialist Dr. Diane Hovey who believes that after the disclosures, the endless questions, river of tears, and tsunami of shame, the pain remains. The journey to uncover the roots of what went wrong fades in and out of the mists of  reality. Some resign. Others encounter a shift in perspective that no longer allows them to continue in the same manner. This is a turning point. A point where possibility is an opening for a new beginning. It is a place

Jul 22, 2021 • 46:39

Teaching Empathy Skills Around the World with Carol the Coach

Today, Carol the Coach and Dr. Jake Porter will be talking about the Empathy Certification that is teaching Clinicians and Coaches how to encorporate empathy skills in early couples recovery work. ERCEM (Early Recovery Couples Empathy Model), is a premier relational training and certification that navigates professionals how to work through sexual addiction and partner betrayal from the APSATS model using the 3 phase model that works with couples to get them to post-traumatic growth. This is a p

Jul 16, 2021 • 45:52

How Do You Rebuild Trust with Carol the Coach

When you are betrayed by someone you trust, your whole world is turned upside down.  Dr. Crystal Hollenbeck is going to discuss the devastating impact betrayal has on every part of your person and how to survive one day at a time.  She will share how broken trust can make you question your beliefs about your spouse, friends, yourself, your life, and God, and will help you see how you can learn to trust once again.  Dr. Hollenbeck is an APSATS Certified Clinical Partner Specialist, a Certified Se

Jul 15, 2021 • 45:47

A Community for Couples In Recovery with Carol the Coach

Karen and John Rellos will be sharing a community they are building for couples who are recovering from sex addiction and partner betrayal. They recognize the need for couples to have a safe community to "walk beside" other couples on this very bumpy messy road of healing. They want to provide a membership that fosters ongoing support in a safe private community with other couples who have been impacted by sexual betrayal. Listen as they share with Carol the Coach their vision to support couples

Jul 14, 2021 • 43:38

My Spouse Was Extorted for 50K by a Transgendered Prostitute w/ Carol the Coach

Carol the Coach interviews Michelle whose husband was extorted for 50K and Michelle shares how she is coping and struggling with his choices.

Jul 1, 2021 • 1:00:01

A Workshop for Betrayed Wives with Carol the Coach

Today Carol the Coach will be interviewing a recovery coach who has created a unique program for  betrayed wives. He explains that after a few years in The Silent Addiction as a sex addiction recovery coach, and also working as a workshp counselor for Be Broken and their Gateway to Freedom Weekend Workships for sex addicts, my heart has been burdened by the brokenness of the betrayed spouse. As a person who actually created a betrayed spouse by my own improprieties of use and an illicit affair I

Jun 19, 2021 • 46:31

Porn Can Be the Gateway for Illegal Activity with Carol the Coach

People will tell you that "it's only. looking at images." But we know that looking at adult images can take anyone down and today Carol the Coach will be interviewing Joshua Shea who is a recovering ponography addict who made the error of engaging a teenage girl in an online chatroom for which he was arrested and served 6 months in jail. Joshua says that it all started with . He has gotten clean, and has made it his mission to help others with the addiction. Listen as he talks about his struggl

Jun 17, 2021 • 1:00:00

How Are Children and Families Affected by Sex Addiction with Carol the Coach

Repeat of APSATS vice-president Jessica Eidens whose specialty is to assist partners in how to handle the complexities of Sex Addiction in the family.

Jun 10, 2021 • 59:44

Validation is So Important in Empathy Building with Carol the Coach

Validation is so important to creating intimacy and connection. Often the validation piece is the hardest part for people to “get”. This process helps learners understand how and why it is so important and just how to do it. The step by step process walks them through it easily. Today, Carol the Coach will be interviewing APSATS therapist, Stacey Sadler hascreated the Victory Through Validation program. It consists of a FREE 8-day e-course in the form of 8 daily emails taking one letter of the

Jun 3, 2021 • 45:46

Becoming Whole: Healing from Emotional Abuse with Carol the Coach

Emotional abuse can have devestating affects on partners. They are so vulnerable and their self esteem is already fragile from betrayal and then they experience the emotional abuse and they question theirselves and their reality.  Raquel Custer is currently a Bloom for Women betrayal trauma coach at Addo Recovery. She is a certified life coach specializing in betrayal trauma, mindfulness practices, and family life. She is trained through APSATS, the Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma

May 27, 2021 • 43:56

Does Your Husband Exhibit Narcissistic Traits with Carol the Coach

Riana Milne knows that 9 out of 10 women struggle in life and love. Partner betrayal results in such a trauma wounding that leaves you wondering if you will ever be able to trust him again. And if he continues to be self-absorbed and self-interested leabing empathy behind you may want to assess for narcissistic personality disorder. Today Riana discusses that disorder and helps you to know where you need to go next. She is going to help you learn the signs.

May 20, 2021 • 45:50

A Male Partner's Experience with Carol the Coach

Male partners seem to face a special circumstance in their betrayal because there are less resources available and the fight an extra layer of shame because it effects their masculinity. Carol the Coach will be interviewing Gary Ownes who is a male spouse of a female sex addict. He has written a book to help other men who find themsellves in the battle of their lives. Gary shares his recovery story and his transformation back into his self esteem and masulinity.He wrote Betrayed Husbands Surviva

May 13, 2021 • 54:15

How Do You Cope With A Husband Who Has Offended with Carol the Coach

It can be incredibly challenging when your husband has engaged in illegal behaviors that result in arrest. Partner betrayal is difficult enough to navigate but when it meets up with the legal system it brings a multitde of other factors to have to cope with and process. Today, Samantha Ammann shares She loves her work with partners of sex addicts who are in crisis because they are dealing with SA's who struggle withoffending behaviors. This population suffers from more chaos, uncertainty and tra

May 6, 2021 • 40:00

What Is Dissociative Identity Disorder with Carol the Coach

Today, Carol the Coach interviews Rebecca Ray wh wants to talk about the dissociative process that can affect partners due to on-going stress, abuse, and psychological terror. This disorder causes disruptions or breakdowns in memory, awareness, identity and or perception and she wants are listeners to know that they CAN live normal lives when they manage the symptoms and the triggers!

Apr 29, 2021 • 47:06

Learn How to Grow Stronger with Carol the Coach

If you want to learn from the Master....we have an expert on post traumatic growth on the show to help you with betrayal and other forms of trauma. Today Carol the Coach is interviewing Dr. Dayton who has been a guest expert on NBC, CNN, MSNBC, Montel, Rikki Lake, John Walsh, and Geraldo. She is the author of 15 books including Neuropsychodrama in the Treatment of Relational Trauma, The ACoA Trauma Syndrome: How Childhood Trauma Impacts Adult Relationships, Emotional Sobriety: From Relationship

Apr 22, 2021 • 55:15

A Sex Adddicts Journey to Teach Men How to Rebuild the Relationship with CTC

Today Carol the Coach will be interviewing Matthew, who will be sharing about his work helping men who have committed betrayal and/or who struggle with unwanted sexual behavior restore their lives and relationships. He and his wife Joanna, have been working in the field of betrayal/addiction recovery for over 5 years helping couples rebuild what was lost. He explains to Carol the Coach that his particular focus of this effort has been in coaching men to reclaim their authentic, healthy self in o

Apr 15, 2021 • 53:04

Complex Trauma and the Aftermath with Carol the Coach

Betrayal trauma creates a pain that has been described as worse than the death of a loved one. Carol the Coach will be interviewing Amanda Elliott Asproni who wants to help betrayed partners work through the trauma. Clients who come into counseling with betrayal trauma alongside untreated complex trauma/PTSD struggle with the healing process in nuanced ways compared to betrayal trauma alone. She will be explaining the differences for clients who present with both complex and betrayal trauma?  An

Apr 8, 2021 • 48:11

The Pandamic Has Changed Everything or Has It ... with Carol the Coach

During the last year, all of our lives have changed drastically. While we now have more access to therapy and recovery groups than ever thanks to online platforms and Telehealth, we are also facing isolation and stressors that can severely derail or escalate addiction and trauma. Recovery in a post pandemic world takes new levels of commitment, but can also deepen our growth more than ever. Today Carol the Coach will be interviewing Faith Niece who works with partners and families to navigate th

Apr 1, 2021 • 40:26

A Relationship Restoration Program for Couples with Carol the Coach

There are many types of residential,  intensive and individual programs designed to help the addict, but today, Carol the Coach will be interviewing Timothy Lee, who founded  the New York Pathways Relationship Restoration Program. We are featuring this program  because it works from a partner sensitive approach in that it includes loooking at partner trauma. Timothy describes treating both the addict and the betrayed partner and working to restore the relationship. He defines the addicts program

Mar 25, 2021 • 46:12

Tools To Help You Heal from Partner Betrayal with Carol the Coach

Today Carol the Coach is interviewing Jenni Rochelle who has created a coaching program for women healing from betrayal trauma.  It’s a six-month, private coaching program for women who are in the later stages of healing and are ready to reclaim and rediscover themselves.   The website is www.jennirochelle.com/beautyafterbetrayal

Mar 18, 2021 • 44:30

Understanding The Recovery of Partner Betrayal with Carol the Coach

Carol's guest was unable to appear so she talked about her new book "Unleashing Your Power" and how that book can move you through the 3 stages of partner betrayal. As you listen to the show, ask yourself what you can do to detach from the pain and grow from the inner strength that you have inside.

