Feminist Survival Project

Feminist Survival Project

Emily Nagoski and Amelia Nagoski

A podcast for feminists who feel overwhelmed and exhausted by everything they need to do, and still worry that we're not doing enough - hosted by Emily and Amelia Nagoski, authors of BURNOUT: the secret to unlocking the stress cycle.

No Buy Low Buy

No Buy Low Buy

Emily and Amelia are both doing some variation on low-buy/no-buy this year. There are many good reasons to do so, and many good ways to make it work for you. All that and bonus toaster oven and kitchen counter commiseration! Amelia is going live on Youtube starting next Friday, February 21 @ 4pm eastern. Follow here:https://www.youtube.com/@feministsurvivalprojectLinks:Project for Awesome:https://www.projectforawesome.comWax Oil Wick:https://waxoilwick.com/collections/all

Feb 14, • 1:00:29

Elon Musk Does Not Have Asperger's and Neither Do We

Elon Musk Does Not Have Asperger's and Neither Do We

Amelia takes the lead this week with a history of Autism and how it’s intertwined with Fascism. It gets dark, but not explicit. Links: Asperger's Children: The Origins of Autism in Nazi Vienna FSP 2020 Episode 03: Human Giver Syndrome This American Life: 81 words Hannah Gadsby: Douglas Emily’s NYT profile

Feb 5, • 51:02

Introduction to Decluttering and Cozy Spaces

Introduction to Decluttering and Cozy Spaces

You probably have too much stuff. Most of us have too much stuff. And that’s not even taking into account the emotions we feel about having too much stuff. Luckily, Emily has done the research. Let’s make your space more ventral. Links: Saturn Ion (Wikipedia) FSP 2025 Season 2, Episode 4: Polyvagal 101 Freshwave (the stuff in the buckets) Dana K. White Cas Aarssen (Youtube) Kay Patterson (Youtube) Goodbye, Things (the silent to do list) KonMari method FSP 2020 Episode 41: The Bikini-In

Jan 30, • 1:18:26

Mask Off

Mask Off

Everyone masks to make it easier to live in the world. Emily and Amelia discuss theirs, and have some insights about times when things were particularly difficult. Content warning, there are some dark thoughts and mentions of suicidal ideation in the form of a Zombie Leprechaun around the 50 minute mark. No one was harmed. Please take care. Editor’s note: There is some extremely cathartic laughter at the end. Amelia’s video from the beginning of this episode Follow Amelia's Youtube channel

Jan 9, • 1:22:42

Take Your Time

Take Your Time

Who in your life gives you the permission and support to take the time that you need? If you can’t think of anyone else, let it be us. Links: Cynthia Erivo sings I'm Here - The Color Purple (The pose is at about 4:40) Cynthia Erivo sings "I'm Here" for the final time on Broadway Emily’s TED talk - The truth about unwanted arousal Confidence and joy are the keys to a great sex life | Emily Nagoski | TEDxUniversityofNevada The Burnout workbook (Did you know there's a workbook??) The Burnout

Jan 2, • 55:55

Enough tho

Enough tho

You are enough. Because all you can be is 100% of who you are. But you’re also filled with tiny organisms that fart. Links: Burnout (our book) Starling murmuration 2020 (youtube video) High Conflict by Amanda Ripley My Grandmother’s Hands by Resmaa Menakem Coca-Cola's 'Hilltop' Ad ("I'd Like to Teach the World to Sing")

Dec 23, 2024 • 47:42

Polyvagal 101

Polyvagal 101

Dorsal. Sympathetic. Ventral. It’s all about your nervous system’s sense of safety. Links: Vagus Nerve Exteroception Interoception Our Polyvagal World: How Safety and Trauma Change Us by Stephen W. Porges and Seth Porges Deb Dana's website - includes definitions of Polyvagal Theory terms Glimmers

Dec 13, 2024 • 1:07:28

Gender: It Begins

Gender: It Begins

Turns out you can be identical twins and experience gender really differently from one another. Emily and Amelia discuss.  Content warning: There’s some talk about fascism and Mussolini’s sex life. Links: Come Together - The Gender Mirage (chapter 10) Kakistocracy Sari van Anders Anne Fausto-Sterling ALOK

Dec 6, 2024 • 1:07:45

We're Stronger Than the Fire

We're Stronger Than the Fire

Let it burn. Links: Paradise Square (musical) Joaquina Kalukango – "Let It Burn" (75th Tony Awards Performance) on Youtube (This is the performance we talk about in the episode.) New York City draft riots The "This is Fine" dog by KC Green, who is a real person who actually created the cartoon. KC sells official "This is Fine" dog stuff on Topatoco Coleman Barks Rumi translations

