Feminist Survival Project
Emily Nagoski and Amelia Nagoski
A podcast for feminists who feel overwhelmed and exhausted by everything they need to do, and still worry that we're not doing enough - hosted by Emily and Amelia Nagoski, authors of BURNOUT: the secret to unlocking the stress cycle.
No Buy Low Buy
Emily and Amelia are both doing some variation on low-buy/no-buy this year. There are many good reasons to do so, and many good ways to make it work for you. All that and bonus toaster oven and kitchen counter commiseration! Amelia is going live on Youtube starting next Friday, February 21 @ 4pm eastern. Follow here:https://www.youtube.com/@feministsurvivalprojectLinks:Project for Awesome:https://www.projectforawesome.comWax Oil Wick:https://waxoilwick.com/collections/all
Elon Musk Does Not Have Asperger's and Neither Do We
Amelia takes the lead this week with a history of Autism and how it’s intertwined with Fascism. It gets dark, but not explicit.
Links:
Asperger's Children: The Origins of Autism in Nazi Vienna
FSP 2020 Episode 03: Human Giver Syndrome
This American Life: 81 words
Hannah Gadsby: Douglas
Emily’s NYT profile
Introduction to Decluttering and Cozy Spaces
You probably have too much stuff. Most of us have too much stuff. And that’s not even taking into account the emotions we feel about having too much stuff. Luckily, Emily has done the research. Let’s make your space more ventral.
Links:
Saturn Ion (Wikipedia)
FSP 2025 Season 2, Episode 4: Polyvagal 101
Freshwave (the stuff in the buckets)
Dana K. White
Cas Aarssen (Youtube)
Kay Patterson (Youtube)
Goodbye, Things (the silent to do list)
KonMari method
FSP 2020 Episode 41: The Bikini-In
Mask Off
Everyone masks to make it easier to live in the world. Emily and Amelia discuss theirs, and have some insights about times when things were particularly difficult.
Content warning, there are some dark thoughts and mentions of suicidal ideation in the form of a Zombie Leprechaun around the 50 minute mark. No one was harmed. Please take care.
Editor’s note: There is some extremely cathartic laughter at the end.
Amelia’s video from the beginning of this episode
Follow Amelia's Youtube channel
Take Your Time
Who in your life gives you the permission and support to take the time that you need? If you can’t think of anyone else, let it be us.
Links:
Cynthia Erivo sings I'm Here - The Color Purple
(The pose is at about 4:40)
Cynthia Erivo sings "I'm Here" for the final time on Broadway
Emily’s TED talk - The truth about unwanted arousal
Confidence and joy are the keys to a great sex life | Emily Nagoski | TEDxUniversityofNevada
The Burnout workbook
(Did you know there's a workbook??)
The Burnout
Enough tho
You are enough. Because all you can be is 100% of who you are.
But you’re also filled with tiny organisms that fart.
Links:
Burnout (our book)
Starling murmuration 2020 (youtube video)
High Conflict by Amanda Ripley
My Grandmother’s Hands by Resmaa Menakem
Coca-Cola's 'Hilltop' Ad ("I'd Like to Teach the World to Sing")
Polyvagal 101
Dorsal. Sympathetic. Ventral. It’s all about your nervous system’s sense of safety.
Links:
Vagus Nerve
Exteroception
Interoception
Our Polyvagal World: How Safety and Trauma Change Us by Stephen W. Porges and Seth Porges
Deb Dana's website - includes definitions of Polyvagal Theory terms
Glimmers
Gender: It Begins
Turns out you can be identical twins and experience gender really differently from one another. Emily and Amelia discuss.
Content warning: There’s some talk about fascism and Mussolini’s sex life.
Links:
Come Together - The Gender Mirage (chapter 10)
Kakistocracy
Sari van Anders
Anne Fausto-Sterling
ALOK
We're Stronger Than the Fire
Let it burn.