Mar 11, 2021 • 37:51

Sleep Issues Can Feed Addictions and Trauma with Carol the Coach

If you are not getting the restorative sleep that you need, then you are not functioning at your best.  Depending on how bad your sleep is can inform as to how low your functioning may be. Whaat we know is that sex addiction and partner betrayal greatly effect your sleep quantiy and quality. Laura Childers studies brain activity and will be talking about how sleep issues can feed addictions.  The desire for comfort, calmness in an over aroused brain.  It can do the same for trauma as often the a

Mar 11, 2021 • 38:00

Helping the Sex Addict Develop A Healthy Sex Plan with Carol the Coach

Returning to a healthy sexual relationship is complex and often times partners want to know that their spouse will not be triggered by resuming  a sexual relationship. Partners do not want to be compared to unhealthy sexual images or experiences and wish they could "know" what their  husband is thinking while they are being intimate. Today, Carol the Coach is interviewing Alex Katehakis, who has written a workbook for sex addicts  to help them develop a sexual health plan that emphasizes the

Mar 4, 2021 • 49:42

Can Brain Spotting Heal the Brain with Carol the Coach

Lots of professionals are finding brainspotting an efffective technique to process trauma. Today, Carol the Coach is interviewing Julie StOnges who took the training and has found it is absolutely the quickest way to help children and people who have ADHD. She also believes it can help with partner betrayal. She has been tracking clients progress and their emotional states and have found measurable differences . She saw amazing patterns of processing, pain, relief, joy and even God spots. They c

Feb 25, 2021 • 47:07

Experiential Therapy Can Unlock Doors to Healing with Carol the Coach

There are many great forms of therapy out there today to help partners and sex addicts process betrayal, trauma, recovery, and other important issues for healing.Today, Mike Vaugn shares with partners, a powerful type of therapy that can connect addicts to the pain that may have contributed to their addiction and deceit.  One of the more powerful types of therapy is called experiential therapy. We all know that the joys and sorrows in life impact not only our minds, but also our bodies. With tha

Feb 18, 2021 • 47:50

How Can You Heal Wounded Marriages

Sex Addiction can fatally wound a marriage relationhsip.  Dr. Crystal Hollenbeck is an APSATS therapist and helps marriages move from a place of woundedness to a place of healing.  She conducts Three Day Marriage Intensives for couples who have a consistent recovery path with Sex Addiction Recovery and Betrayal Trauma Recovery, and are ready to move from a place of woundedness to a place of healing in their relationship.  She wants partners to know there is hope for building and maintaining a st

Feb 11, 2021 • 49:24

Has Your Chilhood Trauma Interfered with Your Relationship?

Today, Carol the Coach is interviewing Riana Milne who is a relationship expert and personal life coach who has studied relationhip trauma and she wants to go over the 10 adverse childhood events that sabotages relationships. Many partners have had childhood trauma and would like to understand what they have experienced and what they need to do to cope with it. She also wants to offer some free gifts to our listeners who want to understand their self and the relationship.

Feb 4, 2021 • 56:35

What if Recovery Isn't Working with Carol the Coach

Carol the Coach will be interviewing a couple about Sexual Addiction and Partner Betrayal and how to get clarity when it doesn't feel like recovery is working. Listen to their story and what they have tried to get healthy.

Jan 28, 2021 • 54:37

A Partners Story with Carol the Coach

Carol the Coach will be interviewing a partner who wants to share her story of betrayal and how she found meaning from it.

Jan 21, 2021 • 48:50

Learn How APSATS Trains Partners to Help Partners Work Through Partner Betrayal

When partners get healthy they want to help others. Today, Carol the Coach is going to be talking with APSATS President, Laurie Hall about the APSATS training program and how partners can become trained clinicians and coaches through the APSATS Certification Program.Join our training in a couple of weeks! Listen as you ask yourself, "Am I Ready to Serve?"

Jan 14, 2021 • 53:00

Finding Serenity through Creativity with Carol the Coach

Peggy Matheson has created a coloring book that will bring about serenity. She drew a few sketches when she was a young woman, but had such a love for the performing arts that drawing quickly fell by the way side. Earning a BFA in Music Dance Theater from Brigham Young University was a jumping off point that punctuated years of performances on stage and on screen. Her tenacity to create the most impact with a performance has informed her ability to create poetry and drawings that not only resona

Jan 7, 2021 • 56:26

The Complexity within an Asian-Interracial Coupleship with Carol the Coach

The importance of sex in human relationships, especially with our spouse, is well known to us as a vital element in developing and maintaining a healthy marriage and relationship. Thus, the betrayal from a loved one, related sexual affairs, brings traumatic experiences for many. It would not surprise to say that the relationship between sexual compatibility and marital satisfaction is a universal experience for many couples. However, the impacts of culture in navigating sex in a relationship br

Dec 23, 2020 • 39:56

Restoration in the Coupleship with Carol the Coach

Helping couples heal is an APSATS misssion. Today, Carol the Coach interviews Clinton and Charity Munoz, who  knows how difficult it is to restore the relationship after sexual addiction recovery has been initiated. want to talk about how important individual help is to get first, what their roles are in the restoration process. They believe in the process of rebuilding intimacy and trust after infidelity. Once a couple is getting traction in the healing process, they want to help them understan

Dec 17, 2020 • 51:41

Is Your Relationship Toxic with Carol the Coach

Listen as Carol interviews Liza Young on Toxicity. Liza is a therapist with over 15 years of experience in helping  people overcome life's most difficult situations. Liza has developed an online video course called Toxic Free Relationship. This course is designed to help you identify if your relationship is toxic, and what to do about it. She provides videos worksheets, and resources to help guide you to hope and healng.You can find out more about this course at www.lizayoungcounseling.com. You

Dec 12, 2020 • 46:55

Sexuality Expectations in the Asian-Interacial Relationship with Carol the Coach

The importance of sex in human relationships, especially with our spouse, is well known to us as a vital element in developing and maintaining a healthy marriage and relationship. Thus, the betrayal from a loved one, related sexual affairs, brings traumatic experiences for many. It would not surprise to say that the relationship between sexual compatibility and marital satisfaction is a universal experience for many couples. However, the impacts of culture in navigating sex in a relationship bri

Dec 10, 2020 • 39:00

How to Free Yourself from Toxic Relationships with Carol the Coach

Carol is interviewing Liza Young who has recently developed an online video course called Toxic Free Relationship. This course is designed to help you identify if your relationship is toxic and what to do about it. She provides several videos, worksheets and resources to help guide you to hope and healing. You can find out more about this course at www.lizayoungcounseling.com. Liza serves betrayed partners and she finds lots of opportunities to help serve the community. She also has a podcast ca

Dec 3, 2020 • 51:00

Helping Couples Move Beyond Partner Betrayal with Carol the Coach

Replay of Carol the Coach talking with Dr. Crystal Hollenbeck talking about helpping couples heal.