Nov 27, 2024 • 53:25

FSP: Zombie Apocalypse Edition

FSP: Zombie Apocalypse Edition

Emily and Amelia are back. Maybe this will help you like it helps them. Links: Finding steady ground Nothing Much Happens podcast: Softly Softly Sleep Sound with Richard Armitage (Audible) Words to Win By podcast The New Jim Crow (book) A Force More Powerful Bringing Down a Dictator In 2017, “Joy Policing” Can Go Fuck Itself by Emily BURNOUT: Do You Feel Half Alive? We Can Do Hard Things - Apple Podcasts

Nov 20, 2024 • 50:32

An Alternative to Hope (From Emily)

An Alternative to Hope (From Emily)

An Alternative to Hope: Or, The Secret Medicine for When the Thing With Feathers Stop Singing I was inspired to make this video obviously because of John Green’s June 25th video, where he talks about taking a break from making videos because: depression, and he concludes with his familiar assurance that despair is a lie, hopelessness is a lie, that life is meaningful, and your life matters. He says he’s going to spend the month of July reminding himself that Emily Dickinson was right, “that hope

Nov 13, 2024 • 15:03

The Come As You Are podcast

The Come As You Are podcast

The Come As You Are podcast was a 8-episode miniseries. It's over now, but maybe you haven't heard it yet? Subscribe here: Apple Podcasts Spotify Amazon And everywhere else you get podcasts!

Nov 16, 2022 • 24:16

63: How to Listen to Your Body (Addendum)

63: How to Listen to Your Body (Addendum)

Is Emily Amelia's Loki Variant or is Amelia *Emily's* Loki Variant?? Sometimes your body lies to you, so it’s very on theme that it turns out we lied about this series ending last week. Mild spoilers for Loki, if you are planning to watch it. ********** LINKS: Loki Neuroplastic pain Polyvagal Theory The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma Amelia’s Youtube channel Come As You Are (signed by Emily) Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle: Penguin Random

Jul 26, 2021 • 46:10

62: How to Listen to Your Body: Part Five

62: How to Listen to Your Body: Part Five

The epic conclusion! It’s about using your imagination to listen to your body. Emily and Amelia bring it all home. ********** LINKS: Episode 58: How to Listen to Your Body, Part One (guest starring Allegra) Emily and Amelia on Brené Brown’s “Unlocking Us” Rumi’s “A Story is Like Water” Come As You Are (signed by Emily) What I Talk About When I Talk About Running Self-Therapy No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model An Actor Prepares (Paperback)

Jul 12, 2021 • 53:02

61: How to Listen to Your Body: Part Four

61: How to Listen to Your Body: Part Four

Emily and Amelia start by talking about your body’s sense of proprioception, but wind up taking a journey into imagination. ************ LINKS: Proprioception YOKE: MY YOGA OF SELF ACCEPTANCE (book) Underbelly Yoga Singing Redefined by Walter C. Foster FSP episode 36: Embrace Tiger Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle: Penguin Random House Amazon Feel free to drop us a line! See you soon. feministsurvivalproject2020@gmail.com

Jun 28, 2021 • 50:42

60: How to Listen to Your Body, Part Three

60: How to Listen to Your Body, Part Three

You’re aware of how the external world affects your internal experience. What’s next? Nonjudgment is a big part of it. Emily and Amelia discuss interoception. ************ LINKS: Interoception Underbelly Yoga Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle: Penguin Random House Amazon Feel free to drop us a line! See you soon. feministsurvivalproject2020@gmail.com

Jun 20, 2021 • 43:01

59: How to Listen to Your Body, Part Two

59: How to Listen to Your Body, Part Two

It took Amelia years to realize feelings were real and to listen to her own body. This week, she and Emily explain the way to get started to Amelia’s 17-year-old self.) ********** LINKS: “Until you spread your wings, you'll have no idea how far you can walk.” Observational Distance Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle: Penguin Random House Amazon Feel free to drop us a line! See you soon. feministsurvivalproject2020@gmail.com

Jun 14, 2021 • 56:23

58: How to Listen to Your Body, Part One

58: How to Listen to Your Body, Part One

Part one in a series where Amelia discusses how she’s learned to listen to her body. Spoiler warning: She used to be terrible at it. Allegra Martin joins the show this week. (Emily is back next week.) ********** LINKS: Episode 29: Allegra Alexithymia Alexithymia questionnaire Jonathan Haidt: The Elephant and the Rider Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle: Penguin Random House Amazon Feel free to drop us a line! See you soon. feministsurvivalproject2020@gmail.com