Links:
Paradise Square (musical)
Joaquina Kalukango – "Let It Burn" (75th Tony Awards Performance) on Youtube
(This is the performance we talk about in the episode.)
New York City draft riots
The "This is Fine" dog by KC Green, who is a real person who actually created the cartoon.
KC sells official "This is Fine" dog stuff on Topatoco
Coleman Barks Rumi translations
FSP: Zombie Apocalypse Edition
Emily and Amelia are back. Maybe this will help you like it helps them.
Links:
Finding steady ground
Nothing Much Happens podcast: Softly Softly
Sleep Sound with Richard Armitage (Audible)
Words to Win By podcast
The New Jim Crow (book)
A Force More Powerful
Bringing Down a Dictator
In 2017, “Joy Policing” Can Go Fuck Itself by Emily
BURNOUT: Do You Feel Half Alive? We Can Do Hard Things - Apple Podcasts
An Alternative to Hope (From Emily)
An Alternative to Hope: Or, The Secret Medicine for When the Thing With Feathers Stop Singing
I was inspired to make this video obviously because of John Green’s June 25th video, where he talks about taking a break from making videos because: depression, and he concludes with his familiar assurance that despair is a lie, hopelessness is a lie, that life is meaningful, and your life matters. He says he’s going to spend the month of July reminding himself that Emily Dickinson was right, “that hope
The Come As You Are podcast
The Come As You Are podcast was a 8-episode miniseries. It's over now, but maybe you haven't heard it yet?
Subscribe here:
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Spotify
Amazon
And everywhere else you get podcasts!
63: How to Listen to Your Body (Addendum)
Is Emily Amelia's Loki Variant or is Amelia *Emily's* Loki Variant??
Sometimes your body lies to you, so it’s very on theme that it turns out we lied about this series ending last week. Mild spoilers for Loki, if you are planning to watch it.
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LINKS:
Loki
Neuroplastic pain
Polyvagal Theory
The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma
Amelia’s Youtube channel
Come As You Are (signed by Emily)
Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle:
Penguin Random
62: How to Listen to Your Body: Part Five
The epic conclusion! It’s about using your imagination to listen to your body. Emily and Amelia bring it all home.
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LINKS:
Episode 58: How to Listen to Your Body, Part One (guest starring Allegra)
Emily and Amelia on Brené Brown’s “Unlocking Us”
Rumi’s “A Story is Like Water”
Come As You Are (signed by Emily)
What I Talk About When I Talk About Running
Self-Therapy
No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model
An Actor Prepares (Paperback)
61: How to Listen to Your Body: Part Four
Emily and Amelia start by talking about your body’s sense of proprioception, but wind up taking a journey into imagination.
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LINKS:
Proprioception
YOKE: MY YOGA OF SELF ACCEPTANCE (book)
Underbelly Yoga
Singing Redefined by Walter C. Foster
FSP episode 36: Embrace Tiger
Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle:
Penguin Random House
Amazon
Feel free to drop us a line! See you soon.
feministsurvivalproject2020@gmail.com
60: How to Listen to Your Body, Part Three
You’re aware of how the external world affects your internal experience. What’s next? Nonjudgment is a big part of it. Emily and Amelia discuss interoception.
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LINKS:
Interoception
Underbelly Yoga
Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle:
Penguin Random House
Amazon
Feel free to drop us a line! See you soon.
feministsurvivalproject2020@gmail.com
59: How to Listen to Your Body, Part Two
It took Amelia years to realize feelings were real and to listen to her own body. This week, she and Emily explain the way to get started to Amelia’s 17-year-old self.)
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LINKS:
“Until you spread your wings, you'll have no idea how far you can walk.”
Observational Distance
Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle:
Penguin Random House
Amazon
Feel free to drop us a line! See you soon.
feministsurvivalproject2020@gmail.com
58: How to Listen to Your Body, Part One
Part one in a series where Amelia discusses how she’s learned to listen to her body. Spoiler warning: She used to be terrible at it. Allegra Martin joins the show this week. (Emily is back next week.)