Nov 19, 2020 • 48:16

Seeking Christian Resources for Partner Betrayal with Carol the Coach

Today, Carol the Coach will be interviewing Debby Flanagan who has more than 25 years of ministry experience helping women find healing from sexual and love addiction and trauma. As a survivor, she has a special connection with women who have experienced childhood sexual abuse. Debby works closely with women in recognizing areas of codependency and developing healthy boundaries.Debby is passionate about helping women discover their true identity in our Lord and the joy they experience when they

Nov 12, 2020 • 56:38

What is Gaslighting with Carol the Coach

Today, Carol the Coach interviews expert Sarah Morales who is  an expert and teaches courses on "gaslighting." Gaslighting can happen when an addict purposefully denies reality and projects that that there is something wrong with you for believing that there is something wrong wiith him. It can leave you feeling shaky and confused and it can make you doubt yourself. Listen as Sarah shares strategies for rebuking "gaslighting attempts."

Nov 5, 2020 • 51:40

Communication is the Key to Connection with Carol the Coach

Today, Carol the Coach will be interviewing Lyschel Burket who is a certified professional coach who would love to spend some time unpacking a common tool used by couples as they step into the space of healing and rebuilding. The tool is commonly used as a check in tool. Which means they use this tool as guardrails to their time in order to create connection, communication and safety with one another. Many call this tool FANOS - which stands for Feelings, Affirmations, Needs, Ownership and Sobri

Oct 29, 2020 • 53:22

Why A Therapeutic Separation May Be the Next Right Step with Carol the Coach

Repeat of the therapeutic separation show.

Oct 23, 2020 • 56:17

A Listener Has Lots of Questions about How to Stay Safe with Carol the Coach

Partners have lots of questions as to what they can do to seek safety.  Listen, as Carol the Coach and Hope talk about ways to rebuild  trust when she still doesn't feel safe. We talked about tools to create more safety in her relationship.

Oct 12, 2020 • 55:13

The Essentials for Relationship Repair with Carol the Coach

Today, Carol the Coach interviews Dr. Merry Frons who has specialized in treating couples with relationship and sexuality issues for over 30 years. She has very specific philosophies as to how to treat the partner individually and in couples therapy. She has written a step by step  protocol that helps the couple through the healing journey together. Her book, The Trust Solution was written because she believes that restoring trust is the basis of repairing the relationship. Listen as she shares

Oct 8, 2020 • 56:14

A Partner Has Lots of Questions with Carol the Coach

Typical questions a partner asks with Carol the Coach

Oct 8, 2020 • 56:00

A Couple Shares Their Recovery with Carol the Coach

Today, Carol the Coach is interviewing a couple who went through sexual addiction and partner betrayal.. It resulted in a lot of hard work and research on partner betrayal.. Cat suffered from PTSD and needed to learn how to manage the triggers. She also began to write to help partners understand what was happening to them. Together she and Frank have commited to helping  couples through difficult times. Cat has a series of 4 books that take you through that jouney.

Oct 1, 2020 • 51:00

Should I Stay or Should I Go with Carol the Coach

Discovering your husband has broken his wedding vows by betraying you emotionally, sexually and financially, is extremely traumatic.  Having to make a decision to stay married or get divorced is one of the most difficult and pressing decisions every partner struggles with.  The incredible sense of fear and confusion facing this decision can be debilitating.  Dr. Crystal Hollenbeck is going to discuss the struggle partners have with this painful decision and offer guidance on how and when to make

Sep 24, 2020 • 55:59

Leading Men Into Recovery with Carol the Coach

Carol the Coach is interviewing Mark Denison who has produced resources to help sex addicts find lasting freedom and recovery. As a man in recovery, (he still attends two 12-step meetings each week), he knows the importance of a specific plan for recovery. He will be talking about his two primary resources: 90-Day Recovery process and new Freedom Groups. The 90-Day Plan utilizes his 90-Day workbook, daily readings, daily written exercises, and weekly calls. Next week (September 21),  he launches

Sep 17, 2020 • 55:03

Are You An Adult Child of an Sex Addict with Carol the Coach

Are you an adult child of a sex addict? Do you feel confusion, fear and avoidance in your own relationships? Or do you feel best when you are intimately involved with someone? Adult children of sex addicts often are the forgotten population when we talk about sex addiction; but their experiences are a valid and rich contribution to the treatment of sex addiction and prevention of the generational addiction cycle. Adult children of sex addicts often suffer from maladaptive attachment patterns the

Sep 10, 2020 • 55:14

Grounding and Educational Resources for Betrayed Partners with Carol the Coach

Carol the Coach will be interviewing Dr. Jill Manning who is excited to announce the launch of a digital download store that offers therapeutic handouts and worksheets specifically designed for betrayed partners. Well-designed and trauma-informed, these resources are easy to integrate into clinical or coaching work, including group therapy.

Sep 3, 2020 • 50:41

Principles to Recovery for Partners with Carol the Coach

Partners need a guide to heal and today, Carol the Coach is interviewing Beth Denison who is passionate about helping women find hope and healing after sexual betrayal. She developed materials that combine scriptural insight and sound psychoeducational information with a trauma sensitive model to guide women through a path of recovery. This was published in her new workbook called 12-Week Partner Recovery Guide: Journey to Healing from Sexual Betrayal. She coaches partners both one-on-one and in

Aug 27, 2020 • 48:20

Boundaries Require Consequences with Carol the Coach

One of the toughest reactions and responses to partner betrayal is figuring out what boundaries you might need to feel safe. Today Carol the Coach will be interviewing Boundaries Expert Aarti Chidambaram. Aarti believes that  boundaries are only words if there are not strong consequences. She will be discussing "Boundary Challenges" that partners face.She will be discussing "Layered Consequences and how this empowers partners to hold a space for what a partner will accept in her relationship. A

Aug 20, 2020 • 57:19

Undestanding Sexual Addiction with Carol the Coach

Carol the Coach interviews Brian Martin who works with partners to show them how to assess whether the addict is working on his recovery in an efficient way. He will also be talking about how to recognize shame in an addict and how to interface with shame and anger appropriately.

Aug 13, 2020 • 57:06

Coaching Can Take your Life to the Next Level with Carol the Coach

Carol the Coach wants you have tools that cof the self.  It will help you with your healing and it will help you in your restoration so that you can move towards  more restoration You  will want to  listen as Jen Coles shares tools and tips to be your best person. There are many great tools and exercises available to partners of sex addicts as they go through their healing journey.  Jennifer’s signature approach to coaching is called ACE.  “Awareness creates Choice which then Empowers”.  To tha

Aug 6, 2020 • 54:28

You Are Not Crazy, You Are Being "Gaslit" with Carol the Coach

Repeat of the 2018  show with APSATS Gaslighting expert Sarah Morales who help you figure out if you are being manipulated.

Jul 30, 2020 • 57:04

Survival Tools for Mom's During Covid 19 with Carol the Coach

We are living through unprecedented times right now. Motherhood alone is challenging and difficult, but with the added stressors in today’s world AND experiencing betrayal trauma it can feel like you are drowning every day. Today’s segment will talk about the survival mechanisms moms can be forced into and hopefully bring some normalization and sanity around being a good enough parent in today’s landscape. How to give yourself a break while still being the best parent you can be and utilize conc

Jul 23, 2020 • 55:40

Self Worth Means Honoring Yourself with Carol the Coach

Today, Carol the Coach will be  interviewing Coach Julie StOnge who wants to help partners to know that they worthy no matter what has happened to them. Julie explains, "My relationship with me was never that good. I have come to realize with partners that aside from cultural binds that may hold them in fear of change, there is a break down with their own relationships with self. I work on this simultaneously with partners. The three areas of focus for every partner are goals you can control, s

Jul 16, 2020 • 57:08

Can You Teach a Sex Addict to Use Their Intuition with Carol the Coach

We all know that Sex Addicts often times fear that they don't possess the intuition to know how to be sensitive to others. Josh Nichols believes it might be just the oposite. In this interview Carol the Coach and Joshua Nichols will be discussing a recent article he wrote entitled “Managing Your Superpower: What Mister Rogers Has in Common with Sex Addicts.”  This is part 2 of a 2 part series. In essence, Josh believes that Fred Rogers, commonly known as Mister Rogers, and many sex addicts have

Jul 9, 2020 • 52:52

Are Sex Addicts Really Empaths with Carol the Coach

We all know that Sex Addicts often times lack empathy. Well Josh Nichols believes it might be just the oposite. In this interview Carol the Coach and Joshua Nichols will be discussing a recent article he wrote entitled “Managing Your Superpower: What Mister Rogers Has in Common with Sex Addicts.”  This is part 1 of a 2 part series. In essence, Josh believes that Fred Rogers, commonly known as Mister Rogers, and many sex addicts have something very unique in common – they are empaths. Empaths hav

Jul 2, 2020 • 51:47

EMDR Can Address Your Trauma with Carol the Coach

EMDR is an effective trauma treatment for partner betrayal. Find out how it can help you!