Jun 7, 2021 • 38:23

Bonus: Audio Preface to the new edition (3 of 3)

Bonus: Audio Preface to the new edition (3 of 3)

Why did Emily write a new edition of Come As You Are? We're glad you asked! After five years of talking to readers, Emily has updated Come As You Are with new science, new language, and new perspectives. In this three part series, she explains some of what's in the new edition. ******** Order a signed copy from our local bookseller, Book Moon Books. Or preorder on Amazon. Join the Emily’s Adnexa email list here. If you have a question that she can answer in the email list, send it to cayapod@gma

Feb 22, 2021 • 26:21

Bonus: Audio Preface to the new edition (2 of 3)

Bonus: Audio Preface to the new edition (2 of 3)

Why did Emily write a new edition of Come As You Are? We're glad you asked! After five years of talking to readers, Emily has updated Come As You Are with new science, new language, and new perspectives. In this three part series, she explains some of what's in the new edition. ******** Order a signed copy from our local bookseller, Book Moon Books. Or preorder on Amazon. Join the Emily’s Adnexa email list here. If you have a question that she can answer in the email list, send it to cayapod@gma

Feb 19, 2021 • 22:31

Bonus: Audio Preface to the new edition (1 of 3)

Bonus: Audio Preface to the new edition (1 of 3)

Why did Emily write a new edition of Come As You Are? We're glad you asked! After five years of talking to readers, Emily has updated Come As You Are with new science, new language, and new perspectives. In this three part series, she explains some of what's in the new edition. ******** Order a signed copy from our local bookseller, Book Moon Books. Or preorder on Amazon. Join the Emily’s Adnexa email list here. If you have a question that she can answer in the email list, send it to cayapod@gm

Feb 17, 2021 • 25:50

57: 2020 [BETA]

57: 2020 [BETA]

Let’s make some New Year’s Resolutions. Or not! Do whatever you need to get through this mess. Amelia is still dealing with long Covid and Emily gets really excited about Bridgerton. ********* LINKS: Episode 46: What Even Is Hope Episode 41: The Bikini-Industrial Complex Episode 29: Allegra Your New Year’s Resolution in 2021 Should Be To Stay Alive | A Serious Message From a Comedy Writer Shantira Jackson on Instagram Kate Bornstein get out of hell card Episode 51: Calling In Amelia’s Covid Burn

Jan 18, 2021 • 51:17

56: Amelia’s Something Larger is a Turkey

56: Amelia’s Something Larger is a Turkey

It’s a special holiday episode where we ask you not to attend holiday gatherings. It’s about turkey, but it’s not really about turkey. Bonus: Amelia’s secret stuffing recipe. ***** SPONSOR: This episode is brought to you by If the Boot Fits, A Smart & Sexy Cinderella Story by Rebekah Weatherspoon LINKS: Fomite NY Times: For Home Cooks, Burnout Is a Reality This Holiday Season Episode 05: What's Your Something Larger? Hygge Vestibular Migraine Episode 03: Human Giver Syndrome Bell’s Poultry

Nov 17, 2020 • 41:54

55: One Important Thing

55: One Important Thing

It’s the final episode of the season! Emily and Amelia discuss what all of you learned from the show. And if your name is Brené Brown, there’s a special gratitude song just for you. ****** Taco Emoji 🌮 Don’t Bring Facts to a Feelings Fight Underbelly Yoga Nap Ministry A Slob Comes Clean Brené with Emily and Amelia Nagoski on Burnout and How to Complete the Stress Cycle Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle: Penguin Random House Amazon

Nov 2, 2020 • 57:35

54: Music For Stress Management

54: Music For Stress Management

Everybody’s been asking about the class Amelia teaches on the book Burnout, so she’s gonna lay it all out for us. And, ohh… did you know we spoke to Brené Brown? That actually happened. ***** Brené with Emily and Amelia Nagoski on Burnout and How to Complete the Stress Cycle Episode 18: The New Hotness Episode 04: The Abyss Episode 13: Is it Burnout... Or is it trauma? Episode 41: The Bikini-Industrial Complex Episode 36: Embrace Tiger Tell us one thing you’ve learned on FSP so far

Oct 26, 2020 • 53:35

53: How to Attachment

53: How to Attachment

What’s your attachment style? Which Broadway musical number does it correspond to? Emily and Amelia discuss… and sing. ***** Episode 52: Trust Attachment theory Reaper Incandescent Sisal Light Up Halloween Decor Candide - Make Our Garden Grow Brené with Emily and Amelia Nagoski on Burnout and How to Complete the Stress Cycle How to Be an Adult: A Handbook for Psychological and Spiritual Integration Tell us one thing you’ve learned on FSP so far! feministsurvivalproject2020@gmail.com Instagram