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LINKS:
Episode 29: Allegra
Alexithymia
Alexithymia questionnaire
Jonathan Haidt: The Elephant and the Rider
Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle:
Penguin Random House
Amazon
Feel free to drop us a line! See you soon.
feministsurvivalproject2020@gmail.com
Bonus: Audio Preface to the new edition (3 of 3)
Why did Emily write a new edition of Come As You Are? We're glad you asked!
After five years of talking to readers, Emily has updated Come As You Are with new science, new language, and new perspectives.
In this three part series, she explains some of what's in the new edition.
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Order a signed copy from our local bookseller, Book Moon Books.
Or preorder on Amazon.
Join the Emily’s Adnexa email list here.
If you have a question that she can answer in the email list, send it to cayapod@gma
Bonus: Audio Preface to the new edition (2 of 3)
Why did Emily write a new edition of Come As You Are? We're glad you asked!
After five years of talking to readers, Emily has updated Come As You Are with new science, new language, and new perspectives.
In this three part series, she explains some of what's in the new edition.
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Order a signed copy from our local bookseller, Book Moon Books.
Or preorder on Amazon.
Join the Emily’s Adnexa email list here.
If you have a question that she can answer in the email list, send it to cayapod@gma
Bonus: Audio Preface to the new edition (1 of 3)
Why did Emily write a new edition of Come As You Are? We're glad you asked!
After five years of talking to readers, Emily has updated Come As You Are with new science, new language, and new perspectives.
In this three part series, she explains some of what's in the new edition.
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Order a signed copy from our local bookseller, Book Moon Books.
Or preorder on Amazon.
Join the Emily’s Adnexa email list here.
If you have a question that she can answer in the email list, send it to cayapod@gm
57: 2020 [BETA]
Let’s make some New Year’s Resolutions. Or not! Do whatever you need to get through this mess. Amelia is still dealing with long Covid and Emily gets really excited about Bridgerton.
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LINKS:
Episode 46: What Even Is Hope
Episode 41: The Bikini-Industrial Complex
Episode 29: Allegra
Your New Year’s Resolution in 2021 Should Be To Stay Alive | A Serious Message From a Comedy Writer
Shantira Jackson on Instagram
Kate Bornstein get out of hell card
Episode 51: Calling In Amelia’s Covid
Burn
56: Amelia’s Something Larger is a Turkey
It’s a special holiday episode where we ask you not to attend holiday gatherings. It’s about turkey, but it’s not really about turkey. Bonus: Amelia’s secret stuffing recipe.
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SPONSOR:
This episode is brought to you by If the Boot Fits, A Smart & Sexy Cinderella Story by Rebekah Weatherspoon
LINKS:
Fomite
NY Times: For Home Cooks, Burnout Is a Reality This Holiday Season
Episode 05: What's Your Something Larger?
Hygge
Vestibular Migraine
Episode 03: Human Giver Syndrome
Bell’s Poultry
55: One Important Thing
It’s the final episode of the season! Emily and Amelia discuss what all of you learned from the show. And if your name is Brené Brown, there’s a special gratitude song just for you.
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Taco Emoji 🌮
Don’t Bring Facts to a Feelings Fight
Underbelly Yoga
Nap Ministry
A Slob Comes Clean
Brené with Emily and Amelia Nagoski on Burnout and How to Complete the Stress Cycle
Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle:
Penguin Random House
Amazon
54: Music For Stress Management
Everybody’s been asking about the class Amelia teaches on the book Burnout, so she’s gonna lay it all out for us. And, ohh… did you know we spoke to Brené Brown? That actually happened.
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Brené with Emily and Amelia Nagoski on Burnout and How to Complete the Stress Cycle
Episode 18: The New Hotness
Episode 04: The Abyss
Episode 13: Is it Burnout... Or is it trauma?