Jun 25, 2020 • 54:25

Stabalizing Your "Financial House" with Carol the Coach

Today, Carol the Coach will be interviewing Ericka Young who is a Financial Coach and wrote the book, Naked and Unashamed 10 Money Conversations Every Couple Must Have. She gives solid advice for couples who want to transform the way they deal with and manage their money.

Jun 18, 2020 • 51:29

What Do I look for in a Good Polygrapher with Carol the Coach

Repeat show about how to find the right polygraph examiner.

Jun 4, 2020 • 1:00:18

"Who Am I Beyond Trauma?" with Carol the Coach

Following the 3rd phase of the APSATS MPTM Model requires that you see your self as a survivor and a thriver. Carol the Coach is interviewing Gaelyn Rae Emerson who has created a rare and exciting new project for partners of sex addicts. Focused and fueled toward post-traumatic growth, Rediscovering Me is an “out of the box” kind of partners support group—one that’s perfect for women who are wondering “what’s next” on the journey of healing from sexual betrayal. Rediscovering Me is a refreshing

May 28, 2020 • 53:40

Race and Recovery with Carol the Coach

Coach Andrea has noticed that woman of color have specific challenges as partners in recovery and she wanted to talk about why the African American community may have different needs or expectations around problematic sexual behavior. She  and Carol the Coach will be talking about the need for research around her hypothesis.

May 21, 2020 • 54:44

The Partner Sensitive Approach to Betrayal with Carol the Coach

Carol the Coach will be interviewed by Caroline Brown who wanted to learn more about partner betrayal from a partner perspective. She offered to interview Carol to help listeners know what they should look for when seeking help the "APSATS Way."

May 14, 2020 • 53:26

Partner Betrayal in the Church with Carol the Coach

Frequently churches are the first responders to help couples facing infidelity and sex addiction. Often times they are ill equipped to know how to handle it from a partner sensitive approach. Hence, they do more damage to the partner and contribute to her pain. Listen as Marie Celano talks about how she is educating the church leaders to provide services to partners from a trauma perspective. This will be an inspiring conversation that may motivate you to set up services in your community.

May 7, 2020 • 55:08

Help Her Heal Groups for Addicts and Couples with Carol the Coach

Carol the Coach is interviewing Rebecca Maestas who is going to start two Help Her Heal groups for 14 weeks that will also includes a couple's component to teach the couple how to do the work to help her heal. This is a first for sex addicts and their partners and so we are excited to be finding out about this innovative program.

Apr 23, 2020 • 43:54

Good Recovery Requires a Committee with Carol the Coach

Today, Carol the Coach interviews Richard Butler who professes that he had to use a variety of tools and experiences to solidify his recovery. His recovery activities have included: Intensives, Couples Retreats, Counselling, Coaching, 12 Step Programs, and Mindfulness Tools. Listen as he shares his inspiring story of recovery, redemption and giving back!

Apr 16, 2020 • 54:13

Betrayal Groups within the Church Can Be Safe with Carol the Coach

Carol the Coach will be interviewing Shann Davis who leads a confidential women’s ministry group at Lakepointe Church in Rockwall, Texas called Sisters on a Journey for women who have been betrayed by their spouse’s sexual sin (affairs, both physical or emotional.)  Her goal  is to help empower the women through Jesus Christ and find their identity in Him.  Most women enter the class traumatized so they spend the first several weeks learning various tools for stabilization and self-care.  The gr

Apr 9, 2020 • 52:00

How tto Navigate Through Marriage with Carol the Coach

Where I think I can serve your audience is talking about connection and attachment and why coming out and volunteering for Sidewalk Talk and getting more active connection can be part of recovery.     Carol the Coach is going to interview marital therapist Traci Ruble who will be sharinf what she has learned about connection from listening to her clients. She will be talking specifically about her work with couples. She does alot of pre-emptive work talking about sex and arousal as part of bui

Apr 2, 2020 • 50:33

How Can I Take Care of Myself with Carol the Coach

Carol the Coach will be interviewing Richa Badami who is a master at making partners feel safe after their truama responses and triggers. In her book “Coming Home to the Heart – Transforming Trauma into Infinite Possibilities for Healing” Richa shares her story of sexual abuse as a child growing up in India, and her powerful journey of recovery from it. Years later, as a recovered partner herself, she brings all of her personal experience, training and intimate knowledge, to help support and emp

Mar 26, 2020 • 55:39

How Can We Stop Cultural Gaslighting with Carol the Coach

The Super Bowl half time show is cultural gas-lighting. Dolly Parton posing for Playboy at 75 and everyone applauding her because "she's still got it" is cultural gaslighting. Listen as Carol the Coach interviews Lyschel Burket who will explain the ramifications of this phenomena.Cultural Gaslighting is the psychological manipulation in which our culture sows seeds of doubt in a targeted individual, situation, event, or moral thought. It makes the culture question their own memory, perception, o

Mar 19, 2020 • 59:01

How and When Do You Forgive with Carol the Coach

Today Carol the Coach will be interviewing Sara Schulting-Kranz who recently did a ted talk on forgiveness as a partner of betrayal. She is currently writing a book on forgiveness and has lots of experience guiding clients on their own healing journey outside of fours walls. She believes that nature and clarity help the process of forgiveness. Listen as she shares her story and the keys to finding forgiveness.

Mar 12, 2020 • 56:13

Support As You Move Into Divorce or Seperation with Carol the Coach

Join Carol the Coach who will be finding out more about Coach Andrea’s support group through Fully Alive Coaching Divorcefor divorced and separated partners. Going through partner betrayal is tough but combining it with a separation or divorce requires lots of support from others. Listen as Carol finds out about a support group that will help partners get through this and grow!

Mar 5, 2020 • 52:07

Community is the Antidote to Porn Addiction with Carol the Coach

Carol the Coach knows that partners often get frustrated when their husbands attend so many meetings that they feel like a Recovery Widow. Today's guest, Carl Thomas wants to speak on the importance of "community" when it comes to finding freedom from things like compulsive internet behaviors and sex addiction. He has created a Live Free Community App and Small Groups Online to help men that may not have a face to face group to go to to get the support they deserve.

Feb 27, 2020 • 53:46

Partners Share This Show w/ Your Spouse to Disrupt Fantasies w/ Carol the Coach

Women can endlessly worry about what their husbands are thinking when they see a provocative woman or image. Carol the Coach will be interviewing Drew Boa who wants to help Christian men stop using by helping them to learn how to interrupt their sexual fantasies. Listen as he explains how he got help and what he advises  men to do to interrupt the arousal template that is driven by fantasy.