Oct 19, 2020 • 58:57

52: Trust

52: Trust

How do you know when to trust other people? How do you know when to share your cupcakes to make the world better for everyone? Emily and Amelia discuss and end with a song. ******* Books by Dr. Sue Johnson Entitled: How Male Privilege Hurts Women Gas Light by Patrick Hamilton Episode 08: The Monitor Come as You Are chapter 4 covers attachment theory Brandon Sanderson’s “Reckoners” series

Oct 12, 2020 • 49:13

51: Calling In Amelia’s Covid

51: Calling In Amelia’s Covid

Update on Amelia’s long Covid situation and Emily’s new dad, Mandy Patinkin. ******* “I’m a Black Feminist. I Think Call-Out Culture Is Toxic.” by Loretta Ross lorettaross.com Schadenfreude Mandy Patinkin’s twitter Mandy Patinkin’s love song

Oct 5, 2020 • 39:24

50: Number Fifty

50: Number Fifty

Fifty episodes! Let’s review the toolkit we’ve built during this year of podcasts. Emily and Amelia discuss. ************* Brené Brown: The power of vulnerability (TED talk) Episode 31: Social Support Episode 01: Separate the Stress From the Stressor Episode 08: The Monitor Episode 28: Foop Episode 32: The Owl and the Cheese Episode 41: The Bikini-Industrial Complex Episode 11: The Bubble of Love Episode 05: What's Your Something Larger? Episode 34: The Madwoman Episode 35: Too Much Conn

Sep 28, 2020 • 35:50

49: How to Dreams

49: How to Dreams

Are your dreams purely biochemical processes or are they Jungian-scented mind candles your subconscious teaches you lessons with? Emily and Amelia discuss. ************* Jonathan Haidt: "The Elephant and the Rider" The Happiness Hypothesis Encyclopedia Of Occult Sciences (archive.org) Episode 34: The Madwoman Episode 21: Your Body Will Tell You Multiple trace theory

Sep 21, 2020 • 46:20

48: You’re Allowed to Like the Thing

48: You’re Allowed to Like the Thing

Do the views of authors and actors affect your ability to enjoy things? Can you consume problematic media in good conscience? Amelia and Emily discuss. J. K. Rowling is not invited. ************* WTAF, RWA: Courtney Milan Banned, Suspended From RWA I Asked My Friend WHY She Had a Plantation Wedding Episode 29: Allegra Zaris-Angel performs 'Naughty' at West End Live 2016 Splash Mountain to Be Rethemed to The Princess and the Frog Auliʻi Cravalho Hattie McDaniel The Wind Can GTFO [A Gone With th

Sep 14, 2020 • 57:22

47: Pause For Pleasure

47: Pause For Pleasure

Can focusing on pleasure help your brain counteract depression? Is it worth taking a moment to enjoy every donut even if it doesn’t? Emily and Amelia discuss. ********* SPONSOR: This episode is brought to you by “The Siren and the Deep Blue Sea,” the latest book in the Embraced by Magic Series by Kerrelyn Sparks. https://www.kensingtonbooks.com/9781496730060/the-siren-and-the-deep-blue-sea/ ********* Entenmann’s donuts: https://www.entenmanns.com/en/products/8-crumb-donuts?category=8 Episod

Sep 7, 2020 • 39:40

46: What Even Is Hope

46: What Even Is Hope

What is the nature of hope? Amelia’s off this week, so Emily discusses with her mysterious Marital Euphemism. ****** How We Hope: A Moral Psychology by Adrienne Martin: https://www.amazon.com/How-We-Hope-Moral-Psychology/dp/0691171394 Irascible Appetites: https://aquinasonline.com/sense-appetites-passions/ Episode 08: The Monitor: https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-08-the-monitor Oregon Trail Generation: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Xennials Marital Euphemism: https:/

Aug 31, 2020 • 44:06

45: Emily’s Epiphany

45: Emily’s Epiphany

Emily’s worried about the future of democracy, but the good news is It turns out the nature of the problem doesn’t necessarily dictate the nature of the solution. (This one’s a little dark.) ******* Sonya Renee Taylor: https://www.instagram.com/tv/CD4C_56AbP7/?igshid=jrczl9b8x7ay https://www.instagram.com/tv/CECUAjsADLF/?igshid=1ecl04ohd5a1h Surviving Autocracy by Masha Gessen: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/50695164-surviving-autocracy How to Be an Antiracist by Ibram X. Kendi: https://www