Episode 41: The Bikini-Industrial Complex
Episode 36: Embrace Tiger
Tell us one thing you’ve learned on FSP so far
53: How to Attachment
What’s your attachment style? Which Broadway musical number does it correspond to? Emily and Amelia discuss… and sing.
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Episode 52: Trust
Attachment theory
Reaper Incandescent Sisal Light Up Halloween Decor
Candide - Make Our Garden Grow
Brené with Emily and Amelia Nagoski on Burnout and How to Complete the Stress Cycle
How to Be an Adult: A Handbook for Psychological and Spiritual Integration
Tell us one thing you’ve learned on FSP so far!
feministsurvivalproject2020@gmail.com
Instagram
52: Trust
How do you know when to trust other people? How do you know when to share your cupcakes to make the world better for everyone? Emily and Amelia discuss and end with a song.
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Books by Dr. Sue Johnson
Entitled: How Male Privilege Hurts Women
Gas Light by Patrick Hamilton
Episode 08: The Monitor
Come as You Are chapter 4 covers attachment theory
Brandon Sanderson’s “Reckoners” series
51: Calling In Amelia’s Covid
Update on Amelia’s long Covid situation and Emily’s new dad, Mandy Patinkin.
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“I’m a Black Feminist. I Think Call-Out Culture Is Toxic.” by Loretta Ross
lorettaross.com
Schadenfreude
Mandy Patinkin’s twitter
Mandy Patinkin’s love song
50: Number Fifty
Fifty episodes! Let’s review the toolkit we’ve built during this year of podcasts. Emily and Amelia discuss.
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Brené Brown: The power of vulnerability (TED talk)
Episode 31: Social Support
Episode 01: Separate the Stress From the Stressor
Episode 08: The Monitor
Episode 28: Foop
Episode 32: The Owl and the Cheese
Episode 41: The Bikini-Industrial Complex
Episode 11: The Bubble of Love
Episode 05: What's Your Something Larger?
Episode 34: The Madwoman
Episode 35: Too Much Conn
49: How to Dreams
Are your dreams purely biochemical processes or are they Jungian-scented mind candles your subconscious teaches you lessons with? Emily and Amelia discuss.
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Jonathan Haidt:
"The Elephant and the Rider"
The Happiness Hypothesis
Encyclopedia Of Occult Sciences (archive.org)
Episode 34: The Madwoman
Episode 21: Your Body Will Tell You
Multiple trace theory
48: You’re Allowed to Like the Thing
Do the views of authors and actors affect your ability to enjoy things? Can you consume problematic media in good conscience? Amelia and Emily discuss. J. K. Rowling is not invited.
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WTAF, RWA: Courtney Milan Banned, Suspended From RWA
I Asked My Friend WHY She Had a Plantation Wedding
Episode 29: Allegra
Zaris-Angel performs 'Naughty' at West End Live 2016
Splash Mountain to Be Rethemed to The Princess and the Frog
Auliʻi Cravalho
Hattie McDaniel
The Wind Can GTFO [A Gone With th
47: Pause For Pleasure
Can focusing on pleasure help your brain counteract depression? Is it worth taking a moment to enjoy every donut even if it doesn’t? Emily and Amelia discuss.
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SPONSOR:
This episode is brought to you by “The Siren and the Deep Blue Sea,” the latest book in the Embraced by Magic Series by Kerrelyn Sparks.
https://www.kensingtonbooks.com/9781496730060/the-siren-and-the-deep-blue-sea/
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Entenmann’s donuts:
https://www.entenmanns.com/en/products/8-crumb-donuts?category=8
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46: What Even Is Hope
What is the nature of hope? Amelia’s off this week, so Emily discusses with her mysterious Marital Euphemism.
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How We Hope: A Moral Psychology by Adrienne Martin:
https://www.amazon.com/How-We-Hope-Moral-Psychology/dp/0691171394
Irascible Appetites:
https://aquinasonline.com/sense-appetites-passions/
Episode 08: The Monitor:
https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-08-the-monitor
Oregon Trail Generation:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Xennials
Marital Euphemism:
https:/
45: Emily’s Epiphany
Emily’s worried about the future of democracy, but the good news is It turns out the nature of the problem doesn’t necessarily dictate the nature of the solution. (This one’s a little dark.)