Feb 20, 2020 • 57:45

Group Coaching Programs Add Value with Carol the Coach

Nothing beats the power of Sisterhood. According to Brené Brown, “We cultivate love when we allow our most vulnerable and powerful selves to be deeply seen and known, and when we honor the spiritual connection that grows from that offering with trust, respect, kindness and affection. Carol the Coach will be interviewing Sarah Morales and Jenni Rochelle who will be providing a group coaching proram for partners to heal.  The coaches explain "The reason why Sisterhood is such a super healing power

Feb 13, 2020 • 47:34

Partner Betrayal Can Rock Your Faith with Carol the Coach

Carol the Coach will be interviewing Judee Alvarado and Julie StOnge, about the faith conference that represents a collaboration of organizations coming together to support women who have experienced betrayal and abuse in their intimate relationships. Partners, counselors, coaches, and those in ministry are encouraged to come. All are APSATS trained in the The Multidimensional Partner Trauma Model.  One of the main issues addressed will be the deconstruction and reconstruction of faith. Faith ca

Feb 6, 2020 • 57:06

How to Prioritize Your Life with Carol the Coach

Slavery to work, distractions, people and emotions block us from feeling like a priority in our relationships and this affects how we experience sexuality and intimacy.  For betrayed partners these distractions become triggers that eat away at the trust the couple is trying to repair. Today, Carol the Coach will be interviewing co-author of Help. Her. Heal. Allan J. Katz, who has written a new book, Hey! What About Me? which is a book about  how to make oneself and others a priority. For partne

Jan 30, 2020 • 54:55

How Is a Polygraph Exam Helpful with Carol the Coach

Every traumatized partner asks the question, "Will I ever be able to trust my addict spouse again?" and every person struggling with sex addiction comes to the realization that dishonesty and a lack of accountability have been a way of life for way too long. Today Carol the Coach, will be interviewing Dr. Crystal Hollenbeck is going to discuss the use of a lie detector exam in the recovery process. She will inform us how the exam can provide benefit for both the addict and the partner and she wo

Jan 23, 2020 • 1:00:00

Surviving SexualAddiction and Betrayal with Carol the Coach

Carol the Coach will be interviewing Jenni Rochelle who has written a guidebook on how to survive the trauma of sexual betrayal. It is free and can be found at www.sexaddictionguidebook.com. She will be sharing 6 essential elements for getting through the process of partner betrayal. .Jenni has a heart for partners and she is currently working on a Masters in Spiritual Formation and so she will also be speaking about spiritual truama and how partners need to find support in their faith communit

Jan 16, 2020 • 50:04

Divorce Can Feel Devastating with Carol the Coach

Sexual Betrayal sends you on a journey that can feel like despair and when it results in divorce, it can leave you feeling totally overwhelmed, Listen as Carol the Coach talks to Kim Petroni who went through that experience and vowed to help women get through the proceses easier.She has practical tools and tips that she believes will make your journey easier!

Jan 9, 2020 • 58:55

A Partners Journey with Carol the Coach

Repeat of APSATS President Laurie Hall talking about having read the first book on Partner Betrayal

Jan 3, 2020 • 48:40

Repeat of How Therapeutic Seperations Can Be Helpful to the Marriage with Carol

What is a therapeutic seperation and how can it be helpful to the marriage.

Dec 26, 2019 • 56:17

How To Talk To Your Kids About Sex with Carol the Coach

Healthy sexuality is a topic that many families have been silent on, while culture is shouting at a louder volume than ever. As parents, you have the opportunity to provide a healthier pathway for good education. Today, Carol the Coach is interviewing Tracy and Rodney Wright who wrote a book, How To Talk With Your Kids About Sex. This book focuses on 10 Principles to help parents learn to create healthy family cultures to connect and communicate with their kids.

Dec 19, 2019 • 57:02

Neurofeedback Helps Partners to Cope with Carol the Coach

Betrayal effects the brain and leaves partners having trouble with racing thoughts, speech difficulties and problems making decisions. Carol the Coach will be interviewing Kristi Knight an expert in neurofeedback who has conistently worked with partners to get their brains back on line.Find out how this treatment can help you to feel safe again and manage the triggers of partner betrayal.

Dec 12, 2019 • 1:00:01

Don't Underestimate The Power of Mindfulness with Carol the Coach

Resourcing is the quickest way for partner's to get their brain back online.Today, I will be talking to Richa Badami who is an APSATS trained personal transformation coach. She brings nearly 20 years of coaching, workshop and retreat leading experience to partners who have been impacted by someone else's problematic sexual behavior. Her approach is not only partner sensitive, it is trauma informed and mindfulness based. In her book "Coming Home to the Heart-Transforming Trauma into Infinite Pos

Dec 5, 2019 • 52:47

Repeat of The Boundaries Show for Partners with Carol the Coach

My client who is an expert regarding boundaries to keep her self safe shares her journey with other partners.

Nov 28, 2019 • 44:40

Married for 36 Years to a Sex Addict with Carol the Coach

Beth Denison has been married to a pastor for 36 years and her story includes their recovery together. They started a recovery ministry and have found some key components to helping couples heal. Beth is a Certified Life Coach and has written a 12 Week Recovery Workbook for groups. Listen as she shares her amazing story!

Nov 21, 2019 • 1:00:00

A Partner's Shame with Carol the Coach

Carol will be interviewing Liza Young, who is a counselor who has a passion for helping women through sexual betrayal. Liza willl share how she has seen shame interfere with the progress toward healing and how to work through it and move towards empowerment. She will talk about the steps one most take to feel good enough and valued again.

Nov 14, 2019 • 58:21

Using the Trauma Lens to Work with Partners with Carol the Coach

Repeat of a show on traum

Nov 7, 2019 • 1:01:29

APSATS Advocates for Your Safety with Carol the Coach

Repeat of the show introducing Laurie Hall who will describe her vision for APSATS with Carol the Coach.

Oct 31, 2019 • 48:40

EMDR Can Help You with Carol the Coach

Find out the benefits of EMDR and how it treats trauma. Repeat of an earlier show

Oct 24, 2019 • 54:25

Creating Safe Space for Partners with Carol the Coach

Windell Gill will be speaking with Carol today  on the program that he has developed for sex addicts wo want to become helpers tward their partner's healing. Creating Safe Space: How to Help the Healing When You Did the Hurting is a 12 week course that helps men to learn the skills to rebuild safety and trust.

Oct 17, 2019 • 1:00:01

How Pornography Hurts with Carol the Coach

People will tell you that "it's only. looking at images." But we know that  can taklooking at adult images can take anyone down and today Carol the Coach will be interviewing Joshua Shea who is a recovering ponography addict who made the error of engaging a teenage girl in an online chatroom for which he was arrested and served 6 months in jail. He has gotten clean, and has made it his mission to help others with the addiction.Listen as he talks about his struggles to get back up and create purp

Oct 10, 2019 • 1:00:00

Partner Betrayal with Carol the Coach

Repeat of the show

Oct 3, 2019 • 56:17

Betrayal: From Chaos to Purpose with Carol the Coach

Larry Billotta experienced betrayal in his marriage and uncovered several priniples that provided relief to men and women affected by betrayal. He believes his childhood programming also contributed to his issues and he is going to share with Carol the Coach how he unhooked from this programming.

Sep 26, 2019 • 50:38

Helping Partners Heal with Carol the Coach

Repeat of the show

Sep 26, 2019 • 56:17

Are Polygraphs Reliable with Carol the Coach

Carol the Coach interviews Jen Cole who has handpicked Dave Robbins whose partner sensitivety allows the coupleship to get a good polygraph assessment.

Sep 19, 2019 • 1:00:18

My Husband Was Blackmailed with Carol the Coach

Listen as Carol the Coach interviews Michelle who has wanted to inspire partners by sharing her story of her husband's out of control sexually addictive behavior and the havoc it cause in her family. Michelle was able to take back her life by supporting her husband into getting the help he needed and working towards creating the family life that she had always wanted.Despite the trauma, Michelle was able to find the positives that his crisis would bring the family.

Sep 12, 2019 • 1:00:01

Sexual Betrayal and Your Fractured Attachment with Carol the Coach

Today Carol the Coach will be interviewing James Annear of Core Relationship Recovery who has researched the attachment styles of betrayed partners and has found extreme wounding that effects deep trust and intimacy. Today, he will be talking about the 4 attachment styles and how they are effected when "heart wounding" occurs.

Sep 5, 2019 • 1:00:26

Emotions and Empathy with Carol the Coach

APSATS president Laurie Hall and Carol the Coach will be talking about strategies they use to help partners heal. They will be discussing Internal Family System work and Empathy techniques that restore safety, stabalization and healing from grief. Learn how to manage painful emotions to help you heal from sexual betrayal.

Aug 29, 2019 • 56:09

Does Your Spouse Need "Longer" Term Care with Carol the Coach

Today, Carol will be interviewing Tim Kiernon who has worked at Prescott House after graduating from their program. He is a proponent of longer term treatemt as he firmly believes that the more time an addict has to work on his recovery, the better off his family has for their own healing. If your spouse has been struggling with good sobriety, this may be the answer!

Aug 22, 2019 • 57:38

The Unforgivable: My Husband is in Love with My Daughter with Carol the Coach

Today Carol the Coach will be talking with Amy whose husband committed the worst form of betrayal, he cheated on her with their adult daughter and had a baby. Listen how Amy talks about how she is restoring her sense of trust after this horrific sexual betrayal.