Aug 24, 2020 • 43:25

44: How to Shadow Work

44: How to Shadow Work

Why do certain things really make you angry? Could it be that they remind you of things you dislike in yourself? Emily and Amelia discuss. Spoilers for Rise of Skywalker, The Mandalorian, Hamilton, Moana and The Accursed Year 2020. *** SPONSOR: This episode is brought to you by “The Rebellious Rancher,” the latest book in the The Millers of Morgan Valley Series by Kate Pearce https://www.kensingtonbooks.com/9781420148251/the-rebellious-rancher/ Jungian archetypes: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/J

Aug 17, 2020 • 42:01

43: How to Bystander

43: How to Bystander

So you’ve noticed something Not Okay is happening. What do you do next? Emily and Amelia discuss. ******** Green Dot Bystander Intervention: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Green_Dot_Bystander_Intervention Rage Fridge (From Thanksgiving episode): https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-07-thanksgiving Episode 41: The Bikini-Industrial Complex: https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-41-bikini-industrial-complex Episode 18: The New Hotness: https://www.feministsur

Aug 10, 2020 • 48:42

42: Stages of Change

42: Stages of Change

Amelia’s COVID Chronicles, Chapter One Million. Emily helps her turn towards her fatigue with m********ing kindness and m********ing compassion. ******** Transtheoretical model: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Transtheoretical_model That Calvin Coolidge quote which neither of us endorse: https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/2749-nothing-in-this-world-can-take-the-place-of-persistence Episode 31: Social Support: https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-31-social-support Self-Therapy: ht

Aug 3, 2020 • 51:45

41: The Bikini-Industrial Complex

41: The Bikini-Industrial Complex

The Bikini-Industrial Complex We have been lied to all our lives about the relationship between health and weight. It’s both liberating and infuriating. Emily and Amelia discuss. ******** Emily’s blog post on BMI and weight stigma: https://www.thedirtynormal.com/post/2016/08/07/bmi-mortality-weight-stigma-science-sigh/ Health at Every Size: https://haescommunity.com Episode 11: The Bubble of Love: https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-11-bubble-of-love Episode 40: Food: It's

Jul 27, 2020 • 1:08:47

40: Food: It's Complicated

40: Food: It's Complicated

Do you live to eat or eat to live? If you answered, "it's complicated," you are correct. Emily and Amelia discuss. ******** SPONSOR: This episode is brought to you by “The Mermaid, the Witch, and the Sea,” Maggie Tokuda-Hall’s sweeping fantasy debut from Candlewick press: https://www.candlewick.com/cat.asp?mode=book&isbn=1536204315&browse=Title Episode 18: The New Hotness https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-18-new-hotness

Jul 20, 2020 • 45:42

39: Covid Follow Up

39: Covid Follow Up

Spoiler alert: COVID is serious. Amelia is past the worst and quarantined like a boss, but it really took a toll. Contains some coughing and mild coffee snobbery. ******** Amelia’s covid prep list: https://medium.com/@amelianp/covid-prep-list-7bbc6a8ee3d2 Hario V60 pour over coffee: https://www.baristainstitute.com/brewguides-2/hario-v60 Episode 08: The Monitor: https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-08-the-monitor

Jul 13, 2020 • 34:12

38: Amelia has the COVID

38: Amelia has the COVID

As careful as she was, Amelia caught the virus. (She's OK.) Let's learn from her experience and get a Corona Plan together in case you need to quarantine. Bonus: Emily and Amelia discuss toilet paper. SPONSOR: This episode is brought to you by Crushing It, a new romantic comedy by Lorelei Parker from Kensington Books. https://www.kensingtonbooks.com/pages/landing-page/crushingit/ Amelia’s covid prep list: https://medium.com/@amelianp/covid-prep-list-7bbc6a8ee3d2

Jul 6, 2020 • 57:48

37: Ode to Ode to Joy

37: Ode to Ode to Joy

Ode to Ode to Joy Classical music should be for everyone because we all deserve access to joy. You may have more in common with these dead composers than you thought. Emily and Amelia discuss. ******** Was Beethoven Black? Probably Not, but These Unsung Composers Were: https://www.smithsonianmag.com/smart-news/was-beethoven-black-and-why-might-be-wrong-question-ask-180975159/ Joy playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/0RmAELBeFBBItZnfTV4yX7?si=EsR-Yi_GRbyjw4IUk6lhvw Schubert: Symphony No.9