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Sonya Renee Taylor:
https://www.instagram.com/tv/CD4C_56AbP7/?igshid=jrczl9b8x7ay
https://www.instagram.com/tv/CECUAjsADLF/?igshid=1ecl04ohd5a1h
Surviving Autocracy by Masha Gessen:
https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/50695164-surviving-autocracy
How to Be an Antiracist by Ibram X. Kendi:
https://www
44: How to Shadow Work
Why do certain things really make you angry? Could it be that they remind you of things you dislike in yourself? Emily and Amelia discuss. Spoilers for Rise of Skywalker, The Mandalorian, Hamilton, Moana and The Accursed Year 2020.
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SPONSOR:
This episode is brought to you by “The Rebellious Rancher,” the latest book in the The Millers of Morgan Valley Series by Kate Pearce
https://www.kensingtonbooks.com/9781420148251/the-rebellious-rancher/
Jungian archetypes:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/J
43: How to Bystander
So you’ve noticed something Not Okay is happening. What do you do next? Emily and Amelia discuss.
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Green Dot Bystander Intervention:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Green_Dot_Bystander_Intervention
Rage Fridge (From Thanksgiving episode):
https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-07-thanksgiving
Episode 41: The Bikini-Industrial Complex:
https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-41-bikini-industrial-complex
Episode 18: The New Hotness:
https://www.feministsur
42: Stages of Change
Amelia’s COVID Chronicles, Chapter One Million. Emily helps her turn towards her fatigue with m********ing kindness and m********ing compassion.
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Transtheoretical model:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Transtheoretical_model
That Calvin Coolidge quote which neither of us endorse:
https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/2749-nothing-in-this-world-can-take-the-place-of-persistence
Episode 31: Social Support:
https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-31-social-support
Self-Therapy:
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41: The Bikini-Industrial Complex
The Bikini-Industrial Complex
We have been lied to all our lives about the relationship between health and weight. It’s both liberating and infuriating. Emily and Amelia discuss.
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Emily’s blog post on BMI and weight stigma:
https://www.thedirtynormal.com/post/2016/08/07/bmi-mortality-weight-stigma-science-sigh/
Health at Every Size:
https://haescommunity.com
Episode 11: The Bubble of Love:
https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-11-bubble-of-love
Episode 40: Food: It's
40: Food: It's Complicated
Do you live to eat or eat to live? If you answered, "it's complicated," you are correct. Emily and Amelia discuss.
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SPONSOR:
This episode is brought to you by “The Mermaid, the Witch, and the Sea,” Maggie Tokuda-Hall’s sweeping fantasy debut from Candlewick press:
https://www.candlewick.com/cat.asp?mode=book&isbn=1536204315&browse=Title
Episode 18: The New Hotness
https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-18-new-hotness
39: Covid Follow Up
Spoiler alert: COVID is serious. Amelia is past the worst and quarantined like a boss, but it really took a toll. Contains some coughing and mild coffee snobbery.
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Amelia’s covid prep list:
https://medium.com/@amelianp/covid-prep-list-7bbc6a8ee3d2
Hario V60 pour over coffee:
https://www.baristainstitute.com/brewguides-2/hario-v60
Episode 08: The Monitor:
https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-08-the-monitor
38: Amelia has the COVID
As careful as she was, Amelia caught the virus. (She's OK.) Let's learn from her experience and get a Corona Plan together in case you need to quarantine. Bonus: Emily and Amelia discuss toilet paper.
SPONSOR:
This episode is brought to you by Crushing It, a new romantic comedy by Lorelei Parker from Kensington Books.
https://www.kensingtonbooks.com/pages/landing-page/crushingit/
Amelia’s covid prep list:
https://medium.com/@amelianp/covid-prep-list-7bbc6a8ee3d2
37: Ode to Ode to Joy
Ode to Ode to Joy
Classical music should be for everyone because we all deserve access to joy. You may have more in common with these dead composers than you thought. Emily and Amelia discuss.