Aug 15, 2019 • 48:17

How to Heal from Sexual Betrayal with Carol the Coach

There is no greater pain than the pain of sexual betrayal and today, Carol the Coach will be interviewing Jennifer Josey a Licensed Marriage and Family therapist who is also a CSAT. She will be sharing what the most important things  the SA can do to repair trut in his/her relationship. She also will be giving tips on the partner can do to heal from the betrayal.

Aug 8, 2019 • 1:00:00

The Gifts of Recovery with Carol the Coach

Tim Stein is a partner sensitive therapist who wrote Gifts of Recovery to help men and women in recovery from sex addiction find healing. He believes it has great merit for the partner in recovery because each day iincludes a quote, a therapy lesson and or a therapy metaphor and much of the book has a relational lesson too!

Aug 1, 2019 • 58:20

Are Women Who Love Sex Addicts in Abusive Relationships with Carol the Coach

Repeat Show of whether women are in abusive relationships if they love and addict.

Jul 20, 2019 • 57:32

Is Sexual Deception A Sexual Assault with Carol the Coach

Sex addicts who knowingly have sex with their spouses while having unprotected sex with others are violating their spouses by undermining her self-determination over her body.  When the partner of the SA has no idea she's been "having sex" with her spouse's sex workers, a crime has been committed. Listen as Carol the Coach interviews Alex Katehakis, Ph.D, Clinical Director of Center for Healthy Sex, who believes that sex in a relationship where intimate deception is taking place is a non-consen

Jul 18, 2019 • 56:10

Partners Finally Have a Partner Sensitive Intensive Program with Carol the Coach

Carol the Coach is interviewing Cathy Walls who works at PCS - Psychological Counselling Services - and is the first to offer the APSATS Multidimensional Partner Model for partners who want intensive treatment. Listen as Cathy helps you to determine whether this would be a good fit for you!

Jul 11, 2019 • 1:00:00

Partner Betrayal with Carol the Coach

Carol the Coach talks with experts on partner betrayal.

Jul 5, 2019 • 55:10

You Deserve the Truth with Carol the Coach

Carol the Coach will be interviewing Dan Drake and Janice Caudill on their new book, Full Disclosure: How To Share The Truth After Sexual Betrayal.  They recognize that doing a full disclosure can be both daunting and difficult, so they will be talking about their step by step approach they have created in their new workbooks. They have participated in hundeds of disclosures and have years of experience and are committed to helping you navigate a complicated yet vital part of healing after sexua

Jun 27, 2019 • 1:00:19

A Recovering Couple Helps Couples in Recovery with Carol the Coach

Carol the Coach is talking with Mathew and Joanna Raabsmith who work together helping couples and individuals find healing and transformation when sexual betrayal occurs. Today, they will share their own story of healing and restoration from the damage of addiction and betrayal in their marriage. They seek to use their training and experience to empower other couples to find healing and wholeness in their own unique journey.

Jun 20, 2019 • 1:00:00

Getting to Know Carol the Coach with Guest Host Jen Cole

Coach Jen is going to be interviewing Carol the Coach. The show has been running for a year now and Coach Jen thought it was time for you to get to know the host "up front and personal." She will be asking Carol about her personal journey so that the listeners will know what obstacles that she has had to face in her life.

Jun 14, 2019 • 57:30

How to Work with Male Partners

Listen as Andy Johns talks with Carol the Coach about the nuances of working with male partners.

Jun 6, 2019 • 51:02

How Can We Help Our Daughters Manage This Crisis with Carol the Coach

How do you help your daughters work through sex addiction when it ravages your family. Kristin Cary talks about a program that has helped daughters work through their trauma and band together recognizing that they are not alone. Daughters in the Battle has a unique program that gives daughters the support that they deserve.

May 30, 2019 • 1:00:00

Resources For A Partner Struggling with Sexual Betrayal with Carol the Coach

Carol the Coach will be interviewing Jean who has struggled with her husbands sexual addiction. She was able to work through the addiction and has come out feeling like her marriage has survived and thrived. Jean is now helping others to get through this process and she wants to share the resources to build your tool box and come out of this with a personal sense of power.

May 23, 2019 • 1:00:00

A Partner Talks about Emotional Safety with Carol the Coach

Today Carol interviews Anne who is the producer and host of the Betrayal Trauma Recovery podcast. She spent years of attempting to help her husband recover from his sexual addiction, yet problems worsened and he was arrested for domestic violence. Anne has made it her mission to help other partners keep themselves safe and she would like to share her journey with us!

May 16, 2019 • 1:00:00

How to Identify and Address Abuse and Neglect with Carol the Coach

Carol the Coach is interviewing Dr. Crystal Hollenbeck who believes when a couple enters treament for sex addiction recovery, their lives have been turned upside down and both parties will most likely be engaginging in abusive behaviors towards one another. Their relationship is in turmoil and they are experiencing a plethora of feelings. A good counselor has to be able to address and identify the abuse and neglect cycle that exists so that healing can occur. Dr. Hollenbeck believes that it can

May 9, 2019 • 1:00:01

What is the Difference Between Sobriety and Recovery with Carol the Coach

Carol the Coach will be interviewing Dan and Angie Andrew who want the community to understand the difference betwwen sobriety and true recovery. They believe that the coupleship with thrive when both people do their work and support each other's recovery. They will discuss the tools for recovery  that keep the lines of communication open and promote good self care.

May 2, 2019 • 1:00:00

Healing from Betrayal with Carol the Coach

Carol the Coach will be interviewing partner specialist and author Mari A. Lee, who co-wrote Facing Heartbreak and Healing from Betrayal. She is going to share her own story and he work with both addicts and partners. Partners will leave this show with resources, information and a renewed sense of hopeful empowerment for their own healing and reclaiming of self in the aftermath of intimate betrayal trauma

Apr 25, 2019 • 57:48

A Recovering Marriage Requires Focus with Carol the Coach

Carol the Coach interviews Cherie, a partner who had to change her perspective about marriage after she learned of her husband's betrayal that required a 65 day stay in rehab. This woman has totally changed her perspective on marriage and has redesigned her life to find meaning from the tragedy. She believes that recovering together is a blessing from God. Find out how she not only survived the crisis but now has thrived from it.

Apr 18, 2019 • 54:58

Introducing the New President of APSATS with Carol the Coach

Carol the Coach is interviewing Laurie Hall, new president of APSATS, who shares her passion for partners and the vision she has for APSATS going further, Laurie talks about her groundbreaking book, An Affair of the Mind which was one of the first books ever published on how sex addiction affected her family. Laurie has always wanted to inform partners on how they could protect themselves and their family .Find out why helping to guide APSATS is part of the legacy that Laurie wants to continue!

Apr 11, 2019 • 48:40

There is Help for Male Partners with Carol the Coach

Male Partners Speak Up! We know that male partners are hesitant to speak up because of the stigma they  feel about having been betrayed. Today, Carol the Coach interviews APSATS candidate Andy Johns who wants to help male partners get the services that they deserve. Find out what resources are out there for male partners.

Apr 4, 2019 • 51:02

When Do We Need an Intensive with Carol the Coach

Listen as Carol the Coach interviews Sharon Rinearson and James Annear share their excting "We-ness Model" of healing that can build trust and safety for couples dealing with sexual betrayal. Their homey healing cener is a testament to their personal therapeutic styles and their passion for helping couples traverse this painful journe of chaos and pain into a balanced life of love, truth, and trust.

Mar 28, 2019 • 56:18

Helping Couples Heal through this On-line Opportunity with Carol the Coach

Helping Couples Heal is a comprehensive in-person and online program that was developed based on a workshop that Marnie Breeker facilitated for many years woth Dr. Omar Minwalla. She now offers it with Duane Osterlind whose mission is to help individual struggling with process addiction. Marnie and Duane share the tools and strategies to heal from relational trauma. Carol the Coach will help share why this proraming is so powerful!

Mar 21, 2019 • 55:11

PTSD: Do You Have Abuse in Your Past with Carol the Coach

Today Carol the Coach will be interviewing David Essel who will be explaining common issues that plague partners who have abuse in their past. David is going to identify the symptoms and manifestations of PTSD and help partners work through the deep healing that needs to occur to work through the trauma that accompanies sexual abuse and betrayal. Listen as he shares some healthy resources to help balance the trauma.