Jun 29, 2020 • 41:46

36: Embrace Tiger

36: Embrace Tiger

This week, Amelia discusses tai chi and nonjudgment in the hope that it can help Emily. (and you) Spoiler warning: The moral of the story is Universe Juice. ******** Embrace Tiger, Return to Mountain: The Essence of Tai Ji https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/252447.Embrace_Tiger_Return_to_Mountain Everything Is Everything (Lauryn Hill song) https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Everything_Is_Everything_(Lauryn_Hill_song) Kung Fu Panda https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kung_Fu_Panda_(franchise) Chickpea To C

Jun 22, 2020 • 40:33

35: Too Much Connection

35: Too Much Connection

Connection is a drive, like hunger and sleep. But what do you do when you’ve had too much connection? Emily and Amelia discuss. ******** Born in Quarantine (Facebook ad) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8OW4AFbzjGk Social Distance podcast: https://www.theatlantic.com/podcasts/socialdistance/ Episode 31: Social Support: https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-31-social-support The Noonday Demon: http://andrewsolomon.com/books/the-noonday-demon/ Raising Your Spirited Child, Third E

Jun 15, 2020 • 39:30

34: The Madwoman

34: The Madwoman

Emily and Amelia discuss the concept of The Madwoman, and how you can turn toward yours with kindness and compassion. Spoiler warning for those who don't yet know the stories of Jane Eyre or Moana. ******** SPONSOR: This episode is brought to you by Never Conspire With a Sinful Baron, the latest book in Renee Ann Miller’s Infamous Lords Series. https://www.kensingtonbooks.com/9781420150032/never-conspire-with-a-sinful-baron/ Jane Eyre https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jane_Eyre Bertha Mason (The Mad

Jun 8, 2020 • 1:05:16

33: Because: Unbreakable

33: Because: Unbreakable

Did you watch the interactive Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt? How does making good choices for Kimmy apply to real life? Emily and Amelia discuss. (Tons of spoilers for Kimmy Vs. The Reverend) ******** Kimmy Vs. The Reverend: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt10324166/ EMDR Therapy: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Eye_movement_desensitization_and_reprocessing Emily’s romance novels: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/27208942-how-not-to-fall https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/25985351-how-not-to-let-go Ep

Jun 1, 2020 • 26:02

32: The Owl and the Cheese

32: The Owl and the Cheese

What do owls and cheese have to do with surviving the hellscape of 2020? How can we work to run toward the things that make it worth surviving. Emily and Amelia discuss. ****** Episode 5: What's Your Something Larger? https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-05-something-larger Pacific Overtures "Someone in a Tree" - Ann Harada, Austin Ku, Kelvin Moon Loh & Thom Sesma: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-PNX9PPCEls&feature=emb_title Love Illuminated (part 1): https://www.you

May 25, 2020 • 38:03

31: Social Support

31: Social Support

It turns out feelings are real and (spoiler warning) emotional support is really important! Emily and Amelia discuss. There's science to support it. Emily and Amelia discuss. This episode is brought to you by Kensington’s newest title from Lindsay McKenna, Wind River Undercover. https://www.kensingtonbooks.com/book.aspx/39281 ****** Gourmet Makes: https://www.bonappetit.com/video/series/gourmet-makes Shrinkchicks (Season 1, Episode 20) https://open.spotify.com/episode/61wmkKTydqaWbZ4pgorSKX P

May 18, 2020 • 39:35

30: Voting While Feminist

30: Voting While Feminist

“Democracy is the worst form of government, except for all the others” is attributed to Winston Churchill, who wasn't too great himself. And this year it might feel like the Democratic presidential candidate is the worst one on the ballot except for the other one. What’s a feminist to do?Emily, Amelia, and Amelia's colleague Mark discuss. (Content warning: this episode includes discussion of sexual violence ) ****** what to do when someone tells you they were sexually assaulted: https://

May 11, 2020 • 1:17:29

29: Allegra

29: Allegra

Amelia’s friend and fellow musician Allegra joins us this week and shares her perspective on social distancing and burnout. ****** Wozzeck Trailer (The Royal Opera): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YzU31UrXceo Predictably Irrational: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Predictably_Irrational The Ballad of the Brown King: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Ballad_of_the_Brown_King The Concert Choir of Georgetown University - Millennium Stage: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aPDZ2iwSMXA Vegetarian JapCha

May 4, 2020 • 1:00:56

28: Foop

28: Foop

You know that crazy feeling of oscillating between frustrated rage and helpless despair? That’s Foop. Emily and Amelia discuss. ********** The Monitor: https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-08-the-monitor

Apr 27, 2020 • 41:50

27: How to Unfamiliarity

27: How to Unfamiliarity

We're all in uncharted territory these days. Amelia has a music metaphor to help cope with these times of social distancing. Emily helps break it down. Special appearance by Beethoven. (not the dog)

Apr 20, 2020 • 1:01:33

26: Masks and How to Wear Them

26: Masks and How to Wear Them

We're all wearing masks now. But why are we wearing them and how can we do so most effectively. Emily and Amelia get into it, cowboy outlaw-style.