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Was Beethoven Black? Probably Not, but These Unsung Composers Were:
https://www.smithsonianmag.com/smart-news/was-beethoven-black-and-why-might-be-wrong-question-ask-180975159/
Joy playlist:
https://open.spotify.com/playlist/0RmAELBeFBBItZnfTV4yX7?si=EsR-Yi_GRbyjw4IUk6lhvw
Schubert: Symphony No.9
36: Embrace Tiger
This week, Amelia discusses tai chi and nonjudgment in the hope that it can help Emily. (and you) Spoiler warning: The moral of the story is Universe Juice.
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Embrace Tiger, Return to Mountain: The Essence of Tai Ji
https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/252447.Embrace_Tiger_Return_to_Mountain
Everything Is Everything (Lauryn Hill song)
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Everything_Is_Everything_(Lauryn_Hill_song)
Kung Fu Panda
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kung_Fu_Panda_(franchise)
Chickpea To C
35: Too Much Connection
Connection is a drive, like hunger and sleep. But what do you do when you’ve had too much connection? Emily and Amelia discuss.
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Born in Quarantine (Facebook ad)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8OW4AFbzjGk
Social Distance podcast:
https://www.theatlantic.com/podcasts/socialdistance/
Episode 31: Social Support:
https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-31-social-support
The Noonday Demon:
http://andrewsolomon.com/books/the-noonday-demon/
Raising Your Spirited Child, Third E
34: The Madwoman
Emily and Amelia discuss the concept of The Madwoman, and how you can turn toward yours with kindness and compassion. Spoiler warning for those who don't yet know the stories of Jane Eyre or Moana.
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SPONSOR:
This episode is brought to you by Never Conspire With a Sinful Baron, the latest book in Renee Ann Miller’s Infamous Lords Series.
https://www.kensingtonbooks.com/9781420150032/never-conspire-with-a-sinful-baron/
Jane Eyre
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jane_Eyre
Bertha Mason (The Mad
33: Because: Unbreakable
Did you watch the interactive Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt? How does making good choices for Kimmy apply to real life? Emily and Amelia discuss. (Tons of spoilers for Kimmy Vs. The Reverend)
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Kimmy Vs. The Reverend:
https://www.imdb.com/title/tt10324166/
EMDR Therapy:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Eye_movement_desensitization_and_reprocessing
Emily’s romance novels:
https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/27208942-how-not-to-fall
https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/25985351-how-not-to-let-go
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32: The Owl and the Cheese
What do owls and cheese have to do with surviving the hellscape of 2020? How can we work to run toward the things that make it worth surviving. Emily and Amelia discuss.
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Episode 5: What's Your Something Larger?
https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-05-something-larger
Pacific Overtures "Someone in a Tree" - Ann Harada, Austin Ku, Kelvin Moon Loh & Thom Sesma:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-PNX9PPCEls&feature=emb_title
Love Illuminated (part 1):
https://www.you
31: Social Support
It turns out feelings are real and (spoiler warning) emotional support is really important! Emily and Amelia discuss. There's science to support it. Emily and Amelia discuss.
This episode is brought to you by Kensington’s newest title from Lindsay McKenna, Wind River Undercover.
https://www.kensingtonbooks.com/book.aspx/39281
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Gourmet Makes:
https://www.bonappetit.com/video/series/gourmet-makes
Shrinkchicks
(Season 1, Episode 20)
https://open.spotify.com/episode/61wmkKTydqaWbZ4pgorSKX
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30: Voting While Feminist
“Democracy is the worst form of government, except for all the others” is attributed to Winston Churchill, who wasn't too great himself. And this year it might feel like the Democratic presidential candidate is the worst one on the ballot except for the other one.