Mar 14, 2019 • 55:45

How Can Groups Assist in the Healing of Partner Betrayal with Carol the Coach

Carol the Coach will be interviewing Karen Rellos, APSATS Coach, who is a partner herself and has an amazing story about the relationship healing that occurred in her life. She feels that groups were instrumental in that journey and she wants to let parnters know how they can find sanity in an unsafe situation. We will be joined by 3 other partners  who have experienced the benefits and blessings of group!

Mar 7, 2019 • 58:47

Relational Recovery in the UK with Carol the Coach

Carol the Coach will be interviewing Catherine Etherington who will be talking about the Life Recovery Program recently launched by Naked Truth Project.. The Life Recovery Program is the "next step in support groups" bridging the gap from sovriety to rlational recovery within marriages and committed relationships.

Feb 28, 2019 • 51:00

When Is a Therapeutic Separation Necessary with Carol the Coach

Carol the Coach is interviewing  MJ Denis who defines a Therapeutic Seperation as a process that occurs while the couple is working towards reconcilliation but needs the seperation for safety. Find out what the guidelines are when considering doing a Therapeutic Separation.

Feb 21, 2019 • 56:17

Why You Need a Trauma Lens to Work with Partners with Carol the Coach

APSATS believes that partner betrayal requires a therapist or coach who understands trauma. Carol the Coach will be interviewing Angela Bolen, LMFTA who specializes in family sytems and understands that it is imperative to look at betrayal through a trauma lens so that the professional can help the client understand what is happening to her when she discovers that her husband is a sex addict. This is a great show for anyone who wants to understand what is happening neurologically to the brain af

Feb 14, 2019 • 59:58

What Do You Do If You Decide To Leave with Carol the Coach

Carol the Coach will be interviewing Gaelyn Emerson who is a full-time life, relationship and divorce recovery coach, “down in the trenches” with men, women and couples reeling (and healing!) together from the traumatic impact of sexual betrayal. In addition to her work with recovering couples, Gaelyn is a uniquely passionate advocate for women whose relationships DON'T survive, creating programs for divorced, divorcing and/or separated partners of sex addicts. Gaelyn is credentialed through Imp

Feb 7, 2019 • 57:42

An Interview with Barb Steffens and her Vision for APSATS with Carol the Coach

Carol the Coach will be interviewing President Barb Steffens as she steps down from APSATS. Barbara Steffens was the recepienct of the Carnes Award in 2018 for poutstanding contributions in the field. She will be talking about the vision that APSATS continues to hold as the premier Partner Sensitive Training Program in the world. APSATS trains clinicans and coaches internationally to provide services to partners who have been impacted by loving/living with someone with sexual addiction. During t

Jan 31, 2019 • 55:36

A Course in Healing from Gaslighting with Carol the Coach

cSo many partners have to face gaslighting when they are uncovering their spouses addiction. Even after recovery they will find themselves wondering if gaslighting is continuing to occur. Carol the Coach is going to be interviewing Sarah Moreles who developed a self study course on gaslighting.  Listen as she helps you to determine the strategies to combat this psychological betrayal.

Jan 24, 2019 • 51:40

How Does Shame Show Up In Your Relationship with Carol the Coach

Shme is recognized as one of the most painful emotional experiences and plays a tremendous role in the cycle of addiction. Shame can haunt partners too and can derail a partners healing. Today, Carol the Coach is talking to "Shame Specialist" Jake Porter who will talk about the powerful emotion of shame and it's more powerful antidote, vulnerability.

Jan 17, 2019 • 56:21

Don't Let Sexual Addiction Affect Your Health with Carol the Coach

Dealing with an addict can wreak havoc on your health. Author Cat Clark writes about this in her memoir Sitting on the Porch Swing. In her book, she details how sex addiction effected her immune systme and how partners need to  increase their self care as they tend to their own recovery. She dealt with her husband's sex addiction for over 19 years and believes that their treatment would have been expediated if they had seen a counselor that understood sex addiction and partner betrayal. Cat has

Jan 10, 2019 • 58:12

Virtual Groups Increase Your Support

Carol the Coach interviews Shawna Meek who is running Restoration Partner Groups to help women find encouragement, accountability and hope after betrayal trauma has occured. She knows that from research that groups can better heal and find hope from others that have gone through these heart-shattering experiences.

Jan 3, 2019 • 54:44

Are You Being Abused in Your Relationship with a Sex Addict with Carol the Coach

If you are wondering if you are being abused in your relationship...this show will help you learn about techniques that SA's may use to keep you from discovering them.

Dec 27, 2018 • 57:32

Improving Your Concious Relationship with God with Carol the Coach

Are you having trouble feeling a solid connection with God? Listen as Carol the Coach speaks with experts who will deepen your relationship with your Higher Power.

Dec 25, 2018 • 1:04:30

How Can We Suppport Partners with Carol the Coach

Don't you wish that there was a "Do's and Don'ts List" for  people who work with partners? Professionals, pastors, friends and family are well meaning but they often times are unclear as to how to support a woman who is suffering from sexual betrayal. Lyschel Burket has put together a list of Do's and Don't to help anyone who is on the front line and wants to have some healthy guidelines for helping Partners heal and deal with partner betrayal.

Dec 20, 2018 • 57:06

How Can We Support the Kids Through Sexual Addiction with Carol the Coach

Kids are smart and they can sense or know when Discovery has occured yet they tend to get lost in the shuffle once betrayal trauma surfaces. Carol the Coach interviews Jessica L. Eidens,CSAT, CCPS who is a specialist helping families get through the pain, tension and stress that comes with problematic sexual behavior.

Dec 13, 2018 • 59:44

Is Micro-Cheating a Form of Sexual Addiction with Carol the Coach

Today, Carol the Coach will be interviewing Dr. Crystal Hollenbeck who is a specialist in helping couples heal from relational betrayal. She is going to discuss the topic of Micro-Cheating and discussing how you can identify it in your relationship.

Dec 6, 2018 • 57:28

Faith Related Re-Traumatization with Carol the Coach

Although well meaning, people in your faith community can betray you because they don't have enough education and information about partner betrayal and trauma. Carol the Coach interview's Karen Trifiletti who has made it her mission to help faith communities become more partner sensitive. She helps partners to deal with the retraumatization that can occur with her faith community when well intentioned pastors or leaders victimize the partner or give bad advise. Listen as Karen gives examples of

Nov 29, 2018 • 59:49

Here are Some Important Resources for Partners with Carol the Coach

Happy Thanksgiving...I am with my family today but I am airing a show on partner resources to help guide you to accessing more support. Talk to you next week at our regular time! Carol

Nov 22, 2018 • 1:01:34

How Can the Couple Deepen Their Relationship with Carol the Coach

Carol the Coach is interiewing Christian Hutcheson, an expert in couples therapy. Dr Christian believes that she has found a technique that moves couples into deeper recovery when they have reached a plateau in their couples work.She believes that she has found the secret to enriching the couples relationship and she wants to share it with you!

Nov 15, 2018 • 48:16

Rebuilding Your Sexual Relationship with Carol the Coach

I am training Clinicians and Coaches this week so this is a replay of a show that talks about how to build your sexual relationship in a way that makes you feel safe! We will see you back next week for live Betrayal Trauma Radio.

Nov 8, 2018 • 59:39

EMDR Can Help You Calm the Triggers with Carol the Coach

EMDR is a wonderful therapy designed to help you integrate the traumatic experience in a manner that allows you to recall the memory without feeling intense trauma. EMDR was created to help you integrate the traumatic experience so that you process trauma and build more resiliency. Carol the Coach will be interviewing Cheri Hammer who has a specialty of working with betrayal trauma and teaching partners how they can manage their triggers to live calmer lives.

Nov 1, 2018 • 54:25

Emotional Regulation and Shame Resiliency in Partner Recovery w/ Carol the Coach

Judy Kelly  is an LCSW and a CSAT who is trained in Dr. Brene Brown's work on shame resiliency. She works with couples experiencing sexual addiction and wants to help partners work through emotional self regulation and shame resiliency. Carol the Coach will be inteviewing Judy on her Daring Greatly and Rising Strong Workshops that she does to promote healing and good self-esteem.