Apr 13, 2020 • 32:23

25: Even More Social Distancing

25: Even More Social Distancing

Emily (from her bed) and Amelia (from her kitchen) discuss the importance of social distancing, as well as why it's so hard. And Amelia tops it off with a classic 90s Bette Midler jam. ****** Episode 20: How to Numbing https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-20-numbing SOCIAL DISTANCE - A Randy Rainbow Song Parody https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WimbyL_25Nw Colin Firth Swimming https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hasKmDr1yrA

Apr 6, 2020 • 47:09

24: The Sex Episode

24: The Sex Episode

Emily and Amelia’s first ever guest! They talk with the amazing Peggy Kleinplatz, one of the authors of the new book, Magnificent Sex. ****** Magnificent Sex Lessons from Extraordinary Lovers, 1st Edition By Peggy J. Kleinplatz and A. Dana Ménard https://www.routledge.com/Magnificent-Sex-Lessons-from-Extraordinary-Lovers-1st-Edition/Kleinplatz-Menard/p/book/9780367181376

Mar 30, 2020 • 52:22

23: Social Distance Duet

23: Social Distance Duet

Emily and Amelia discuss social distancing while social distancing. Plus: Bonus word games and ukulele music. ****** Mickey Mouse - Ku'u Lei Melody | Song https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h8FasCHHsPk

Mar 23, 2020 • 56:03

22: Time Affluence

22: Time Affluence

Time is the only completely limited resource. What matters more to you, time or stuff? Are you willing to compromise to fit the expectations of others? Emily and Amelia discuss.

Mar 16, 2020 • 44:57

21: Your Body Will Tell You

21: Your Body Will Tell You

How do you listen to your body? It’s easy for some people and a completely alien concept for others. Emily and Amelia discuss. ****** The Communication of Emotion by Ross Buck https://www.amazon.com/Communication-Emotion-Ross-Buck/dp/0898621100 Interoception https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Interoception Proprioception https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Proprioception Singing Redefined by Walter C. Foster https://www.classicalvocalrep.com/products/Singing-Redefined-by-Walter-C-Foster-369633.html Peggy

Mar 9, 2020 • 49:54

Mini-Episode: How to Coronavirus

Mini-Episode: How to Coronavirus

Worried about the Coronavirus? Luckily, Emily has a background in public health and can explain it. This is an episode for people who aren’t at high risk, to talk about why and how they can help make the world safer for people who are at risk. Spoiler warning: Wash your hands. PS: Edited to add when Emily listened to this mini-episode, she realized they didn’t make it crystal clear that it’s not just age but also health issues that make people vulnerable. People of any age can have respiratory i

Mar 3, 2020 • 14:55

20: How to Numbing

20: How to Numbing

Numbing. Emotional ibuprofen. Maladaptive coping strategies. They’re short-term solutions, but sometimes reducing the pain is the only way you can rest enough to heal. FSP2020 joins the Frolic network: https://frolic.media Gourmet Makes with Claire Saffitz: https://www.bonappetit.com/video/series/gourmet-makes Explain Pain Super Charged: https://www.amazon.com/Explain-Charged-Butler-Lorimer-Moseley/dp/0648022706

Mar 2, 2020 • 35:01

19: How to Entertainment

19: How to Entertainment

What's the difference between art and entertainment? How can you engage with both in a healthy way? PS: Emily really, really loves Schitt's Creek. ****** How Horror Helps With Processing Grief and Trauma: Laura Kinsale

Feb 24, 2020 • 36:28

18: The New Hotness

18: The New Hotness

The Bikini-Industrial Complex. What is it and how can you escape it? Also- The secret identity of The New Hotness (Spoiler warning: It's you.) ****** Health at Every Size

Feb 17, 2020 • 43:20

17: How to Gratitude

17: How to Gratitude

Gratitude is important. But just because we’ve come a long way, it doesn’t mean we’re close to where we need to be. Emily and Amelia discuss. FSP2020 episode 5: What's your something larger? Nichole’s Gratitude on Medium. Amelia is a huge Brandon Sanderson fan.