What’s a feminist to do?Emily, Amelia, and Amelia's colleague Mark discuss.
(Content warning: this episode includes discussion of sexual violence )
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what to do when someone tells you they were sexually assaulted:
https://
29: Allegra
Amelia’s friend and fellow musician Allegra joins us this week and shares her perspective on social distancing and burnout.
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Wozzeck Trailer (The Royal Opera):
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YzU31UrXceo
Predictably Irrational:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Predictably_Irrational
The Ballad of the Brown King:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Ballad_of_the_Brown_King
The Concert Choir of Georgetown University - Millennium Stage:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aPDZ2iwSMXA
Vegetarian JapCha
28: Foop
You know that crazy feeling of oscillating between frustrated rage and helpless despair? That’s Foop. Emily and Amelia discuss.
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The Monitor:
https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-08-the-monitor
27: How to Unfamiliarity
We're all in uncharted territory these days. Amelia has a music metaphor to help cope with these times of social distancing. Emily helps break it down. Special appearance by Beethoven. (not the dog)
26: Masks and How to Wear Them
We're all wearing masks now. But why are we wearing them and how can we do so most effectively. Emily and Amelia get into it, cowboy outlaw-style.
25: Even More Social Distancing
Emily (from her bed) and Amelia (from her kitchen) discuss the importance of social distancing, as well as why it's so hard. And Amelia tops it off with a classic 90s Bette Midler jam.
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Episode 20: How to Numbing
https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-20-numbing
SOCIAL DISTANCE - A Randy Rainbow Song Parody
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WimbyL_25Nw
Colin Firth Swimming
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hasKmDr1yrA
24: The Sex Episode
Emily and Amelia’s first ever guest! They talk with the amazing Peggy Kleinplatz, one of the authors of the new book, Magnificent Sex.
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Magnificent Sex
Lessons from Extraordinary Lovers, 1st Edition
By Peggy J. Kleinplatz and A. Dana Ménard
https://www.routledge.com/Magnificent-Sex-Lessons-from-Extraordinary-Lovers-1st-Edition/Kleinplatz-Menard/p/book/9780367181376
23: Social Distance Duet
Emily and Amelia discuss social distancing while social distancing. Plus: Bonus word games and ukulele music.
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Mickey Mouse - Ku'u Lei Melody | Song
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h8FasCHHsPk
22: Time Affluence
Time is the only completely limited resource. What matters more to you, time or stuff? Are you willing to compromise to fit the expectations of others? Emily and Amelia discuss.
21: Your Body Will Tell You
How do you listen to your body? It’s easy for some people and a completely alien concept for others. Emily and Amelia discuss.
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The Communication of Emotion by Ross Buck
https://www.amazon.com/Communication-Emotion-Ross-Buck/dp/0898621100
Interoception
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Interoception
Proprioception
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Proprioception
Singing Redefined by Walter C. Foster
https://www.classicalvocalrep.com/products/Singing-Redefined-by-Walter-C-Foster-369633.html
Peggy
Mini-Episode: How to Coronavirus
Worried about the Coronavirus? Luckily, Emily has a background in public health and can explain it.
This is an episode for people who aren’t at high risk, to talk about why and how they can help make the world safer for people who are at risk.
Spoiler warning: Wash your hands.
PS: Edited to add when Emily listened to this mini-episode, she realized they didn’t make it crystal clear that it’s not just age but also health issues that make people vulnerable. People of any age can have respiratory i
20: How to Numbing
Numbing. Emotional ibuprofen. Maladaptive coping strategies. They’re short-term solutions, but sometimes reducing the pain is the only way you can rest enough to heal.
FSP2020 joins the Frolic network:
https://frolic.media
Gourmet Makes with Claire Saffitz:
https://www.bonappetit.com/video/series/gourmet-makes
Explain Pain Super Charged:
https://www.amazon.com/Explain-Charged-Butler-Lorimer-Moseley/dp/0648022706
19: How to Entertainment
What's the difference between art and entertainment? How can you engage with both in a healthy way? PS: Emily really, really loves Schitt's Creek.