Oct 25, 2018 • 58:52

Getting Clarity by Understanding Gaslighting with Carol the Coach

While gaslightiing is something that is an issue in many, many relationships, the gaslighting experience is not always the same. Like most things, there is a scale or a degree that a sex addict may use gas lighting to maintain his addiction. Listen as Carol the Coachh interviews gaslighting expert Sarah Morales who wants to share the red flags so that you will be able to identify it. She maintains that you must know what it really is so that free yourself from the harmful effects.

Oct 18, 2018 • 57:04

How to Use Trigger Busters in the Relationship with Carol the Coach

One of the greatest casualties to sexual addiction is when a partner has to deal with triggers. Dorit Reichental  has developed a Trigger Busters technique that sex addicts can use with their partners to assist in managing the triggers. Listen as she and Carol the Coach dialogue about how a husband can be the support she needs to quiet the triggers!

Oct 11, 2018 • 59:43

A Partner Gives Back with Carol the Coach

So many partners want to give back to other partners but are not sure how to start. Listen as Carol the Coach interviews Coach Cat who shares her own personal story of being a partner, and having limited supports to get her through the crisis. What did she do? She got the needed training to work with partners and give back by becoming APSATS trained and creating curriculum for the Naked Truth Project in the UK. She is living proof of how you can grow stronger from this crisis!

Oct 4, 2018 • 52:53

How Do I Stop These Triggers with Carol the Coach

Partners of sex addicts experience an emotional roller coaster due to the unique and powerful trauma of sexual betrayal. Lisa will be explaining to Carol the Coach the phenomenon of triggering and the potential damage this can cause, outlining her favorite methods for successful namigation of these occurrences i the daily lives of partners.

Sep 27, 2018 • 58:16

Rescuing Partners from the Trauma Triggers with Carol the Coach

Anyone who has experienced the trauma of betrayal knows the reality of the dreaded triggers that plague the lives of partners. In the context of the relationship in which the betrayal occurred, these triggers often merge with the addict's own relational trauma scripts which greatly affects a partners sense of safety.  Listen as Carol the Coach interviews "Trigger Expert" Jake Porter, who has a method that your spouse can use to make you feel safe and help work you through the trigger.

Sep 13, 2018 • 57:07

A Sex Addict, His Polygraph, and His Recovery with Carol the Coach

Listen as Carol interviews a sex addict who wants to share his recovery from addiction and the role the polygraph has played in his healing and growth. He wants to communicate the powerful and positive impact the polygraph has had on his recovery and sexual brokenness and the positive impact it has made on his life and marriage.

Sep 6, 2018 • 1:00:02

Using A Partner Sensitive Approach with SA's and Partners

Carol the Coach will be interviewing Tim Stein MFT, CSAT, CCPS who has made it his mission to deal with the aftermath of sexual addiction by using a partner sensitive approach. He will be discussing the benefits to sex addicts, the betrayed partners and the relationships of incorportating a partner sensitive approach into the sex addict's individual and group therapy work.

Aug 30, 2018 • 58:44

What the Church Can Do to Support Partners with Carol the Coach

Carol the Coach will be interviewing Lyschel Burket who is a Lead Hope Caster for  Hope Redefined Ministries, an organization that assists Churches in providing partner sensitive guidance when sexual betrayal has occured. Lyschel discovered first hand how churches, although well meaning, did not provide the proper guidance to partners and she has made it her mission to educate churches to minister to partners to restore hope and mend deeper wounds that occur as a result of partner betrayal.

Aug 23, 2018 • 56:36

Partners and Sexual Trauma with Carol the Coach on Betrayal Recovery Radio

There is a growing awareness, research and appropriate treatment modalities about the traumatic impact of learning of a loved one's addiction, However, there is a distinct absence of research seeking more information about the sexual impact of the addiction on the partner's sexual experience. Carol the Coach is interviewing Jeanne Vattuone who will be helping us understand sexual trauma and how this effects partners and how they can heal from it.

Aug 16, 2018 • 56:21

A Partners Journey with Carol the Coach

Today, Carol the Coach will be interviewing Evelyn who has a story to share about loving a sex addict who has been in and out of recovery. She wants you to know that despite the intense pain behind her story, she has managed to grow stronger. She has vowed to help other women on this journey. She is currently writing a memoir to help provide a guide that will empower other women.

Aug 9, 2018 • 55:02

Vulnerability and Intimacy After Betrayal with Carol the Coach

Carol the Coach will be interviewing Marie Kriebs an expert in intimacy disorders, partner betrayal and vulnerability. As an APSATS trained therapist, she believes it is important to educate betrayed partners about healthy intimacy and the importance of personal growth and self awareness. She will be sharing some of the myths about vulnerability and helping our listeneers toidentify how and when they can be more vulnerable.

Aug 2, 2018 • 59:17

Discovering your Spouse's Secret Betrayal with Carol the Coach

Relationship Betrayal Trauma Recovery  is essential for a person to heal from the wounds of being betrayed by their spouse or intimate partner. However, knowing what to do when you discover the secret betrayals can be overwhelmingly confusing. Carol the Coach will be interviewing Dr. Crystal Hollenbeck who specializes in helping individuals and couples heal the wounds of Relationship Betrayal. Today she is going to help partners understand what to do from discovering their spouse's secret betray

Jul 26, 2018 • 56:18

When Can We Work on Our Relationship with Carol the Coach

Things have changed and what we know at APSATS is that once an addict is in good recovery, we need to start working on the early fundamentals of couples work to help the partner feel safe. Listen as Jeanne Vattuone talks about the principles of working with the coupleship after discovery, recovery, and disclosure

Jul 19, 2018 • 1:02:17

Boundaries Are Essential For You and Your Spouse with Carol the Coach

Boundaries are essenntial in good sexual addiction recovery. Not only do they keep you safe, but they let your spouse know what the consequences are if they are violated. Carol and Pam have hammered out some good boundaries and consequences that have worked well in Pam's family. Find out how to create healthy boundaries or fine tune the ones you already have!

Jul 12, 2018 • 43:40

Can Polygraphs Really Help a Sex Addict Stay Sober with Carol the Coach

Carol The Coach will be interviewing David Robbins who is a certified polygrapher and uses them regularly to help sex addicts build trust in their wives and to increase the accountability factor that helps to keep them sober. He has given over 200 polygraphs to sex addicts and finds it particularly helpful after disclosures. Listen to this facinating interview and decide if you want to use polygraphs in your relationship!

Jul 5, 2018 • 1:00:18

Couples Can Survive Sexual Addiction with Carol the Coach

Carol the Coach interviews Coach Karen who has lived through partner betrayal and shares her inspirational story of how she and her husband healed together. She explains that recovery work is necessary for both the partner and spouse but then they must work on the coupleship to regain the intimacy that they lost. Coach Karen will share some thoughts, tools and suggestions for those who are beginnng  to navigate this road back and desire to know what true reconciliation might look like.Listen as

Jun 28, 2018 • 1:00:03

Are Women Who Love Sex Addicts in Abusive Relationships with Carol the Coach

Carol the Coach will be interviewing Anne Blythe, Founder and CEO of Betrayal Trauma Recovery which helps women dealing with the abusive nature of their relationship with ography users. Anne explains that coming to grips with the fact that you’re in an abusive relationship is a process, and Betrayal Trauma Recovery aims to help women through the process and get to safety - hopefully with their relationship in tact because BTR believes people can change. To ensure your emotional, physical, and se

Jun 21, 2018 • 56:01

The Devastation of Partner Betrayal Your Source for Healing

Today, Carol will be interviewing Barbara Steffens, APSATS President, who will be sharing the history of why she started APSATS and how partners of sexual addiction can seek the safety they deserve. Nothing destroys trust like sexual betrayal. Beyond broken vows, a woman discovers that the man she loves has been compulsively visiting adult websites,chatting on line or having multiple affairs must deal with the devastating blows to her self-image and self-worth. She must grapple with the fact th

Jun 14, 2018 • 54:10

Betrayal Recovery Radio Presents Partner Betrayal 101

This is a description of the show that we have created for you as you deal with being a partner of a sex addict and work through the trauma and drama in your life. You didn't cause this, you can't cure it but you can keep yourself safe and we are going to help you figure out how to do it!

Jun 6, 2018 • 13:21