Feb 10, 2020 • 37:59

16: How to Be a White Lady Who Tries

16: How to Be a White Lady Who Tries

We're white ladies. We know we're not going to say anything that people of color don't already know. We're going to make mistakes. But we're going to try our best. Show notes: Me and White Supremacy workbook by Layla Saad The Nap Bishop Leesa Renee Hall Tressie McMillan Cottom's THICK Brittany Cooper’s Eloquent Rage A History of White People

Feb 3, 2020 • 34:32

15: How to Primaries

15: How to Primaries

It's the inevitable politics episode. Amelia is an idealist. Emily's a pragmatist. But guess what? They both want to do the right thing.

Jan 27, 2020 • 32:19

14: How to Art

14: How to Art

Amelia takes the lead on this one. How does creative self-expression help you complete the stress response cycle? (Hint: It has to do with recognizing that emotions are real.)

Jan 20, 2020 • 44:32

13: Is it Burnout... Or is it trauma?

13: Is it Burnout... Or is it trauma?

Burnout and trauma are not the same thing. Emily and Amelia discuss the difference and some ways to help. (Apologies for the audio quality on this one. We had some microphone difficulties.)

Jan 13, 2020 • 35:03

12: How to Sleeping

12: How to Sleeping

How much sleep do you need? What's the "right" way to sleep? Emily and Amelia talk about sleep debt, sleep personalities, and a just a touch of Jane Eyre.

Jan 6, 2020 • 41:11

11: The Bubble of Love

11: The Bubble of Love

What makes a relationship safe and renewing? Emily and Amelia explain using Cupcake Economics.

Dec 30, 2019 • 33:46

10: Rest IS the Revolution

10: Rest IS the Revolution

Rest is important. You're probably not getting enough. Let's talk about it with Emily, Amelia, and a special secret guest cameo appearance from Rachel Maddow. We're huge fans of The Nap Ministry, who you should follow on Instagram.

Dec 16, 2019 • 29:21

09: How to Rage

09: How to Rage

Rage. It's a maligned and misunderstood emotion. What's your relationship with your rage? What's your rage's relationship with... poop?

Dec 9, 2019 • 45:06

08: The Monitor

08: The Monitor

Frustration. Everybody feels it. Emily and Amelia discuss the science of how frustration works, and strategies for managing it. Worksheets from their book Burnout are here: https://www.burnoutbook.net/downloads

Dec 2, 2019 • 38:01

07: Your Racist Uncle, Your Apathetic Aunt, and Your Misogynist Cousin: How To

07: Your Racist Uncle, Your Apathetic Aunt, and Your Misogynist Cousin: How To

It's almost Thanksgiving here in these United States. Emily and Amelia discuss their strategies for dealing with people you disagree with during the holidays. In the words of Luke Skywalker, "This is not going to go the way you think."

Nov 25, 2019 • 33:34

06: How to News

06: How to News

Impeachment has begun. What's your relationship with the news right now? Emily and Amelia discuss their strategies. Spoiler alert: It's OK to dial it back and take care of yourself.

Nov 18, 2019 • 22:30

05: What's Your Something Larger?

05: What's Your Something Larger?

There's a lot of research that says meaning and purpose is good for your mental health. But how do we define that? Emily, Amelia, and Moana are here to figure that out.

Nov 11, 2019 • 30:13

04: The Abyss

04: The Abyss

Today... we’re gonna look squarely into the abyss. We’ve all got one. Let’s talk about it.

Nov 3, 2019 • 30:46

03: Human Giver Syndrome

03: Human Giver Syndrome

In this episode, the question is: What’s the biggest cultural barrier between feminists and their ability to complete the stress response cycles?

Nov 3, 2019 • 30:30

02: Complete the Stress Response Cycle

02: Complete the Stress Response Cycle

So if solving actual stressors isn’t enough to deal with the stress in your body, what does deal with it? How do we complete the stress response cycle? This episode is a catalog of a dozen concrete, specific, evidence-based strategies for doing just that.

Nov 3, 2019 • 40:16

01: Separate the Stress From the Stressor

01: Separate the Stress From the Stressor

Wellness is a state of action. The cure for burnout isn’t self-care, it’s all of us caring for each other. And when we embrace those things, we’re not taking a break from fixing the world, we are already fixing the world.

Nov 3, 2019 • 24:30

Introduction

Introduction

What is the Feminist Survival Project 2020? Emily and Amelia Nagoski explain the project and how you can help.

Oct 28, 2019 • 5:21

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