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How Horror Helps With Processing Grief and Trauma:
Laura Kinsale
18: The New Hotness
The Bikini-Industrial Complex. What is it and how can you escape it? Also- The secret identity of The New Hotness (Spoiler warning: It's you.)
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Health at Every Size
17: How to Gratitude
Gratitude is important. But just because we’ve come a long way, it doesn’t mean we’re close to where we need to be. Emily and Amelia discuss.
FSP2020 episode 5: What's your something larger?
Nichole’s Gratitude on Medium.
Amelia is a huge Brandon Sanderson fan.
16: How to Be a White Lady Who Tries
We're white ladies. We know we're not going to say anything that people of color don't already know. We're going to make mistakes. But we're going to try our best.
Show notes:
Me and White Supremacy workbook by Layla Saad
The Nap Bishop
Leesa Renee Hall
Tressie McMillan Cottom's THICK
Brittany Cooper’s Eloquent Rage
A History of White People
15: How to Primaries
It's the inevitable politics episode. Amelia is an idealist. Emily's a pragmatist. But guess what? They both want to do the right thing.
14: How to Art
Amelia takes the lead on this one. How does creative self-expression help you complete the stress response cycle? (Hint: It has to do with recognizing that emotions are real.)
13: Is it Burnout... Or is it trauma?
Burnout and trauma are not the same thing. Emily and Amelia discuss the difference and some ways to help. (Apologies for the audio quality on this one. We had some microphone difficulties.)
12: How to Sleeping
How much sleep do you need? What's the "right" way to sleep? Emily and Amelia talk about sleep debt, sleep personalities, and a just a touch of Jane Eyre.
11: The Bubble of Love
What makes a relationship safe and renewing? Emily and Amelia explain using Cupcake Economics.
10: Rest IS the Revolution
Rest is important. You're probably not getting enough. Let's talk about it with Emily, Amelia, and a special secret guest cameo appearance from Rachel Maddow.
We're huge fans of The Nap Ministry, who you should follow on Instagram.
09: How to Rage
Rage. It's a maligned and misunderstood emotion. What's your relationship with your rage? What's your rage's relationship with... poop?
08: The Monitor
Frustration. Everybody feels it. Emily and Amelia discuss the science of how frustration works, and strategies for managing it.
Worksheets from their book Burnout are here: https://www.burnoutbook.net/downloads
07: Your Racist Uncle, Your Apathetic Aunt, and Your Misogynist Cousin: How To
It's almost Thanksgiving here in these United States. Emily and Amelia discuss their strategies for dealing with people you disagree with during the holidays. In the words of Luke Skywalker, "This is not going to go the way you think."
06: How to News
Impeachment has begun. What's your relationship with the news right now? Emily and Amelia discuss their strategies. Spoiler alert: It's OK to dial it back and take care of yourself.
05: What's Your Something Larger?
There's a lot of research that says meaning and purpose is good for your mental health. But how do we define that? Emily, Amelia, and Moana are here to figure that out.
04: The Abyss
Today... we’re gonna look squarely into the abyss. We’ve all got one. Let’s talk about it.
03: Human Giver Syndrome
In this episode, the question is: What’s the biggest cultural barrier between feminists and their ability to complete the stress response cycles?
02: Complete the Stress Response Cycle
So if solving actual stressors isn’t enough to deal with the stress in your body, what does deal with it? How do we complete the stress response cycle? This episode is a catalog of a dozen concrete, specific, evidence-based strategies for doing just that.
01: Separate the Stress From the Stressor
Wellness is a state of action. The cure for burnout isn’t self-care, it’s all of us caring for each other. And when we embrace those things, we’re not taking a break from fixing the world, we are already fixing the world.
Introduction
What is the Feminist Survival Project 2020?
Emily and Amelia Nagoski explain the project and how you can help.